my dear

There is nothing on earth you can do to a cheating husband except pray for him. Im talking from experience. The best you can do for him is to totally ignore him and be praying that he doesnt bring hiv home for you. You must be praying for yourself too becos you dont know the kind of women he goes out there to meet so that they dont start hoping you will die so that they can enter. If you dont ignore him you will end up having hypertention and if you develop health challenge the man wont be there to take care of you so you must be strong for yourself and children. A man that sleeps around is nothing but a killer so dont allow him to kill you be prayerful and always tell God that he should allow what will make him to sit up happen to him until then no amount of talks, tears and quarrel will change him, ta ja ba fori komi a mo ona ile olowo e. Lastly, do everything and i said everything that will make you happy even if it means having a male friend but dont commit adultery! Did i hear you say he leaves on you? baby gilr how can you be so gualble? Dont you know that such men are not to be trusted and rely on? They are simply igi da eye fo. You'd better start saving all you can for the raining season for the sake of your children if you have any yet. Take care of yourself and kids they are your reward. Dont divorce him becos he can still change but you must be firm. A word is sufficent for the wise

I beg to differ, Segun Arinze is not ugly shikena!

@9star, I pray you dont have problems! If you have anytin bothering your mind
you wouldnt mind going to any length to get solutions.
Besides you dont know what talking or sharing your problem on a forum like this could do
People would look at your situations from different point of views and advise, from there u cn get a lasting solution.
I can use myself as an example, I shared mine and found a solution here on nairaland!
@James
Please dear dont take loan of 180k to get a self contain accomodation
It is always advisable to get loan for sth dat would bring profit.
Please dont eat your tomorrow 2day go for a room instead for now
Then when u stabilise you can change your accomodation

skirt suit, im @ work

It's no big deal but its just that some men dont deserve it.

I dont really know, but i may go to the beach with my baby

you are not in this situation and you cant understand what im talking about here especially if you are not married and not a female. I think that you should understand that everything is not about sex for heaven sake! harlots are having it 24/7 that does not make them happy and fulfiled. The only platform you can have it and not feel guilty is marriage.
@Monicamony thanks I wish i had your mail addresse would have loved to talk to you.
@ everybody thanks too.

Congratulations! I'm happy for you.

I sincerely appreciate everybody that has contributed and I say a big thank you for your advise. I actually shed some tears over some of the contributions like somebody saying i cooked up the story why would i do that is it to get money or sympathy. I only posted this sincerely because i really need advise because its getting to a stage i was becoming really desperate, frustrated and lonely.

Another person said i must have been wayward for me to have married a womaniser. No sir i was not that is why most times i ask God why me. I should have had a nice time and really enjoyed myself while in school as a spinster. I was not wayward.

One or two people also said my intention for a friend was not genuine that i only needed somebody to touch me bla bla bla. No that has never been my intention because I know the consequence of adultery and I know where God is taking me to therefore I can not sacrifice my destiny on the alter of adultery! I only need a friend that I can talk to especially when he wanders away at least that would prevent me from thinking.

I have tried nearly all that was advised; pray for him; call him in the middle of the night; talk to his family what is it that i have not done? I'm tired.

I dont want to divorce him cos the oath we took was for life, another option that i can consider is leaving separately but wont i deny my baby the love of his father?

As for weather im the cause well im not perfect i have my flaws too which was simply as a result of the way he is treating me. All these stuff about dress well, dont deny him sex why would I do that when i know that my body belongs to him.

I also thank all the people that left contact but somehow they got me confused especially when i read some of the posts of my potential friends they are not really worth it. (please dont be offended) I said a Christian friend not somebody that would compound what im going through.

Please don't crucify me.

I am a Christian and a faithful woman who unfortunately got married to a womaniser. I never enjoyed him once because he prefers to use his free time outside the home with either single girls or married women. I think is case is somehow spiritual (he needs serious prayers). He even resorts to violence when I accused him of cheating, I mean he has started beating me because of other women!He doesn't pay attention to me nor even touch me for weeks. To even pay a simple complement is wahala.

Now I'm bored with it all. I need a friend of the opposite sex not for sexual intimacy nor for extra marital affair but someone I can talk to, turn to for companionship, somebody I can call and he will be there when he wanders away. Somebody I can look up to. Do you understand? I'm talking about a kind of relationship that existed between Jonathan and David. Do you know why? I dint want to develop hypertention thinking about him and his escapades.

Or is there anything wrong with a married woman having a male friend especially if you married a man who is highly irresponsible and doesn't have time for you? I wouldn't have been looking for somebody like that if i had married a decent man. Most times I am lonely even when he is around his presence doesn't make much impact because he is either watching TV or playing with his phones.

That is impossicant!

ehie007,

Thanks for your prompt response, i appreciate dat and i will definitely contact you as soon as  I make up my mind.  But at the same time I would still want a neutral person to still please advice me.  Since you work with Fidelity you may be a little biased in your judgement.  But I appreciate your advice and will get back to you. Thanks

You guys are just marvellouse.

Please I need your advice. I have 100,000 naira only to spare and buy share but i don't know which would be a good buy between Dangote and Fidelity and I even heard FCMB would be out this week. Do I spread my money on the 3 or invest all in one and which one is the best.

Please I will appreciate you response and advice ASAP before dangote closes this week.

Thanks.