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[quote author=Shy-One link=topic=599737.msg7681064#msg7681064 date=1297058217]@ JayBee

i know - i'm thinking on that, very, very much

i don't like watered down men - so his strong African mentality - i am very much enjoying that about him

if you meet someone that is the cat's meow for you - tell me that you will adapt some of your ways for that person - won't you?

that isn't desperation - it's cooperation

that is all that i have adapted - because in all other ways - we are very, very similar.

i have changed so much more than that for men in the U.S. and they were unworthy of me - because i am very worthy - this man is very worthy of me and i of him - regardless of the distance between us

when i see a jewel - i deep sea dive - the water is warm and i love it[/quote]Jaybee has a point ALTHOUGH he make me wanna pee on him sometimes.  (looking at Jaybee with funny face)  You are changing for a guy that is  THOUSAND miles away and you guys haven't even met in the same place.  

It is so pleasant and easy when you guys aren't in the same household.  The fact that he is a traditional African men which is not what you are used to in America will pose multiple challenges for you.  He is already telling you that he is not changing his religion FOR YOU and you succumbed in the fear that he may leave you.  

Cooperation and desperation are two different thing.  Cooperation occurs when you are following a rule or an order.  Did you do some research about his belief and what they expect of women in that religion?  You shouldn't just be happy to cross over without knowing what you are getting into BEFOREHAND.  

Each religion have different rites and practices.  It is good to attend their new believer classes and talk to some of the women in that religious group.  You will be surprise how things aren't as black and white as it seem.  

He will impose more things on you that you may not be willing to accept.  Jaybee is an African man and he knows.  He is warning you.

REALITY101:
For Dwyane Wade's sake No ,maybe because Lebron James suck  ,

@op lol I ain't tryna turn your thread to ESPN SPORTS CENTER  

Don't make me diss your PUNK ARSE KOBE BRYANT molesting arse! Lebron James just got some things going on with his life. But, he is a good ball player.

Okay back to topic,

You sucks Op!

Like I said I don't want you.

You are so nassy. (laughing)

In order to change a diaper I would either need a baby or your old arse grandpapi.

You got issues with Miami Heat?

Smh.

You are so harsh Jaybee. You didn't have to say that! (You are right baby, but you didn't have to say it like that!)

No suga for you!

REALITY101:
lol, Good they won, maybe he would have been crying like a baby they deprived some candy. No I didn't see the news. Hey keep KOBE outta it, LAKERS Rock u know

Whatever! Miami Heat rocks!

Nukka, I don't want you.

Damn!  I have to say this out in the opening!  Damn you!  If the men say something to me I will deny it! 

As much it pains me to say this, but I have to say this.  Sighs.  (clearing throat hard)  SOME Nigerian men are affectionate and open with it.  It has nothing to do with the fact that they are Nigerians.  They are no different than Black men in USA or UK. 

There are black men in USA that won't express openly about their affections toward you.  As I stated as long as you look out for Shyone, you will be okay. 

Always remember that you have needs as well.  If you are going to follow his beliefs then you need to read up on their rites and beliefs. The religion is different than most Christian organized religion. Research and understand what is expected of you as a wife in that religion. It is very daunting but if you comfortable with it be prosperous.

You want a shitty cone? You riding on my nyansh a little too close.

We were just gossiping about the mother that killed her two teenagers.  DId you hear about it? It is on national new stations.  Crazy huh?

Your brother betted some money and he happy as Kobe banging a white chick in the parking lot!

No.

I am not talking about religion.  I am talking about changing PERIOD because you fear you may lose the man.  What is yours is yours. 

You know I keep it real and I do not sugar coat anything.  We, women have it bad when it come to catering to men.  There is nothing wrong with being who you are and still have the man.  If you have to change too much of yourself then it becomes the matter of what if and why. 

You have shared on this site that you have catered to men in the past and you are fed up with losing yourself to maintain a relationship.

As long as you remember to look out for Shyone then you will be okay.  Good luck.

I saw bit and pieces.  I was busy gossiping with the wives while the husbands were hollering at the tv. 

Who did you rooted for?

What is his religion if you don't mind me asking? 

That is the biggest mistake ANYONE forget the gender specification can make. NEVER CHANGE WHO YOU ARE FOR A PERSON even if he or she is your soulmate. Remember, your soulmate compliments you. If you have to change your belief specifically because you are afraid to lose him or her. You will be sorely mistaken.

The first thing people need to find out if BOTH ARE COMPATIBLE in all aspect. I am not talking about being exact. You will eventually resent your partner and that will mess up your marriage or relationship.

Anyway, GOOD LUCK.

You wish.  For men supposedly be THE BEST COOKS always waiting on a woman to cook for them. Tell that bullshit to the dogs.

Unfortunately.

No. I am the BOSS of the Whoop a man's arse Inc. Why?

Yes! You are so adamant about Eve's personal life. I am asking since you are so sure.

I am married and I don't do random bleeps.  I don't indulge in incestuous activities.

Thanks! You need help going to the morgue?

[quote author=Mr, Cork link=topic=600044.msg7680281#msg7680281 date=1297038791]ok. Give me punnnny and i will stop! deal or no deal? [/quote]i will give you the punny once I see your autospy report and remains in a mason jar.