A Nigerian single mom has taken to obtainaid to seek for your help in raising funds to fight cancer. This was seen trending on twitter after posted by the platform. After seeing the post on twitter, I went on the site to donate the little 100 Naira I could afford.


Post below :

A SINGLE MOM WITH BREAST CANCER NEEDS YOUR HELP BEFORE IT SPREADS. Help in anyway you can by Donating and Retweeting. Also, if you have a good doctor that can better treat her, DM us.

Source: https://www.obtainaid.com/campaigns/24-days-to-save-bukola-from-breast-cancer/

A Nigerian single mom has taken to obtainaid to seek for your help in raising funds to fight cancer. This was seen trending on twitter after posted by the platform. After seeing the post on twitter, I went on the site to donate the little 100 Naira I could afford.


Post below :

A SINGLE MOM WITH BREAST CANCER NEEDS YOUR HELP BEFORE IT SPREADS. Help in anyway you can by Donating and Retweeting. Also, if you have a good doctor that can better treat her, DM us.

Source: https://www.obtainaid.com/campaigns/24-days-to-save-bukola-from-breast-cancer/

One place you should never kiss a baby or anyone else is "The Ear", according to a professor of audiology at Hofstra University in Hempstead, N.Y.

Babies and small children are particularly vulnerable to hearing damage via kiss, simply because their ear canals are smaller. A baby will cry after such a painful kiss, he says, but "kids cry for a lot of reasons." Unfortunately, hearing loss usually isn't identified until years later, during a school screening.
An innocent kiss right on the ear opening creates strong suction that tugs on the delicate eardrum, resulting in a recently recognized condition known as "cochlear ear-kiss injury." Such a kiss can lead not only to permanent hearing loss, but a host of other troubling ear symptoms including ringing, sensitivity to sound, distortion and aural fullness



SOURCE : lifenack.com

We do not necessarily have to put our clothes in the washer just right after taking them off. In fact, we can re-wear some for as many as 7 times before washing.

Find below a list of how many times you can wear your clothes (depending on material of course) before washing.

Anything white or silk: After every wear
Bras: After three to four wears
Trousers and skirts: After five to seven wears
Parkas and vests: Two times a season
Jackets and sweatshirts: After six to seven wears
Hats, gloves and scarves: Three to five times a season
Hosiery: After every wear
Jackets and blazers: After five to six wears
T-shirts, tanks and camisoles: After every wear

... You can check for others on wandepalmers.com


source: Wandepalmers.com

We do not necessarily have to put our clothes in the washer just right after taking them off. In fact, we can re-wear some for as many as 7 times before washing.

Find below a list of how many times you can wear your clothes (depending on material of course) before washing.

Anything white or silk: After every wear
Bras: After three to four wears
Trousers and skirts: After five to seven wears
Parkas and vests: Two times a season
Jackets and sweatshirts: After six to seven wears
Hats, gloves and scarves: Three to five times a season
Hosiery: After every wear
Jackets and blazers: After five to six wears
T-shirts, tanks and camisoles: After every wear

... You can check for others on wandepalmers.com


source: Wandepalmers.com

A rich kuwaiti girl Noor Al Faris gave her favorite teacher a Mercedes Benz as a thank you gift for helping her graduate kindergarten...Continue reading via the source


Source: wandepalmers.com

prestige2013:
Fiction Story- no element of truth in your story.

Caveat Emptor

Its quite unfortunate people like you still exist. I don't pray this happens to you for you to believe. You never know what people are going through.

Myself and my husband have been trying to have a baby for 8 months without any luck. We went to the doctors and they said nothing was wrong that we should keep trying. So we did :-). Unfortunately, about 2 months ago,
my husband died in a car accident on his way home from his parents'. It was and is so heartbreaking. So much so that I literally cannot to put it into words.I have been feeling sick all this week. I usually feel nauseous before I have my period, so it wasn't unexpected, plus I had been feeling a lot of things since he passed. It seems like it has been years since I was with my husband, so at first it didn't occur to me that I might be pregnant. The feelings of sickness persisted, so eventually I took a pregnancy test and lo and behold It came back positive. I know how sweet it sounds, to say that I could raise his baby and love it the same way that I loved him. But I can't. Its too much , I just cant. I'm so sorry.

Culled from: True Anonymous Confession Blog. Any meaningful contribution should be directed to the blog.

GO TO fabwolf.

