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M sorry honey bt i doubt dat u r realy american coz yo grammar just aint american sugar, bt if u r answer these questions and lets try come up with a solution 4 u. How long have u guys been married? U said he was in texas wen yal met, bt u later said he left his lagos job for u, where is the truth in dat? U said he was blaming u bcoz he wasnt getting his visa and all, bt u later said he has a visa? Dnt make sense to me. Okay how long did it take after yo marriage for him to get the visa? If all wat u r saying is true, i think u better accept dat brother man might have married u for the green card and now he dnt need u nomore. How is he taking care of his parents in nigeria if he aint working? Is he the only child dey got? Sister girl, there is a possibility dat dis man might actualy b taking care of his wife n kids in nigeria. Aint noway a 42 year old man who had a good job in nigeria can nt b married.honey face it, u r nt needed anymore. Cut yo losses and go back to the dating site.

Lol, from the way i see it, many guys here dnt like to acknowledge dat there r some good sisters out there. Yol always wana say some negative poo abt ladies, yet u forget dat in yo own lives some of u might actualy b wit dis kind of a woman who is mentioned here. Yol better stop dis yo negativity and face reality, just as not all guys r dogs, the same goes for ladies, not all of dem are all the negativity u always talk abt here. Its starting to bore now, the way a person is always reading all the bad nonsense on nl. Yol wana tell me dat the ladies u r dating, married to, raised by, raised with etc were all bad? Ag man stop it already. Op the lady u describe here does indeed exsist. Just look around u den u will see

Lol, from the way i see it, many guys here dnt like to acknowledge dat there r some good sisters out there. Yol always wana say some negative poo abt ladies, yet u forget dat in yo own lives some of u might actualy b wit dis kind of a woman who is mentioned here. Yol better stop dis yo negativity and face reality, just as not all guys r dogs, the same goes for ladies, not all of dem are all the negativity u always talk abt here. Its starting to bore now, the way a person is always reading all the bad nonsense on nl. Yol wana tell me dat the ladies u r dating, married to, raised by, raised with etc were all bad? Ag man stop it already

Lolest. I can see dat nl brothers just love making sisters seem like hypocrites and gold diggers. I was expecting a dish worms, only to find dat its something which many ladies actually like. So i gues if dis was how ladies wer tested for marriage, there wudnt b any single ladies left.lol. So op u wud marry her just bcoz she ate dis without checking her real charactor? Kwaaaaaa

I am lost. Wen girls ask for stuff, yoll call dem all sorts of names, and here is a good girl who is just showing u dat love is priceless, and u still complain. Gosh i give up on yols

Nice thread, but it seems some folks r not focusing on the thread anymore, as there seem to be seem underground war here. Wud it b so hard for ppl to just focus on the thread and stop all this war? Just asking o

Well op, the truth of the matter is dat where ever u go, u will find dat ladies are very wicked to each other at times. Jealos, judgemental, like to compete, compare, gossip, bad mouth each other, like pulling each other down, dnt wana see the other succeed, always want wat the other has, like to do a whole load of shit, and sometimes can go to extremes in other to fulfil these wicked ways, n dat irritates me to the last nerve

I must say, i have also gotten my fingures burnt in the past bcoz of not closing my mouth. Especially when there is war in the union. I wud b telling my friends or sisters, shouting and fighting, and they wud assist by also getting angry, but nw bcoz wen u r angry, u only badmouth the other person and dnt say yo own bad side, ppl end up hating the poor guy and they see u as a saint bcoz dey dnt know da whole story, den wen the war is over n we r all lovey dovey, ppl wudnt understand y we r happy again, n dey wud react negatively n be nasty n judgemental and all. Sometimes dey wud even use the things u tell dem abt u n yo man against u, so i later learned dat whether its good or bad, i keep my business to myself n dnt be sharing with folks around me. It was a lesson worth learning. So i agree with the op 100 percent, dat we shud always learn to keep stuff to our selves.wat goes on btwn u n yo boo, stays between only the 2 of u.otherwise, u will suffer the consequences

How wud u feel if u found her ''matorbating'' wit your friend's photo? Wud u be happy?

Ipledge:
Try ur best,show her reasons she should love you,study her well,check what she likes and after trying all this,it didn't yield...talk to ur leg

i agree

Hell is waiting for boko haram

Op now whose gossiping hah? To me it seems u r the one gossiping with this your gossip thread. So wats wrong wit ppl being friends on nl? Get your friends too now, n stop hating n gossiping

And wats wrong with her loving her dog. M even sure it wasn't a real kiss.it was just her dog probarbly licking her face or something, dogs turn to do dat wen dey love someone. Did u forget dat dogs r a man's best friend? Come on guy, nw u r realy being something else. Its good to see dat there still some dog lover in naija

Guys just loooove having spare wheels, but if a lady does the same to them, they'll b crying as if someone killed his best friend or something. Do unto others as.... Finish it up. Anyway girls, i agree with the op, no need to be someone's spare wheel, wen u can find yourself someone who u respect and love u the way u deserve. Just have patients, n u wil find the right one

chachanga:
At least, the OP's right on that one; the fact that certain ladies may be keeping spare-tire bf's don't mean other ladies now have to subsribe to becoming spare-tire girl-friends for confused "random-sampler" guys, ya dig?

