₦airaland Forum

Araboy:
Mrs Chima my love
To be honest I like  black girls and  love their AZZ  

I know.     The Arab men in my region always compliment me when I come to their store. 

Answer me this, why do they always asking me would I accept their proposal and dowry?  What does that mean? 

Are we conducting business?

Araboy:
^^^^
I love black girls and will prefer them over any race any day

You love the ARSE or you like Black Girls GENERALLY? Tell the truth.

I like that. I agree.

smootheb:
So I'm an AA female who is dating a Naija guy and we've had a mostly smooth, fun relationship. I like him and want it to work but at the same time have many question marks about his true intentions towards me. His career keeps him quite busy and he is super hard-working but he always makes time for me. He's only been here a few years and claims that he has his green card.

I have some reasons to think it wouldn't be out of this world to find out that he does have a girlfriend or wife back home or is hiding something else from me because he does travel back home 3-4 times per year, and I know he was in a relationship with someone last year. He tells me his trips home are for business. I already told him that if things get really serious I would not accept him traveling back home that frequently - without me - so that he needs to bear that in mind if he wants be with me.

He has no problems bringing me around his friends, and I've met a few family members so far who were cordial/polite towards me. He has family members that will be visiting in a few months and he says that he's told them about me and wants me to meet them. When I ask him if he really is hiding something from me in terms of having a girl back home, he gets a bit upset and keeps inviting me to come visit and see for myself what he does when he goes home. I don't feel comfortable yet to just hop on a plane and visit by myself.

Does meeting the whole family give me any reason to feel more secure about his intentions? When a guy is after a green card or something is it common for the whole family to be in on it - does it matter if they are devout Christians? Do you think he would offer up to bring me back home if he had anything to hide now?

I really hate stereotypes but you hear lots of horror stories. What are the best ways to find out if he is being truthful?

Suga, you should have listened to Koyoke when he first warned you. He is a NL veteran and he knows the audience well.

He is right. You will not get the answers you are looking for ON THIS SITE. Visit the country FIRST and see what it about then draw your own conclusions base on your OWN FINDINGS.

Life is the best tutor.

[size=66pt]Peace! Wouldn't wanna be ya! [/size]

debosky:
If you didn't conduct the ceremony, I'll go by the man's words that he's not legally married.

Posting in capitals doesn't really change the fact that you're blowing smoke from your behind and nothing more.

Do you know how many people claim to be 'married' but have never actually formalised it? Do you know how many women have fallen for that trick? Again, his words were that the marriage is not legal - that is the key. Unless that can be disproved, that holds more cred than Mama Chima's rantings.

Unless you were the first woman your bf/partner slept with, you're also technically sloppy seconds, if not sloppy 20th for that matter.  #justsaying  

The veracity of the marriage claim must be established - anything else is hearsay. He won't be the first to impregnate a woman and be coerced into 'taking responsibility'. That doesn't mean he's shady - he's just made bad decisions in the past.

You still ain't said shit. The guy is MARRIED and she is SLOPPY SECOND.

jay bee:
^^^^
Traditional weddings aren't legally binded so technically he isn't married

That's bullshit. Basically you are saying all the children who are born of traditional married parents are BORN out of wedlock therefore are bastardized children. That's some bullshit.

Basically saying traditionally married people are fornicators since they aren't legally married. That's bullshit again.

LMAO@I had to married her because the father said so and because she was pregnant.   

I feel sorry for that baby. 

As the world turns.

I don't care what YOU WON'T take. The man is MARRIED.

Why would he states he MARRIED A WOMAN FROM HIS VILLAGE if he felt he wasn't married?

That doesn't make any sense. That's like Sir Eric John saying he is only gay when he has an erection. WTF.

Like I said, if THE CHICK wants to be sloppy second THAT'S on her.

LisaMarie, remember what I told you. Take heed and GOOD LOOKING OUT.

No, I wasn't at the wedding but I AM bleeping sure THEY DIDN'T SAY by the power invested from SATAN I pronounced you HUSBAND AND WIFE.   

I used MOST HIGH because different RELIGIONS have different NAME FOR THEIR DEITIES.

Next question.

Regardless if they wasn't married IN FRONT OF MOST HIGH or behind MOST HIGH the guy is MARRIED.  Simple and FACT. 

Just like you saying that YOU could have 20 wives because you called 20 women wives that still doesn't mean if BOTH OF THEM GET MARRIED IN COURT that they are legally married.

You see how that sound stupid? My point exactly.

Only different between a court wedding and a village or traditional wedding is that COURT WEDDINGS provides CONTRACT.

