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Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by cococandy(f): 10:55pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
XTHRONE:okay. Lol 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by poppy83(m): 10:55pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
One spotted... Neweramify: |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by cococandy(f): 10:55pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Amumaigwe:That’s a perfectly fine option. OPs wife should consider that 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Fearcom(m): 10:57pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
frozen70: Hmmm! Awon okurin o raye wa oo! What is good for the goose is also good for the gander. All the men should gather here amd take this advoce: 1. NEVER, NEVER PAMPER A BAD WIFE. 2. HANDLE HER WITH AN IRON HAND. LET HER KNOW THAT SHE EITHER SUBMITS OR YOU KICK HER OUT. PERIOD 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Nobody: 10:57pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
What useless remorse. Would you advise your brother this way. Some of you ladies believe everything must go your way. Neweramify: |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Ojady(m): 10:58pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Please do not let it happen. A precedent has been set, let it remain that way. Not out of revenge over what she did, but for the sake of "your" family, "your home", your children...marriage especially nowadays, is continuous work on you, on your wife, both of you together. When a 3rd party is involved, you both now have a 3rd contributor, to your affairs and that is what the devil preys on (remember Eve). You can support but not under your roof, do not let the older siblings come and dump her at your place, it will give them reasons to come to your house anyhow under the guise "we come see Mama" which will never be only about Mama, add on jealous innuendos with unnecessary and unavoidable snooping around and spreading your business all over. Support the elder siblings through your wife: buy provisions, pay some Bill's, get a nurse, arrange pocket money, visit often...anything but not under your roof. #IHaveBeenThere 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Mrbllymer: 10:58pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
cococandy:I think you didn’t read the whole story where he said he’s financially buoyant, that alone should give you a perspective or narrative that he’s taking good care of the home and not dependent on the lady’s earning. In this 21st century men mostly take care of the home in regards to provision(financially) , not saying women don’t contribute especially in this country. What stops her from allowing her mum stay with her siblings and with your assumption, then she can be sending money to her siblings to take care of her ? I can categorically tell you in Nigeria today, 50:50 is a dream and doesn’t happen in 90% of Nigerian home. You can put through a survey on nairaland to ascertain this claim. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by harmony75: 11:00pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Gbam marriage is between husband and wife please if you don't want your mama spirit to slap that your heartless wife and her mother don't allow her mom to come live with you both full stop 🛑 what a heartless woman she's going to suffer more even her daughter inlaw will do the same she never see anything. Let her family know that you will not allow their mother bc of what their sister did or just let them know it is not possible your mama sef go vex for you, you no be mumu now she have other siblings so let them care for their mother or get a nurse for their mom. This matter pain me bc I hate injustice! What nonsense of a wife??!! You were in the position to care for your own mom she refused but guy you made a mistake you should have allowed your mom live with you either she go she's taken you as a soft person that's why she tried it in first place please be firm on this let her siblings take care of their mother so she can feel what you felt! Imagine the innocent woman is dead now 😭 I'm sorry to say your wife is not a good woman but how you sef tolerated that putting your mom in danger bc of one stupid wife that does not fear God! Karma knows every address o what nonsense! 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Justbehave(m): 11:00pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
cococandy:They are staying with me in my house right now and are being well taken care of. Even my 3kids are with me and not with their evil and manipulative mother's that I paid to have kids for me. I don't need you women in my life. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by MrDoGood(m): 11:01pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Neweramify: Accuse Kwa? Are her siblings living in the forest ? |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Nobody: 11:01pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
How am I supposed to answer your question when you didn't answer mine shantti: |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by emmybobo1: 11:01pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Samantha124:I pray in your old age all your children should abandon you with chronic arthritis |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Nobody: 11:01pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
You see what I meant?🤣🤣🤣 shantti: |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by pocohantas(f): 11:02pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
18 pages and counting. Pheeew! |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Ubdavis(m): 11:02pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Why wouldn't people give out what they can't take?? |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Freeko4: 11:03pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
ozalogbo: You're not the man of your house, you never wanted your mother to stay with you in the first place that's the reason you had to succumb to your wife. Your mother will be ashame of you whereever she is. Now same reality that played out before has repeated again and you can't still decide. Man you're us*l*ss. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by EriMma1: 11:03pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