SOURCE: TRUE ANONYMOUS CONFESSION BLOG


when I was in kindergarten my teacher would touch me. It made me feel uncomfortable but I didn't want to seem annoying and everyone loved him so I let him. Later when I was around 7 or 8 my half brother did the same. I told him to stop at first but he kept insisting and I felt bad so I stopped saying no and just let him do whatever. once I started to realize that he was sexually abusing me I stopped going to my dad's house and I never want to go back again. Everyone thinks it's because I was resentful of my dad, I even thought that for a bit, but now I know that I'll never be able to feel safe again.

baby124:
You are a bloody liar. The only place where this exists is probably Nigeria and China. No large corporation in a western country will even touch such situations because these employees can sue them and even own the company. Why do you people manufacture so many lies? Why do you guys just sit down and tell dumb ass lies. Is it a mental problem or what? Seek help, it's not a good sign o. You will soon tear cloth and start dancing naked on the road. Consider yourself advised

Why not go tell her on the site where she posted

Source: True Anonymous Confession Blog

When I was in college in California, I was a VIP Hostess for a large corporation. (I am a white wife now). For those who do not know about this. Large corporations have Hospitality Offices in their Marketing Divisions where visiting corporate buyers can obtain such things as theater tickets, sports tickets, escorted sightseeing, and company for dinner in the area.
The Hospitality girls (and boys, assigned to female executives) are carefully screened and must understand that they are to entertain the guest to the maximum extent. If they wish to have cocktails and dinner in the room and wish to have company, you are to do that. It is understood that if it gets sexual you will make that happen also. Most of the time the corporate buyer would arrive Saturday or Sunday and I would pick them up at the airport in a rental car and escort them to the motel and go from there. I was usually expected to be available all day Saturday and Sunday and the pay was great. Not only did I get paid by my company, I would usually receive tips from the buyer and if I really showed him a good time, I got some pretty good tips. Sometimes it was only soft stuff like kissing and touching, and other times it was all the way. I was with all races, the Orientals were the best tippers and most appreciative. Orientals Being with a European woman is a fantasy of theirs just as it is of the black customers from Africa. This is not a negative comment. All were very nice and race made no difference to me.

Today I am a 30 year old mother and wife. My husband knows about my past. Although I enjoyed all of my work as a hospitality girl, I do not want to dishonor my marriage.

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I don't really go online to talk about my problems, but I'm a bit embarrassed to speak about this to any friends or family. So for the past few months I was with what seemed to be the love of my life, it was a girl I had met in my last semester of high school and sometime in the summer we started dating. Everything seemed to be going perfectly fine, she came to my house almost every day, we went on plenty of dates, we never fought or argued,
we were having a steady income of sex, and we would make and but things for each other often and it could've been any more perfect. Then about 2 weeks ago out absolutely nowhere she wiped me off the face of the planet. She wouldn't answer my calls or reply to my text and had completely disregarded my existence and I have no idea why. The last time we talked was through kik and it was the casual us telling each other about our day and what not then that next morning she sent me a link to a funny video which wasn't out of the ordinary since we both do that from time to time randomly, I reply and she never replied back for the rest of the day. I had assumed that maybe she was really busy at work and too tired to talk when she got home so she had just went to sleep. So the next day I tried texting her again and once again, no reply. I knew she was ok because on kik it shows the "read" symbol meaning she was looking at my messages plus she was still active on twitter. Then my concern soon turned to anger once I realized I was being blatantly ignored, I tried getting her to talk to me for about 4 days but not a single word out of her and I can't go to her house because I don't have a car yet and I live in a pretty big city, so I simply just said "goodbye" and left it at that. To this day I still have no clue what could've made her spontaneously delete me out of her life like that. Any reason you might think of I've already thought about but nothing ads up. I'm not going to lie I do miss her and I'm slightly depressed about the whole thing but I wish I at least had some kind of explanation. I haven't told anyone about this in person yet and I'm curious what anyone's input might be, and thanks for reading.

I am not used to writing articles but I endeavour to read articles of great writers like the late Professor Chinua Achebe, the Nobel Prize laureate and Professor Wole Soyinka. When I remembered the Article of Professor Wole Soyinka on the centenary award by Former President Goodluck Jonathan and his outright condemnation of the post humous award to the late General Sani Abacha and the tirade of accusation and counter-accusation that followed it, I concluded it is not a subject every well-meaning Nigerian should evade to contribute to i such contribution would assist in having a balanced judgment.

