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Mom007:
Remove the log in your eye first before removing the speck in another persons eye.

Have you removed yours ? Funny lots I guess that’s part of the Bible you were preaching earlier, from Bible to where now. Funny people.
Preaching not working any longer ? resulted to been defensive and quoting nonsense when the Bible you quoted is no longer applicable.

Mom007:
I never insinuated that by my statement. I just shared something that may or may not be common knowledge. I didnt add that after giving my son these "profound" words of knowledge, I proceed to give his sister a spank or two for her nautiness.
Who is the op really punishing by continuing the cycle of wickedness of the wife? Its too bad even Christians do not follow the tenets of the bible any longer. I can bet all of you challenging my comment, including op himself will claim to be Christians yet the bible says return evil for evil to no one. Who knows it may be the kindness of the op that will shame the wife and make her deeply remorseful for her hostility towards her late mother inlaw.

funny you lots. And the wife that acted towards a elderly woman old enough to be her parents is not a Christian ? Or that’s how she was trained both by her parents or the Bible you made reference to ?
Love your neighbor as yourself isn’t in your Bible talk more if mother in law ? Has she asked for forgiveness? Is she remorseful ?

cococandy:
@bold and I responded that it’s not the reality for a majority of families. As far as real life is concerned women provide too. Your fake expertise in data analytics doesn’t change those facts . I don’t know what’s difficult for you to understand there.

2) we are talking about sick parents in this case aren’t we? You’re using men are providing as a justification as to why they can’t be the one’s actually caring for their sick parents. So proving my point that y’all will find a way to shift the responsibility to someone else. I don’t see how you’re agreeing with me yet arguing against my point.

I know it’s more convenient for you to accuse me of justifying women being mean to their in-laws as you implied than to openly agree that when most men get married, they assume and take it for granted that their wives are going to be responsible for caring for the parents if necessary.

Lmao fake expertise I’m sure you never written a programming language, let alone know what Python, power BI, panda, numpy , anaconda, SQL etc are. So it’s easier to know fake data expert.

You mentioned women provide for the house same ratio as men 50:50, which is ridiculous cos you ain’t truthful to yourself if you think this is applicable in Nigeria.

You really sounding like those small girls with no understanding cos if not a man that goes to work e.g for someone that stays in Lagos leaves home early and returns late, how will be available to give 💯 care to the parents ? Or he should quit his job to take care of her ? If the lady brings her parents to the house will she be the one to foot all the bills incurred ?

Can you tell your dad that he should be the one taking care of his mother if she’s still alive despite his busy schedules or having the means to employ someone that can do it timely ?

Since you all over the place and argue blindly or just arguing for the sake of argument you can seek counsel and ask your dad how he would have felt if your mum maltreated his mother.

cococandy:
Okay use your data analysis expertise to explain why men are doing everything to run away from caring for their aging parents.
Now you’re mentioning maids, some have mentioned caregivers. And obviously the rest of you want your wives to do it. This thing you’re taking for granted that everyone else but you will be available to do it.

Why aren’t you doing it yourselves?

And tell me with your expertise in data analytics how what you’ve said disproves my point about men always shifting the care labor to females around them.
Quickly

It’s very hard understanding you, What brought about data analysis was based on “men providing financially for the household” , now you changed the conversation to “ men running away from caring for their aged parents” .

Secondly, you talked about caring like it’s something outta this world, not all aged parents are ill or couldn’t do basic things like bathing, eating or those lil things. Even in cases where they are ill, and the man is always busy working or “providing” for the household and the wife isn’t interested he employs a Caregiver to take care of her, caregiver can be employed and monitored.

The man allowing parents to stay, providing for their needs, employing maids or caregiver is part of caring for them, or you don’t know the definition of caring again ?

why are you justifying the nonsense attitude of the wife? Op pointed out she was maltreating his mother when she came ? Do you pray your son’s wife to maltreat you in your old age ? I’m sure Bible and Quran pointed out how you should respect your parents or any one other than you if you wanna live long. I hope you would be proud telling your parents you supporting a lady maltreating her husband mother?

pocohantas:
I hope you have a lot of patience?

