tearoses: Kini gbogbo eleyi gan You people should go and open your own thread or go to national stadium to fight intead of all this.
Royalroy please sanitise this thread. Thank you.
@biaka, now that you have shed more light on the issue, one is able to advise you better. You have a choice, you can do it the long hard way or take it the short term easy way out, but both have different consequences
I will be blunt with you and you may not like what I am going to say, but as Zi said, this hopefully will help another girl in the same situation or prevent another girl from finding herself in this situation
Firstly your husband was forced to get married to you due to the pregnancy. You were not his choice or certainly not his choice to be his Mrs at that point. If not for the pregnancy, he wouldnt have married you at that point. He is resentful becasue his plans were shattered. He is also angry at your family for forcing him to marry you and he is taking that anger our on you.
I am not saying that he will never love you or snap out of it, but it certainly isnt an overnight thing.
Also crying and begging a man who has no feelings for you is only going to make things worse. Stop it. I would hate it too if someone I dont want around me comes begging all the time. It will annoy me even more.
You put the cart before the horse, by getting pregnant for a man who you dont know his intentions were, and you are not in a position to be able to solely care for yoursefl and your baby and you are dependent on someone else for upkeep, so it wont be a walk in the park.
This is why I said you have a choice. You can either say "whatdahell" I need sex and will go out to get it, in which case you will eventually get caught and your hubby who never wanted you will have a reason to kick you out . . Your parents who also forced you to marry a man becasue you were pregnant dont also sound like parents who will accomodate you as dalemosu if your hubby throws you out. So unles you have plan B, dont try it.
The second choice is to accept your current situation and try to make it better. It will take time though so its not a one week or one month thing. If this is the option you are going to go for, then first things first STOP BEGGING. Study your husband well. What are the things that he finds attractive in women? what are the things that he likes? You said he is 10 years older than you, so for a start there is almost a genrational gap. So while you may like all these telemondu abi whats it called, facebook chatting, Kim and the likes, he may be into politics, finance and more important things. Go and meet him there.
Expose yourself, better yourself, educate yourself, be capable of having deep, sensible and interesting conversations & show him that you have brains and you are actually an asset. Give him an oppourtunity to miss you and to appreciate your worth. You can only do that by actually having something to offer. You are a kid, married to an adult and so you are going to have to grow up very fast.
Forget about sex for now. What is sex without a relationship and romance anyway? 5 minutes pam pam against a hours of sweet talks, hugs, kissing, lovemaking, gist and laughs & sleeping in each others arns. . I kow what I will choose if its me.
Grow in poise, elegance and self worth and show him that you are not the girl he was forced to marry, but the woman that he would have loved to marry.
What are your interests? Do they/can they generate capital? A man will always almost respect a woman who can hold down the home front in his absense. The little little money he is giving you, how do you spend it? Are you the type that sits in darkness becasue oga has not come bacl to buy fuel for the gen?
My dear you may be a baby in age, but you are now in an adult situation. Honestly I feel for you becasue most 19, 20, 21 to 23 year olds dont even know what they are doing or want and marriage is too big a thing for them to comprehend and deal with, but you are here now, and you just need to make the best of a bad situation.
Feel free to ask me any questions or need more advise. I pray that it all works out for you.
Now this is what I called wisdom! is your name Esther? Because you sounded like that Esther in the Holy Bible, full of wisdom. I've said this before n will always say it that if women can think n reason like men, then most of our marital problems is 50% solved already, pls kip it up.
Udstar: Sister, d devil is at work. Sex is wat pleases d Lord wen it is done by couples. D bible says dat no partner should deny another of his or her body. Ur hubby denying u sex is not of God, it is d devil's handiwork in order to make u fall into temptation n den ur marriage will be destroyed.
The advice now are: 1. Pray a violent prayer in d holy ghost knowing fully well dat d devil is at work. Again I say, "pray". if possible "fast".
2. U lusting after ur cousin is a sign dat d devil is winning, but it is not too late. Restructure ur mindset about sex, sex is not d only thing dat prompts marriage. Don't be lusting for sex all d time, wen d lust comes n u know dat ur hubby is not gonna satisfy u, channel d such sex drive to doing d things of God immediately because if u continue with dat lust for sex, d devil will provide an opposite sex dat will do it with u. U will regret it forever.