The questions that need to be answered to do some justice to this subject are two-fold: whether or not there is any need for the award and whether or not certain people deserve the honour. These questions are pertinent for a few reasons. As for the question of the expediency of the award, that a polygot society like ours with our unbridgeable divergences waded through numerous ethnic, tribal and global crisis for a whole of 100 years of “unity in diversity” certainly calls for some level of celebration. Minus the current senseless Boko Haram insurgence created by some of our political office holders and aspirants and serviced by so-called religious hoodlums, the 1967-1970 “Biafran war” alone(which I fought in) claimed so many lives that no reasonable adult at that time thought it was going to end with Nigeria remaining together as one. Indeed, the Aburi Accord already gave a nod to the partial separation of our common destiny, but to the glory of God, the war ended with “no victor no vanquished” ideology. Besides, most of the seven military interventions we had within the latter 50 years of the country’s existence were politically motivated, a few on tribal grounds. One can therefore see the need for the celebration and the need to honour those who have toiled and made sacrifices to keep the ship of our nationhood and national unity sailing.

On the second question of whether or not certain people deserve the honour, one must first look at the credentials of the awardees in our nation-building project to rightly answer this question which was the theme of the subject of the imbroglio orchestrated by the controversial article.

For a start and whether we like it or not, it is my candid opinion that all those who struggled with the colonialists to secure our sovereignty and others who have ruled our nation in the past whether by force of gun or by ballot deserve to be honoured. This assertion does not overlook the argument that some of these leaders came into office by force of gun. It is my opinion that apart from the July 1966 coup which brought General Gowon to office and the 1984 coup which brought General Babangida to office, all other military interventions were motivated by national cause. The General Aguyi Ironsi coup of 1966 was necessitated by what observers saw as the tendency of our country’s political life derailing on grounds of the ineptitude or insensitiveness of the leadership to address the national need; only the modality for carrying out the ouster of the ruling class in that operation – which many observers saw as being partial, dented the image of that administration. Similarly, the advent of Murtala Mohammed/Obasanjo administration came in at a time when Nigerians, particularly the politicians felt there was need for a return to civil rule but saw no end to it in the programme of General Gowon’s government. Indeed it was the civil unrest engendered by General Gowon’s press statement that his earlier plan to return the Country to democratic government in 1976 was unrealistic that necessitated the Murtala/Obasanjo’s coup.

It is also not out of place to assert that the taking over of power by the late General Sani Abacha could not have come at a better time than it came to avert either another bloody coup or our nation sinking into a state of anarchy. This last view may be condemned by those who were benefitting from the Interim administration of Chief Sonekan but the sad fact then was that there was really no Federal Government in Nigeria but the government of some hand-picked politicians many of whom brought about the problems that created the interim administration. The late General “ took over power when the nation was on the brink of precipice. He mobilized the nation’s most prominent class into his cabinet and succeeded in ensuring the continued unity of the nation”. Chief Sonekan the Chairman of the Interim administration was undoubtedly a business mogul by all standard but then, there is a world of difference between the administration of an economic hegemony and administration of a political nation particularly a multi-national country like Nigeria.

Now to the controversy over the post humus award to the late Head of State and Commander-in-Chief of the Armed Forces of Nigeria, General Sani Abacha, one can hardly see the correlation between the award – done to the relations of a deceased Head of State as to all past leaders of the Country - and the rejection of similar award on the ground that a past Head of State was honoured. What makes the whole criticism undeserving is that the whole discourse centered on events that are not uncommon to all other administrations in Nigeria and not directed at any aspect of our national polity that was unique to the administration of the late General. It is a fact of rulership under any administration, that the Leader is just one person while the administration is carried out by other members of the society. Fortunately, our dear Professor Wole Soyinka served under the administration of General Babangida. That was an administration that toppled the Buhari/Idiagbon Government widely believed to be out to deliver Nigeria at a time when the Shagari administration was terminally ailing. Indeed, there were protests against that insurgence in some parts of the Country – a situation that was never witnessed in the annals of military interventions in Nigeria. Many other well-meaning Nigerians accepted to work with that administration as under all other military regimes. It is also part of History that while some notable politicians and political office holders were killed to usher in the General Gowon administration 1966, others, including the great sage, our late Papa Chief Obafemi Awolowo served in that Government as the Vice-Chairman of the Executive Council. Record would also show that during the administration of the late General, those who worked with him were Nigerians and many of them are in the National Assembly making laws for the good of our Nation today.
On the specific allegations made against the late General (Abacha), there was never a Government in Nigeria under which some influential people did not experience some misfortune for which the government in power or political opponents were usually accused. Allowing the memory of those who lost their lives under the 1966 insurgence to rest, one cannot easily forget that many of our politicians and few of our ace journalists spent time in jail when the Buhari/Idiagbon administration usurped power while others were making away with “42 suit cases”! Under the General Babangida administration in which our Professor Wole Shoyinka served, the late Editor of Newswatch, Chief Dele Giwa met his untimely death via a parcel of bomb. Even, contrary to the claim of our Professor Shoyinka, the widely accepted winner of the 1993 election, Chief Moshood Abiola did not die under the reign of the late General Abacha but under the administration of General Abdusalam. Indeed, the late General predeceased the Chief.

