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[quote author=Inked_Nerd link=topic=653125.msg8214711#msg8214711 date=1303914586]
Lemme stick my tongue out all I want.

When I said he's selfish I don't mean it in the sense of him only wanting things for himself--I mean he's only thinking of himself when he gives me reasons for his actions, almost like its ok or like he wants to say to me that I'm a bad person for not seeing things his way. He's been hurt before and doesn't trust women besides his mother and grandmother. I'm just done with it all. Even when I try to talk to him about it he gives me this look like I'm speaking like a madwoman. [/quote]Oh, I knew what you meant and that is sad. Well, there are better fishes in the sea and they will love you sticking your tongue out all the time.

When they are in denial everybody is at fault but them. You got that man sprung! You used whipped cream this time?

Outstrip:
Is this unique to Nigerian girls though? Can you guys just leave nigerian girls alone. Most girls will not pig out when they are out on a date. Especially first dates.

Maybe that all he is interested in are Nigerian girls. So he is speaking for the ones he have dated or conversed with.

I do agree that Nigerian women aren't the only ones. Sheltered women in particularly are taught to be timid when it comes to eating on any dates because it is viewed as barbaric when a woman eating like a man.

rokiatu:
Start by learning to stop being a whiny girl who compares herself to her friends.

One thing I hate is comparing myself to other people. Why compare when we are all different and unique?

For Christ sake, your self worth shouldn't be in the hands of people.

Just because guys pay more attention to your friends, you automatically assumed they are all prettier than you?
Somebody shot me please! It really does seem ridiculous to take an opinion as the expression of a truth about you.
I don't understand why the words and actions of guys suddenly have the authority to define who you are    
Women (and indeed people) come in all shapes and sizes and attraction remains relative and subjective.
Some men like big backside, some don't. Not every men like big bosoms either.


Here's the thing, you will always be you, doesn't matter whether a zillion guys compliments or criticize you. Nothing will add or subtract from your look.
You get to decide your self image. Not other people. The clue is in the word "SELF image". It belongs to you.

Hey wifey!  

I have noticed that MOST women live on the compliments and validation from men.  They have allowed men to control their true essence of being a woman.  I knew a woman who committed suicide because a guy she was interested in told her she need to fix her teeth because two of her teeth were jagged.  Accordingly to her the guy told her she looked like Peter the rabbit and he is not into bestiality.  

She is now six feet under because some worthless man told her she is not worthy.  

Without realizing the lack of self worth will continue in every relationships she enter because she will think other women are beautiful and her man going to leave her for them.

Pweety4me:
[color=#550077]Maybe looking @ your face makes her lose her appetite?[/color]

Wow. I was thinking the same thing but I was accused of being too brutally honest. Thanks for saying it!

[quote author=Inked_Nerd link=topic=653125.msg8214605#msg8214605 date=1303913876]
In my dude's case, I think its jealousy and a bit of selfishness. I know I'm not the jealous type so I try to empathize but it just too much. Its jealousy and selfishness, plain and simple [/quote]What are you sticking your tongue out for? You trying to catch a fly?

That is a deadly combination if he is selfish as well. As long as their are a balance then it could be romantic but if you feeling like you are in the movie Eagle Eye then he needs to check that before he finds you in Greece.

LMAO@boys still lying about their virginity.

[quote author=Inked_Nerd link=topic=653125.msg8214368#msg8214368 date=1303911826]
I know its easier said than done but please do try and control it. Its a very suffocating feeling to be with someone who is constantly jealous. I'm kind in that situation right now. There's a guy I'm involved with who is suffocating me with his jealous ways. Its gotten to the point where I can't even check my Facebook page. He calls too much, he texts too much, he questions me too much, he holds me too much--it just horrible. Just thinking about him makes me hot and its not in a good way. Its a very uncomfortable feeling and when I talk to him about it, he tells me it because he cares. I really do know that he cares but at what cost? I've started pulling away from him gradually because I just can't take it anymore. Please, if you don't want to run her off [whoever this person is], please try an lay off on the jealous feelings. Explain to her where your jealousy stems from but don't try to justify your actions in your explanation. [/quote]I can understand exactly what you are saying. Some people say it is insecurity and some say because he loves you. Which of these two are the truth?

