₦airaland Forum

ProfGday:
Class system my foot! It's only in Nigeria and other shitholes countries that classism is existing.

Both powerful and lowly have access to same opportunities abroad. And again you can be whatever you desire if you're focus on your set goals.

You have no clue what you are talking about.

You will find out the hard way like most Africans who seemingly cannot let go of fairytales.

Tickles001:
If a man is still solely dependent on his wife for warmth and companionship, just like a baby depends on the mother for suckle. Then he's not yet a man and is doomed to burnt by a woman's ruthlessness.

A grown man should be fine and unbothered when separated from his wife.

It sounds like you're saying a man should not marry.

If there is no mutual benefit, if the man gains nothing when then would he marry?

Tickles001:
Because of a few samples of cases you've seen makes you believe nairalanders are ignorant. Says a lot about you and your level of claimed knowledge.
Take it from me that if we're to arrange nairalanders according to how knowledgeable, me and you may not be found in the top half. Don't be too carried with the little you know.

I don't know how many cases you've actually witnessed, but I've witnessed a lot of cases too. Most of my childhood friends are in the UK and they usually confide in me about their ordeals over there. 80% of them had it hot with the woman they married and brought over there and they was no benefits worth it for them.

I'm not even talking about the stories that fly around the media because I believe some are just content. I'm quoting the ones I was involved in and other stories they told me about other happenings.

Marriage in the west is a powder keg no matter where your wife is from. Most of the issues stem from financial instability, it's the primary cause for divorce.

Love800:
What do you mean by care job?

And what do you mean by rose in ladder?

She means professional nyash cleaner.

They went from cleaning nyash to telling others to clean nyash.

Jman06:
For your info, I didn't say she sends money to me. What I said is that she makes some investments back home and that when we make general family contributions to solve a family needs, she contributes generously unlike before. Mind you, she's not under any debts because she was sponsored by our family such that she didn't have to borrow money for her schooling.

I understand the fact that cost of living is high over there in the UK but any little pounds sent to Nigeria from UK becomes a large sum in our currency and that's why many of them in the UK still make investments in Nigeria regardless how hard things are over there.

Her schooling is one thing, her accommodation, transport and the daily expenses of living in the UK are something else. From what I've seen over probably thousands of cases, besides those connected to politicos, what the people come with from Nigeria (amongst other places) isn't close to being enough and that puts those people in danger of horrible exploitation from both ends.

From those in their home country looking for them to send them money and from people in the UK looking to use them for cheap, often illegal, labor.

The pandemic exposed the fallacies that some of you are trying to project about this "japa" business that you have turned into a right of passage. Africans and Asians were more likely to die in the UK during the pandemic because of their worse living and working conditions. That has not changed.

ProfGday:
I always tell people that care to listen that if you've never spend 6months in UK,US,Canada or other good countries of the world, you won't know that Nigeria is a hell on earth.

The sheer opportunity to be whatever you dreamt of without knowing or related to any politician or big man is why Nigerians rush to all these developed countries.

This is completely untrue.

I get it, you're happy in your new home but some of you overdo it with the lies.

There are class systems in place and entrenched prejudices that you clearly have no clue about. Many jobs do depend upon referrals and prior relationships. The idea that you can be anything you want to be in the West is childlike dishonesty.

Jman06:
My sister left Nigeria in 2024 for her MSc and now she's balling well. This is someone that could barely feed her family then. She graduated from school since 2009 but only managed to secure job in one private company that was paying her peanuts. My siblings then gathered funds and sponsored her abroad. Today, she can now afford to send money home for investment and to solve family financial needs.

With all due respect you really don't know how she's doing and in my experience most of you don't actually care. You only care about that money transfer at the end of the month.

You don't know how much debt she's laboring under. You don't know what she's having to deal with at work. You don't know her living conditions.

meobizy:
Go to gyms. At their most patronized, you see less than a hundred individuals. Compare that to the number of people you see walking in the streets daily. Sometimes they stay empty for hours on end. Go to bars nightly. They are never empty. When full, there are more people in there than in your average gym. Go to an office and mention that you will pay for everyone to hit the gym after work. You will hear groans and suggestions of, “Give me the money instead.” Go to people’s dining rooms and see how much they consume in one sitting. Food, sex and alcohol are the average man’s forms of pleasure. As such, we overindulge.

Update: we’ve entered the front page. Cue the many ignorant children who will attack my opinion with, “Exercise all you want. Whatever will happen will take place.” How many fit people do you see drop and die? How many unfit people do you see either slump to death or slowly die from lifestyle conditions?

I don't know how valid your point about gyms is.

