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PulaPower:
The kind wife no dey today again

Phone no dey in the 20s but e dey today...

Embrace Change sir

Omo all Landlords will feel some time of way when they see it .....

May his soul rest in perfect peace ...

Viktoreze:
I'm happy I left NOVA Bank when I did.

Never heard about the bank before maybe because i stay under a rock.

dahmie2013:
One thing I thank God for is that I'm not God. God is patient.

God is patient ke, God that smote Uzzah in the story book called bible when he tried to prevent the ark from falling, The same God that killed one man like that because he didnt release semen inside a woman but to to the ground or the same person that killed the Egyptian first borns either young and old, the same God suddenly became patient ..No he is not patient....

He simple doesn't exist or he's probably disabled and incapable of anything......

ThinkSmarter:
You are right.
Women didn't change from their true animalistic nature.
They have been suppressed and tamed by the patriarchal traditional society.
But, freedom to humans to act according to their basic animalistic instincts as far as it's not hurting others has been restored by modern society.
Reason why LBGQ+ is making waves, religious freedom, abortion advocates, etc.
But the negative implications are many, like: baby mama and baby daddy are getting normalized, people are becoming drug addicts to escape from trauma.
Having freedom to explore youthful exuberance with a safe retirement plan like marriage is devastating to humans, especially females.
Worst if there's no child birth.
Your life is yours and your choice.

Na so..
Deal with it and cry me a sea

Hemanwel:
Behold! A case study of the discussion at hand!

Cry me a Sea

3kay945:
Most of the women nowadays are mostly influenced by social media and the stopid content creator

What should we be influenced by?

The patriachal culture that subdued all women in the name of Submission....

Times have changed, challenging the status quo is the new culture...

Deal with it..

Godfullsam:
Who told you that keeping your male friends around you will make a stubborn wife submissive?

See dis one

A stubborn woman will disgrace you in the presence of your friends and make sure they don't come close to you again.

She will always compare you with your friends anytime there is misunderstanding.

No mind am...

I'm a practical example ...

But in his own case they came close to him and he chose them over me..

A win win for both of us

BItt:
That is exactly why, as a man, you have to be the troublesome one. Although that role requires you to be financially stable and also have alot of male friends around you.

Men who have their male friends around them often, their wives always coordinate well

What's the exact role of the male friends on his wife.....

To do what exactly?

Here's what Chat gpt has to say....



If I were a man in my 30s or 40s speaking honestly to men in their 20s, I’d say this:
1. Don't waste your 20s trying to look successful.
You don't need the car, designer clothes, expensive phone, or lifestyle just to impress people. Build quietly. Your 30-year-old self will thank you for the skills, savings and experience you accumulated instead.
2. Learn a skill that people will pay you for.
A degree is useful, but don't let your education be the end of your learning. Learn something that can generate income independently—technology, sales, trade, business, digital skills, a professional certification, craftsmanship, etc.
Your ability to solve problems will eventually be worth more than your ability to impress people.
3. Take money seriously early.
Even if you're earning little, develop the habit of saving and investing. Avoid unnecessary debt and don't borrow money simply to maintain an appearance.
₦10,000 saved consistently may look insignificant at 25. The financial discipline behind it isn't.
4. Don't make a woman the centre of your life.
Love women. Respect women. Build meaningful relationships.
But don't make getting a girlfriend, getting married, or proving yourself to women your primary life project.
Build yourself first.
And don't spend money you don't have trying to convince someone that you're financially established.
5. Choose your friends very carefully.
Your friends can either accelerate your life or quietly destroy it.
Watch what the people around you normalize:
excessive drinking
gambling
womanising
crime
laziness
constant partying
financial irresponsibility
You don't have to hate people who live differently. Just don't let their lifestyle become yours.
6. Take care of your body now.
You can get away with terrible habits at 22 that will punish you at 42.
Exercise. Sleep properly. Watch your diet. Don't make alcohol, cigarettes, drugs or junk food your lifestyle.
Your body is one of the few things you can't simply replace when it breaks down.
7. Learn emotional control—not emotional suppression.
Being a man doesn't mean you should never cry, feel afraid, or admit that you're struggling.
It means learning how to handle those emotions without allowing them to control your decisions.
Learn to communicate. Learn to apologise. Learn to walk away from unnecessary fights.
Self-control is strength.
8. Don't confuse masculinity with dominance.
Being a man isn't about constantly saying, "I'm the man here."
Real confidence doesn't require constant intimidation or control.
A strong man can listen. He can say, "I was wrong." He can treat his partner with respect without feeling that his authority has disappeared.
9. Don't rush marriage because you're lonely or Hot.
Marriage won't automatically fix loneliness, sexual frustration, immaturity, financial problems or emotional wounds.
Choose a wife based on character, compatibility, values and how you function together—not just beauty and chemistry.
And become the kind of husband you would want your future daughter to marry.
10. Learn to say no to sex.
This sounds strange to some young men, but sexual discipline can save you enormous trouble.
Pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections, emotional entanglements, affairs, blackmail, and complicated relationships can change your life very quickly.
Not every opportunity is an opportunity you should take.
11. Don't have children before you're ready to take responsibility.
Children are wonderful, but they aren't accessories to adulthood.
Before becoming a father, ask yourself:
"Can I provide stability, presence, protection and emotional support—not just money?"
12. Don't let social media distort your understanding of life.
You're seeing people's highlights, not their bank statements, family problems, debts, insecurities or failures.
Don't compare your beginning to somebody else's carefully edited middle.
13. Learn how to be alone.
A man who cannot tolerate being alone can easily become controlled by whoever gives him attention.
Spend time by yourself. Think. Read. Pray if you're religious. Develop hobbies. Work on yourself.
Loneliness and solitude are not the same thing.
14. Respect your parents, but become your own man.
Listen to advice, but don't live your entire life trying to satisfy everybody else's expectations.
At some point you have to make your own decisions and accept responsibility for their consequences.
15. Don't be ashamed of starting small.
Your first business may fail. Your first job may pay poorly. You may live in a modest apartment. You may drive an old car.
That's okay.
There is dignity in building something slowly.
16. Protect your reputation.
You may think nobody is watching when you're 23.
But people remember.
How you treat people, whether you keep your word, whether you're trustworthy, whether you're dishonest with money—these things follow you.
Your reputation can become an asset or a liability.
17. Learn from older men—but don't blindly copy them.
A 45-year-old man isn't automatically wise because he's 45.
Look at his life.
Does he have the kind of marriage, finances, health, relationships and character you want?
If yes, listen carefully.
If not, learn what not to become.
18. And perhaps the biggest one: don't waste your youth.
Your 20s are not the time to have everything figured out.
They're the time to experiment, learn, fail, recover, build skills, develop character and discover what kind of man you want to become.
You don't need to have a perfect life at 25.
But by the time you reach 30, you should ideally be able to look back and say:
"I may not have everything yet, but I am becoming a man I respect."