Insecurity is in the same umbrella as self esteem issues. Age has nothing to do with insecurity nor self esteem issues. There are women who are in their late 20's, 30's, 40's, and older dealing with the same thing.

She will need to realize that she has an issue first before anything can be done and therapy can help her tremendously.


OP, I seriously hope that you take what I said about beautiful women dealing with the same thing you are dealing with, self esteem issues. It does not discriminate nor have favorites.

Giving "You are beautiful" advices and prep talk to someone who has self esteem issues is like trying to tell a crackhead that the crack is not good for them.  It doesn't work and she will need to speak with a professional therapist who can help her realize the core of her issues.  I am sure it is not just the self esteem in itself and there are something deeper than that. 

You can't just give a person who is deeply rooted in pain a band aid prep talk and think everything will work.  Let be realistic people.  You have to first realize you have an issue until you do the cycle of self decimation will continue.

Pray you will realize that soon and seek help for those deeply rooted issues.  You can do it. 

There are women who are coined beautiful by the self appointed beauty judges dealing with the same thing that you are dealing with.  They have self esteem issues because of something deeply rooted in them.  People are constantly telling them "Oh, you are so beautiful", "I wish to look like you one day", and "You are so lucky" not knowing that the very persons they are idolizing having a nervous breakdown.  So do not assumed that "beautiful" women are in the prime of their lives because MANY of them are not. 

I know several "beautiful" women who are doing anything and everything they can to get a man or keep a man even if he is no good to them.  That to me is a woman who is suffering from self esteem issues and few other issues. 

There are SOMEBODY for everybody even if you do not think you are beautiful the person for YOU will think the world of you.  TRUST ME.   Happy thoughts.   

roymary:
This is outrageous. Lucinda is WICKED!!!

Mrs Chima is forced to suck cock every night but she never bit it off even when he didn't take no bath in 3 days.

Tell them the truth.  Tell them how you begs every night for me to lift that worm you call a manliness and give you a hand job with two of my pinky toes.  By the way, you left shitty your shitty pant behind. I have always known you was a little sugary and in the closet.

Po' Nigeria.

MRbrownJAY:
If they order everything on the menu, we complain. . . . . -f they don't eat anything, its still wahala.
Bro, why are you so concerned?!
- Is it by force to eat?
- What if she just had dinner and just want to keep you company at that food joint?
- What if she has stomach ache?
- What if she was hoping you take her to a BETTER restaurant?
- What if she is not eating because she doesn't want you to use that as leverage for sex? Lol

As you can see, it could be anything rather than the silly excuses you had on your post.

Oooh Lawd! You just restored the men. You are indeed their hero.


The way you MOST of you men parading around shouting with picket signs "Fatties are not allowed" and then you got a joker creating a thread complaining about a chick who is trying to NOT be a fattie. I mean what the wahala seriously?

I don tire for you mofos. I am so fucking glad NO ONE complaining about a chick with two teeth left in her mouth and wonder how she is chewing her food.

[quote author=Lord_Reed link=topic=330479.msg8210647#msg8210647 date=1303862175]Didn't know you had a lil poodle. [/quote]You know you are itching to see it!

iice:
[color=#9900ff]OP has self worth/beauty issues. All her topics are about that.


And personally i would and do hangout with gorgeous people (subjective). . .saves me time of talking to people i have no energy to talk to.[/color]

Yes! I thought I was the only that have noticed because it seem though OP has been rejected multiple times and have been told not beautiful at all. That gotta sucks for those who have low self esteem initially and then someone confirmed it which is a double whammy.

Should we tell them Jaybee?

He had a premature expulsion. Girl, I swear NL is funny with these word filters!

He already tried to.

(flashes a nipple shot at Jaybee and grins walking away)

(kicks sand castle and walks away)

I see preschool is in recess.

During her menstrual cycles.

The best time to walk up to a lady is when she is menstruating.

[quote author=Lord_Reed link=topic=330479.msg8208710#msg8208710 date=1303840964]

Follow follow[/quote]Bite me.

[quote author=D-sense link=topic=654246.msg8208657#msg8208657 date=1303840487]Yours girls or our girls [/quote]

Many of us will be relieved if YOU didn't make ANY.