The gyms near me seem to be forever busy, especially between 1800 ond 2100. Too busy.

I think we seriously need more of them with better opening hours. Not everyone wants to work out in an overcrowded gym.

The other problem is diet. Nigerians drink too much alcohol and do not eat enough fresh fruit and vegetables.

Revolva:
You see the ripple effect of corruption and fraud all these things we brought to our selves now it's now affecting us generally

What do you think fuels the corruption and fraud?

Why has it so easily taken root in Nigeria?

If the US authorities denied his visa why is he talking about "Nigeria disappointed" him?

mecuries:
If the people aren't poor, how would 2 cups of rice sway them in elections?... The politicians have succeeded in weaponizing poverty

It's a feature not a bug. They need a large pool of ill educated. Impoverished people to take advantage of.

[quote author=WorkTheTalk post=140047262]This is a clear admittance of governance failure. In Nigeria, corruption is embedded in the executive, the legislature, the judiciary. Where there are thieves in government, poverty abound.

Maybe you think the world doesn't know what's happening in Nigeria? Then think again.

No one takes Tinubu and the current Nigerian government seriously. pic.twitter.com/OM5t16hE6K

— Queen Bee 👑 🐝 (@RealQueenBee__) July 12, 2026

Nigerian government official, no integrity.

Just towing the party line and being a good sycophant.

Nnamdipapa:
I have been sleeping and playing games for one week without working here in Nigeria. No crazy pre-authorized bills come off my accounts at month-ends. In the past, I used to have high blood pressure every month ends when I saw money leaving my account. Not even a monthly rent or mortgage. There is a difference between living and existing. I was "existing" abroad, but now living in Nigeria.

They won't hear you.

They worship money. You see the stress on their bodies, on their faces but they will insist that they are fine killing themselves for money.

fineboynl:
Dangote cement in Ghana Benin and Togo is cheaper and they are exported from Nigeria.


Let me tell you something. Those countries already have a competition market before dangote break in so. In Nigeria we just run things as we like here. Bribing and corruption. Middle men and criminal minded.

The exploitation has chain reaction. House are costly now. Rent skyrocket as a result of the chain reaction. The economy is now so choked and destroyed.

Capitalist or whatever for one men to inspire to be so rich is not for we Africans. Certain things will not work here. We should look towards china and Indian. Wages are very low and we are coping capitalism

Capitalism does not work anywhere.

I don't know how Africans go to America, see the abundance, then see the visibly homeless and decide that is a good system.

China is going through the same, their homeless crisis has boomed.

Karlovich:
I wonder what sort of individual introduced her to drugs, spits.

Oyinbo have been using heroin before anyone know what on Igbo man was.

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LeopardX:
I believe that husbands whose wives abuse domestic helps should also be arrested and investigated.
Too often, we hear terrible stories of children and domestic workers being tortured inside homes. Recently, reports emerged of a woman who allegedly poured hot water and candle wax on a young child in her care. Such cruelty and evil act does not usually happen in one minute or in complete secrecy. Someone in the house often sees the signs, hears the cries, or notices the injuries.

A husband should not be allowed to simply say, "I didn't know." If a child is being abused repeatedly in a home, every responsible adult in that home should answer questions from the police. If investigations show that the husband knew about the abuse, ignored it, encouraged it, or failed to report it, then he should face the law alongside his wife.

Children and domestic helps are human beings, for crying out loud. A home should be a place of safety, not a place of fear and torture. Holding all responsible adults accountable will help discourage abuse and protect vulnerable people.
Silence can sometimes be as dangerous as the abuse itself.

And since this issue is common place in our society today, there should be a law holding husbands of these women equally responsible for these crimes against children and domestic help.

What do you guys think?

Foolish proposal.

The entire house help system is one of abuse.

Hold the individual responsible to account.

Organized crime never survives in a vacuum, there is always some connivance with security services and politicians.

This is true in Mexico with the narcos. It was true in Colombia with their narcos. It is true with the Italians and their mafia groups, same in the USA.

If anyone actually bothered to look into the UK military record post-WWI they would find that the UK military is for show. They cannot win a war without the Americans. Why then is Nigeria listening to such an army? Go and speak to their big brother Uncle Sam, the same uncle who refused to sell weapons because of so-called "human rights violations", the same atrocities that they themselves have committed across the Middle East for the past 25 years.

FriendsAndFans:
Nice concept. Plenty ideas

I think I will soon start Nairalands Wives Association,

Nairaland member no get wife.

Nairaland Ash Association abi?

muykem:
I am overwhelmed by ignorance of Nigeria youth and their desire to criticise everything in ignorance. For avoidable of doubt, IMF says by Nigeria economy, a dollar should be around 1,000.

