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Out of anger & the feeling of rejection from him I often think about sleeping with other men to make myself feel better. I've never in my life had a hard time getting sex. I've always had a better than great sex life but now it's non existent. I practically beg for sex & he denies me. When I ask why he gives some excuse about not being in the mood etc. But then I find that he's been watching porn & masterbating. I'm all for masterbation but it repulses me & makes me
so insecure to discover that my husband rather masterbate to porn than have sex with me. It bothers me further that he is also doing it at work. My gut is telling me that he is masterbating at work because someone there arouses him so instead of walking around with a boner he goes into the bathroom & masterbates. These thoughts infest my brain like tiny maggot bugs. I can't take it. Why doesn't he want me Why do I have to beg for sex?? It's been MONTHS! On top of that he won't allow me to have toys or please myself. He gets mad! Honestly I think it's insulting that I have to please myself... So I think about cheating now! ALL THE TIME! I want to hurt his feelings & make him feel rejected & unwanted like he is making me feel. I want to have amazing sex with someone else & have him find out so I can show him that somebody else wants me. I want him to feel my pain. I want him to be disgusted with himself for sexually starving me & neglecting me. I want him to feel this pain. If I could Bleep somebody in front of him I would. I would show him how one man's trash is another man's treasure. I want him to regret ever making me feel like this. A part of me resents him so much. The other day he broke his neck to stare down this rather attractive female in front of me. It hurt my feelings. Even the women in the porn look nothing like me.. It hurts So yea... I'm to a point where I just want to hurt him back & feel good at the same time. I want a huge cock that belongs to somebody else in me.

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If I hear

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Maybe babes don fall him hand. you fit try get am correct babe see if he no go want.




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He should remember two wrongs dont make a right. Before taking any step to divorce her, let him finda week to gift her her favorite things and be at peace with her. once he is sure she seems happy, he should talk to her about what has been happening and seek for her opinion as to what to do to make things better. It might just be something little he needs to work on ...something as little as bad bed action.

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joker.

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You sef dirty wey you dey do am..

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[quote author=5minsmadness post=37042772]So why doesnt he just leave her?

Because it easnt easy to leave someone in which you have invested your time and personal life.

You get married to an individual with the hope that the manners and personality they portrayed during courtship will continue and even improve during the course of marriage proper but it isnt always so. In fact the act of marriage makes your partner relax on certain issues and you see the person raw for who s/he really is. No more pretence,no more illusory acts of kindness, no more frequent facial make-up or smart dressing before coming to see you. You realise that what youmarried was hiding under the surface of a shiny attractive object. The real person cannot be trusted with certain responsibilities or knowledge. The real person doesnt share your dreams or aspirations.

YEt you still can't leave because

1. There is the hope that one day maybe the person you once loved will swim to the surface again. and hope is a very powerful binding force.
2. There are other people that will suffer if you leave e.g the kids. And you dont let the ones you love suffer. You'd rather give your life for them.
3. Society would see you as a failure. And yes, society is important. you live in it. You want to be accepted by it.
4. You wont be happy with yourself. Even with all the media hype praising single parenthood and divorced individuals for thier bravery and to celebrate thier "new found freedom", the truth is that we all just want to be loved and appreciated by a companion. No one truly wants to be alone.
5. You cant imagine losing all the time and effort you put into this relationship, this marriage,just getting lost, wasted just like that. ITs like losing a huge sum of money. Its devastating. Hoe do you start all over again? How are you sure the next person will be better?

So whats the solution?
I dunno. Keep at it I guess. Realise everything can't be perfect. Do your best to improve on yourself, build up your own innner strength. Make yourself as self-sufficient as you possibly can. Be the factor in your life that makes you happy. No one else should be responsible for your happiness but you. Try and ignore those things s/he does that hurts you, get away from the environment when it starts. Focus on the ones you love(your kids) and make them happy,give them the best you can, shower them with your love, wish the best for them and pray for them. cos you are doing this for them too.

