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Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by ogele: 1:47am On Mar 30, 2023 |
I feel so disappointed you are seeking public opinion. Serve her mum same cup of tea. You can't treat my mum like a trash and except me to treat your mum like a queen. Who ever coin that word forgive here is insane. Don't accept and be a man for once. If you mum had stayed in your house, I bet she won't died when she died. Plz let her own mother stay wherever and let them hire someone to take care of her WHAT NONSENSE. TILL THIS MOMENT GOD IS YET TO FORGIVE SATAN. NA ME WANT START THE FORGIVENESS. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Zupay: 1:51am On Mar 30, 2023 |
ridwintin89: Don't pity me, I don't need it. If a marriage is not working for you end it then feel free to remarry if you so chooses. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by cococandy(f): 1:54am On Mar 30, 2023 |
iInjureHerYansh:I’ve quoted you. I’m waiting for the strike. 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by oladiran2(m): 1:55am On Mar 30, 2023 |
You judged your moms patience wrongly. Yes she did that for peace doesn't mean that would definitely seat well in her mind. That action alone is enough to add to her pains of motherwood and might even be your fault she died more earlier because yes she might leave but do you know if she is thinking and crying when she gets home You really did some damage to your mom ignorantly and I pray she forgives you in her sleep. That's completely wrong in all aspect. Even if she wanted to leave you were supposed to block the door and say No way not you allowing her. Even if to kneel down by the door to tell her no way not been cool because she said so. She only acted the way any elder would behave and it's now your duty to defend her but you didn't. Motherwood is not by sending money to her alone, am sorry but am not sure you made your mom enjoyed her last days at all courtesy to you and not your wife because you allowed such impudence SPAMBOX7: 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Jackanda1(m): 1:59am On Mar 30, 2023 |
madridguy:If the second wife misbehaves nkor, you marry a third one? Is this how muslim men solve their marriage problems? |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Darkestking: 2:16am On Mar 30, 2023 |
Bro you turned your own mother away for your wife ? The one who gave birth to you and raised you and was all alone for the devil woman you married ? It's too late for regrets now but you should have kept your mother with you and if your wife had a problem with it, kick your wife out. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Lamanii22(f): 2:27am On Mar 30, 2023 |
MrBrownJay1: Period! I do not want to hear anymore, this pretty much ends it… 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Chivadoski(m): 2:29am On Mar 30, 2023 |
You sent your mum to early grave knowing she's old just to please a woman, weakling of the highest order. You literally k1lled your mother, Murd£rer! Know what you what as a man and have a stand, There's no peace in this world, after murdering your mum is the peace no everlasting ? Now you need to accommodate her own mother.? After all these things wey my mama go through for me all I can say is may God punish any woman that want me to trade my mum for peace, Tuuueh. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by jimmychang: 2:37am On Mar 30, 2023 |
Neweramify: Women and always claiming to be victims.If her mom dies she will still blame the husband.Which kind gender be this ? I hope I enter this situation one day.If she move mad I move madder. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Mrbllymer: 3:00am On Mar 30, 2023 |
cococandy:It’s very hard understanding you, What brought about data analysis was based on “men providing financially for the household” , now you changed the conversation to “ men running away from caring for their aged parents” . Secondly, you talked about caring like it’s something outta this world, not all aged parents are ill or couldn’t do basic things like bathing, eating or those lil things. Even in cases where they are ill, and the man is always busy working or “providing” for the household and the wife isn’t interested he employs a Caregiver to take care of her, caregiver can be employed and monitored. The man allowing parents to stay, providing for their needs, employing maids or caregiver is part of caring for them, or you don’t know the definition of caring again ? why are you justifying the nonsense attitude of the wife? Op pointed out she was maltreating his mother when she came ? Do you pray your son’s wife to maltreat you in your old age ? I’m sure Bible and Quran pointed out how you should respect your parents or any one other than you if you wanna live long. I hope you would be proud telling your parents you supporting a lady maltreating her husband mother? 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Evii: 3:00am On Mar 30, 2023 |
Guy give her the same treatment she gave to your mum. For actually sending your mum away I think you need to apologize to her(she'll hear you from great beyond) 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by OlawaleBammie: 3:07am On Mar 30, 2023 |
McLizbae: Seriously I did not even contribute to the matter because I didn't read it, I just woke and I decided to give a lecture about life 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by davidadenrele: 3:16am On Mar 30, 2023 |
Brotherly, In as much to err is human and to forgive is divine I will advice that you should not accept your mother in law into your home, what goes around comes around, I said this because your late mum spirit will never let you rest, your wife should be taught a lesson, if you allow this to sly she will justify her reasons and that will make your more angry later without realizing the length and consequence of her actions, if I were in your shoes I will sit her down and let her know but it will never backed down on my decision even if the heaven falls. Some women don't learn this should serve as a hard lessons for her, tomorrow don't be surprised if another close family of hers falls sick she will still want you to consider them to come live in your house support her financially in taken care of her mum but never allow her mum to be in your house my 50 cent piece of advice to you. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Kobicove(m): 3:27am On Mar 30, 2023 |