3. Be born again genuinely n kill dat spirit of lust with d word of God. Getting married is not d solution to lust. Even if ur husband will be having sex with u everyday, as far as dat lust is in u there will come a time dat u will leave ur husband n be flirting. BE BORN AGAIN GENUINELY N KILL DAT SPIRIT OF LUST.
* I'll involve ur case in my prayers by God's grace
nkemdi89: Not always, you should know less is more and have seen situation where husband cautions wife for dressing too sexy especially when they have third party in the home. When you are not adding any quota to the development of the home financially do you think dressing sexy will serve as a panacea to your marital problem?
Not me o, mbanu I didn't sleep with a ghost o, na dis madam.
Kemisola Ogunniyi, sex worker
Tell us about yourself?
I am from Kwara State but was born and brought up in Lagos state. I am 27 years old but in a matter of months I will be 28. I have SSCE certificate. I spent two years at Ibadan Polytechnic but due to some circumstances beyond my control, I had to drop-out. I was studying Accounting but family problems and certain situations made me quit. This was how long ago? Six years ago. And you have not thought of going back? I have not thought of going back because it is not easy presently. It is not something one can do in a hurry. When you are about embarking on it, certain things crop up. Do you stay with your parents? No, I don’t. Are your parents residing in Lagos? Yes. Why are you not staying with them, are you married? No, I am not married. When my dad left my mum he took me along. They have been separated for long, but my dad is late now. I am my own family. Tell us what you mean? It is because I don’t depend on anybody. I depend on myself and what I do. I am the only child of my dad, but I have other siblings from my mum. I lost my dad, February 28, 2006. What made you venture into this job? Like I said earlier, circumstances and due to family background. Family background in what way? I am from a polygamous home. I grew up with my grandmother- my dad’s mum. I am not actually Yoruba, I am from Delta state, my mum is from Kwara state, but I don’t like Deltans. Why don’t you like Deltans? She is from Agbor, Igbakin, but I just don’t like them. When did you start this job? That would be confidential, because it is something I don’t want to remember. Was it a bad experience? Yes and I am somebody that have seen things. I have really seen things. At this young age? Yes, I have, sincerely. What have you seen? Both good and bad things in life. Given an option, do you wish to opt out of this profession? Yes of course, why not? It is not my wish, neither is it my dream to do what I am doing now. I have a daughter. How old is she? That is also confidential. What of the father, are you formally married? I am not formally married, but I got pregnant and have a daughter. She is, however, well taken care of and I can guarantee that. Where is she living? She is living with her dad and her dad’s family. But is the dad aware you are doing this job? I don’t have any business with the dad because we are not together and he doesn’t have any business with me. Whenever I feel like seeing my daughter, I am free. She is in a boarding school at Epe. She schools there. Is Ikeja a take- off point for you? I operate in other places like Surulere and Island. What are the differences in these areas and their peculiarity? There is a big difference. In Ikeja, Police do harass us likewise street boys. All guys that come out late in the night are all street boys, because we are all on the streets. I won’t say they are touts. There are some girls on the street that get beaten each day and some girls get picked by wrong people due to impatience on their part. On the Island there is no police harassment. Patience in what way? Some girls are not patient enough to the extent that any guy they see, they follow. Some will get paid, but they will be beaten up, while some won’t get paid and they will be extorted. Some girls also go with ritualists which is very normal in this profession. Normal in what aspect? Being on the street, you need to be intelligent and make use of your intelligence at all times. I do tell my friends, you don’t just go with anybody. I won’t say I am perfect, or the best or the most intelligent one. When you want to go with a guy, study the guy, concentrate on him, don’t be distracted, watch him closely. Like me, when going with a guy, I watch him closely, his words, his countenance. That is when I judge you and also judge your pocket. What are the factors to look out for before venturing into the job? Firstly, I won’t advise anyone to come into this business. When it comes to the money aspect, there is money in it, but where will the money lead you to? I have seen money sincerely, but ask me, where is the car I have bought? Where is the house I have built? Where is the land? If one wants to go into this business I tell the person where to move to, the clothes to wear, what to look out for in a guy, things to say. It's not about using juju. Politeness and a little more do the trick. Not all guys one can talk to in a polite way. But being the patient one, you just need to overlook some. Some will say ‘Ashawo, how much be your money? Some girls would pick offence saying, “you dey craze, your papa, your mama. You fit pay my money?” While some would just be laughing saying “you don’t have money in your pocket.” For me, I sometime I abuse guys, I won’t say I am the innocent one, I abuse guys. So if a guy says all this things, I give them back in a decent way. I would just say “you are not okay because no be Ashewo born you? if your mama no be Ashewo, na your papa she first fxxk?”