Pastorsmile:
Some men are very stupid

You must be a wretched , poor, toxic fellow, probably never even had a successful relationship before, if you ever saw me face to face , you’d definitely be asking for alms.

This post was made to get valid opinions , not Shitty comments bro .

I think poverty has made a lot of men toxic and self indulgent.

I had to look at your profile and the only thread you created to come to this conclusion.

Yes stupid things can happen but use your head before you miss out on life behind a keypad

Accepting/owning up my mistakes , apologizing , Good sex and superb head game , and a little bribe did the magic finally.

She’s retracted her words, saying it was how angry she felt.

Im learning this marriage thing daily , and like most person who obviously isn’t married and was saying leave her, women are this.

I know marriage takes effort, and for someone who’s in the wrong, it takes more effort , when something is bad you don’t toss it away , you try to fix it.
Marriage is the first institution God established, and after he gave a man work , he gave him a woman to care for .
When you understand , just like I do , you would understand just like my in law rightly said, Marriage is like a pyramid built by two persons from extreme ends , if you continue at it , and push , one day you will get to the apex …

A huge part of me feels glad that I let ego off the picture , and shared this out, cos I was close to telling myself since we just returned to Nigeria a couple of day ago because of the issue, that I will just book my flight and head back to Dubai since she doesn’t want to was almost swearing to make my life miserable, I guess that how angry she felt . But right now , this woman right here won’t even prick me a needle.

Enny2013:
Just lyk me,i hardly forgive.u won't even know u hv offended me.

But,u can always work tins out.

Yes , I can relate. She’s still mad at me but not like it was when I created this thread . She still mention she’s mad at me but we are talking happily and better like nothing happened.

Estherqueen50:
Good morning.
If I understood by your words, she once loved you.
If she once loved you she can still be won over( since we are talking about marriage here)
You only need to start doing those things you did before to woo or that won her heart.

Be humble enough to ask her for forgiveness, If she doesn't respond, involve her mentors or those she holds in high regard.

And the last but not the least, seek God and pray to him concerning your marriage " the heart of the king is in the hand of God"

And when she forgives you, be delibrate about working on your relationship. And do not dishonor ya marriage anymore.

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Nazgul:
If you want to win her back, take her out, say like to a beach, an eatry... somewhere porsh. Ask her to order whatever she wants, don't quarrel with her, don't argue with her, just stare into her eyes whilst holding her hands smiling and tell her that you never knew how beautiful she was, then apologize for whatever wrong you might have done to her and reaffirm your love for her.

Use the remaining time gisting and talking, after you're done, take her shopping, buy some clothes and other stuffs for her, come home, prepare a nice dinner and end the day with a wonderful sex.

Believe me, she'll wake up the following day a changed person and you'll have your wife back.

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Chief....
You messed up big time by cheating on your wife, but I'm guessing you know that already, cause from your post, I can assume that you love your wife, you're ready to own up to your mistakes and make things work, that, I must say is commendable....

If I were in your shoes...
I would go her room and I'll tell my wife "I know that I have messed up big time and I'm really sorry, I can't change what has happened in times past, but I'm willing to be better, I'm willing to put in the effort to make us work, all I ask is for an opportunity to do so, if you feel the same way, I promise XYZ, but if you don't, then maybe we shouldn't be together anymore, lemme know your decision by tomorrow"...

If you think kneeling down will help, please do ... But after that walk away...

Her response will prompt your next step...
If she agrees, then be sure to keep your promises, but if she doesn't, please walk away before she cuts off your d.i.ck in your sleep ...[/quote]



So yesterday I decided to pick out the gems from the trash from all the advice and trash talks.
I had to Admit my wrong because when you’re married and know you have a good woman, it’s a huge loss to bear knowing that how hard it is In this instagram generation.

So yesterday after going out with her elder sister and chilling I got home and just like Favfables, Estherqueen suggested, I made a move on her and just like the first night we spent , I had to eat her up, and it felt wonderful cos I gave my A1 , knowing she loved every bit of my magic and wasn’t receptive in any way.
This morning, I knelt and started begging , I literally allowed her expressed her feelings and she poured how pained she felt knowing the sacrifices she’s made for me and even recounted how she’s been hit on but she would shun away anything that would even hurt me because she consider how I would feel over any action of hers, I understood her pains because I know how I’ve hurt her.
For those asking what I did, well I cheated , not that I had sexual relationship with anyone , but I’m a club owner in Dubai and as such sometimes it hard to keep some females away from texting explicitly in a bid to get your attention and she saw some raunchy text on my phone with a female and it’s something she’ has complained about before even before we got married. On top of that I let’s a friend who’s extremely romantically interested in me and would do anything to be sexually involved with me, visit our apartment while she was at work and she felt really disappointed especially as prior the visit , we exchanged text where I mentioned I would have eat her up if she dared visit me, although I didn’t cross that line and she saw where the said girl mentioned that she surprised how much I still stay to my wife despite how much funny I can get via text with others and don’t want any sexual relationship with anyone aside my wife.