That part is probably true.

But we all know why they are saying it and it's not because they care about the welfare of Africans.

skydancer:
The real issue here is that imports have to be discouraged. What the government is doing is strategically calculated to strengthen local industry and improve exports but it's coming at a cost

You decrease import dependence by increasing domestic production.

In order to increase domestic production you MUST have constant, affordable electricity.

Have they done that?

The IMF is an oversized credit card company.

Pure scam organization.

Fake pastors?

They are all fake, they literally peddle fairy tales.

rottable:
Where is the upgrade?

Airtel all the way

Airtel smart bundle for life

I don't know which airtel you people are talking about. Outside of Lagos they've always been bad for me.

dominique:
What saddens me us how South Africans have played into the hands of white imperiists, the same people that oppressed them for centuries

It's misplaced anger, they don't have the backbone to confront the people who have made their lives hell so they take it out on others.

Usmanovic95:
Brettonwood institution have no love for 3rd world country .If Tinubu gets reelected he will dance to their tune so that he can get more loans from them, they will in turn formulate more stringent and draconian policies for him to implement.

They haven't even managed to make life easier for their own people, why would they come to Africa and do anything different?

The IMF is and has always been a blood sucking organization. Same for the World Bank.

Tinubu, Obi and Atiku are all useless.

Very few people who have risen to prominence under this crooked system should trusted.

dauntless15:
And your statistics is based on what? The parents deliver the kid they don't tell the pastor what to indoctrinate, its like taking your child to daycare and the matron is a religious person telling the kids about jesus, so children shouldn't goto school because someone is religious out there and might indoctrinate whatever, I don't see how its their fault, thier children must go to school, they came to be educated not to become religious, the parents own the child but they have no control over whats being indoctrinated simple.

Parents aren't just taking their children to random churches, they will go to the church with the pastor that they like.

My point is simple. The parents are the ones with the agency, they are the primary decision makers and are thus ultimately responsible.

dauntless15:
Right, so if they take children to church they control what the pastor would say right? Also what about those tv pastors, its also the parents right?

The parents are the ones with ultimate control over where the children go, what they see and who they are around.

Most children are not turning on the TV to listen to one useless pastor run his mouth.

franchasng:
When important topics like this is being discussed, what children like you who don't have the mental capacity to contribute positively ought to do is to respectfully ask questions instead of throwing tantrums and trying to insult your elders.


Now listen, there is what is called exclusive list in Nigeria's government....a lot of things are on the exclusive list of the federal government, meaning that only the federal government through the President have the power and authority to decide those things on exclusive list.


For instance, security is on the exclusive list of the federal government and that is why your state Governors have very limited power to even control the security situation in their own state. Based on the federal government exclusive list, a state Governor does not even have the constitutional authority to control or order the Commissioner of Police in his own state, the Commissioner of Police takes orders from the President only through the Inspector General of Police...so State Governor is powerless in that aspect, and if he decides to form a state vigilante group through his state house of assembly, based on the exclusive list, he has no power to arm them until he get clearance from the President through the IG and National Security Adviser.


You come to transportation, foreign transportation by sea and land is also on the exclusive list of the federal government, meaning that no state Governor can start to build a seaport without getting authorization and approval from the federal government. Same applies to international airport.

You come to revenue....your states have no power to control their revenue except revenues from levies, etc....but no state have the power to manage the natural and mineral resources in the state, the federal government manages that and distribute with their skewed sharing formula. This alone is the one thing holding Nigeria down as a nation, it is one of the reasons many state Governors are lazy to think outside the box on how to generate revenue for their state....it is the reason insecurity has lingered in Nigeria....it is the reason for the dangerous tribalism and power grab politics being played by APC today.....so next time be respectful and ask to learn okay?

Sounds like the issue is the current maladapted structure and not whatever you claimed in tho beginning.

Kindly learn to address others respectfully. A question should not illicit rudeness. That is a clear sign of insecurity.

dauntless15:
Parents don't indoctrinate religion as much as pastors, unlike parents, religion is a business for pastors and other religious leaders, thier earnings depends on it especially when the followers are following blindly like sheep, parents won't always put effort in making sure you believe in something, some parents are even neutral, but every religious leader wants you to believe in them and thier belief by all means, because thier income depends on it, na why church plenty pass schools and hospitals in Nigeria, its a business.

Pastors do not have free access to those children, the parents have to make them available.

It is the parents who have to present the children to be indoctrinated. It is the parentn who pressure the children to accept the narrative.

dauntless15:
Lol blame pastors who brainwashed them into being like that.

Is it the pastor who is at fault or the parent?