Lmao. Sure 🙄. You want to keep me waiting ?

cococandy:
My assumptions are based on facts. Facts that are being proven right as we speak. I’ve been asking the men who are quoting me how they intend to care for their aging parents and none of them has been able to confirm that they are actually working on learning the necessary skills. Some say caregivers while the rest resort to insults when they feel cornered by the question. Tell me again that my assumption about them leaving those tasks to women is wrong. My inference is drawn from a completely logical premise. If I’m wrong y’all please tell me how many of you are actually hands on care givers. I’m waiting.
basically we are on op’s thread and the attitude of the woman in question is totally UNACCEPTABLE, she is totally wicked and heartless, if she has a problem with taking her of his mother she should have communicated and the guy would find alternative of finding a caregiver in his house instead of outrightly sending the old woman away.

not in today’s economy. Keep lying to yourself




A condescending quip that doesn’t actually add to the conversation. What’s your basis for assuming I don’t know data analytics? And if I didn’t, so what?
Does it Change the fact that you guys leave care giving to the women or sometimes pay for it? Or that women in current economic Nigeria are expected to bring financial contributions as well? If you’re so sure, ask your fellow dudes on here what they think of women who depend on them.

But you’re not really ready for the true conversation

cos if you are know a thing about data analysis you wouldn’t have made your last statement.

There are so many homes where maids practically do everything ranging from cooking , cleaning etc.
you are just all over the place in trying to say something meaningful. Stick to Op’s context.

cococandy:
that’s not to say she doesn’t work.

wrong
a great option that I think she should explore



Categorically is false.
An NL survey is a sample of biased test subjects. Not a dependable sample set

an assumption doesn’t mean she does! We both working with assumptions doesn’t make your points more valid.

Lmao, I repeat men are majorly the financial provider in many homes in Nigeria. Ain’t saying women don’t contribute though. Some are even fond of saying “your money is our money and my money is my money” keep deceiving yourself , ITS THE TRUTH.

Lmao do you know anything about data analytics ? If you do you wouldn’t have made that last statements.

pocohantas:
18 pages and counting.

Pheeew!

I’m waiting for your perspective. 🤔

cococandy:
ah I see we are operating with the outdated assumption that he’s the sole provider. Do you people not live in the real world where men and women are present in the workforce in almost 50:50 ratios?



Again with the financial assumptions. Ask the OP if his wife is financially dependent on him.
This argument fails every time because most of have never and will never be sole providers

I think you didn’t read the whole story where he said he’s financially buoyant, that alone should give you a perspective or narrative that he’s taking good care of the home and not dependent on the lady’s earning. In this 21st century men mostly take care of the home in regards to provision(financially) , not saying women don’t contribute especially in this country.

What stops her from allowing her mum stay with her siblings and with your assumption, then she can be sending money to her siblings to take care of her ?

I can categorically tell you in Nigeria today, 50:50 is a dream and doesn’t happen in 90% of Nigerian home.

You can put through a survey on nairaland to ascertain this claim.

cococandy:
No it will not automatically be less work for the lady.
It requires a lot of sacrifice. Someone else’s sacrifice is not something you just expect from them as if you’re entitled to it. You’re not entitled to her sacrificing herself to care for your mom. She can do it herself if she wants to but it’s not something she owes you.

Why are you expecting her mom and your mom to have the same level of priority in her life? Her mom can die for her. Can your mom die for her?

A little thinking please

Are you being serious ? Can her mother die for him ?
A house he pays the rent or built ? A house he provided for , a woman he paid her dowry ?
So it’s just to send her out ?

She can as well pay rent or built a house for her, provide for her needs and take care of her as she wants and not bring her to my “HOUSE” since it’s not also my duty to take care of another woman who’s not my mum.

Samantha124:
If he was expecting his wife to be the one to nurse his mother, then that would be very selfish of him.

may your son’s wife do exactly what Op’s wife did unto her.

Cregforce still in gifting mood. That force is really a force, about 7million in total cash gift. 💯

Nhazeru:
Yvonne said she did pour hot water unintentionally and Yemi reacted in a very mean manner towards her

this is very funny. Like someone can control how to react when something like that happens. Reaction that are involuntary, even married couple gets mad at each other talk more of people just getting to know each other.

Some here are even abusers yet they could claim and portray themselves saints online. It’s easy to judge another person.

JasonScoolari:
I might not like someone doesn't mean I hate that person....

Miracle has always been vocal, somethings, he dey over do am, but he is very vocal, lovely and also cool.

Everyone here saw how Yemi was jumping from bed to bed like a Malawi kangaroo, playing around with the feelings of ladies, some of us here condemn that silly act, while others hailed him and call it a strategy...

You don't use the emotions of ladies to play and call it "strategy"
There are so many strategies to use in the Big Brother's House. WhiteMoney, stick to his Kitchen strategy, LiquorRose to her dancing strategy, Angel Smith, to her private part exposing strategy, Pere, to his military strategy, Saga to his SIMPING strategy, Yerins to his "I too know Book" strategy.

But Yemi choose to copy Boma "Okra" strategy, which he didn't copy well.