. If a guy tells me words that insult my person, I will just gently say, “Sorry I am not going with you simply because of what you said.” Do you have regular clients? Yes Girls have regular clients. I have guys like that. Atimes they call me on phone, and tell you they don’t have money, some girls agree to service them for free while some will say “I come Lagos come count bridge?” The difference between Victoria Island and Ikeja is that Police don’t disturb, they will even smoke with you and fight for you. Though Victoria Island has its own disadvantages too. At that area, the ritualists and bad people are too much. It is not that Ikeja is exceptional, but not as much as the Island . The only bad thing in Ikeja is the Police. If Police see white, they will tell you it's red. They don chop my money well well. They would demand for sex if you don’t have money. That is why anytime I am coming out on the street, I am always with my ATM or I have money. But now as their customer, Police can’t harass me again. Can you share any bitter experience in the cause of this job? There are several bitter experiences, like you going with a ghost. It has happened to me and three of my street friends. How I experienced this was sometime ago at Page Night Club, now called Vogue. I was outside with a friend when a man picked me up and took me to a destination that till now I can’t remember. On getting to his place, he said he only needs a girl that would sleep beside him that he does not want to have sex. Apart from being a ghost, I have seen guys like that who just want company so he told me not to smoke, that I shouldn’t switch on the television and I agreed. We laid together. I am a kind of person who leaves a guy’s house or hotel very early in the morning before 6.00am. I woke him up at about 5.45am that day, he asked if I was ready and I said yes, he told me to wait till 6.00am I agreed. I showered and came downstairs. He asked me to wait for him downstairs that he was going to drop me which was part of the negotiation. On getting outside the entrance, the man left upstairs in his own room on the bed, was already dressed up inside his car asking me to come in that we should start going. I was scared and terrified. I couldn’t move my body. I was stucked. He smiled and came down and said I should come. I could only move my head, what he did was a mystery. He just laughed and told me not to be scared. He told me few things which till date, I can’t remember. He told me to take my money and I refused the money because I was really scared and trembling. He smiled and told me I can’t find my way from his house that I should pick my money and enter the car. I kept arguing with him and he threw the money on the floor and asked me to pick it, that he does not have any bad feelings towards me. I picked the money, but I refused him taking me in his car. The only thing he told me was that I should keep doing the good I was doing. I then queried that what good I was doing. That was how I departed. I stepped out of the gate and saw a Keke Napep that dropped me. I don’t even know where the keke picked me from, I just met myself at Ikeja. Remember he had told me I will never know the house again and that I will never meet him again. So that is one thing about street life. Are you a Christian? Yes, I am a good Christian, but I won’t lie to you, I don’t attend any church presently. Have you ever been picked by armed robbers and was forced to operate with them? Yes, I have been picked by an armed robber before but I did not operate with them. Later on, the robber wanted me to travel out with him, but I refused.
This is a serious issue at hand, the major problem I found with this is that so many people are not willing take risk with their hard earned money, it's not really their fault, our economy is not helping too, imagine when someone who earns peanut as monthly salary and also has backlog of debts to pay, so many parasites in the family to cater for, and so many things that you have to pay for even though you don't get to use them. e.g Electricity, but this person is willing to buy, but doesn't have the purchasing power to do so.
Another set of people love show off, they buy liabilities as against assets, some will prefer to buy shirts, makeup and even ice cream than to pay for a book which will give them self-improvement that later turn you into a world class person in the future.
Someone mentioned scammers and someone talked about how they'll never buy from you because it is a rehash product, fine do you know that if you're afraid of being scammed, your chances of success is very slim, if you want to succeed in life part of your learning curve is falling prey to these so called internet scammers, hey don't get me wrong, I am not saying you should be gullible, but if you're afraid of being scammed, how then do you learn to be smart? You just have to know how to cut your losses and move on.
