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tellwisdom: Must u quote her again??

Kiss my WHOLE ARSE.

Without stepping on toes....what is the sole purpose of this thread?

This is a beautiful love song.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X0BWTjLC0X8&feature=share

[size=44pt]LMAO! Somebody is hurting, bitching, crying, and whining!!! [/size]

Good thing about online space....dumb arses will NEVER KNOW!

2buff: My sister, It is about [b]wisdom [/b]and not about trying to prove any "advancement of mind".
I am well in control of my facilities, but not everyone is. Even at that, I will not tempt myself unnecessarily if I don't have to.
Men and women see things much differently when it comes to attraction. It's different for a man, hence my advice to not make it a constant affair.

No married person should go and start trying to prove "advancement of mind" by hitting the club ever so frequently.
We have our ups and downs, our times of strength and our times of weaknesses. And if I know the devil, he prefers to strike during your time of weakness.
He too like Sun Tzu tinz.

Advancement of mind is wisdom. As I said...temptation is ANYWHERE....

Only childish adults go "proving" at the clubs.

Good thing about opinions...no one is not by force to follow them.

Jalla.....there is a jazz concert playing at this swanky club....wanna go?

pleep: smile smile smile bla bla bla. ur a joke

Just like the chick that birthed you.

Serpentine: nope, thats not what i look for in a man. I look for humour and kindness and intelligence, which shows way before size enters the equasion. Its no good settling for a man who is big if his whole attitude and behaviour offends my sensibilities.

Well..it obvious many Black men have different views of what White chicks see in them.

Pathetic if you ask me.

vivalableue: No one understands what I'm trying to say...Almightus to the Rock of AGES! what kind of sense would it make to say that I am bashing my own kind? Check out this thread, its old but there are a few like this one I see.

https://www.nairaland.com/18438/why-nigerian-men-attracted-carribbean

Not saying that the posters are horrible people, or that they don't have a point in certain regards, but in general stereotypes are being made. Straight up

I get your point and the original poster didn't intend for the post to be a bashing thread. She appeared to want to hear opinions of Carrib women dating African men.

Some people just felt the need to turn the thread into a battle thread....pathetic if you ask me.

suyu: I tire oo, I don't get it either. the OP is in the wrong forum

For a minute....I thought I was the only one who saw it. Whew. Thanks!

2buff: If I know there is a higher chance for it somewhere and I really don't need to be there, it just makes sense that I won't be there.
At least in the office and certain other common places women have something of a dress code.
In the club, combined with the darkness and near-anonimity, everything goes. One would almost go as far as saying that there is a spirit at work in those sorts of environments to make things go down much too easy.

Well my child...you have a long way to go in renewing your mind.

I can go to a club and do not even trip off what goes on there because I am that far advanced in my way of thinking. If you go looking and expecting trouble...you shall find it. It also could be the type of clubs I go to as well. I am a bit bougie in that area so it reflects in my taste.

It really start in the mind and the rest will follow.

[quote author=blogger1.0]I know it's not but am concerned about nairaland, and you should be too.[/quote]Nope. Nairaland is LEAST of my concerns nor worries.

I am here just for the laughs and tormenting my manbitches.

Ghanaian men are the sexiest men in the world!

I am mean to my manbitches.

This isn't a Nigerian thing....everyone is capable of being mean......get over it.

jobaskia: statistics have shown in US that the numbers of ibo men in prison keep increasing day in day out as result of Murdering their wives.
They tend to be aggressive and volatile. L

Your opinion is different from actual facts.....

There are White men in America that are in jail for the same crime and last time I have checked they aren't Igbos.

Any man with a pulse is capable of killing their spouse.....try again.

Fulaman198: Native Americans are not of European origin btw

Duh.

vivalableue: I think you are not understanding the point that I'm making, Caribbean women are NOT insulting themselves, and quite frankly we are too proud to ever talk down about ourselves in a non-caribbean forum. I'm saying that [/b]NIGERIAN[b] women are the ones who are saying that we're beneath them or just good for one thing...and I want to say that this way of going at each others throats is dead wrong!

Well...too bad that you thought I was going at your throat...I am only responding off what you wrote.

Good thing that you have cleared up your own writing.

If we are going to be technical...Native Americans didn't celebrate any holidays nor invented anything that people are using today.

