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Wait till both of u r calm. Den discuss with him how i feel dat it's disrespect for him to wana have sex in yo parent's home, while they r still there on top of it. Make him understand dat u have values and prinscipals, and u wud love for him to respect u.remind him dat u r nt his wife, so da same cant happen in his parents home wen they r there.if he understands fine. Ask him to learn how to behave, if he does nt understand or still behaves the same, explain to him dat u love him, bt u wud rather b alone dan b made to feel like a intimacy gadget or trash. Wen u den move to yo next relationship, try stay away from sex, explain to yo new guy dat u r nt a virgin, bt u have changed and want things differently dis time. If a guy realy loves u, even though he can want to have sex with u, he wil nt disrespect u or yo family.and most often he can even understand dat u have decided to wait til the right time for sex.maybe wen yals r already married so dat he can get it anytime he wants it.if someone wil nt treat u right today, wat makes u think tomorow will b any different? To me it sounds as if yo bf is over familiar with u and yo family and probably sees himself marrying u without treating u right or him doing things right.he thinks he is all u can do. Show him u can do better

How i get irritated wen nl guys always complain abt how evil and bad nigerian girls r, yet one still finds such stories like dis one, wer 2 good girls have been corrupted and hurt by a guy.

Hi anne. Well honey u already made a mistake by moving in with a guy who is not yo husband, nomatter what his reasons were, u wer nt supposed to do it, coz we all knw how such situations always end up. Before u moved in, u wer supposed to ask yo self wat wud happen if dis thing which he wanted to find out was nt wat he was expecting. Since he asked u to move in so dat he can check if u can take care of his house, so if it happened dat u ddnt knw how to take care of it wat was he gona do? Dump u? Bcoz remember moving in still means u r just still boyfriend and girlfriend, so anything can still happen. U wer just supposed to ask him to observe yo charactor while u wer still staying at yo original home. Time always helps us to properly read ppl's charactors. The second mistake was yo pregnancy. In yo mind u had already concluded dat he was yo husband, so u probarbly ddnt mind the pregnancy at first, bt honey, how cud u bring a baby out of wedlock. Do u want yo baby to be a bastard? Dnt feel bad though, probarbly u thot the pregnancy wud make him hurry to marry u or introduce u to his ppl or something like dat. Watever yo reason was, its nw to late. Wats done is done. My question is, how cum he is married to her, n yet he is still staying with u?dis man is playing both of u, and whoever wins him, is gona b one miserable wife,who is married to a lying cheat who she cant trust. If he can marry someone while staying the the other, and not stay with the one he married, it means he is probarbly telling the married girl some lies also.i wudnt be happy for wining such a headache husband, coz m constantly gona b suspicious and m never gona b able to give him my full trust. The

the remedy - well honey u r nt the first and dfntly nt the last person to be heartbroken or have a baby out of wedlock, bt u can be the first one to heal and develop yourself. Take yo big belly and move out. I knw u might b ashamed of going back home, have strength sugar, as ppl always tell us dat black woman r strong. U can even get yoself yo own place. Focus on developing yoself. Get a job if u dnt already have one, start a small bzns and make sure dat u study further. Raise yo baby and take care of yoself.forget this guy coz his day will come also.one day he wil b here on nl crying and telling us abt how wise girls have dealt with him, or even how life itself has dealt wit him, coz its clear he does nt fear aids. I knw single parents who have met good guys, and those good guys gave them good weddings as if they wer virgins.pray dat yos comes, and keep on focusing on the man upstairs to help u heal,move on, and meet the right person.wen u put all yo focus on the Lord, yu will indeed get wat u desire, have patients and stop condeming yoself. Remember we will make mistakes bcoz we r human, bt the trick is nt to dwell on them, bt it's to dust ourselves, get up and move on

Wow u share your birthday with my mom. Happy birthday bro, may u live to make millions in the name of Jesus

Cutehector4u:
r u datn ur grandfather?

heheheh not at all. U wont i understand y i call him dat, so i wont bother explaining. By the way there is only 1 year difference between us

ITbomb:
No way unless she can speak my tongue very fluently.

I belong to the old guard that will not allow my kids to speak 100% English at home after speaking the same in school almost 100%.

So if the mum is not gonna help them learn and speak their original tongue then capital NO!

i agree with u 100 percent

I call him pappie

Ddnt i see a thread exactly like dis one yesterday?

Do u want to say she is engaged? No she is married bt is nt done yet as our culture requires too many things before it can be pronounced official marriage. If she meets another guy she is supposed she can still give u yo bride price back, it is not divorce bt it is not keeping to her end of the promise

Dat a guy can hurt a million girls he wont care, bt if someone just hurts him once, he is brused for life, and will shut the door to his heart forever

lol, which is true by the way

Well can start by teaching other young men nt to be as stupid as u wer wen u wer young. Coz most abundon deir kids nawadays and think dat the day deir stupid heads decide to take responsibility everone will still be waiting for dem

Its clear u r a child. So m nt gona say much.jst focus on finishing primary school okay, and leave adult stuff to adults. Good luck with school my little doll

wristwatch:
Can u marry a broke dude?

if he is ambitious and has potential yes. Not some guy sitting on the corner and doing nothing. I know so many couple who started with nothing, who went thru the journey from porverty to wealth together. Its no seen to marry a poor man. His today is dfntly nt his tomorow.

Hehehhe m so sorry sugar. Kwaaaaaaks. Couldnt stop laughing, but i do understand how u felt dat day.