Sometime last month (May) a friend of mine on this forum who happens to be a banker saw a sales letter/pitch on this forum and was immediately hypnotized by this sweet talking pitch, he wanted to buy straight away but on a second thought he consulted me and I after looking at the sales pitch I told my friend this guy isn't the true owner of the software he's trying to sell to you, please don't buy it, but he insisted that the software will help him achieve his aim on the Online Business I was helping him to set up, so this time I paused and said you know you what, just buy it after all it's just ₦1.5k you can afford it. He did and it eventually turned out to be a pirated copy of a software that I already have and use even for his online Biz that I was setting up for him. Now what if he'd not taken such risk will he learn to be cautious next time, he learned his lessons but he never allowed that to distract him from moving on, presently my friend is smiling, he's not there yet, but gradually seeing the result of perseverance and action taking.
Some say knowledge is free, quite right, what about knowledge without motivation, what about those who has the knowledge but failed to monetize it, what about those lecturers back in university days who can even teach the entire syllabus without looking at any text book, but do not have a book of their own, are they justifying the knowledge rightly? OK what if I gave something valuable to you free of charge, but asked for voluntary donation, will you still donate?
The truth is some people no matter how valuable a product is even if it's sold for ₦200, they'll never pay for it, but prefer to search for free alternatives which will not improve their life from where it was the previous day. Quite ironically, these same set of people can afford to buy expensive jewelry, latest iPhones, trendy shoes etc.
So my token for you, if you can afford it buy it, but if you can't because of those economic/family luggage, don't worry just be focused, aim at it, in no time you'll be able to, in the nearest future, but at the same time, you'll have to deny yourself some things so that you can afford some good things that will improve your life.
It took him 12 years to get to the president's seat, why then would he not take his time to choose his ministers? Please let's exercise patience we'll surely get there okay?
This man was once filled with the spirit of God, but who made him fall?
Majek Fashek - Things Mystical, The Interview Interview by AfricaSounds.com
The following feature is the most in-depth interview with Majek Fashek that has been published. Majek Fashek is one of Reggae and Nigeria’s most unique and important artists. We were with Majek at some of his first shows in the US, and we’ve been at some of his more recent concerts. He’s had fans come and go, but there is a circle of us who have always been there. We’ve stuck it out with Majek though the thick and the thin, times good and bad. The road has not been straight… indeed it has meandered, and it has, the truth be told, been a bit rocky. Yet Majek is still singing and still believing. We often find ourselves fascinated by Majek perception of the world around him. He sees things in a unique light. Here is a man who has convictions and strong beliefs. We prefer to think of it the following way. On some days, the stars align themselves, and things click. We’ve seen this happen with Majek both onstage and off. We’ve seen some of the best moments in live music come from Majek. The best are the moments we like to hold on to, the moments that burn into our memories.
The interview took place in Washington Square Park, New York. The vibe was just right. In our hands, we held the latest demo of yet unreleased songs for Majek's upcoming album. We decided to begin our discussion by focusing on each of the five songs on that demo, one by one. With Majek, you’ve got to know why he wrote the song, and what he was getting at. Sometimes, you have to push, dig deeper, to get the real meaning.
That day we found ourselves digging deep for the meaning of Majek's songs, philosophy and his view of the world around him. Read on...
Majek Fashek sitting on the earth of Washington Square Park, New York - Photo by AfricaSounds
Majek Fasek - Recent Performance at SOBs Nightclub, New York - Photo by Bill Farrington
AfricaSounds: Hey Majek, thanks for spending time with us today. Let’s talk about this demo here, its brand new and it isn’t yet released. We’d like to give our readers a preview of what is to come from you. Majek Fashek: I am working with some musicians over in California, my promotion company hooked them up with me, and we did some work. We arranged the music to get the right musicians for the right sound.
AfricaSounds: Let’s start with the first song, "Job Lamentation". Tell us about it…
Majek Fashek: I’m talking about Job, I dedicated that song to my late brother who was a Biafra soldier – you know he believed in God and things happened. At the same time, I start to realize life in its redefinition. Referring to the song lyrics "We are not fighting against flesh and blood, but spiritual wickedness in high and low places." So what I am trying to say is that Job was the son of God in the Bible. Job heard everything. Man, he was tempted by the devil to give up Jah will…Job tried, you know…
Just like what has happened to me in my career – because before I had a very big contract with Interscope Records, you know what I am saying… things happen and I was on some spiritual experience. Things like that – losing all the bucks, just like that… but still surviving!