After the land was stolen from Native Americans...people from the EAST brought their "cultures" and "traditions" to America so therefore it isn't an American thing but an "Immigrant" thing.

Catholicism brought on these pagan holidays and Catholicism started in the EAST...

Islam in America was brought over from the EAST...
Polygamy was brought over from the EAST....
Religion as a whole was brought over from the EAST....

Native Americans did NOT engage in those things....

vivalableue: @Mrs.Chima , my observation came from several threads where the impression I got was that the perception of non-Nigerian women were somewhat inferior and non-compatible to be romantically involved with Nigerian men. Now, I certainly did assume that most posters were Naija, but others identified themselves as carib-descent, or AA and white, etc. I'm just saying that the stereotype should be rethinked or erraticated.

I refuse to believe women that have identified themselves as Carrib insulted themselves that doesn't sound logical nor rational.

But whatever.

yorubaamerican: Terribly sorry, Mrs. Chima. The last part about black people in America isn't directed to you -- kinda new to nairaland!

Okay,

yorubaamerican: Well, you should be able to tell from my nairaland name! I consider my self a Yoruba American prince. My father's is Nigerian and my mother is American. I was born and raised in America, but I've spent the last 4 and half years in Nigeria - came in 2007 for the first time. I represent all my heritage, the Yoruba side and the African American side. I can actually say I understand the difference between nationality and ethnicity...Two different things! Black people in America do have culture, the fact that it goes against what you think is culture doesn't mean it doesn't exist or is bog-standard.

The only thing I could tell from your Nairaland name was the vowels and consonants. It is not safe to assume but smart to ask the question.

Thanks for answering my question nevertheless.

vivalableue: I've been looking online and found this site. At first I learned a lot from the different forums, but eventually found myself to be really disturbed by the amount of animosity between Nigerian Women and pretty much all foreign women, especially Jamaican and African American women. Now I'm not American, but I know that the women down there have a problem when their men date any other race but black. Is this the same thing?

A little about me, Half-Jamaican, Half-Indian all Canadian woman, intelligent, college educated, God-fearing, hard-working, family oriented person. But, according to some threads, if I were to date or marry a Nigerian man, he must be trying to get something out of me, or my father didn't love me enough for me to search for a man from my own country/culture.

I think that makes no sense whatsoever!!! We are all first of all BLACK WOMEN, meaning that we are the least respected group in the world, if not, one of the bottom 5 after Muslim Arab Males. (not to insult Muslim Arab Males) WE need to be encouraging each other to better ourselves, to help our families to succeed and not be considered a bane to world society in general.

Now, I'm not saying there aren't cultural differences between our African, American, or even Caribbean sisters, but I guarantee there are strong similarities in all. Yes, we need to protect and transmit our cultural traditions to our children lest they forget, but that doesn't mean that we cannot embrace another one too!

I personally find such a fondness towards Nigerian culture in general because it is so similar to mine. I'm Jamaican, which means I'm outspoken, family oriented( by the way, Jamaican families are fiercely loyal, very traditional and have extremely close bonds even with general relatives), and I love a great party. I'm Indian, which means that I possess a certain intelligence and logic, I am a humble, submissive wife in waiting (I kid you not!) and again I love love love a great party. Finally, I am Canadian, which means that I have the opportunities to meet different cultures(my closest friends are Russian, Jamaican/Portuguese/Jewish, Ethiopian, Sri Lankan and Italian), I value education (especially since its free) and we love a great party (on occasion).

All this to say Nigerian women, sometimes your male counterparts come to my country and meet girls like me, that doesn't mean that I opened up my legs to him, or that I don't nag him, or even that I'm a hopeless romantic. It means that he saw in me, the very thing he sees in his african queens, and maybe something more!

Viva

You do know this is a site that was designed by a Nigerian male for Nigerians and Friends right? So how did you concluded that the chatters on this site are mostly Jamo and Black American women bashing Carrib women?

There are a handful of non-Nigerian women on this site and none of them based Carrib women.

lefulefu: u can use my kini to gym .

Let me smash it with my pinky toe.

pleep: I don't even understand this post.

Why do you have to use so many emoticons btw? it comes across very immature.

Of course...you wouldn't understand dummber boy.

LMAO@using emoticons are immature. What a dumb arse.