Samantha124:
You see what I meant?🤣🤣🤣

Are those tears,
I understand

cococandy:
okay. Lol

U can always get another woman to wife, but u will always have only but one woman as a mother.

TIT FOR TAT MY BROTHER!!!

DON'T LET ANYONE TELL YOU OTHERWISE....

SMALL TIME NA WETIN SHE WANT CHOP DEM GO COOK

LET HER MAINTAIN AND HOLD HER TERRITORY AFTER ALL MARRIAGE IS FOR A MAN AND HIS WIFE

HER REJECTION OF YOUR MUM MIGHT HAVE CONTRIBUTED TO HER DEATH

Samantha124:
How am I supposed to answer your question when you didn't answer mine

Nigerian women, u pple could do better by having a higher I.Q nah

shantti:


What is the correlation between this reply and my response to you. Nothing. Stop typing words to sound woke nne

How could you accuse me of what you are solely guilty of; comprehension. This is very ironic. You know that it also the USUAL expectation that the man will fund the medical bill should he let his mother in law stay in this house. Why didn't you factor in this. Can u show this this you so called stat. You now understand why I labeled u as being emotional.

From the story, we can only infer that he changed location after his wife said no. It says nothing about The caregiver, The caregiver could already had been nursing the woman at the op's house.Moreover, why can't his wife replicate the same thing. She should pay someone to look after her mother in another house.


But you proved us right nah. It's not our fault. You could have changed the narrative by trying to the logical after reading this story, u could have called a spade a spade, but no, u started cooking up assumptions to favor your fellow wicked female gender that caused someone to die, typical of u females with the f monicker 🙄🙄

You’re making assumptions that he’s going to pay for his MILs health care costs but projecting that onto me. While I’m making an observation founded on facts that the woman is usually expected to be the care provider. I guess I can’t expect a non biased perspective from you.

I don’t take people seriously who use woke like it’s an insult. It’s giving you don’t know what you’re talking about. Just heard the word woke and decided that’s the new insult to latch onto. You don’t even know what it means

XTHRONE:



U can always get another woman to wife, but u will always have only but one woman as a mother.

true

Justbehave:
Lol. What is there in taking care of them? My agreement with them is I pay you,get you pregnant,deliver and leave. I have 3 from 3 different ladies that don't even know where their kids are presently.

I’m not asking about the ladies. I thought you meant the kids are not with you. Did I misunderstand that?

And you could do better by being less emotional..

shantti:


Nigerian women, u pple could do better by having a higher I.Q nah

cococandy:


I’m not asking about the ladies. I thought you meant the kids are not with you. Did I misunderstand that?

All my kids are with me.

LMAO..🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

shantti:


Are those tears,
I understand

Justbehave:
All my kids are with me.

Okay. Sorry I misunderstood that part.

What goes around comes around, your wife in refusing your own mother from staying in your house, never thought that a day will come when her own mother will face the same plight. Stand firm and kill the idea of letting her come in. Not out of revenge but because it has already been established in your home that marriage is between a man and his wife. What is good for the goose is also good for the gander.

cococandy:


You’re making assumptions that he’s going to pay for his MILs health care costs but projecting that onto me. While I’m making an observation founded on facts that the woman is usually expected to be the care provider. I guess I can’t expect a non biased perspective from you.

I don’t take people seriously who use woke like it’s an insult. It’s giving you don’t know what you’re talking about. Just heard the word woke and decided that’s the new insult to latch onto. You don’t even know what it means

What kind of sentimentalism is this.
Where is your so called founded facts. The same so called founded facts didn't project men as financial providers right? We are talking about a clime where men automatically becomes responsible for catering for his in-laws cos he married their daughter. I guess your so called founded facts was forged by a woman.

Ma, pls u r the biased one here. Stop what u are doing. What the hell is this. Is it cos it is your fellow woman. My own reasonings are mere assumptions while yours are well founded facts. Right?

I hate arguing with sentimental people

Samantha124:
LMAO..🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

I understand
Cry harder

cococandy:


That’s why you should prepare now and learn how to care for your own parents instead of hoping that one day you’ll marry someone who will do it for you.

Married, an orphan.

What is good for the goose is also good for the gander. So she shouldn't come. Stick to the template of marriage is two some and not three some

Samantha124:
And you could do better by being less emotional..

Have you read all you've typed

cococandy:
that’s not to say she doesn’t work.

wrong
a great option that I think she should explore



Categorically is false.
An NL survey is a sample of biased test subjects. Not a dependable sample set

an assumption doesn’t mean she does! We both working with assumptions doesn’t make your points more valid.

Lmao, I repeat men are majorly the financial provider in many homes in Nigeria. Ain’t saying women don’t contribute though. Some are even fond of saying “your money is our money and my money is my money” keep deceiving yourself , ITS THE TRUTH.

Lmao do you know anything about data analytics ? If you do you wouldn’t have made that last statements.

Me ino dey use my mama play oh... If my wife tell me say my mama no fit stay with us...i go tell her straight dat is like she wants to go back to her father's house.... With d suffer wey my mama suffer untop my head another person pikin no go understand....

Rinoxy:

Married, an orphan.

I’m asking you to prepare to care for your parents. How’s that connected to who I’m going to marry?

You in particular, how are you preparing to care for your parents? That’s my question.

For the fact she acted such way towards my mum, her's isn't stepping anyway near my house to live. I'll also hire someone to take care of her mother too. There's no need for negotiations because there won't be any. She treats my own mother such and wishes hers to be treated better. This is isn't karma catching up with her but that's Golden Rule playing out. ''Do unto others what you want them to do unto you''.

