₦airaland Forum

nabiz: Yes. But that will the second coming of christ

sammy_ademola: Not a problem

gsaint trinity: This is the most rational thread where issues are discussed without sentiments in NL.....

ba7man: I pay no mind to those kind of people. They either haven't read the Bible or aren't patient enough to understand it.

We are religious without being spiritual. We pay attention to the rituals of being Christians (Praying, going to church/night vigil) without following Biblical principles (Love, giving, kindness etc).

We now sit back and expect magical miracles to appear out of nowhere when we haven't even made a move to actualize it. When it doesn't happen, we now get angry and blame God and religion.

ba7man: Its true, we always seek everywhere for one external cause of our situations without looking inwards first.

ba7man: This is not a religious matter. Its simple, Nigerians aren't giving themselves a good name within and outside the country. This has in turn affected the honest ones that only want to live a clean, fuss free life.

They commit so much crime, everyone that will read this post will either know an online Scammer, drug peddler or corrupt Govt official on first hand basis.

We have given that image to the world and they're only reacting to it. We need to look inwards and Stop pointing fingers at religion or the White man or what not.

thoth: You should first understand that many of the sources you referred to is highly political, in the sense it is used as a western smearing campaign against the Chinese government, you did not read the discussion section of the Wikipedia articles you posted and see the tremendous flaws that people keep pointing out. the other website is just smear. i deal with statistics released by the Chinese governments themselves and the reality on the ground and that does not go in line with the western pig tales which is usually fed to the unenlightened masses.
Was it not the same western organizations that will tell you that Nigeria is growing by 12% yearly and make other bogus claims of development and investments while the reality on the ground is that many more people are slumping into the worst state of poverty never witnessed so far in this country since after the civil war ?

My question was very simple and i hope you can address it in the same manner..china under Deng Xiaoping started introducing Capitalist policies in their economy from 1980 and if that has raised more than 1 billion Chinese out of poverty even though they don't believe in God and brought them into being the world largest economy ; how then that your Christianized Nigerians has not brought even 2% of their population out of poverty for more than 50 years?
Even if we go by your statistics and 40% of Chinese(i know you said 36%) are poor does that compare with Nigeria positively ?
That means that more than 1 billion people are actually living good. what does that say about your country ?
Chinese never run away from their country like Nigerians do, they simply go to explore and find markets for their services. if you have Chinese working as laborers in a Chinese construction firm that means they are gainfully employed and rendering services and therefore receive a salary for their services. Nigerians don't even have menial jobs to do talk less of one where they can claim to be gainfully employed. is that what you call running away ?
We should talk good about our country of course but we should be truthful to ourselves while doing that. sorry.

On the topic of wars and barbarism as a part of human experience i can agree that it existed in minute and manageable quantity, and it is not justified in any way. what the colonialist did was to introduce those two in a way that it can actually be termed as true destruction and Barbarism, the highest extent it could go..justified by Christianity and christian civilization.

there are armed robbers since the beginning of time but when some Christians arm those bad eggs and promise them money if they can raid villages with their Christian weapons and bring back slaves then it becomes barbarism.

There were religions in Africa , but when some Christians kill thousands and imprison more thousands and force their religion down their throats then it become barbarism. since all those religions co-existed peacefully with each other and no one has ever heard in history that an African religion tried to convert another African religion by force. Africans are not fanatics, Christianity/Islam brought fanaticism to Africa.

the simple truth is we had peace before the Christians came and they took it away from us. [size=16pt]IT IS THEY CHRISTIANS THAT TOOK AWAY THE PEACE FROM AFRICA.[/size]

thoth: Sorry, there were no wars, miseries,brutality whatsoever in per-colonial times, i have studied African history quite well and i promote it myself, so maybe you should direct us to where you read about such Barbary in per-colonial Africa. Each Ethnic groups has rules and laws that govern their engagement with other ethnic groups, one study shows that the inter-ethnic conflict was amplified and violence intensified with the European Christian contacts in Africa, The Christian Europeans were giving guns and weapons to river line chiefs and inciting them to slave campaigns against the inland nations and naturally they aided and overthrew many chiefs who obstructed the crooks among their community from going the western way.

