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I personally think this marriage isn't quite working out. U must be emotionally and physically drained. D issues are too many. Which 1 will you tackle 1st? Someone dt doesn't value the opinion of others even his grandparents who can u possibly tell that will talk sense into him. Try d options u have read here.. and save money! Just in case. U need the strength of many to pull through this.

Madam, u r already in d marriage, communicate and pray. Be smart too, dt ur salary is funding his lifestyle. Think of an excuse not to give him the money. Condoms! Insist on condoms. Then after this baby, contraceptive is d way forward till u somehow sort out your problems. U wouldn't want to bring another child into this situation u are in.

Do u know wt an SS child will do to u, u aren't even financially stable. I don't even think u r mature enough for that kind of responsibility. Abort and move on with your lives. Dis modern times n u still didn't insist on a condom. Don't people think about HIV again? Abi you think is a joke?

Please dt money has K leg. Dt explanation is 0. Y will a man send a teacher 150k to shop, is she his wife or maid. Dt excuse is too poor. Very fishy, please she should explain. He should monitor d situation, something is involved

Nice family

1st of all, go to a health centre for contraceptives. It's cheap. Somehow start saving money, d deed has already been done, take ur time, play d fool so he won't beat u again. Be calm like Ntn is happening. But, girl, plan ur exit! It will get worse if u stay. Unless u have signed up for a life of misery

All these christian brodas dt say no sex b4 marriage r very suspicious people. Most of dem r hiding something. Wen a girl says it, it's kinda understandable. Guys dt like sex like mad will now say no sex, it's either their sex drive is low or dey r gay, just few r genuine! I know a young couple going tru dis, d girl already has a baby, but she's leaving, she called a family meeting saying she can't cope! D guy is 0 sexually.. biko test n see.

Na wa o.. so @ 33 ur sex life is already dead? Till death? E hard o. Me I can't imagine it. Some things a Love Machine can't fix.. how long will u continue? Ur husband won't change, he's already set in his ways. For his 1st and 2nd wife to leave cos of same issue and he's not even being considerate enough to work on himself to keep d marriage. Anyway if u can, learn to use d intimacy gadgets. Anything 2 save d face of d marriage. Success in ur endeavours

Eiya, d wife won't even know how to sort her emotions, Weda she will cry or give testimony. Lol. E funny sha

My mom said she had 2 clip my wings if not i'll have been a dragon. Lol. Fighting wasn't my thing but if I was pushed too hard, I had d strength of 10 children. If I had to fight any child my age, i'll definitely beat the child. Now I'm even too calm for my own good.

I was bullied in primary 1! Esther d name of my bully. She had her own crew, I was double promoted so she was a little bigger. She used to take my pencil everyday, she would get me in trouble n report me to my teacher, I finally got the courage to stand up to her 1st day we resumed in primary 3. She was about to start, I warned her with so much anger dt I specially trained during d holiday to beat her. And Dts how it stopped!

I also had neigbours, teasing me unnecessarily, I was a shy n quiet girl. I would be so angry but could do Ntn. One day my mom asked me to go n buy coke, on my way, these two boys were @ my back, teasing me as usual, I told dem to leave me, dey refused n kept going @ it. I just used d bottle n broke on one's head.. lol, I went home my mom was like where is d bottle, I told her it broke, I went to buy her coke with another bottle. Dey came 2 report to my mum, she told dem sorry, I did too.. anyways, d bullying ended thanks to coke bottle

Y'all can rant about respecting d dead but sometimes death is a blessing. Some spouses don't deserve respect wen dey r alive, Nt to talk of wen d person dies. Leave spouse matter, some children celebrate wen their dad or mom dies if they haven't been good to them. Live right, treat your spouse right and you will be missed wen you are dead. I even know of a very bad behaved rich woman that had BP issues and died. It was so obvious that her husband was so relieved. Now, that's a man that d society favours. Anyway, only if u have been in been in d persons shoes. I'm not saying people should kill their spouse o, but if nature decides to help out, well, thank U nature!

Just eat right. Read up, count calories. Breastfeeding burns up roughly 500 calories depending on how old ur baby feeds. Eat about 1800 calories a day and u will lose weight while breastfeeding. Eat more of veggies and protein. Exercise too. Go for a walk 3x a week for 30mins to an hour. U will see results.

I know y'all will judge but there was a time I would just ask God why my abusive ex wouldn't just die in his sleep or I die in my sleep, I was suicidal. Leaving d marriage seemed so hard. I wouldn't miss him if he died. I was in hell. Anyways, I finally helped myself n I left. It's Nigeria, to save face most women would rather stay. I know I'm being judged for being divorced but it isn't that bad. I dodge a few people here n there but ultimately i'm having a blast n my friends say I look better. I feel better. Don't wait 4 any1 to die b4 u take charge of ur life, it may not happen and ur life will just be wasted. I'm alive, he's alive, but he's no longer my problem

I'm separated headed for a divorce soon, I've never been happier, I now know the true meaning of peace! Something I never had wen I was still with my husband. It took some time for me to make the decision tho.. wen I knew I had no business with him was when he actually said I have to take the beating and not tell anyone for d sake of d marriage was when I knew I married a a psycho.. i'm @ peace, I have a daughter and everyday I appreciate life, no more thoughts of suicide, no more severe depression, no more crying daily.. u'll feel better when you get settled into your new life.. i'm still settling and I already feel this good. Appreciate life!

Let me look and learn.. my baby is just 1.. d time is coming

For those saying after 2 years of dating she must have annoyed him she must have really annoyed him n all.. people hide o.. my ex husband n I dated for 2 years, no slap wtsoeva!! Immediately bride price was paid, 3 slaps 1day, with my belle o.. he read bible, cried, begged dt it won't happen again, against my better judgement, I forgave him.. d next time he tried to choke me, n d next he threw a plate on my leg, n d next he beat me while I was breastfeeding, I had 2 bend 2 cover my baby, Dts wen it finally clicked in my head, I had 2 leave.. pls o, if u stay, be careful sha.. i'm not saying he's not remorseful enough it's just dt from my experience I doubt!

Throw party for dem.. my wife na virgin party . Funny question

OP leave this job. Find something else to do. For u n ur husband to decide to let u work in abj in the 1st place I guess there is a level of understanding btw d both of u. So tell him and quit. U don't have any benefits in abj.. u r losing out

Lol.. i'm from bayelsa.. we have names like Gas, heineken, nigeria. D parents here, don't know how dey think

D dad has said he's not even interested.. but his parents won't let me be. I'll go to welfare office today

Is the culture nonsense they are trying to pull.. like i'm an illiterate.. telling me she belongs to her dad

Church wedding, in a catholic church.. I moved out. D marriage was just a year old

Planning on going to child welfare office first thing tomorrow morning. I just want to get ready for them

I've been here.. I was tatashe before my ID disappeared, d 1 with d abusive husband.. we are currently separated, I moved back to my parents house and i've never been better.. but now the problem is I have a baby, she's almost 1 year old, still breastfeeding, now my inlaws said they will come and take her when she is 1. What steps can I take to prevent that because I will never let it happen. We got married in a catholic church