Mrbllymer:
an assumption doesn’t mean she does! We both working with assumptions doesn’t make your points more valid.

Lmao, I repeat men are majorly the financial provider in many homes in Nigeria. Ain’t saying women don’t contribute though. Some are even fond of saying “your money is our money and my money is my money” keep deceiving yourself , ITS THE TRUTH.

Lmao do you know anything about data analytics ? If you do you wouldn’t have made that last statements.

The way she cooks up invalid assumptions and throws out valid assumptions is baffling.

It is more founded that men are financial providers than women nurse their husbands sick relatives.

Mrbllymer:
an assumption doesn’t mean she does! We both working with assumptions doesn’t make your points more valid.

My assumptions are based on facts. Facts that are being proven right as we speak. I’ve been asking the men who are quoting me how they intend to care for their aging parents and none of them has been able to confirm that they are actually working on learning the necessary skills. Some say caregivers while the rest resort to insults when they feel cornered by the question. Tell me again that my assumption about them leaving those tasks to women is wrong. My inference is drawn from a completely logical premise. If I’m wrong y’all please tell me how many of you are actually hands on care givers. I’m waiting.

Lmao, I repeat men are majorly the financial provider in many homes in Nigeria. Ain’t saying women don’t contribute though. Some are even fond of saying “your money is our money and my money is my money” keep deceiving yourself , ITS THE TRUTH.

not in today’s economy. Keep lying to yourself

Lmao do you know anything about data analytics ? If you do you wouldn’t have made that last statements.

A condescending quip that doesn’t actually add to the conversation. What’s your basis for assuming I don’t know data analytics? And if I didn’t, so what?
Does it Change the fact that you guys leave care giving to the women or sometimes pay for it? Or that women in current economic Nigeria are expected to bring financial contributions as well? If you’re so sure, ask your fellow dudes on here what they think of women who depend on them.

But you’re not really ready for the true conversation

If you think you’re right and I’m wrong, please create a thread today or tomorrow and ask your fellow guys how they feel about marrying a woman with no job and have to provide financially for her for the rest of her life. We won’t even talk about him providing for her family. That’s out of the question.

Read the responses you will and tell me again who’s being sentimental. I don’t know what you gain from lying to yourselves. You hate and insult women who depend on you. And you don’t hide it. In response women today are more than represented in the work force and still have to be the main caregivers at home.

Something’s gotta give. Deal with it or don’t. But it’s true

shantti:


What kind of sentimentalism is this.
Where is your so called founded facts. The same so called founded facts didn't project men as financial providers right? We are talking about a clime where men automatically becomes responsible for catering for his in-laws cos he married their daughter. I guess your so called founded facts was forged by a woman.

Ma, pls u r the biased one here. Stop what u are doing. What the hell is this. Is it cos it is your fellow woman. My own reasonings are mere assumptions while yours are well founded facts. Right?

I hate arguing with sentimental people

Luckysbab:


And why not?

Who knows the kind of pepper she will show him when he is frail?!

He should the end marriage with the first then remarry though there is no guarantee the second one would treat him when he is frail in as much men tend to endure in their second marriage what they couldn't in their first

MrBrownJay1:


if the above is how your wife felt about your own mother coming to stay with you guys, then she has NO RIGHT to expect her own mother to come stay with you guys... NONE!

Exactly my submission.

shantti:


The way she cooks up invalid assumptions and throws out valid assumptions is baffling.

It is more founded that men are financial providers than women nurse their husbands sick relatives.

Okay then correct my wrong assumptions.
how are you preparing to care for your older relatives (parents) as they get older and possibly ill. What steps are you taking today as of now to prepare yourself?

Neweramify:
Op your wife was wrong, but try and understand her fear. Most women feel inconvenient around their mother inlaw. Not because she hates her mother inlaw but for the fear of the unknown.

Let her know how you feel knowing she wanna bring her mum in when she rejected your mum. I'm sure she will feel remorse of her action.

Permit her to bring her mum, cause if anything happen to the old woman, she may accuse you of one thing or the other.

Who told you she will feel remorse? It depends on the level of servitude the wife has already put this op under. That time op was comfortable he should have rented/bought a house for his mum near him, I know men who put their mum in their BQ beside them with maid /driver etc, their wife dare not disturb. Op if your mother lived with you she probably would still be alive today, but now your wife wants to save her own mother abi? Tell her what she has cost you and what she thinks now that's her own mum, use her reaction to decide

What you did to your mum, in order to pleased your wife is totally wrong. Your mother have died been angry with you. Now, Let your wife decide what you would be doing henceforth.

cococandy:


Okay then correct my wrong assumptions.
how are you preparing to care for your older relatives (parents) as they get older and possibly ill. What steps are you taking today as of now to prepare yourself?

Am not handicapped
Moreover there are caregivers

MrBrownJay1:


if the above is how your wife felt about your own mother coming to stay with you guys, then she has NO RIGHT to expect her own mother to come stay with you guys... NONE!

None at all, me will not free if marriages wan scatter make it scatter. I hate cheating. Abeg make una carry that forgive and forget commot here. Everyone need to have a taste of what they dish out.

Darammliveth:



Kill that suggestion before it arrive! This case is very simple. Your wife should know better. What goes around comes around. Karma is a bitch! How can you be hostile to your mother in-law.

Let her mama stay with any of her eldest siblings. Thank God she's not the only child. Then you can send her money monthly for her upkeep. Lobatan.

Seconded