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2buff: If I were a married man....I would have no business going to the club [b]every [/b]weekend.
It would not be wise. So I would expect a wise married woman to follow suit.
Your eyes could lock-on to something that really should never have concerned you.
It only takes one glance at a thick chick in skimpy clothes gyrating on the dance floor in real-time to make a man start questioning his devotion to his wife.

If you know yourself, you must guard your mind, your heart and more importantly, your eyes.

Temptation happens ANYWHERE. Clubs isn't the issue nor the problem...the lack of self discipline and control is the cultprit.

People need to own accountability for their action and know that if they truly want to remain faithful to their person it starts in the mind and heart.

It is that simple.

Serpentine: As a white British girl, I can say I dont love to date black guys. I love to date the black guy i am going to marry, but he is the only black guy I have dated. It is HIM i like, not black guys in general. To most people here nowadays, it isn't really a big deal what colour someone is when it comes to dating. At least that is what i see.

So you didn't fall for the "Big Kondo" hype?

MSONWORDI: Hello nairaland,

This is my first time posting. I would like to shared that I'm a African American who is very much in love with a Nigerian man. We met through a cousin online (I know, didn't started like a fairy-tale)but we talked on the phone and texts. Later on in the second year I really heard his voice, meaning I was getting to know him but I'm catious didn't want to be scam. Sometimes I be to myself wondering why in the world I feel like this about a man from Nigeria and thousand miles away from me. My future husband is a kind hearted man and he is very laid back. When I read on here that all nigerian men was rude, disrespectful, cheater, scammers, etc. I be like well he must be good I need to test him some more, naw, we pray together, and this year is the third year knowing him and I have been in contact with his sister, and two of his brothers on Facebook. I'm looking forward to meeting all of them in person in December. He wanted to get married this year but I believe it would have to wait til next year. I have to have my dream wedding. lol......I appreiciated some positive stories as well of the negative ones. You have to be careful in everything you do. Pray and ask for a sign and know that person is for you. I have learned that love could find you doesn't matter who, where, and how. Take care.

It is true that love will find you no matter where and who you are. You should have your dream wedding but why not meet each other families before start planning a wedding?

Are you planning on moving to Nigeria or is he planning on moving to America?

osram: marrying a foreigner dos nt mean dt a man is not traditional..it all depends on the individual..as for me marrying a foreigner is the best thing that would happen to me

You are right...just because a person isn't from your culture doesn't mean that it will not work out. It is about two people in the relationship and how they understand each other. If you guys are able to communicate effectively with each other and respect each other.....everything will fall in place.

Trust me that I know.

Dimples 316: Madam Chima Chima

So what are you saying now... you want to hook us up? Abeg no derail floran-bee's thread ooo.

I will see if he is available. I seen his older brother as well....hmmm.

seedord247: Did u say igbo man loook nice and cute?

Nne mbaa

Or are u talking about those ones with yam head and that horrible ascent.

FYI, yoruba guys are not poor, they are caring, romantic, educated, motivated and sexy.

Yes, I did say that the Igbo guy at my job is cute and well-dressed. He has a cute accent and very articulate.

You are right dimples....u cant help em though.

There is this Igbo man at my job...........he is cute and looks nice.

You wrote a dissertation and still missed my point.

Foreigners in Africa should learn the local language.....still dont have nothing to do with why Africans in their own country imitating other countries....not just America.

You say you dont have an issue with America.....sure.

Little lonely on this thread....dummber boy?

lefulefu: why e be say short and smallish men love to marry very tall and fat women?
ehen how dem take dey handle such female giants for bedroom?

Awwww. You found a giant snow ape huh?

seedord247: Not all. Only the golddiggers. Igbo men dont know what they call love and they have little knowledge of romance. . . mercy johnson.

LMAO@only poor Yoruba girls go to Igbo men.

So you are saying Yoruba men are broke as hell huh?

Fulaman198: I don't have issues with America, my issue is with Africans not being themselves. Also, I disagree, The youth are copying American customs by dressing like Americans and singing rap music in more urbanized areas. If you like I could type in my native tongue of Fulfulde, but then you would not understand would you?