clockwisereport:M! |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Justbehave(m): 11:04pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
akinbodma:Best advice only for you because you don't have sense. If you had,you would have known that it is a very wrong advice. Seems you are a weak man or a simp just like the op? |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by SeriouslySense(m): 11:05pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Why would you listen to your Wife, when it comes to your Mother, stop allowing people to manipulate you, you should have taken very good care of your mother. There are some things, you do not listen to anyone, such as when it comes to your Mother, and if she is a good person, you have to make sure she is okay in old age. No one should tell you how to treat your mum. I myself i am furious Is too late, you were not wise, just forgive your wife. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Nobody: 11:06pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Amen..🙌🙌🙌 Anything else?🤣🤣🤣 emmybobo1: |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Luckysbab: 11:06pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Neweramify: Fear of unknown from an ill mother inlaw? Many of you ladies just have a serious psychological problem. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Hardgun: 11:06pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Heaven knows that it can never be me omo and secondly tell her say u no wan hear that story at all her mama is not welcome |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Justbehave(m): 11:06pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Freeko4:Very very useless man he is. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by cococandy(f): 11:07pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Justbehave:I’m glad that’s working out for you. I think men who agree with you should explore this option more often. If you don’t mind me asking, why are they not with you? Does it have something to do with your ability to care for them outside of putting money on the table (which anyone can do BTW) 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by cococandy(f): 11:07pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
pocohantas: 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by shantti(m): 11:08pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Just as biologically I’m supposed to meet your mom today and develop the same level of love for her that I have for my mom who sacrificed all her life for me. Very logical What is the correlation between this reply and my response to you. Nothing. Stop typing words to sound woke nne I said that’s USUALLY the expectation. Not my personal conclusion. Comprehension is key. OP should feel free to correct that if it doesn’t apply in his case. But based on stats, women are the ones expected to do the caregiving. It’s based on facts. So tell me where my emotion is coming from. 🤨 How could you accuse me of what you are solely guilty of; comprehension. This is very ironic. You know that it also the USUAL expectation that the man will fund the medical bill should he let his mother in law stay in this house. Why didn't you factor in this. Can u show this this you so called stat. You now understand why I labeled u as being emotional. he paid for someone after his wife said no. Your point?From the story, we can only infer that he changed location after his wife said no. It says nothing about The caregiver, The caregiver could already had been nursing the woman at the op's house.Moreover, why can't his wife replicate the same thing. She should pay someone to look after her mother in another house. Start by telling me why some of you don’t reason past the f behind a moniker? The moment you see f, that means the person is being emotional and all the Ms are being logical . If you know anything about logic you will know that it’s not gender based. But you don’t. You assign logic by gender. Literally defeating the meaning of it But you proved us right nah. It's not our fault. You could have changed the narrative by trying to the logical after reading this story, u could have called a spade a spade, but no, u started cooking up assumptions to favor your fellow wicked female gender that caused someone to die, typical of u females with the f monicker 🙄🙄 |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Luckysbab: 11:09pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Zupay: And why not? Who knows the kind of pepper she will show him when he is frail?! |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by SeriouslySense(m): 11:10pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
I was thinking the same, what a self centered wife and she suddenly have amnesia, Does the wife not understand that whenever He sees her Mother he will remember how she did not allow his own Mother enjoy the presence of her sons family in her old age. Ojady: |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by pocohantas(f): 11:10pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Mrbllymer: 11:10pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
pocohantas:I’m waiting for your perspective. 🤔 |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by cococandy(f): 11:10pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Mrbllymer:that’s not to say she doesn’t work. In this 21st century men mostly take care of the home in regards to provision(financially) , not saying women don’t contribute especially in this country.wrong a great option that I think she should explore
Categorically is false. An NL survey is a sample of biased test subjects. Not a dependable sample set 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Justbehave(m): 11:11pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
cococandy:Lol. What is there in taking care of them? My agreement with them is I pay you,get you pregnant,deliver and leave. I have 3 from 3 different ladies that don't even know where their kids are presently. |
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