On the seizure of money allegedly stolen by the late General (Abacha) and stacked up in foreign banks. Many questions must be asked and answered. Was the money not there before the death of the late General? If it was there, why was nothing done by the USA till over 16 years after the General’s death? Could the money not have been stacked away by living persons in the name of the late General? Is the money only the Nigerian fund stacked in these banks? How many of our leaders, political, military – Governors and members of our National Assembly do not have money in foreign banks?

The foregoing apart, I think it will be wrong to base the assessment of any person, private person or public officer, ruler or ruled on any personal consideration of the assessor. The freedom to express opinion is a constitutional right in any civilized society but such opinion must really be based on facts which do not infringe the right of another. Truly, the law does not ascribe reputation to the dead, but then, there is no dead person without a relation whether distant or close and we are all going to die someday. Nonetheless, it may be necessary at times to consider side by side the right and wrong in a person’s life.
Moreover, any unbiased assessor of the successive administrations in Nigeria would find out that since the inception of Nigeria’s nationhood, all administrations whether civilian or military except a few which includes the late General’s have always operated on the platform of “remote control”. Right from the late Alhaji Abubakar Tafawa Balewa’s government, decision making in all national issues have always depended on the view of the “Mafia”. To the credit of the late General Sani Abacha, the democracy we thrive on today would not have been possible but for his administration’s policy of direct rule. He was the only ruler of Nigeria who had ruled the Country from his office through his civilian and military personnel via Decrees and Edicts and not on directives from the East, West or North. He was the only ruler who could dare any traditional or political leader and deposed the Sultan a super-Emir for acts tending towards the insecurity of the Country. No wonder the call by all political parties for him to lead their parties in the election that was to be held before his sudden demise. He was the only leader who was national in scope and free from ethnic or tribal inclination.
On the economic side, it is on record that our economy crashed under successive administration after him. Our naira was 22 to 1 dollar under his administration while our petroleum was subsidized to N12 per liter in the interest of the common man. The only administration that has performed closely was that of Buhari/Idiagbon.
Sincerely, even posterity would not forgive if the late General Abacha and other patriots are being left out of the honours list as true nationalist who dared all political obstacles to preserve the unity of our beloved country.

God Bless Nigeria!

About The Author: J. Ogunbode an elder statesman has been a legal practitioner of the supreme court for over 30 years. You can contact the author at Ogunbodeesq@yahoo.com.

Source: Nigerianlawdailyblog and Daily Independent Newspaper

@seun do the needful

I am not used to writing articles but I endeavour to read articles of great writers like the late Professor Chinua Achebe, the Nobel Prize laureate and Professor Wole Soyinka. When I remembered the Article of Professor Wole Soyinka on the centenary award by Former President Goodluck Jonathan and his outright condemnation of the post humous award to the late General Sani Abacha and the tirade of accusation and counter-accusation that followed it, I concluded it is not a subject every well-meaning Nigerian should evade to contribute to i such contribution would assist in having a balanced judgment.

The questions that need to be answered to do some justice to this subject are two-fold: whether or not there is any need for the award and whether or not certain people deserve the honour. These questions are pertinent for a few reasons. As for the question of the expediency of the award, that a polygot society like ours with our unbridgeable divergences waded through numerous ethnic, tribal and global crisis for a whole of 100 years of “unity in diversity” certainly calls for some level of celebration. Minus the current senseless Boko Haram insurgence created by some of our political office holders and aspirants and serviced by so-called religious hoodlums, the 1967-1970 “Biafran war” alone(which I fought in) claimed so many lives that no reasonable adult at that time thought it was going to end with Nigeria remaining together as one. Indeed, the Aburi Accord already gave a nod to the partial separation of our common destiny, but to the glory of God, the war ended with “no victor no vanquished” ideology. Besides, most of the seven military interventions we had within the latter 50 years of the country’s existence were politically motivated, a few on tribal grounds. One can therefore see the need for the celebration and the need to honour those who have toiled and made sacrifices to keep the ship of our nationhood and national unity sailing.