One thing I do agree with is that we should not copy other countries (unless if that country has similar culture to us then fine ok). A lot of "Nigerian popular music" is so Americanized or Indianized (if that is even a word) that it isn't even funny.

You can type in your native tongue...it won't change anything I said. I see other influences in Africans that aren't Americanized and a hand full of Africans wearing Sean Johns and rapping California Love isn't a solid representation of "African Imitation Fad".

What is being "themselves"?


Some chatters need to stop contradicting themselves.

Fulaman198: Ok, I guess you are right, Soccer/Football w/e you want to call it is imitated. But it has been around A LOT LONGER than basketball has in Nigeria. Basketball is a recent phenomenon in Naija because of the influx of Nigerians who believe copying America instead of being themselves is the right thing to do.

But it is okay to copy other countries? If it isn't good for the goose then it shouldn't be good for the gander.

I know you have issues with America and that is on you...however I don't see much American influence in Africa as I do other countries' influences. Just because America has huge African immigrants doesn't mean AFricans are imitating American culture. From what I see on this side of the world that AFricans are maintaining their "culture" while in AFrica many are imitating other "cultures" of neighboring countries.

Africans speaking language of their explorers aren't of American culture but of their explorers' language. AFricans weren't speaking English, French, and Spanish before slavery.

The fact that you are writing in English....does that mean you have low self esteem?

Fulaman198: Also soccer/football is a world sport abi

There is no one country where it is not played excessively (except the Americas) save Mexico.

If we are going by your conclusion then any sports played by the world is a world sport. Don't pinpoint one thing and not pinpoint other things that are "imitated".

Fulaman198: You are one of them Onila with your talk of "swag" and "swagger". You also talk about Basketball, which Nigerian who is a true Nigerian even mentions basketball? Only Americanized Nigerians do

Then why did Nigeria formed a Nigerian basketball team for the Olympics?

Where did you think the origin of soccer come from? Soccer is like a drug sport in NIgeria.

We have pretty Liberians in our area and there are ugly in every creed.

seedord247: And igbo girls are running away from igbo boys.

And Yoruba girls are running to Igbo men.

lefulefu: sister den u never seen a big one yet .try an african handle and compare it with an oyibo one and u will see dat the difference is clear

Your kini is the same as the midget Oyinbo's kini. Small sha.

Dimples 316: I have dated Ibo men, I'll speak for myself by saying they are a special breed because

1. They are caring and attentive, they really do know how to treat a woman well, with respect and dignity. Especially if
you are decent and well put together.

2. They are very industrious and it is infectious, they can come up with brilliant ideas on how to make and earn a living legitimately. While encouraging & pushing you to strike out and be the best that you can be

3. Having seen first hand marriages involving an Ibo man I can say with all pleasure that they have a healthy respect
for the family institution and there's no dulling or slacking with them when it comes to handling their responsibilites and performing their duties as husbands/fathers.

4. They've definitely got skills in bed, bad skills especially them bald headed ones.

5. My most pleasant relationships have been with the Ibo guys.

I do not belong to any of the three major tribes of Nigeria i.e Ibo, Hausa & Yoruba. But having come across and interacted with men from all three tribes, I'll go for the Ibo man anytime, anyday they've got game.

You know you got haters fuming and Igbo men walking around with swollen heads!

LMAO@man mad over some stingy punny.

Those White folks don't give a Bleep about her flaming herself but what they were thinking like...what is wrong with this nigga?

[quote author=fresh_dude]Woke up this morning feeling extra love for my son. Thought I might share him with the world.

PS:Yall better give him tthe prize o.[/quote]Awwwww. He won a rattle.

Vikin: Baby on the way....don't close the contest yet cos am sure my unborn cute handsome baby will win.


Watch this space!

I thought you were impotent. Okay....I am watching the space!

Cuddlemii: Four? Wow thats a lot!
I love twin babies though

That damn Chima....you forgot to include the princesses as well. I tire ooo