The only time we ever had such horrible events was with the Islamic Jihad of Usman dan Fodio and the equally barbaric but more horrible invasion by the Europeans with the Christianity and mass exploitation.

Sorry i am living in china at the moment. I have stayed in china during its formative years and as pure communist country and my job at that time gives me more insight to the national policies and reasons why such policies are formed.

You Fail to understand is that the Chinese guys you see around you were there because their country is rich and they are there on a sort of expedition, which is simply finding markets for their goods and services. they live better than you in your own country and they have meaningful and respectable things to do unlike your own Christianized people who go their country to sell drugs and steal from respectable citizens. china has come a long way and they are bringing millions out of poverty each year, read their urbanization process and the statistics that follows it every 2 years, you will marvel at the number of Chinese that has a better and improved living conditions every year, the amount of Chinese that are living comfortably is three times the whole population of Nigeria while you and your Christianized leaders could not even say that of 40% of your population.

Again, we are more spiritually developed in our pristine African experience than the in our modern christian/Islamic confused state. nobody advocates for the eradication of religion rather what i am calling for is an African solution to African problems, my first post clearly explained it and the reason behind the idea.

tosnat: Okay..good to ask questions though..SAT is no where related to Nigerian Education...most Nigerian students only get to know it wen dey start dreaming of foreign education in d U.S.A..all the best

thoth: Nobody is neglecting God, But we had our ways of worshiping the almighty before the alien religions invaded and destroyed our society and peace.
North Korea is not Nigeria, they will never be Nigeria, they will never reach Nigerian population in 30 years, neither will they have all the resources that Nigeria has in 1000,000 years, they will not have many ethnic groups as Nigeria does even if they unite with south Korea.
I believe you are a christian and a good one too. but you choose the wrong example, maybe out of ignorance or just deliberately, we all have fanatic tendencies but i believe if you are looking at Asia you will rather talk of China and Japan as a Good example. South Korea is another great example.
Going back to our roots is the answer.

tosnat: Nope....quite ..........
Dont you reside in Nigeria?

dasparrow: Why didn't the whites remain in Europe as well instead of migrating to South Africa and treating Negros like yourself there like shyte?

thoth: It is not really a big task as you think, very little things we can change will contribute a lot to the overall development and outlook.

We can start by banning all forms of religious education in our schools, things like Christian religious Knowledge and Islamic studies will be banned in all our Public Schools.
Those Subjects will be replaced with National History and Ethics, the curriculum will be extremely Afrocentric with a thorough nationalistic theme, Students will learn the true history of their nation, without bias, history should be studies deeply and discussed more as the child grows towards university age. The role of Colonialism and how it came should be bared in all its gruesomeness, The Pre-colonial situation of our nations will be studied from an African point of View and the Post colonial situations will also be studied in the same manner.
Nigerian Civil War is a topic that needs to be dissected without bias, studied and inculcated into the history curriculum in the context of fostering unity, presented as an affliction we all suffered as a nation and instructing the young ones never ever to ever allow outsiders and selfish and egotistical people to ever bring distrust among them.
A young mind is like a farm, you can water it, fertilize it and plant it, if you nurture the plant carefully it will do very well.

Children who grew up on these theme and mindset will be proud of their nation, very protective of what belongs to their nation and when they look around them and feel ashamed that their nation is lagging behind others, the extreme love they have for their nation will compel them to do something positive, to struggle to built something they will be proud of.

Children who grew up with an Afrocentric and Pan-Nigerian mindset will see it as a taboo to do certain things that the current generation does, such indoctrination is exactly the same as some of those things you view as taboo because your tribe see it so, believe me if you are from another tribe you may even have great pleasure in committing that taboo but you have been brought up indoctrinated that such is forbidden. that is what INDOCTRINATION IS ALL ABOUT.

Every Nation does this, Israel is very good at it. France has been doing such since the 18th century. China has its to the extreme. North Korea is a case to be studied.
In the end the result is a population that is politically aware, a nation that is conscious of its own existence, a people that will hold the line not for money or some selfish gratification but the perceived honor it brings to serve ones nation.
Nigerians are not conscious of its existence, they just answer Nigerians by name and none is really Nigerians.

