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FL Gators:
LOL, I'd do none of the above.


You cannot take a child from her best friend. Well it also depend on how long they've been best friend. Taking her from her best from would make a more rebellious. That would backfire your plan. It'd make her feel like you hate her, pushing her more to her best friend. THEN she'd eally learn the bad habit you're trying to protect her from.

What I would do:

1. Pull my child closer to me. I'd expand her knowledge of the situation at hand. Why its bad and why she shouldn't immitate it.

2. I'd talk to the best friend like she was my child while my child is around to listen, it would make the best friend feel less like there's a conspiracy against her. If her parents want what's best for her, they'd try to help her.

3. If 2/3 doesn't work. I'd talk to my child and tell her to spend MORE time with her best friend. (if her best friend is a smoker, drug dealer, robber, criminal, then it'd be LESSER time). I'd want her to spend more time with her best friend because I dnt want the other girl to feel like everybody gave up on her, that she has no hope. That's the worst thing that can ever happen to any teenager. I'd want my child to talk to her, to help her and to encourage her that EDUCATION is the ONLY option out of a bad situation. STAY IN SCHOOL.

4. Give her best friend my personal cell phone number. So incase she needs anything, ANYTHING, she can call me and I'd walk the ocean to help her out. That I'd be there for her like I'm there for my child. (Thats what my mom does for my friends )

3. If number two doesn't work, I'd set up a conference with me, my child, her best friend, and the best friends parents.

~All ways sited in how you think you'd handle the suitation is all good given the circumstances! Trust me on this when i say Some of these kids are too far gone to be helped!! Not to say they cant be helped,but they can only be helped if they want to be helped!!It doesnt stop me from trying to help tho. . . .As A Volunteer Mentor,I try to make a difference in a Young Person's/Kid's life as many times over as i can!!


~In this suitation however,when i used the word Child, i didnt mean adolescent /Teenager. . I mean 5-8 year old child. . . .One whose Parent refuses to accept responsibility in helping that child retain what is been taught/said/advised,despite all efforts !!There's only so much you can do w/o the parent's support!!


~Most of the Morals i was taught were instilled in me when i was very young. . it's pretty much been simultaneos process passing them on to my son, and for each time he does me proud through his behaviour/attitude. . people/strangers compliment on that! I feel out of this world!! As A parent you know you're doing right by your child,to have that compromised in the name of "friendship",when the other parent is unwilling to prioritize her responsibilities. . . .my "Mother Theresa" caling will defo take a walk!

~There's a stage in every child's life when they should be able to absorb Morals/discipline!!The earlier one tries to mould it into them the better!! Back Home,there's a proverb that says "Nor To Wan Man Day Men Pekin"{It's Not Only The Parents Responsibility To Bring Up a Child"} a family friend/neighbour or even a stranger cud call you out if they see you doing the wrong thing & Advice you,whether the child heeds to that advice is up to them!!


~Maybe when you become a Mum your perspective will change!!

xoxoxo:
Just heard he died from an overdose of Demerol.

tpiah:
Zoolander anyone?

~ That scene was hilarious!

FL Gators:
LOL, it tastes nothing like carrots o

~No Kidding!  Okay now am Really Intrigued to try it!!