On the second question of whether or not certain people deserve the honour, one must first look at the credentials of the awardees in our nation-building project to rightly answer this question which was the theme of the subject of the imbroglio orchestrated by the controversial article.

For a start and whether we like it or not, it is my candid opinion that all those who struggled with the colonialists to secure our sovereignty and others who have ruled our nation in the past whether by force of gun or by ballot deserve to be honoured. This assertion does not overlook the argument that some of these leaders came into office by force of gun. It is my opinion that apart from the July 1966 coup which brought General Gowon to office and the 1984 coup which brought General Babangida to office, all other military interventions were motivated by national cause. The General Aguyi Ironsi coup of 1966 was necessitated by what observers saw as the tendency of our country’s political life derailing on grounds of the ineptitude or insensitiveness of the leadership to address the national need; only the modality for carrying out the ouster of the ruling class in that operation – which many observers saw as being partial, dented the image of that administration. Similarly, the advent of Murtala Mohammed/Obasanjo administration came in at a time when Nigerians, particularly the politicians felt there was need for a return to civil rule but saw no end to it in the programme of General Gowon’s government. Indeed it was the civil unrest engendered by General Gowon’s press statement that his earlier plan to return the Country to democratic government in 1976 was unrealistic that necessitated the Murtala/Obasanjo’s coup.

It is also not out of place to assert that the taking over of power by the late General Sani Abacha could not have come at a better time than it came to avert either another bloody coup or our nation sinking into a state of anarchy. This last view may be condemned by those who were benefitting from the Interim administration of Chief Sonekan but the sad fact then was that there was really no Federal Government in Nigeria but the government of some hand-picked politicians many of whom brought about the problems that created the interim administration. The late General “ took over power when the nation was on the brink of precipice. He mobilized the nation’s most prominent class into his cabinet and succeeded in ensuring the continued unity of the nation”. Chief Sonekan the Chairman of the Interim administration was undoubtedly a business mogul by all standard but then, there is a world of difference between the administration of an economic hegemony and administration of a political nation particularly a multi-national country like Nigeria.

Now to the controversy over the post humus award to the late Head of State and Commander-in-Chief of the Armed Forces of Nigeria, General Sani Abacha, one can hardly see the correlation between the award – done to the relations of a deceased Head of State as to all past leaders of the Country - and the rejection of similar award on the ground that a past Head of State was honoured. What makes the whole criticism undeserving is that the whole discourse centered on events that are not uncommon to all other administrations in Nigeria and not directed at any aspect of our national polity that was unique to the administration of the late General. It is a fact of rulership under any administration, that the Leader is just one person while the administration is carried out by other members of the society. Fortunately, our dear Professor Wole Soyinka served under the administration of General Babangida. That was an administration that toppled the Buhari/Idiagbon Government widely believed to be out to deliver Nigeria at a time when the Shagari administration was terminally ailing. Indeed, there were protests against that insurgence in some parts of the Country – a situation that was never witnessed in the annals of military interventions in Nigeria. Many other well-meaning Nigerians accepted to work with that administration as under all other military regimes. It is also part of History that while some notable politicians and political office holders were killed to usher in the General Gowon administration 1966, others, including the great sage, our late Papa Chief Obafemi Awolowo served in that Government as the Vice-Chairman of the Executive Council. Record would also show that during the administration of the late General, those who worked with him were Nigerians and many of them are in the National Assembly making laws for the good of our Nation today.
On the specific allegations made against the late General (Abacha), there was never a Government in Nigeria under which some influential people did not experience some misfortune for which the government in power or political opponents were usually accused. Allowing the memory of those who lost their lives under the 1966 insurgence to rest, one cannot easily forget that many of our politicians and few of our ace journalists spent time in jail when the Buhari/Idiagbon administration usurped power while others were making away with “42 suit cases”! Under the General Babangida administration in which our Professor Wole Shoyinka served, the late Editor of Newswatch, Chief Dele Giwa met his untimely death via a parcel of bomb. Even, contrary to the claim of our Professor Shoyinka, the widely accepted winner of the 1993 election, Chief Moshood Abiola did not die under the reign of the late General Abacha but under the administration of General Abdusalam. Indeed, the late General predeceased the Chief.