Miracle Op does not hate Yemi, so those Justin and Thabang.

the idiot that was cheating on her bf after four years of dating is anyway better despite all he has done for her ?
So she wasn’t playing on her bf’s emotions ? Moreover, transgender said she has been flirting with thabang before Yemi started, but none of you had called her out. So stop painting any of them bad no one in that house is a saint, all of them were basically playing games.

If she truly love a person like she claimed she no go move to another available alternative after a day. Stop the bias judgement.

Geezeem:
The organizers honestly hide a lot from us on this show...

We all thought Miracle was hating when he said Yemi spoke disrespectfully to Khosi....

I am just reading online now that Justin said same thing during his interview, Thaband said same thing in the house...

That's 3 people saying same thing... nawaaa oooo

There has to be some truth in this nah... 🤔

Ladies man in potopoto

Justin said he doesn’t like how he moves, which is a personal opinion, blue knew all and decided to stick around, she wasn’t even complaining.
I don’t know how that’s their problem ? Moreover they all out why are they still talking about Yemi ? Cos I have not seeing anywhere Yemi has mentioned another housemate , Haba na ment ?

eleshin:
They need to quickly erase the memory of this wack BB titans. A failed project.

exactly that nonsense Bbtitan should be erased and never brought back. Bbnaija still has better to offer than this failed show.

Kaypee007:
It’s good to win the money which I don’t doubt but what comes after the show is more important
The literal meaning of your statement above is that winning the show is less important than the after-show.And I'm telling you that the ultimate priority for every housemate is to win the show.Second to that is to see what they can get from the platform if they don't win.
I do not care for any imaginary meaning you are implying.I am not a mind-reader.I am replying on the exact meaning of the statement you made.Next time just try to communicate less like a fool.

I’m responsible for what I wrote not what you understand, if you decided to interpret like a fool it’s non of my business.

Imaginary meaning to what I wrote ? How dull can you be ?
I still stand on my perspective outta 20+ housemates only one would win , it’s great to sell yourself and see if you can win and if not skills you sold can give you much more than that.

K-Force Proud of y’all. Yvonne kudos. Kanaga gat all my votes this week.

Kaypee007:
So in your generalization,just because some persons win the bigbrother show and are not in lime light anymore,others shouldn't strive to, as they would go into obscurity too.Your mumu strong.

So a platform that can make the non-winners shine post-show ,wouldn't it make the winner of the show shine better after the show.Your mumuness done tire me.You make it look like the platform is only there for the non-winners.Mumu!!

I really thought you had an iota of sense but nope you always proved me wrong . I’m responsible for what I typed not responsible for what you understand.

Your foolish conclusion is only attributed to your stupidity not based on what I typed. So continue displaying your ignominy I’m waiting for the next one.

Kaypee007:
It’s good to win the money which I don’t doubt but what comes after the show is more important
That is your statement up there,which simply states that winning the show is not the priority.Except you don't understand the English language and just decide to use words like a mad person.

The questions I asked was actually to embolden your stupidity to you, as you seem not to notice it(I realize you still haven't noticed it).We all know Nengi never won the show.If she is all that,like you claimed, why didn't she win the show.That is to tell you her personality is not as appealing to the general public.

How can I make you understand how foolish you are?

Lmao you quoted something and yet you can’t decipher or interpret it meaningfully.
Lemme help your foolishness, like I said it’s good to win the show, many have won yet many who won where are they today ?
Plenty of them didn’t win and are still doing fine today , I guess you ain’t too bright to understand that.
The money you win or won could finish but the platform you got can make you successful. That’s why it’s good to sell yourself.

Lol. See how stupid you are ? When did I say she won ? An ICON would not know who won?

Learn to read and understand.

Kaypee007:
I asked a simple question and you are just busy displaying your foolishness.Did Nengi win the show or not?Winning the show is the ultimate aim of anybody going into the big brother house.If you end up not winning maybe you can use the platform to pave a way for yourself but it would be very stupid of you to say winning the bigbrother prize money is not the priority of the housemates.

Talking about her endorsement deals cum advert deal.You think there is anything special about that.Most of the so-call endorsement deal you see,most are just playing the role of a paid actor featuring in an ad campaign.The pay is just as any actor would be paid for featuring in the ad.

In your delusion of grandeur you might want to think she is doing something special.She is just a paid actress.You think every endorsement is like them burnaboy and davido type.If that was the case Yemi should be a multi-millionaire even before the bigbrother house .How foolish can you be?

I guess comprehension is your problem or reading is too enigmatic for you ? You have a phone and data if you as wise as you claimed you can search and not ask me stupid question.

Moreover I guess you are to blind to see where I stated they are there to win but at the end of the day only one housemates can win. Which is why I stated wining is good but most importantly selling yourself is key cos only one would get to win.