Surviving and reflecting on the survival of man, and the message. So reflection of that has already passed us by. I don’t really think about it no more… that is why we are back on our new project. I had my last project that I did with Tuff Gong records (that produced the album "Rainmaker" but this new project is different, we are trying to handle this project ourselves. Because the American music industry is going nuclear…. Nuclear in the sense that you have independent labels now.
AfricaSounds: On these past projects, did you maintain control of the entire production? Majek Fashek: No, it was controlled by the recoding industry. They would give me some leverage to produce music – I produced with Little Steve the album "Spirit of Love" with Interscope… but you know right now were are not talking about that type of money…
AfricaSounds: That could be said about the state of the recording industry in general. Things keep changing, there’s not much consistency with labels and people working within those labels, don’t you think?
Majek Fashek: Well, you can try to do better for yourself but you still need a house… you know, you can’t be sleeping on the street. There is a chain of command, like you know. I was in the house after Interscope with Tuff Gong Records, but now Tuff Gong has moved from New York, and its kind of affected the whole deal that we had. Like you were saying, every year there seems to be a change with these companies.
AfricaSounds: That’s part of what is hurting the efforts of so many musicians that we see, because a musician can work very hard to set up a relationship with a recording house and then the house is gone, or gobbled up, or the management changes.
Majek Fashek: So it is tough. But the life of a musician is good in the United States; the U.S. doesn’t give us any problems. Being in New York is good for a musician, as long as you don’t have your own problems and can stay focused. America is the best place to stay as a musician, I would never disregard that. You have more venues, you have promoters, you have agencies… it’s just for you to know how to hook up with these people, that is the challenge. To get the right contacts and hook up with the right people. AfricaSounds: Were you able to say what you wanted to when you recorded and sang in Nigeria?
Majek Fashek: Yes. There was some oppression at one time, but the Nigerian government knew that I did not have bad intentions. I was not too intense like Fela Kuti, so I was able to get by with it. There was a little tension from time to time, like when I talked about the government… the military government… I talked about police brutality in Nigeria… so they didn’t really like that.
AfricaSounds: We notice on this demo that the second song is a Fela composition, actually one of our favorites, "Water No Get Enemy". Tell us about your choice to sing this song. Majek Fashek: That is Fela music. I picked it because I have real passion for that song… It’s talking about water. The water you drink, that’s the same water, according to Fela, you use to wash a child. And when the child dies, you use the water to wash the child. And if you want to cook some food, you need water to cook it, you know what I am saying. Which means: Water, you cannot fight water. And that’s the power that has been given to me by the almighty God. People that try to fight me is like fighting water. Yeh, it’s like rain. But water is much protected, because water is a Deity of life, the liberty of man. And I am a water man because I am an Aquarius. A Pieces and an Aquarian so I am a very dangerous sign as it is our age, as we are controlling the universe now, being that it’s our age. Whether people like it our not. Sagittarians, they will have their own time. But we are in the Age of Aquarius, the gospel of our Lord and Savior of Jesus Christ.
AfricaSounds: Well that is very interesting! I am an Aquarius as well.
Majek Fashek: You are Aquarius too! That’s dangerous! Very interesting [Majek snaps his fingers] He’s a Cancerian [motioning to a friend]… Cancerians work very well with Aquarius. Cancerians can tolerate a crazy man! Aquarians and Sagittarians work well together. My drummer was a Sagittarian… in my first group, Jah Sticks in Nigeria… they called him Black Rice. He’s in Holland now, married to a girl over there. The group Jah Sticks, we recorded songs but they didn’t release the record. Well, that was a very long time ago, I played guitar and sang for them. Black Rice, that’s his name, Black Rice.
AfricaSounds: Majek, let’s talk about the third song on this demo, called "Man of Sorrow."
Majek Fashek: "Man of Sorrow," that’s my own composition. I am talking about one’s relationship with their child – my mother used to say "don’t tell a child what he will be tomorrow" – it’s like, you see that little kid [Majek motions across the park to a child strolling with his father in Washington Square Park]. You know, that could have been George Bush once, you see, you never know. So that’s the vision of man of sorrow. Sometimes you might get worries in life and it appears that everything is over, but if you believe in God, that he’s the creator, you never know what you might become… perhaps a Senator tomorrow – you – you can even become Chief of Staff! What I am saying is: What will be, will be, if Jah says so.