On the seizure of money allegedly stolen by the late General (Abacha) and stacked up in foreign banks. Many questions must be asked and answered. Was the money not there before the death of the late General? If it was there, why was nothing done by the USA till over 16 years after the General’s death? Could the money not have been stacked away by living persons in the name of the late General? Is the money only the Nigerian fund stacked in these banks? How many of our leaders, political, military – Governors and members of our National Assembly do not have money in foreign banks?

The foregoing apart, I think it will be wrong to base the assessment of any person, private person or public officer, ruler or ruled on any personal consideration of the assessor. The freedom to express opinion is a constitutional right in any civilized society but such opinion must really be based on facts which do not infringe the right of another. Truly, the law does not ascribe reputation to the dead, but then, there is no dead person without a relation whether distant or close and we are all going to die someday. Nonetheless, it may be necessary at times to consider side by side the right and wrong in a person’s life.
Moreover, any unbiased assessor of the successive administrations in Nigeria would find out that since the inception of Nigeria’s nationhood, all administrations whether civilian or military except a few which includes the late General’s have always operated on the platform of “remote control”. Right from the late Alhaji Abubakar Tafawa Balewa’s government, decision making in all national issues have always depended on the view of the “Mafia”. To the credit of the late General Sani Abacha, the democracy we thrive on today would not have been possible but for his administration’s policy of direct rule. He was the only ruler of Nigeria who had ruled the Country from his office through his civilian and military personnel via Decrees and Edicts and not on directives from the East, West or North. He was the only ruler who could dare any traditional or political leader and deposed the Sultan a super-Emir for acts tending towards the insecurity of the Country. No wonder the call by all political parties for him to lead their parties in the election that was to be held before his sudden demise. He was the only leader who was national in scope and free from ethnic or tribal inclination.
On the economic side, it is on record that our economy crashed under successive administration after him. Our naira was 22 to 1 dollar under his administration while our petroleum was subsidized to N12 per liter in the interest of the common man. The only administration that has performed closely was that of Buhari/Idiagbon.
Sincerely, even posterity would not forgive if the late General Abacha is left out of the honours list as true nationalist who dared all political obstacles to preserve the unity of our beloved country.

God Bless Nigeria!

About The Author: J. Ogunbode an elder statesman has been a legal practitioner of the supreme court for over 30 years. You can contact the author at Ogunbodeesq@yahoo.com.

Source: Nigerianlawdailyblog and Daily Independent Newspaper

cc @Ishilove @lalasticlala do the needful

Sometimes things are just simply bad. There’s no question – some moments and days are worse and people say “be positive”. That means nothing!

But then you only get to know yourself when you see how you act in such situations.


This is not a funny post, no stories!


A manifesto has nothing to do with money or success.


I really recommend writing down your own manifesto, something to fall back on in worst moments. A simple way to live your best life right now.


Living your personal manifesto lets you touch people and let’s you celebrate living. Turns you into someone worth touching.



Heres my Manifesto:


– Treat everyone as if they are going to die tomorrow- My adorable family.

– Do things that will make me laugh. Do things that will make others laugh. Laughter is the one key to long and quality life.

– Spend time with people who love me and who I love.

– Give everything inside of me away. Else life gets constipated.

– Keep my word. That’s the one thing you don’t give away lightly. Keep it.

– Spend time with people who I will learn things from (hopefully vice-versa). You meet people for a reason. You’re never going to know the reason.

– Read a lot. Books are virtual mentors.

– It’s ok to be average if you are a good person. In some things, I’m average . I’m average at following this manifesto. It’s actually hard to be average.

– I try to eat well. I have seen too many old people in pain because of poor eating decisions when they were younger.

– It’s none of my business what people think of me. Life’s too short to waste time on such.

– I try not to need permission for anything. Once I ask, I just let someone else build my ceiling, blocking me from the stars.

– One way to choose yourself is to help the person around you who needs the most help today. Do it without expectation.

– Treat myself gently when I Know I messed up.

– Find new things to be grateful for.

– Listen. You can’t learn if you are doing the talking.

– Listen more if someone is in pain. Don’t solve. Just listen.

– For every night, there is a day.

– Every day I try to get out of my comfort zone at least once. "If you want something you've never had, you have to do something you've never done." Not my words but I keep them close.

– Before, during, or after, I say, do, or think something, I try not to hurt anyone. “After” is just as important as “Before” and “During”.

– When I am feeling low, rest. When I’m feeling high, do my best.

– Honesty, Humor, Health, Help.

Ok. Enough. I don’t want to sound preachy. This is a personal manifesto for me. For my seemingly dark moments.


This works for me, others might have different items that work for them.