And keep hope alive. Who knows, your transformation and self sufficiency and inner joy might just be what is needed to bring your partner to see you and in turn him/herself in a new light and want to improve on themselves as well.[thanks]

I feel like I am the loneliest person on earth....I am married. I had a cancer scare a few months ago and couldn't even tell wife about it....I honestly think she would be more concerned about the inconvenience than she would be about my well being...sometimes I fantasize that I die in an accident because I am not brave enough to end it myself...I hate me....


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The 5 steps of active listening

1. Allow the other Person speak and listen intently.
Thie first step is to let the client/speaker have her say. Be calm,don't interrupt no matter what and let her vent until she’s done talking. A lot of people hate being interrupted, especially when they’re angry.
The exception to this is if she goes on at great length skipping into new topics. At that point gently , ask her if she would be agreeable to pausing on the first point so that you can be sure you got it before moving on to the next. Remember to make eye contact and take notes if that will help you remember her points.
Listen like you’re going to be tested on her soliloquy. Because you are

2. Repeatback, paraphrasing and ask if you've got it right.
When she is done, say her major point back to her using your own words.You can begin with, “What I hear you saying is …” . “Janet, what I hear you saying is that you put together information for me on the witnesses and you are upset I didn't include it in the motion.”
For extra credit you can mirror the speaker’s communication style. If she’s a slow talker, slow your stroll to her tempo. Also , confirming if you’ve captured her issue is respectful and shows you genuinely want to understand. If she says yes, ask if there is anything more on the subject

3. Try Guessing the underlying feeling.
We are not playing psychotherapist, but we are doing our best to be effective and compassionate listeners. Something as simple as, “That sounds really frustrating. right??” can go a long way.Always keep a box of tissues handy because when people get that emotional validation, they can become weepy. That’s okay, we are all humans.
Take a moment before going on to the next step.

4. Offer your perspective
“Janet, thanks for sharing your perspective with me. May I offer mine?” She will say yes, because you have modeled respectful engagement for her and ideally she will try to reciprocate.
If you are wrong, begin by apologizing and give a little explanation. “We should have gotten back to you promptly when you sent the email to us. We always want to be responsive to you, even though we were rushing to get a motion filed in your case. I’ll instruct my staff that your calls and emails must always be returned quickly.”
Next, avoiding judgments and trigger words, calmly explain your position. “This motion is called a demurrer in which we can only challenge the sufficiency of the complaint. What that means is that the court would not allow us to include witness statements, and that’s why they are not in the motion. But they will be helpful to us as the case proceeds so I’m glad you compiled this information for us. let’s set up a time for you to come in and we’ll go over these witnesses with you”.

5. Check if your perspective is being received.
Ask questions like; “Does that make sense? Do you have any questions?”. If the speaker has more issues, repeat the steps above.

Culled from Nigerian Law Daily Blog

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Me and my ex decided to be friends when we broke up 3 years ago. Two months ago he said he can't do it anymore and that we should stop talking. I've been suffering from depression for maybe 5 years and I was starting to feel better. Then a few days ago he starts messaging me from out of the blue. I don't know what his purpose was. He has a new girlfriend and he says that he's over me. He also said that he wants to kiss one more time. Now I've never felt worse in the past 5 years. Now he's ignoring me. What I hate most in the world are people who ignore me. To me, it's the rudest thing there is. Does he think he's the king of the world, butting into my life like this?
Before I had feelings for him I treated him like crap and I guess that has been repaid. But that's the difference between us. If someone treated me like that I would never treat anyone in the same manner. I know how much it hurts and i regret treating him like that and I'd never inflict that pain to anyone again. He's evil and wants to see me suffer when he knows I have been suffering already. I've told him I have depression but he didn't care or didn't understand. I have been up late for days on end upset about this stupid boy that doesn't care about me for what?