What we are talking about is the destiny of man. When we were young, little kids in Africa, we always dreamed about America, dreamed about wanting to come to America. You know, and here we are, right now, in America. So what will be, will be, if Jah says so. So it might take some time…there have been rumors about me, rumors such as drugs, but the problems that I went though was a phase of spiritualism. I encountered a lot of spirits in my life, but through the mercy of God, that’s why I’ve met you, and met others who have helped me along the way, like my lawyer, and together we were able to make things work. My old time friends.
We are taking our time to put everything in our right perspective; it will take time with our musical project. So man of sorrow is about the future of every human, don’t tell a child what he will be tomorrow. He might just become a president. That doesn’t stop him from attaining or achieving his destiny. You have to train your child, put him in school. The normal school of life, give the child a good education because the child must know how to relate to human beings. But from there, once the child is growing, he has to decide what to do with his own life.
Saw this and felt so sad, almost wept for this man. Why can't people who do drug just learn a simple fact that this does more bad than good to them? or was it a case of spiritual attack? My God please help this man out of this dungeon, so so sad!
adepiero: Well, that's a new development. I guess companies are starting to realise that its not all about what you have on paper but how you can manifest your potential in the real world.
Many first class, and second class degree holders have fallen short of competence in the labour market, some can't even defend their result! Maybe this would pave way for equity in the job hunt
stifej: It is a pity that there is dearth of sound intelligent minds on NL these days. Its high time some people get rid of their ignorance.. Its not compulsory to make comments, dont just rushed to your phone to type your ignorance... The man was the Governor of Lagos state at the time of the incident and he is co- defendant with those men who run the machinery of the state at the time. THE CASE WAS NEVER INSTITUTED AGAINST TINUBU, but against the state..... Pls get rid of your ignorance... Too many illiterate minds on NL
Thank you bros, tell them o, rejoicing over nothing mtcheeeeew!
What is it about Tinubu sef? what exactly has he done wrongly that most people here who can not even play their immediate family politics well let alone politics of a big nation like Nigeria, some people even thought Politics is played with mouth.
Nigerians why do we like the "pull him down syndrome" everything about politics in Nigeria now is about Tinubu ah ha make una leave dis man alone na, let him be please.
obodundo: All of you guys are the problem with Nigeria. On this thread, words like fulani,yoruba,hausa,northerners have appeared a million times more than words like capable,visionary,articulate....I for one will disown the guy dat represents my constituency if he spends the next four years in hibernation like most of our legislators do! Think of it, dat guy that represents you, how many times have u seen him speak on the floor. That woman who represents your village, what has she done for ur people? I feel like lashing all of u. I swear! *very angry*
The only Sensible comment on this thread so far, how on earth would any sensible man be rejoicing over this recent political happenings? smh!
Guk: I have seen a lot of bile been thrown the way of Bola Ahmed Tinubu with respect to politics in Nigeria but we all need to understand that we all behave like Tinubu, one way or the other. The only thing i see with this man is Protectionism.
Simply Protecting what he has a Stake in. You all have to be aware that Saraki is PDP through and through and was never part of the formation of APC. Saraki only had a problem with GEJ & not PDP. Saraki only used APC to return to Senate as PDP wld not have nominated him and without Kwara, GMB would have still won the election anyway.
Tinubu is just ensuring that only those who staked into the risk of a new party should be the 1st in line to benefit from it. He is also ensuring that there must always be a Power Block that any other group must come and negotiate with to actualise their own dreams, so, whats his offence, at least we can see how other regions are struggling becos they do not have formidable power blocs.
What a lot of people do not realise is that Tinubu is not a threat to Buhari but wants to ensure that other groups do not hijack or pose a threat to him
Man I respect ur sense of reasoning, you've just spoke my mind!
dokyOloye: The oba of Benin is for d Binis alone.The Binis are said to have originated from yoruba land. There many tribes in Edo State who are not under d rulership of d oba,eg d Ishans from where Tony Anenih comes from.
dokyOloye: Restrict Ur self to only what U know.Kwara,Niger,Kogi,Benue,Plateau and Nassarawa make up d 6 states in d north central while Lagos,Ekiti,Ogun,Oyo,Osun and Ondo make up d 6 states in d south west. If Kwara is Yoruba land,why is there an 'Emir' in Kwara and no 'Oba'?
and if Edos are not yoruba, why do we have Oba of Benin Kingdom?