Some of these might sound cliche but let me tell you this– I wanted to write this today and I did.

Life is worth Loving...



About The Author: Ife John is an Economist, Seasoned Business Analyst and a lover of God. His Inspiration comes from personal life experiences and passion to help others.

Well me and Frank were married right out of high school. Frank and I moved in with his father and brother (his Mom had passed on two year before) on a farm until we could get our own place. My husband could not find work so he joined the Army and was deployed overseas. I was left with his father and brother. His father started eyeing me up some and making friendly sexual comments to me. One night we sat around drinking and I finally was so drunk I went to bed a essentially passed out. The next morning I awoke and realized the father was in bed with me and I had a vague recollection of having sex. I also note that we were both naked.

I finally got up and put the coffee pot on. The father came in and grinned and gave me a kiss and said, my son sure picked a good wife.I knew what he meant and I realized I was going to be his woman until my husband came home. The father came to my bed anytime he wanted to have sex and I did not object as I enjoyed it as well.

One day his brother and I were feeding the animals and he told me that he knew that me and his father were having sex and he wanted his turn.I knew I was had then and I agreed and now I had two men to take car of. Its almost time for hubby to come home and not that I have not enjoyed my two men, I am ready to get on with my life with my husband and move away and get a place of our own. I don't know If I can turn it off so easily. I am thinking about when we visit if they will want to take their turns.


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Breaking Up Sucks Real Bad!

Sometimes,it comes with a pain that feels life threatening when you suddenly go back to being single. So here is a quick list of things you can do to get over a breakup:

1) Cry like a baby!

2) Watch your favorite show or movie and dive into your hobbies

3) Take 2 days to rest and be a bum in the house

4) Take the breakup as a lesson and go over what happened during the relationship by writing down the good and the bad

5) Love yourself more and try to look good

6) Get excited and ready to meet your next love interest



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It takes extra hard work to be a truly 'Great' litigator on one's own in today's world. The way out- Work with the best team!

Much is being said on how the number of lawyers in Nigeria ( and maybe in the world) have grown exponentially. And more is being about some day long ago when everything (especially the law profession ) was supposedly better.

Truth is that things were once better in much of the practice of law, though I’m generally not one to rely much on nostalgia. And maybe clients were served better, again, in some areas of the law, when they had a true professional relationship of confidence with only one lawyer, perhaps a lawyer that handled a range of needs for the client.

But clients in complex litigation today are not better served by one lawyer than they are by the right team. The simple reason why is that in the complicated litigation that you see in many areas of litigation such as civil rights, class actions, criminal cases amongst others, you need to have a team, properly sized and constituted.

Why?
There simply will be occasions where there is way too much going on all at once in such litigation for one lawyer, even a very good one, to have the time to handle all the work, even if such lawyer spent all of his or her time on the matter. And that’s not even touching on how different team members may have skills others on the team do not.

Teams do not need to be big, and should avoid duplication of personnel type. At our firm, we generally assign to a matter on an ongoing basis two professionals with different roles and responsibility levels: a more senior lawyer and a junior lawyer. Very importantly, we also have others at various levels ready to step in to assist at crunch times—when getting out a major filing, when you unexpectedly need to get a letter into the court in two hours and your other team members are out of the office handling an argument, when prepping for weeks on end for depositions, or, in some of our bigger matters. You have a core team, but then your entire team of colleagues available as needed. And ofcourse a bloated team is always good during court appearances.

The point of the team is not only to make sure all the work gets done but because our work, when done best, is collaborative. We do a better job of discussing the challenges and solutions with one another. What this all means for lawyers that want to be great litigators is that you need to find the right team. With the rate of unemplyment in Nigeria today, young lawyers can even form a great team. Supposedly “better” law offices may not always have the best teams that litigators need to do their best work.
But if lawyers want do the best work for their clients and for themselves, they need to find the best teams and fulfill their roles in those teams.


SOURCE: NIGERIAN LAW DAILY BLOG

It takes extra hard work to be a truly 'Great' litigator on one's own in today's world. The way out- Work with the best team!

Much is being said on how the number of lawyers in Nigeria ( and maybe in the world) have grown exponentially. And more is being about some day long ago when everything (especially the law profession ) was supposedly better.

Truth is that things were once better in much of the practice of law, though I’m generally not one to rely much on nostalgia. And maybe clients were served better, again, in some areas of the law, when they had a true professional relationship of confidence with only one lawyer, perhaps a lawyer that handled a range of needs for the client.