You are so dumb to the extent of calling endorsement deal to only acting for an ad and what have you. Read up and learn to to know why there’s contract attached to endorsement deals which could vary depending on the type of endorsement you get. And you are in Yemi’s bank account to even know he hasn’t made millions ? Stupidity at peak.

Geezeem:
What was her position again that year?

Google IT.

Kaypee007:
Did Nengi win the show?Does Nengi have $100,000 in her bank account?

some of you are just dumb. It’s good to win the money which I don’t doubt but what comes after the show is more important and it’s not a must to be useless to win the show.

Since you are so lazy to search lemme mention some of her endorsement deals for you.
1.She is the senior special assistant of Bayelsa state
2. She also was includes in a commercial for Dejeu perfume.
3. She is endorsed to to payporte outfits.
4. She is endorsed to Remymartins.
5. She is endorsed to Playnetwork.
6. She is endorsed to jennysglow skincare.
7. She is endorsed to Luciousvirgin hair.
8. She also has a deal with DSTV.

Sometimes it ain’t about ONLY wining the show but wining after the show which Ebuka is simply an example.

Giel:
As in.

I've said I will not forgive what naija did to the naija girls..
Just looking for faults and flaws in the naija girls all over the place.
They were looking for perfect angels in naija girls while the SA girls could be whatever they wanted.
Just like Lauryn41 said.
That learn from khosi trash is nonsense and annoying because there is nothing to learn from khosi.
She can't even clean the shoes of most naija girls that have graced bbn. Her game is not up to theirs. Even the ones I don't like. So what are they learning from her?
It's just that she was given a lot more grace because she's not from naija. That's all.

Ordinary gossip and they tore my naija girls apart.

Exactly. People justifying that nonsense behavior is what I dislike. some even came here saying Nigerian girls should learn from her ? Like seriously learn what ?
I think no matter the tribe over here , we care about our image how people see us, parent’s name which is why many don’t really do too much on the show. Nengi played a far more superior game yet she didn’t useless herself on national TV.

Geezeem:
Nana had no story line inside the house aside her kayamata runs... and gossip.

Why make this a Nigeria thing? no be self esteem issues una they project on top this game so?

Just Picture Bisola, Mercy, Erica, crazy beauty, phyna, Ceecee, boss etc on this show.... even chaotic Tacha...and tell me whether the turn out would be same...it's a personality contest guys!

I no kuku quote you , una don know una self and useless English contest. Personality ko personal ni.
I repeat if Khosi was a Nigerian many of you here would have dragged her generation, her parents and everything about her life. You for don find the bf out self dey talk all sorta nonsense.

Justin: when did you Thabang started noticing eachother?
Khosi: we started long time ago, like the time Jenny and I had the fight.
Justin: that's such a long time.
Khosi: yes, but Yemi never really notice us flirting till people started telling him things.

They started way before Yemi moved to blue, 😂 and some idiot will keep painting Yemi black. Most importantly those camera man purposely hide many things.

meobizy:
Khosi was on her own, all the boys came her way. They all want her. No wonder the other females don't like her.

Twitter watchers, same way she was on her own when Yemi came right ? Ridiculous conclusion.

Alheeri:
Our ex wife khosi just said the khosi in the house is same khosi outside, she likes rich men, inshort she has them plenty one gives her girlfriend allowance, another buys her car, rented er apartment for her etc.

Khosi is really a big gamer, gaming outside and inside😁😁
With wat I heard tonight she deserves d 100k

When a Nigerian girl say she dey use kayamata, dem wan crucify am for here, had it been she’s a Nigerian, them for don drag am, her generation, even drag her parents saying all sorts of nonsense but now she’s a foreigner her attitude is okay.
I remember how they drag angel wey no do reach this one.

Wotowotoman:
One million naira

Shame on all of you

you no see the 4million naira gift on his birthday ? This one million na from VVIP Consisting of about 30-50 people. It’s different from the main cregxforce.

QueenSindel:
Since u feel say u go school why u no educate ur Yemumu with zero speaking and Writing skills So he go fit get legit endorsement not all these cut and join scams una dey parade around agbaya Okunrin

which school you go? Make you tell us. Yemi went to Unilag, one of the best school in Nigeria. You wey dey write like primary school pupil dey talk about someone else skills? Cover your head in shame.

Alheeri:
😁😁, read er write up in ur local language

Lmao na you go kill me today. So he don reach to dey translate her English to yoruba to understand her?

QueenSindel:
The meaning is that being a product of rape affected ur memory capacity 😁😁😁

Olodo, go school na lie you dey hawk your thing for peanut. Capacity is for storage, the maximum a thing or storage can contain, how does that relate to thinking and understanding? You dull no be small.