If women can be BIsexual so can men.

Hmm.

Let just say when we finish playing our weekend long Scrabble that you will follow me home barefooted.

You wish.

Red pumps or leopard print pumps?

3 days or 1 night?

Old white women wants dick too. They are taking whatever wants them.

jay bee:
I have 20 days A/L to take before the financial year ends so it's all cooooooliooooooo

You pick the place and time or we could play Scrabble in your backyard.  

Good thing UK is part of the Visa Waiver Program.  I wouldn't need to book hotels and get a letter of host which would delay our playing Scrabble.

jay bee:
Always on ma minddddddddddddd

Aww. You know I have a blank airline ticket that I can use now. What do you say we go somewhere exclusive just YOU AND I?

LisaMarie

I applaud you for standing up for your friend and YOU ARE INDEED A GOOD FRIEND which is RARE these days.

Continue being there for her because she will need it in a few years. Never utter the word I told you so because it will push her further away from you.

Keep doing what you doing and encourage her to put SELF first before anybody else.

MRbrownJAY:
@all
there is nothing wrong with what the poster is doing because we all have met someone who was too blinded by love (or good dikcing) to see and use their brain wisely.
only a true friend can come and knock her at the back of the head and wake her up for her dream/nightmare.

some people are willing to do crazy insane shiit for love and it is our duties as friends to help them to reason and act right.

if that man is only out for green card when this girl is out for LOVE then, obviously, her friend is right to be worried because this man will surely dump her when he get his papers.

In this case it was good fucking. When SOME (let me make sure I put some before somebody feelings get hurt) women get some dick after being alone or without THEY LOSES their mind. There is no way in hell a person who has SELF RESPECT and INTEGRITY will so much CONTINUE being with a man that is married REGARDLESS IF IT OUT OF COURT or in court.

Well MBJ. We can't save everybody huh?

jay bee:
Detective Q flapping her wings

You smelt my pheromones huh? Irresistible mucha.

andromida:
Clearly the man is has not told her everything but the Nigerian man is not scamming your friend she is a willing accomplice. You write smart, if she is your friend she is probably smart too. She has seen all these but still wants to go ahead its obvious she does not want the truth or maybe she knows but does not mind. My only problem with her is this- if things go awry btwn them she will be telling the whole wide world how terrible Nigerian brothers are when she herself is a husband snatcher. Is she a born again like you? does she know what is wrong is wrong and what is right is right if so she should leave another woman's husband alone since she now knows the truth.

I agree. On my other post I stated if she wants to be the sloppy second it on her. You are right this is not a scam-like situation because she KNOWS about it and still wants to be with ANOTHER woman's husband. SMH.

debosky:

That's what Seun has for the men's private parts. I can't stand him sometimes!

By the way, if I thought ALL Nigerians or Nigerian Americans were into scamming and they are not good people why would I get involve or befriend anyone that is Nigerian?

Doesn't make sense huh? Exactly.

MRbrownJAY:
the difference is that EVERYBODY in the equation is aware of whats going on. the US guys that goes to Russia etc to marry these girls DONT lie about what they are looking for. they go to these places and lay it all on the table: "i got money, i will marry you, take you back with me to my country and we will be a couple." FAIR ENOUGH!!!

on the other hand, this brotha is not being honest about his intentions. he is already married AND if its the green card he is after, then he should say it straight up to this damsel so that she can decide if YES or NO she wants to be part of this charade.

even a blind man can see the difference!!!

should honesty be thrown out of the window?! people who want to marry one another should be fully honest about their intentions, if they arent then that is NOT a marriage but a SCAM!!!!

Thank you very much MBJ.  Yo KoolKamzzy!  MBJ is Nigerian.     What's that?  I can't hear you?   Thought so.  

koolkamzzy:
Very typical of you, always seeing every Nigerian guy trying to date an American babe as scam and yet you are engage or married to one. Smh @ bad belle.

That's what YOU THINK and that on YOU BOO BOO.

UNTIL you see me TYPE THAT EVERY Nigerian guy are dating or marrying Americans for scamming purpose DON'T PUT words ON MY FINGERS. IF I THINK that EVERY Nigerians are into scamming I will SAY IT with no hestitation. TRUST ME. It is obvious you do not read EVERY comments I posted on this site. Typical.

Even YOUR OWN PEOPLE saying GREEN CARD LOVE and you riding on MY DICK. Guilty huh?

[quote author=Mrs. Eve link=topic=448458.msg7225537#msg7225537 date=1290826806]You gon mess around and wake up with a lil friend visiting the brown canal,[/quote]

Hmm.