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boldx:
Where is your location? Is your brother in a public or private university? What is the estimate of his school fees? You may need to explain to him the way things are. I believe there are things he can do to earn money while in school.

Please how much is the school fees? God will make a way for you. My email ekenetagbo@gmail.com

I guess u are busy

boldx:
This is so wrong. Based on which index? What is the criteria you used for this report.

Please Sir, try to reply your PMs

everything is debunking

boldx:
Where is your location? Is your brother in a public or private university? What is the estimate of his school fees? You may need to explain to him the way things are. I believe there are things he can do to earn money while in school.

Please how much is the school fees? God will make a way for you. My email ekenetagbo@gmail.com

Thank you Sir.
I've mailed u

bigl:
Eeya, you're doing great, helping out your siblings but i'd like to chip in 1 or 2 things.

What are the other 2 doing

See, there is only 1 Jesus and He died for us all, a long time ago ... Don't be another Jesus.

Lets the others get a job no matter how small to contribute, even if its 20 to 50% of the burden you're carrying... Even your brother in school should find something (legit) to do as side hustle ... Haba, you're not the one that put everyone in that condition na ...

Trust me, if you're not there (God forbid, if u pai), they'll find their way ...

This family burden carrying is the reason a lot of young people are dropping dead due to high level of stress, trying to meet up with "so called responsibilities"

I understand your momma's plight and that's acceptable but shouldering every little responsibility is a no no ... no let anybody fool u about one blessing or the other ...

As per the health thing, try do health insurance scheme for them ... u can get for as low as 14 to 20k (yearly payment) ... that will save u a lot of money buying drugs here & there ...

There's a limit to the amount of stress your body/mind can cope with .... don't allow it to overwhelm u ...

I might sound harsh but, your sanity and survival is your no 1 priority ... Stay blessed

No, you're not sounding harsh. You made lots of sense. God bless you so much. I appreciate

gerizzim:
when I read this kind of gist, I ask myself what exactly is your intention going public with it?

To get response like Frm mysterious people online saying

".......eeeh sorry"
"......dnt worry. you wil eat the fruit of your labor"
"......that is why you are the senior"
".......God will provide"
.......and blaa... blaa.....naaaa

what a logical person shud do if at all this gist is genuine is to meet with these people you claim to sponsor or support and let them know and start finding means too to fend for themselves.

Rejig and wake them up from their sleep and let them help themselves. That is a beta and rational way to address this .

so what shud people reading this shud do for you?

Why are you this mean and insensitive?
You could have just ignored the post since it's nonsense. Sensible people like you shouldn't be reacting to nonsense na

Talkisneeded:
Content writer don write…
I go through people’s profile before giving out precious advice now…
Let me know when you have authentic stories

Who needs your Advice?

pvicky:
Sincerely, I don't even know what to type or say to you. But, one thing I know, the good Lord seen all your burden. He will help you overcome the storm before you. As for your brother's. Please! ensure you didn't stop his education, because that will affect him. May God direct a spouse that will take place of father in your life not Just husband....

Thank you Sir 🙏🙏
I pray he doesn't stop sch. I just pray.

Sonnobax15:

People who have elder siblings who're responsible,Dem no know say God bless dem . Op, please don't give up on your siblings and your mom especially........ You'll definitely reap the fruits of your labour las las🙏

🙏🙏🙏🙏

CaptainJune:
I understand how black tax can cripple a person's drive.

Op, am sorry to hear what you are going through and pray that God gives you the strength to lift the heavy financial burden on you.

See your younger brother as an investment that will help everyone in the family. He should forget anything girlfriend and focus on his studies. He is a man on a mission.

It is well with you.

🙏🙏🙏

Kayberg:
This kind of life makes people who don't know you think you're not serious with your life…

All I'll say is, if your siblings acknowledge and appreciate your effort, then good… don't give up yet, but make sure you get married before it's too late!
If you don't want to involve the man you'd marry, fine… but don't pause your love life.

I know what I'm saying o!

🙏🙏🙏🙏

Cum4me:
The most amazing part of everything I just read us that you're sponsoring your siblings in school. Don't ever give up on that. Instead tell them to get something doing why going to school. Me at my time I use to work brick layer work and others job to assist myself. Tell them no to put full stress in you to take charge of everything to reduce your pain. They're men they should hustle hard while going to school. Don't give up on that. And lastly try get married don't neglect your marital life because of them. Wake there spirit of hustling while they're going to school I've pass through this process don't give up on them.

🙏🙏🙏🙏

madridguy:
You don't know the favour you're doing to yourself by training your siblings till later in the future.

I know the whole thing could be weighing you down, but believe me, by the time you start enjoying the fruit of your labour, you will be glad you did.

I pray God Almighty spare your life to see them becoming successful people.

Amen.
God bless you Sir.
Your words are light unto my path

I don't know if anyone of you can relate to this. But to be truthful, I can't continue taking up these multiple responsibilities anymore.