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thoth: The whole key is in the mind of the African, everything we need to do is in the mind, the physical aspects is just 15%, Psychological re-orientation constitutes 85% of the whole work. Until we change the way we think and start looking inwards we will never attain full efficiency.

Mynd_44: **whistling**

sheyie2007: Now I know why south Africa has such a poor informal sector.. thank God for bee for una body

My Vicky: Thank you madam.

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My Vicky: I remembered how terrible life was for me having a female boss during my SIWES. She was so harsh and difficult to work with. I could have gone back to work with the company if not for the fact that I know she is still there. Life could be hard, gloomy and uninteresting if one happens to be working with a terrible boss. How do you survive such experiences?

There's nothing more debilitating than heading into work every day depressed at the thought of having to face your dysfunctional boss. Founders, in particular, have a tendency to have eccentric personalities--not exactly winning the No. 1 Boss award. The good news: It doesn't have to be that way.

Here's a five-step plan to survive and thrive even the most malevolent manager:

1. Decide if it's bad enough to leave. It's one thing to struggle with a bad boss. It's a whole other circle of hell to be stuck in a mire of unhappy, dithering uncertainty about what to do about it.

The first step to recovery is to make a fundamental decision--are you going to stay, or go? Of course there are a lot of variables involved in making such an important decision - the financial impact, timing, availability of options, for example. But here's a simple rule of thumb: If issues with your boss run so deep as to be all-consuming, it's probably time to move on

2. If you're staying, stay positive.
Assuming your boss issues are painful but not all-consuming, it may well be possible to stay and carve out a perfectly acceptable working environment, but only if you build on the right foundation.
That foundation is your personal contentment. If you're coming to work every day frustrated, discontent, unhappy, then the possibility is slim that you'll succeed in building a positive environment in which to work.

So if you've made a decision to stay, make a conscious commitment to staying positive. Don't dwell on the things your boss does that infuriate you, and don't take part in any of the office negativity surrounding your boss's jerkiness. (Hint: If you find it impossible to maintain a positive attitude, revisit point one above.)

3. Find what develops trust. Here's the key to building a positive environment with any boss, however incompetent or annoying: Unless they're an outright sociopath, there will be some way, some basis, some process to earn their trust.

The way to build trust with a jerk boss may not be necessarily attractive or becoming. Perhaps you have to watch them take all the credit for what you do, or let them treat you as their personal assistant, or listen patiently to their constant self-aggrandizing storytelling. Whatever it is, so long as it's not evil, wrong or demeaning, your job is to identify it, and being bluntly mercenary, use it to build your boss's trust.

(If what your boss expects from you is evil, wrong or demeaning--or worse, they are in fact a sociopath, with no way to build trust--then again, go back and review your decision in point one above.)

4. Build autonomy based on trust. Having built a "trust bank" with your toxic boss, the next step is to trade that currency for something much more useful to you--autonomy.

Use well-placed questions like "Why don't I chair the Wednesday afternoon meeting so you can accept that golf invitation?", for example, or "Shall I work on the new product launch over the summer months - I know you have a lot of family commitments then?" to unlock little pools of independence.

Start small. Don't spook your boss, and use the first few initiatives to build even more trust - deliver on time, and above all, don't spring any negative 'surprises' if you can avoid it.

5. Stay under the radar. Now you're off and running. You have your boss's trust and growing autonomy. The key now is to establish boundaries that will keep you happy and fulfilled without triggering a backlash from your toxic boss.

Let the answer to point three above be your guide. If it builds trust, do it. If it doesn't, beware.!

www.smallbusiness.yahoo.com/advisor/5-ways-to-survive-a-terrible-boss-171407226.html

chaircover: That is one of the reasons why we go into relationships . . COMPANIONSHIP!!!

You go through good and bad times together. You laugh together and you cry together. That is why he/she is your other half

He should not only be there when there are good times. If you feel sad/down/disappointed/unhappy, then let him know. He should be able to lift you up and you too will do the same for him when he too needs your support.

