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2buff: @all questioners of #2
I don't see how putting your integrity and virtue as a man before your relationship is a bad thing.
I think women just love hearing these fluttery pillow words and delude themselves into thinking that they are the most important thing in another persons life.

Because if you look at it truly, no matter how much you love a person and can Take a bullet for them, you shouldn't lie for them (or to them even if it's for they're own good) or steal for them (do with what we have and if we starve we starve, but I will not steal for you), or do something that goes against your ethics and principles just because you want to please them. I'm sorry, but that just makes you a damnable wuss.

For the Christians, Even God when he wanted to save this race did it in such a way that His original principles and standards still stand. They were not changed.

Look at it honestly, without the BS political correctness that is by default expected from everything these days (too much PC has succeeded in breeding a generation of pansies mind you)
The truth doesn't necessarily always have to "sound nice". It is helpful to hear things spelled out blankly. Call me "unromantic", but I wouldn't say something to a woman I don't mean, this goes for "I love you (unless I'm really sure to the point of considering wifing her or she's already my wife)" or the dreaded "I will do anything for you"....cuz I won't kill the president.

Saying all these things makes the worth of a man's words decrease each time as they become nothing more than cheap regularities.

I put this up here because of some of the nonsense I've been reading on here and yes, some people do need to be reminded of what it means to have a dik dangling between their legs.

It could be a pretty sight at times.

Cuddlemii:

Cuties!

bennyraz: Am i permitted to post my baby pictures In between Mrs.chima hw is carolina?

Depending on if you have cute baby pictures and who is Carolina?

[quote author=c.fours]c.fours:
I am laughing as I post because all my own yoruba male friends who are financially well off are very cosmopolitan and open minded to the extent that at least half of them are dating akata or oyinbo. Majority of them could care less about yoruba movies or stock fish so you really need to learn to let go of the stock fish and efo riro, my dear. Learn some American recipes, make some American friends, and stop limiting yourself.

But, if you're still hell bent on yoruba guys, and clearly the guys are not lining up at your door, my best advice to you is to make friends with their middle aged parents. If they get impressed with you enough, they will introduce you to their sons, nephews or friends. Most of them are trying all their best to convince their sons or relatives to marry nigerian anyway.

some people advice you to go to rccg or naija church and parties. Well, most of the yoruba guys you will find at these naija parties or churches are FOB/ local types. Ones who just came to the US 4-5yrs ago and are still struggling to establish themselves financially. They may even be looking for a desperate nigerian girl to mooch off. even if they are settled financially, chances are that they are also settled in the spouse dept. THere are a ton of women like you hunting for the same few men FYI.

At this point I will give credit to igbo women because they are the best at acculturating. I've met a good number of very successful oyibo/akata/non-nigerian men (college professor at an ivy league sch, lawyer, NGO executive etc) who upon meeting me have proudly told me that they have a nigerian wife. In 100% of these cases, the wife have always been igbo.( and no, it's not at all about beauty because i've met some of these women lol) It's also not rare obviously that you find some igbo women married to a Yoruba guy. These men will go on and on and seem to know all the igbo foods, igbo greetings etc under the sun. I guess it's really just an igbo trait to be sharp about matters like these.

If you're finding your standards impossible to meet,as your topic title implies, why not lower it? you are almost 30 already. It's only going to get harder....[/quote]People who want to be in a healthy relationship will marry/date someone that is compatible to them. I am not saying that they ust have the same income, culture, race, religion, and political views. I am saying that you will meet someone that is not what you expected but makes you happy and completes you. That's more important than having someone that must fulfill all requirements.

Although people make claims that there are more women than men which in most cases true...however there is plenty of men that are good and ready to love a woman but not given a chance because he doesn't look like a model or his left eye is lazy. The reason why people are lonely and sad is because they are expecting too much and looking for the wrong things.

It is okay to have your wants but what more important than needs? There are a lot of wants that I want in a man but when I wised up and focused on the needs....I met a man that encompasses everything and more. So what we doesn't share the same culture or traditions, but we compliments and completes each other. That's priceless.

I will say that age doesn't prevent people from finding love but ignorance does. If she was 45 years old and continues being ignorant she will still have the same issues as if she was 22 years old. My granny always said growing older doesn't make you wiser if you are still a fool. I am sure she will meet an Yoruba guy....but would he compliments and completes her? To be continued.....

One thing I want to share with the men....when women start making unrealistic list about what a man should have and etc....she is insecure and afraid. If she has been rejected a few times....it makes the phobia worse but it can be rectified if she is willing to let go and embrace the flow as it is.

I didn't limit myself what type of black man I would date/marry and i set very basic and simple expectations and increases my open mindedness. I am grateful that I did otherwise...I wouldn't be Mrs. Chima today.

I know I wrote a book but I just feel like my sisters are their worst enemies sometimes and the cycle has to stop.

[quote author=Find Out!]Lol. I get your point sha. Good Nigerian men are there. I pray you meet the right one.[/quote]Yes...there are.

Long One: Smh, so now, you need a manual to become a man.

You will be surprised how many boys need manual to become men. Some boys do not have the positive male role models to guide them into positive male hood.

However....i think being a good person and partner is basic enough to be a good man. Each relationship is different and both partners should be there for each other regardless if one lacks the character of a man or woman.

gbadexy: You can now understand why they have high case of murder. Instead of simply divorcing an incompatible spouse, they look for a way to zap her and keep their money.
Small wonder why the partner is always the first suspect in murder cases there.

Exactly. They say divorce rate is low because they value marriage what aboUT life?

It is interesting how dumb arse people reason...you would rather be a murder but not a divorce'?

Wtf.

Mrs.eve rocks!

Lmao at a nigga saying ask somebody how they get a Nigerian man like it is difficult.


Op......there are plenty of Nigerian men in NYC and start by going to African fests and events...you will meet up with some Nigerians...if all else fails..you can go Nigeria and get one that isnt insecure.
NJ

Lmao at broke arse niggas complaining about divorce laws in the west.

Sucks to be you huh?

[quote author=Mynd_44]Like half of nothing is still nothing right?[/quote]Precisely.

honeric01: If you were a man living in that part of the world, would you?

Yes...if she is the for me.

LesbianBoy: Thank God there is nothing like divorce settlement in nigeria! Phewwwww!!!!

Your broke arse dont to worry aboUT that.
Booyah!

I see why the foreigners dont want to marry western women.

[quote author=Mynd_44]Can someone please tell me Mrs Chima was drunk when she typed that[/quote]U knew u were blushing!

sexkillz:

Wetin na? speak ur mond!