I'm the oldest of four younger siblings, and we just have one Male among us, who is the Last born. I'm training him in sch, a tertiary institution. The other two girls are already done with their school and are presently learning some skills.
None is contributing anything. I work from Mondays to Sundays without Rest. From house rent to feeding, to medics, transport, sch fees, light bills and others, I do all of them. I make sure I work to earn every penny I make. It is so bad that I don't have any savings. My clothes are worn out cos I can't afford new ones. Also, I can't afford my soap and cream any longer because there are more pressing issues to fix.
The burden has become so much, coupled with stress from work. Sometimes I overthink things and breakdown.
My mum isn't working due to her sight. She's completely Without sight. I had to hire someone to be taking care of her as we all go out for our daily activities.
I'm thinking of asking my younger brother to drop out for now so that the burden can reduce for now, but I don't know how to tell him because I don't know how he would feel. He's already in 200L.. It will break him I know, but I'm trying to cut cost at least for a year first, before he can return back to sch. If this happens, I fear he may take his life, due to the passion he has for sch. He's a very bright student. The most academically sound person in my family.

A lot of pressure is on me. I don't want to do what other girls are doing. I don't want to start sleeping with men for money because I need to protect my dignity as a woman until I'm married. I've turned down a lot of suitors already because I don't want to drag them into my family's struggles and later they start insulting me for being a burden to them. I refused to marry for now because of this.
Life isn't easy and hasn't being easy since the loss of our dad 10years ago.

Sometimes, I stay in my room and cry all through the night. I can't share my struggles with anyone for fear of being mocked and insulted behind my back.
Sometimes I feel like running far away that nobody will be able to see me or even call my lines.
I'm really messed up.
At times, I feel like I should just vanish from the surface of the earth.

I'm just confused.

Nlfpmod

oluwaseunamos33:
lol. it's just fun, i didn't mean it

God will judge u

oluwaseunamos33:
Dey dia and be vomiting rubbish, in few years to come you too will be begging to be 2nd,3rd or 4th wife

Oga, go & fulfill your promise to that young man about his Prepaid Metre and stop insulting people here.

Learn to have some integrity please. Be a man of honor and pride. Stop causing more pains to people by offering them hope and not acting in accordance with your words. Match words with actions. Same u will blame the govt for making promises and not fulfilling them
Thank you

Sonnobax15:

Na that soap scent just dey burst my head pass back then .

Omoh,like play like play guyman don dey dey old oh . I really need to fire more and more . I really need to pity this my banny do her marriage ASAP make she rush born for me quick quick

You get funds?

Sweet old days when life in Nigeria was still meaningful.
Do you still have that Box, is that Omo detergent still being sold till today?

How many of u still use Imperial leather soap?

How about the plates?
These plates used to be the Most cherish household items by our mothers . Where are they today?

agulion:
More than two years now and still counting, pls have any reasonable Person seen any effect or anything that look like Reform from this gvt, remember propaganda is different from Reform, pls those that have seen should just Educate us and pls set the record straight, no insult

Until you're able to spell correctly sir

nairalanda1:
Better pray about it.

Good morning

Is it about prayers?

nairalanda1:
You guys should stop this.. it doesn't make any sense

The rules are there for a reason..obey them or not.

If you cannot meet the 20 character standard, then you don't have to comment on this site. You won't be at a disadvantage if you don't comment.


On the topic...good one from the good Samaritan..it's good to be someone's helper.

My landlord won't let me rest

Same way hunger is tearing me apart. Sometimes I don't know whether to just vanish to the land of no return

GanagiBitrus:
This sounds like bad belle.
Osimhen's goal won the match for Gala +3pts.
Henry should go & rest.

I'm not sure u understood what he said

Money na water

TotoSuckker:
Being single gives you freedom to enjoy your life.

For instance today is a public holiday and since morning I have been indoors eating the to/ tow of two girls who came to visit me

Lies

Righteousness2:
My KING, LORD AND PERSONAL SAVIOUR, JESUS CHRIST

Only God knows how you've being writing and passing your exams

kedeojo:
easier said than done. Presidential power is different from your family set up. President is even too big cos if your dad become governor, you will not even remember that again.

Governor is even too big, give him local govt chairman first and see .... 😃😃

Coolgent:
That will not be an issue...
At this tender age she need her mother the most.
She will forever remain your niece but for goodness sake don't have sleepless night over this small issue.
Remember you are free to see your niece at will

Okay.
Thanks so much 🙏

muzeze77:
This is a sad story, she is 38, to find man is not easy and her biological clock is almost expired. Its not what she wanted to be a 3rd wife . She most certainly would have preferred to be with her deceased husband. Wish her the best
Its normal to feel sad in this situation. Losing a brother and his wife remarrying , even if she remarried 10 years from now , you will still feel sadness. May God heal your pain

Thanks so much Sir

PaNnamdi:
I want u to be my 3rd wife if u are good-looking u can inbox me and we start from there

I should inbox you?
I like your Audacity. Keep waiting, I'll inbox u now now.
I believe one of your sisters could take that juicy position