This is one of the beauties of having someone to call your own. Use it!!!

mgbeketoto: You are here worrying about making your 'husband unhappy'. . . .While he is getting on with his life. . . happy or not!

What else can cause people to be unhappy if not DEPRESSION? DID YOU CREATE YOURSELF?

There are many things that can make one UNHAPPY in life, not just marriage!
I can NEVER be an unhappy person. . . in marriage or not.
It is up to you. . . .to find out what maketh thee unhappy.
If it is your 'insecurities'. . . . THEN YOU HAVE TO CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE!

In this short life?
I don't kia what it is o. . . . MAN OR NO MAN. . .YOU ALONE CAN MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY!
Tk.
No one can do it for you. . .not even GOD OR JESUS!

Gba be!


In the arms of my loving mother. . .I really can't be bothered with ANY man right now. . . .Time to gist with my mom. Just got back from vacation. . . I OVER PHOCKED. . .the children are fine! I am soooooooooooooooo happy right now.

Why do WOMEN think a man IS THE BEGINNING AND END OF THIS WORLD?
Not my portion o! Iseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!
Time to do some more shopping with my darling mom!

My mama name na ANWUL(JOLLIFICATION). . . My Igbo name na KANWULIA(MAKE WE DEY JOLLY). . . . .Depression and unhappiness is not in my genes o!
Man ko. . . children ni! Friends ko. . . Relations ni! Family ko. . . .finances ni!
Shiooooooooooooooooooor!!!!

OP. . . there is a reason why OYINBO peeps prescribe anti-psychotics for the mentally DOWN. . . You might need some help!

mgbeketoto: You are here worrying about making your 'husband unhappy'. . . .While he is getting on with his life. . . happy or not!

What else can cause people to be unhappy if not DEPRESSION? DID YOU CREATE YOURSELF?

There are many things that can make one UNHAPPY in life, not just marriage!
I can NEVER be an unhappy person. . . in marriage or not.
It is up to you. . . .to find out what maketh thee unhappy.
If it is your 'insecurities'. . . . THEN YOU HAVE TO CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE!

In this short life?
I don't kia what it is o. . . . MAN OR NO MAN. . .YOU ALONE CAN MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY!
No one can do it for you. . .not even GOD OR JESUS!

Gba be!


In the arms of my loving mother. . .I really can't be bothered with ANY man right now. . . .Time to gist with my mom. Just got back from vacation. . . I OVER PHOCKED. . .the children are fine! I am soooooooooooooooo happy right now.

Why do WOMEN think a man IS THE BEGINNING AND END OF THIS WORLD?
Not my portion o! Iseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!
Time to do some more shopping with my darling mom!

My mama name na ANWUL(JOLLIFICATION). . . My Igbo name na KANWULIA(MAKE WE DEY JOLLY). . . . .Depression and unhappiness is not in my genes o!
Man ko. . . children ni! Friends ko. . . Relations ni! Family ko. . . .finances ni!
Shiooooooooooooooooooor!!!!

OP. . . there is a reason why OYINBO peeps prescribe anti-psychotics for the mentally DOWN. . . You might need some help!

debrief08: This is part of growing up, you will learn that you can't have everything you want no matter how much you "claim" it.
Churches have taught people wrongly that God is there to be our personal messages, the ignore "ALL Things work togather for good" or twist it.
All things meaning; sad times, sickness, death, failures and whatever we face are meant to work for good, good may not be physical manifestation good may be the growing lessons you pick: How could this have been better, what lessons did I pick, or in future that experience may be used to help someone else, eg, most of us who have tasted hurt, extreme pain and disappointment easily understand what people are saying when they face similar situations hence God will use us to help that person pass through his/ her own phase.
What you do now is realise that you can't always have everything, and this is a phase that will pass and pick the lessons you can from it.
Also realise that continous sulking and whinning will push your partner away hence you will have double loss.
When I am faced with hard times as I am currently I reflect and thank God for finding me worthy to be tested, I thank God for all the previous things I have faced and how He helped me overcome them. I also ask God to help me learn what he needs me to learn, then I ask for Grace to go through the current phase.
Nothing lasts forever including good times.
When you learn that lesson you have conquered half of the problem