Jamesbiodun: I agree with this! |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by frozen70(f): 3:29am On Mar 30, 2023 |
Fearcom: Marriage doesn't work that way Am sure you are not married |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by frozen70(f): 3:30am On Mar 30, 2023 |
akinbodma:That's it |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by frozen70(f): 3:32am On Mar 30, 2023 |
MediaBoyfriend: Your thinking is quite different, the Op already know what to do, he just wants to know if we will support his decision |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by frozen70(f): 3:34am On Mar 30, 2023 |
sandra50: You think it's automatic to send a woman with children out and back to her father's house Its something you have to apply wisdom with |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by BABANGBALI: 3:34am On Mar 30, 2023 |
It is payback time and you’ll be stupid not to pay her back. Even if you pretend to forgive her and allow her to bring her mom into your house, you’ll always feel bad towards your wife and her mother whenever you see her mother in your house and remember what your wife did to your mom. My candid advice to you is, don’t allow her to bring her mother to your house. What you sow is what you reap. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by frozen70(f): 3:35am On Mar 30, 2023 |
Rinoxy: Yes you are right But my submission of the react, is centered on the children who may witness nonsense from both parents when the drama starts |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by frozen70(f): 3:38am On Mar 30, 2023 |
Aklee4994: I know you have bastards as children , so rejoice because you will not experience anything |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by ycat: 3:40am On Mar 30, 2023 |
DO NOT allow your mother-law to come and stay with you. Let them handle it the same way you handled your mother when she needed your help, PERIOD! Let people know how it feels. I don't know if you wear the pant in your house, if you do, you must stand your ground no matter what. She will respect you more for it and how you feel will matter to her next time. ozalogbo: 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by frozen70(f): 3:40am On Mar 30, 2023 |
Livelystone01: For the mere fact that her husband will not contribute a penny for her medication is enough for his wife to deal with By then she will feel more emotional pains than what she did to her mother in law and it will be too late to apologize |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by frozen70(f): 3:41am On Mar 30, 2023 |
shantti: Dont be surprise if he let her in Is not weakness and it's only God that will reward him |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by udomma1005(m): 3:43am On Mar 30, 2023 |
frozen70:It's automatic! Move out and get along with a life without her and she knows, albeit within herself, that's she's as good as being in her father's house. Not much drama, move few things that are essential, keep the rest for the comfort of the kids, let the games begin. One does not need to cope with an entitled bit"h for a second. How come your mom should come stay when mine couldn't, plus my money oooo! Ogun go kee some f beings urgently. 😠 |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by frozen70(f): 3:47am On Mar 30, 2023 |
udomma1005: What if she has been the one financing the home front and was actually the one paying rent and you are just not contributing anything at home Will you still kick her out or rather move out of the home and go and start life afresh |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by ycat: 3:48am On Mar 30, 2023 |
And she will feel the rejection more and wonder what is wrong with her and that may send her into depression or worse when she finds out that his wife's mother is now living with them. I hate soft men! Since men are technically the bread winner and have more say in the household, his side of the family have more rights in the home. Exodus15v11: |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by saysoo: 3:51am On Mar 30, 2023 |
ozalogbo: I have no time to read what you wrote up there. Stop her if your wife stopped yours. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Joeyfizzo: 3:51am On Mar 30, 2023 |
MrBrownJay1:u are very right. Some men need to have firm grip on thier wives 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Joeyfizzo: 3:52am On Mar 30, 2023 |
Don't allow her. Pay someone to stay n take care of her . Sir pls don't let ur wife dictate for u in some issues...have firm grip |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by blakwater(m): 4:03am On Mar 30, 2023 |
wow so we still have Men that can chose to stay with a wife than their Mum, what a world we are remember that she can leave you too whenever u fall sick |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by cococandy(f): 4:06am On Mar 30, 2023 |
@bold and I responded that it’s not the reality for a majority of families. As far as real life is concerned women provide too. Your fake expertise in data analytics doesn’t change those facts . I don’t know what’s difficult for you to understand there. 2) we are talking about sick parents in this case aren’t we? You’re using men are providing as a justification as to why they can’t be the one’s actually caring for their sick parents. So proving my point that y’all will find a way to shift the responsibility to someone else. I don’t see how you’re agreeing with me yet arguing against my point. I know it’s more convenient for you to accuse me of justifying women being mean to their in-laws as you implied than to openly agree that when most men get married, they assume and take it for granted that their wives are going to be responsible for caring for the parents if necessary. Mrbllymer: 2 Likes |
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