The text and previous differences made her want to leave, since she claimed that if I could let her in when she’s at work , I can as well sleep with her and not disclose it.

Cut long story short, I did the magic last night, this morning, after apologies, she mentioned she’s unhappy but didn’t want to leave, but still willing to work things out.

If we both maintain open access to each other phones.
That I don’t ever cheat or even come close to it .
That I reduce my attention and time spent in the club.

tayo60:
U know the woman you married already, why did you hurt her? Keep on asking for her forgiveness until she forgives you. And if she still insist on making your life a living hell, after several appeal, give her space for some times.

She mentioned point blank that there’s no forgiving from her.

tayo60:
U know the woman you married already, why did you hurt her? Keep on asking for her forgiveness until she forgives you. And if she still insist on making your life a living hell, after several appeal, give her space for some times.

This is what I Intend doing but with the constant , I will make miserable , I will show you pepper . This statement are building my fear.
Cos she even mentioned of never being exclusive again to me.
A part of me is wondering , are this statement born from anger , or things she means.
I want to work things out but for working things when the other isn’t interested anymore.

Abeg married people : do marriages come back from disasters and get better.

holuwajobar:
What is there to win back She has sworn to make you suffer.... You should be after your peace of mind , i think

I want to be, but at the same time I want to try to make things right since I was more at fault , but the unforgiving nature of my spouse and the threats of making my life miserable if we continue the marriage are giving me the shaky feet I have about trying to move forward.
I’m not an advocate of divorce but contemplating it.

That’s why I asked the 3 question above, hoping I can pick a thing or two from other married couples because most adult we’ve talked to mentioned the first year is hard but you get through it , even her parent without knowing the severity of our situation but when we are alone , she reminds me of how she will make my life miserable and I see pepper , even swearing on our unborn child.

Cutehector:
I guess you cheated.


If a wife tells you she cannot forgive you then there is no basis of getting married.

But that is no excuse for cheating though. I rather not marry someone than marry and live like strangers in the house or get separated.


Nope nope nope. You will not make my years on earth miserable.

Yes , I did .

I let someone who’s romantically attached to me into our home , although I held back before anything could happen and asked her to leave.

But she found text where we exchanged explicit text and I even said I’d eat her up.
Although I haven’t had any sexual relationship with anyone since our marriage, but on two occasions I’ve been very explicit in text with other and she found out, she forgave the first but swore never to forgive this one because I let the individual into our home.
There’s a lot of details but I chose to take the blame because I believe a major factor of how a home turns out depends on the man.

But I’ve also been hurt by her.
But I’m comparison, I’ve hurt her the more.

God1000:
then continue to be hopeful, you know her more than me.

Your happiness lies in your hands

The truth is , I’m confused as hell and willing to do anything to save my marriage even though I made a lot of mistakes owing from Inexperience in marriage and youthful exuberance.

The only fear I have is the things she has said, like I will see pepper, she will show me pepper in life due to I hurt her.

A part of me is scared about this statement especially knowing Edo women and as someone scared of women.
But every older person who’s been married I’ve talked to has the view that marriage required a lot that we can work things out.

So the reason I opened this thread because , do I proceed or jejely waka, especially knowing everyone has a limit.

God1000:
No, there's no need enduring such unpleasant marriage

She’s carrying my child at this point and really , even though I feel like I can still find light at the end of the tunnel , why do you have this view .

I’ve been married for some months, but it’s seem like my marriage is down the drain , I can’t go into details as I’m someone who doesn’t like to bring my problem public, but I really need help at this point and a second opinion, especially knowing that a major factor of this problem was my reaction and actions during this first year of my marriage.
There was a lot of relearning and unlearning I realized after marriage I needed to do. But the strain and mistrust I created, has on the part of my wife made her feel like our marriage should end, as we’re sort of in a damage control zone.
A lot of things has gone wrong, but at this point I’m willing to put effort and work out my marriage,
But I have a question:

Is it possible to still win back a woman who has sworn to destroy your life because you hurt her?
Is it possible to work out a marriage when the other pattern sees you as a devil and would rather not be involved in working things out?
Is it possible to win back an urhobo woman who once loved you cos I keep hearing this saying that if an urhobo woman loves you , she does with her mind and when she hate you , it’s also with her heart.

highbee02:



c ur lyf...... "UPPER 2ND CLASS"

Never mind the idiot,

nigeriancritic1:

UPPER 2ND CLASS BIOCHEMISTRY, 2006

nigeriancritic1 i swear you didn't and never saw the four walls of a tertiary institution, Boichemistry shebi na em you study
Oya falling hand mode is here because that's my field too

You are an Alumni of..........
what's your current practice specialty

you finish with Upper 2nd class abi, the way you position the words don fall your hand, 2ND CLASS UPPER IDIOT

Now on a scale of 5.00 whats your cpga

Upload am make we see, i go show you my own


if you show face for univ, you for no open your useless mouth water down person degree, make i see how far you go reach for this life

Zuckerberg wey no get degree no better than your entire family generation.