This money thing is becoming a crisis now. I used to laugh it off bt nl is realy starting to get on my nerves. Guys plz is money realy everything to a girl in a relationship? The answer is a big no. Dude in your case ask her if she is dating dis childhood friend? Anyway y must he b the one who takes care of her? Doesnt she have hands? Look there r plenty of ladies who dont care abt a guy's financial state okay. Many ladies actually look at the guy's ambition or potential, coz no one wants to date a liability. Bt it does nt take money for a relationship to survive. Wen the girl wil b looking at yo potential, she is nt checking if u can take care of her or not, bt she is checking if u two can meet each other half way with developing yo household shud u get married. Ag its starting to bore now, a boyfriend is not a financier, bt a potential husband who can have it in him once he is her husband ofcourse to make sure dat deir family will not starve. U guys just love making girls look bad.

This money thing is becoming a crisis now. I used to laugh it off bt nl is realy starting to get on my nerves. Guys plz is money realy everything to a girl in a relationship? The answer is a big no. Dude in your case ask her if she is dating dis childhood friend? Anyway y must he b the one who takes care of her? Doesnt she have hands? Look there r plenty of ladies who dont care abt a guy's financial state okay. Many ladies actually look at the guy's ambition or potential, coz no one wants to date a liability. Bt it does nt take money for a relationship to survive. Wen the girl wil b looking at yo potential, she is nt checking if u can take care of her or not, bt she is checking if u two can meet each other half way with developing yo household shud u get married. Ag its starting to bore now, a boyfriend is not a financier, bt a potential husband who can have it in him once he is her husband ofcourse to make sure dat deir family will not starve.

She is watches too much hollywood movies, and always sees how rude girls always get the guy. She's got a crush on u. Fyi i, plz never generalise again. Nt all sisters r crazy like dis chick

To me it seems u r a man who did not understand what his marriage vows mean. R u dat weak dat u r so easly tempted? Does dis mean dat even ladies in yo office or on the streets r nt safe frm u? Have self control and man up bro. It was very wrong for u to allow yo self to be tempted, and wat makes it worse is dat it was in yo own house with someone who yo wife trusts mxm. Wumi is also wrong, were the hell does she get the guts of acting like someone's wife by calling him n b asking wat he wants to have for dinner? I bet she is jealous of yo wife and she is trying to steal u frm her. Why the hell cook for u and even wear such a shirt wen cooking? In a house which is nt even hers? There is nothing innocent abt wumi blv me, i know such ladies. She is trying so hard to show u wat a good wife she can b. Talk of wickedness coz she wana steal her friend's man, talk to mama privately and apologies, assure her dat u r kicking wumi out, den talk to yo wife, explain to her dat u made a mistake which will never b reapeted again bcoz u value yo marriage. Ask her to allow u to ask wumi to leave yo home. Explain to wumi dat u dnt want trouble in yo marriage and its better u prevent problem before it even starts. Obviously she wil beg u guys to let her stay bt dnt fall victim for her act. Ask yo wife to stop bringing her frnds home, especially if it means dey have to stay with yall. Its better dey come for afternoon tea den go, after drinking da tea. Remind yo wife dat as much as u love her, da devil can always try ruin good things n u dnt wana give da devil power in yo precious marriage. Also learn to b a man of self respect and value yo marriage, learn self discipline before u loose something for nothing. How do u even allow yoself to be close to someone who isnt yo wife? The only close female frnd u can have is yo wife bro, blv me wen i tell u dis. There is a lot of wickedness out there, open yo eyes and dont act dumb

Ariyke:
The etisalat girl sef why bath in stranger's house

exactly. Who the hell does dat.

Wickedness

Sunkyphil:
u suppose don know as nollywood settings dey b na

lol okay

Op honey dis just look like some fattening junk. M sory to burst yo bubble but anywhere u go black woman will always the de best cooks ever, dnt matter country dey r frm bt black woman r the best cooks for real, followed by indians, the mexican den brazilian. Whereas whites r known for their tasteless food, hence dey always try to cook healthy bt forget dat health also goes with taste. If all dis dried up thing in dat dish is what u call a woman's best food, den honey i feel sorry for yo black ass. I assume dis is sea food right? Correct me if m wrong, but i think i see calamary and lemons there? Wat is the other brown stuff dat looks like cocroaches? Dis dish is absolutely new to me

Op honey dis just look like some fattening junk. M sory to burst yo bubble but anywhere u go black woman will always the de best cooks ever, dnt matter country dey r frm bt black woman r the best cooks for real, followed by indians, the mexican den brazilian.

Well i used to tell him almost most of the things which happened in the past, and wen he also tries to open up and talk abt his, i wud get angry, upset, jeolos etc. Like i wud get dis feeling dat i cant explain, so i decided to cut such topics off our conversation. I dnt wana know abt rubbish nomore.let sleeping dogs ... Finish it up

Hehhehe okay. Nice thread. Lol, so u thot it was real?kkkkk, how did dey let u in the set without u knowing dat dey wer shooting? Were dey nt scared dat if ppl r just walkin in n out wud ruin the shoot?

Must there always b a liar?

2dice:
thank you
Gratias...witching you de same oo

lol thanx for ''witching'' me. Guy do u purposfully write such funny stuff or wat?

Happy new year ooo. Welcome

krall:
you're right. She must have thought I did something with the etisalat girl and she was cleaning up in the bathroom. I should apologise to her.

yep

Wooooow

Yohh

I dont understand. So dis girl was taking a bath in a stranger's house? Woooow. She's courage.kikikiki. I dnt blame yo gf for being angry. She shudnt have been violent though. She was supposed to ask u wat is going on, or just walk out if she was angry. Go that poor girlfriend of yos apologies and tell her the whole story. How wud u have felt if there was a naked strange man in her bathroom? I bet u wud have thought dat she was playing u without even asking. Come on dude, dnt b too harsh on her. The sales girl was just supposed to shit and get out, not take a bath sha