Killbill09:
Everyone lives on borrowed time

This is so true and nothing truly matters, because everything and including the earth will come to an end, but Hamas, willl meet and untimely and horrible death even when they want to live...

pigmania:
You can't be with all men, you aren't omnipresent, na only 1 good man you need. Easy o, no let cucumber break inside you o.

I value Cucumber pass men's gbola..

I rather eat snail 🐌 and cucumber 🥒 than mic 🎤 or hotdog 🌭...

Efulefu

Mariangeles:
Death doesn't mean we should resign ourselves to fate.

There's more to life than death.

Despite the eventual of death, don't be afraid to live. Purposefully.

You're sincerely right about this...

May the universe direct our paths..

Amen

DrugPRESIDENT01:
Husband rejected? Go find man madam

E no go better for you and other men...

Ill touch myself to death instead of being with ya all..

Mariangeles:
Nobody cares to ask "what makes them grow that fast?"

Nowadays, humanity is in a hurry, that's why they're leaving in a hurry.

But have you asked yourself this question tha whether we live in a hurry or not..

The end result is still death..


Everyone should make peace with the end result of all lives ...DEATH

Malignant Narcissist.

They never accept accountability on anything..........

mablie:
Lol

Abi?

I am a man but nothing makes me happier than reading men's tales of suffering particularly in the hands of women.

Since men have completely refused to have sense especially when it comes to woman matter because of their "It can never happen to me" mentality,LET THEM SUFFER!!!

Yes oooo..
For all the sufferings our foremothers and ancestors passed through in the hands of these patriachal men, we will avenge these present day men one million folds .....
Haaaaaahahahahaha...This one sweet me for belle .

He block am Sharp....hahaha

The mumu is now suffering and alone...

May he cry his lungs to death

Sisterhood is proud if you.... .

Let the brotherhood cry us a river ..

RollinTNDA:
When you understand the hypocrisy of human beings. You will stop taking people advice

True, but its sad we can't do without humans, I mean we can't do without ourselves...

It's hard to find one's kind and even when you do, that one self get im own wahala.

This sowore just wants to be controversial....

Very dramatic and theatrical

This sowore just wants to be controversial

Rule no 1-Just know we are all living to die.

Rule 2- Every other thing you see other human beings doing are just distractions from the inevitable...

Nothing we do matter, theyre all needless repitions to distract us from what's to come Death..

So just do You.

Marry , then if you're not comfortable , then divorce,,,nothing in life is static..

Just keeping moving bro until you get to the end.DEATH

kadraxkyle:
Tahsihsjdjdbdjdjdjdjdu

Because you wan book space.

U dey write rubbish

Congratulations on your escape.......

TheStoriesOfMan:
That's your business. Not mine.

I know who I roll with, not with people like you.

That's why I said if I were...

You obviously lack comprehension skills...

Btw, who wants to rol with a controlling animal like you ....😛

TheStoriesOfMan:
Well, it's fashion to those who think it's fashion.

To me,this is no fashion. I can't allow my wife, mother, sister or niece dress like this.

But my girlfriend and sidechicks? Fill in the dots.

If i were your sister, I'll dress like that and you'll do nothing..worse is u cut ties with me Allah

You can't control me ....

Talktalk2022:
You wen Dey sell engine oil Dey complain of poor sales don turn rich niggies 😂😂. Social media sha .
E nor get Wetin we nor Dey see

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We can be anything we want on social media, fake it until u make it...

BigYash:
Which color? Them fit use the color stay sun for long?Covid that they wanted to use against blacks,no be them later collect pass? The problem is the black's mindset that the whites are superior

If them no superior, una no go run to their country, how many of them u see say dey live here?
Ordinary south Africa, una no wan comot