But clients in complex litigation today are not better served by one lawyer than they are by the right team. The simple reason why is that in the complicated litigation that you see in many areas of litigation such as civil rights, class actions, criminal cases amongst others, you need to have a team, properly sized and constituted.

Why?
There simply will be occasions where there is way too much going on all at once in such litigation for one lawyer, even a very good one, to have the time to handle all the work, even if such lawyer spent all of his or her time on the matter. And that’s not even touching on how different team members may have skills others on the team do not.

Teams do not need to be big, and should avoid duplication of personnel type. At our firm, we generally assign to a matter on an ongoing basis two professionals with different roles and responsibility levels: a more senior lawyer and a junior lawyer. Very importantly, we also have others at various levels ready to step in to assist at crunch times—when getting out a major filing, when you unexpectedly need to get a letter into the court in two hours and your other team members are out of the office handling an argument, when prepping for weeks on end for depositions, or, in some of our bigger matters. You have a core team, but then your entire team of colleagues available as needed. And ofcourse a bloated team is always good during court appearances.

The point of the team is not only to make sure all the work gets done but because our work, when done best, is collaborative. We do a better job of discussing the challenges and solutions with one another. What this all means for lawyers that want to be great litigators is that you need to find the right team. With the rate of unemplyment in Nigeria today, young lawyers can even form a great team. Supposedly “better” law offices may not always have the best teams that litigators need to do their best work.
But if lawyers want do the best work for their clients and for themselves, they need to find the best teams and fulfill their roles in those teams.


SOURCE: NIGERIAN LAW DAILY BLOG

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calcus:
I love this girl so much that i cant let her go 'now'. She broke-up with me days ago and since then have been trying to say sorry and ask for a second chance but she's saying NO.
How can i go about though she said i rarely compromise, rarely make sacrifices and rarely compliment guys who disturb her when she tells me.
Fellas, help me, right now for the past 72hrs, i havent had up to 5hrs of sleep. I need your advices.

DOn't Beg her..I repeat DOn't! The next time you speak to her, talk to her like nothing happened. Dont talk about the break up, just sound happy and gist with her about general stuffs. Then don't call until the next dayand then repeat 'the normal gist ish. After this dont call her. Trust me she will call you and when she does, dont pick her call. call her back after like an hour and just say " you were busy when she called'. Then carry on with normal gist - ask about her day and all , let her do most of the talking.During this conversation, just abruplty tell her you will call her back that you have to go now... You will thank me later.

I hate the fact that most ladies even when they love you just want you to play games.. quite unfirtunate but then what can a man do.



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segxi1960:
And I just found out because her friend posted the picture on facebook.

Well... I am off to bed.

The she wasnt your girlfriend in the first place btw Its always better she cheats with you than cheat on you. Her husband is at loss..




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well it you become a T.A or R.A , you pay instate.. it may vary with schools but I know Utdalls does.

zeezahbee:
Nop, I haven't heard of any. Like I have spent one year and am not getting any. Even people that have been here more than 2years.

You could check out other states but not texas

It depends on the apartment' policy.I live in Texas and my apartment charges 1k5 to break a lease. Some apartments will only ask that you pay a certain fee which may not be more than a month' rent or two. Find out from your apartment office although it should be included in your lease agreement. cheers!

zeezahbee:
F1 student or not, you break an agreement then it's a bad one

In Texas, if you break a lease, you will be made to pay for the remaining months and sometimes forfeit your deposit. The money is so much that you wont have any choice than to stay back or sublet the apartment.

If you move out of the house without notifying the leasing agent, it will go on your record and it will be so hard to get anOther apartment.

I don't know how it works in other states but I know breaking a lease is a huge game. My advice is sign. 3 mth or 6mths lease and you can move later in peace.

I'm at the top of my class in an all girl's private school(consequentially, I barely know any guys), I'm at church every Sunday(though I'm agnostic, my parents are Christian), and I'm almost 16 but my parents still think I'm grossed out by sex. But to be totally honest, the internet has let me see things I probably shouldn't have, I'm Hot all the time(I know it's just hormones but that doesn't make it feel any better), and, at this point, I have a dd/lg kink... whoops. I want to be in a relationship with an older guy(20s-40s), and even though I know that kind of relationship is super unhealthy, I still want it. I know that's probably not something that's going to happen, definitely not while I live with my parents anyway, but I can't stop thinking about it.


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I wish those of you who have good advice for the lady would go do so o the page. Nonetheless, I dont think theres any justification for the woman to cheat even if the man does.

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