AshawoGirl:


To those who believe and ask

with this reply i would soon ask based on believe after which you would change this argument.

AshawoGirl:


To those who believe and ask

Wait oh, are you in nigeria or ghana

AshawoGirl:


Am old enough for reality

I like that reply,, good sense of humor.
Well ,,,,,,I am Reality...

where did you keep your access card.

But wait eh, i would really love to know how you came to this conclusion you posted.

Did you check that of warri guys, Ijaw guys, enugu guys, what of ph guys or kalabari guys, ogoni too, okirika nkor, ajonja guys too, Kogi guys too, what of Tiv too.

If yes is your answer then we need to publish this your research work pending final experimentation.

AshawoGirl:


the people who brag more have d smallest

Interesting.....

I can't fit shout.....

Op btw how old are you and where's ya zone?

i would love to talk

MzUkay24:
I totally disagree with you OP, I'm from Anambra nd i don't pray like that, so please get ur fact right

I see another of my sister
but
He's just kidding with our core tongue and intonations

Igbo Kwenu
No tribe like us

Always representing, even the bible talk am.......

Berlynn:
you are wrong.... Go get ur fact right man

I smell our sister,,, igbo Kwenu

Our tongue sha

Who want lose sleep for naija

sarrki:
Please can everyone now see that baba is a patriot

Long live Mr president

Ling live federal republic of Nigeria

Baba with all my heart I cherish you

With all my heart I respect you

May your days be long Mr president

bro you nid to recieve sense ijn,, which kind stupid loyalist to a lost cause are you.

Btw how old are you again, and you no think say you dae among the leader of tom and how e wan dae feasible when you dae campaign for your clueless great grandfather

NgeneUkwenu:
Buhari wasn't president when factories in Ikeja began browning off and selling their facilities to churches.


He wan't here when 80% of SME died away and the rest went on life support.

Buhari wasn't president when landlords were being watched charging rent in US dollars and stores were selling in hard currency.


Buhari wasn't president when wheat farming collapsed and Cote d'Ivore overtook us in Cocoa production.

Buhari didn't destroy Iwopin paper mill or ALSCON in Ikot-Abasi, a single factory that at a point brought in 30% equivalent of what we got from oil.

Buhari didn't take us from net exporter of oil palm products to lazy importers of the same.


Buhari didn't make us importers of petrol and diesel nor is he responsible for killing of the textile industry.

He didn't destroy our forest resources or ran down power stations like Egbin until only three out of twelve turbines work.

People shout policy but there is no policy that can transform a 'post-war' economic environment with the snap of the finger and government should just tell the people that this thing is what it is.

Government also has to water down expectations on oil prices ever rising above 55 dollars because it is just not possible in the age of Shale and renewables.

This nation is cornered and it has no choice than to reform it's lifestyles and go back to work.

It has to reform it's justice system such that it can jail it's thieves and reward those who do things right. We are refusing to allow hardship nudge us in the right direction but prefer to explain our woes as a personal failure of Buhari to draft policy from sheer air.

They were trampling people to death on job queues before he came on board.

Where are your farms to save you from food importation or your refineries to save you from seeking dollars to import fuel?

Where are your schools to educate your children without sending them to foreign universities when you can afford it?

He isn't two years in control yet and I believe he deserves a little more understanding given the gradients of the point where he took over.


Buhari met all these things that way, plus a devastating war that devoured the nation from a region and we have the choice of working with him to restore and rebuild the country or allow ourselves to get us into false sentiments, take advantage of us to return us to the years of the locust.

yes we have heard you, but lemme ask, how old are you? Do you have any form of formal education? Finally Where do you see yourself in the next five years? And if where you want to be can be gotten to using a ship, can you trust buhari to sail you there?

My issue is that nigerians are so gullible, lazy and lack strategic leadership qualities.
The youth will believe that they are the leader of tomorow but knows nothing about goverance but knows all about snapchat, reality tv and poo
All i can stay is God help Nigerian because extinction looms for this country

DOUBLEWAHALA:
NOBODY CAN KISS FOR 2 HOURS

no talk, you never see something....