Moreso, this is Naija where ladies are thrown to the dogs or conveniently hanged for the same moral misdemeanours guys are hailed for

Everybody wants to marry some "woman of virtue" after aggressively and systematically sowing wild-oats like someone on contract from the Agric ministry ., i laff in spanish ;!

Praying to marry virgin, hoping she would be a freak in the sheets and Tantric X, plus she suppose fit cook, clean, born babies like a toaster popping out hot bread at the same time, e neva doyou ?! Even as your mama tried it back then, nor be say ur fada still married 2 more wives join am ?

Enuf with the hypocritical posturing and lady-bashing already! Guy, try this the next time the devil starts finger!ng your brain to go after some poor girl as a spare-tire: SAY YES to your conscience and leave her be!

Abeg, start by being the change you wanna see, mtchewww.

i love this

Nop, u nt bad. Your hieght is not scary, but u r too thin. U need to add some musceles so dat u look handsome n cuddly. If u wana see dat there is nothing wrong with your height, hang out with oyibos, u wil see dat your height is nothing compared to most of theirs. Never feel bad abt who u r, or wat r u going to do if they r intimidated? U gon cut yo knees or wat?

Tymax:
Lol. If she sabi chop money then she must keep her end of the bargain.

She cannot tell me they never discussed this long before he started spending on her. Why did she enjoy his gifts when she wouldnt square-up?

Rubbish.

if a nigga buy a sister a gift means he is buying her, den its better he keeps his money in his pocket. No lady shud be made to feel dat cheap. So nawadays can buy one's soul hah? Brothers plz stop taking advantage of needy girls.better not use yo money,or dump her, so dat she can get a man who will appreciate her prinscipals

There we go again, another stupid thread bashing dem sisters.nigga it takes one to know one, so u must be one hungry dude yourself

So bcoz she is poor she must sell her body to your friend? Your mind is bleeped up u.mxm... Rubbish thread

To me, op u r the one who seems to have low self esteen n nothing upstairs. This thread is very very stupid ooo

naijaboiy:
Una go just come here dey form rambo when most of you are emotionally wretched

Please i'm not a taxi,,neither am I a fish.

Tell that to the men you've met in your life.

lol, yols just looove thinking dat u r the best things dat have ever happened to woman hah? Yol r just big headed dats all. A ladies life is abt her n nt abt u. Life does nt revolve around men bro.sisters r living for themselves n nt for u oooo. U wud like to think dat wen u dump her she wil b wrecked, nt knowing dat she is just happy for the opportunity to get a better replacement. If a person walks away frm u, let dem walk. Your destiny is never tied to anyone dat left. There is always a reason y ppl come in and out of our lives.

naijaboiy:
Una go just come here dey form rambo when most of you are emotionally wretched

Please i'm not a taxi,,neither am I a fish.

Tell that to the men you've met in your life.

lol, yols just looove thinking dat u r the best things dat have ever happened to woman hah? Yol r just big headed dats all. A ladies life is abt her n nt abt u. Life does nt revolve around men bro.sisters r living for themselves n nt for u oooo. U wud like to think dat wen u dump her she wil b wrecked, nt knowing dat she is just happy for the opportunity to get a better replacement

The day she b the one to contact u first before u make your intentions known, just knw dat u wil b friend zoned pal

Nice on bro

Nice thread op

Nice one op. Bt i have also noticed dat even though it might nt b as obvious as dis, even the most holy pastor of dem, can cheat ooo. Its always hard to read a cheater honey. Talk abt being a deceiver

emusmith:

lol, u realy need to get out there and see how things r changing bro. Ladies nowadays have got ambition and r realy chasing better things. No need to b crying over a nigger who has lost out on a diamond

emusmith:
Truly, Words are empty...SMH

watever dude

emusmith:
Wow! Men are like taxis... men are like fishes...

listen men shud stop thinking dat ladies's lives revolve around dem. Whether he there or not, it dnt matter, coz ladies nowadays r too busy chasing better things like careers etc. Td jakes says if ppl walk away frm u, let dem walk. And i say, there is no need for u to b blue just bcoz he walked. Truth is he ddnt deserve u, save dem tears for when someone who is truely worthy of u, goes to the grave and makes u a widow. Period

A good relationship is a unity of 2 forgivers who truely wana b together, and still see the bigger picture regardless of wat dey go thru, bcoz at one stage or another, even if its only once in yo life time, there is going to be dat thing dat wil prove to be a challenge. Even if it's something as small as hw he likes white sheets, and u like another colour, to something as big as him nt wanting a big wedding coz its a lot of money, and u wanting it bcoz it's something u have always wanted since u were a little girl. Compromise and forgiveness, coz honey truth b told, marriage is war war war and some more war. Even if both of yols r fine, maybe there might b a member of his family dat wana challenge yols union. So honey, there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. Sorry bt its true. Its only perfect if we r still @ dat tender lovey dovey stage, wer we r trying to get to know each other

Hell to the no. When he gone, he gone. Dnt need to b asking funny questions as if he is my God. Sugar there are plenty of fish in the sea. Sister girl, if dat man dumps u, dust yourself and move on. Men are like taxis, u miss dis one, u catch the next one. If he dnt want u, dnt b all sad and blue, say thank u for the good times dat we had, den close the damn door. He aint the only guy on earth, is he?