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baby_123: Get help with a trained psychologist. Besides its not the end of the world. There are ways to eliminate acne scars these days. If you have the money. If you have a problem, look for the solution. Don't just give up. Anyone that doesn't accept you, that should be their own problem really. But you have to love yourself first. How bad is it? And how old are you? You may just be having unnecessary body image issues.

Lord_Reed: Psychologists have said that the bodily changes that place between puberty and young adulthood do tend to raise self esteem/self acceptance issues. I believe your friend has found his own issues more troubling than is considered usual. If he is going to overcome suicidal thoughts he will have to gain a good idea of his own self worth. For me I will point him to Jesus Christ who as the Representative of God to man made us know that above all things we are worth dying for no matter how we look or how people have rejected us, we are all precious.

Medical science has lots of remedies for acne he should never despair however if he would believe God can heal him.

Pataki: Suicidal over acne? Sounds ludicrous, but my work with mental patients some years back has made me to see far worse than the ludicrous.

Your friend needs a friend or group of positive thinkers around him/her. Even psychological drugs cannot take away the suicide, it will only suppress the suicidal thoughts and feelings for a short while.

Your friend craves for acceptance, and feels the acne is an hindrance to be socially accepted. If you truly value your friend, introduce him more into the community. Let him have a sense of acceptance for what he can do to his/her community rather for what he looks like before he can be accepted into the community.

obowunmi: Find a therapist, psychologist, psychiatrist.

7842I: Solution? Buy a strong rope and hang it on your ceiling fan hook, then hang a dog or goat on it and watch the effects.......

My Vicky: Thanks

Richfella: Bro, I'd recommend The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. He wanted to commit suicide too. Would be of immense help.

My Vicky: Thanks for the contribution

Winneygirl: Well, I undrstd d insecurity felt if U're not confident abt Ur looks.
I'd recommend increased intake of water, fruits and vegetables, better hygiene, good ventillation..
Then maybe natural stuff like use of black soap (there was a thread of recent by mrskincare on black soap)...

I thnk U shld look into his background..Wat kind of home is he from? Broken? Stable? Unloved??

D acne is a problem to him, but it is not 'THE' problem.

obowunmi: You often have no way of dealing with certain life experiences as you go thru them. Many people are going thru psychological bondage and trauma. There is no shrink, psychological help, or psychiatrist.

obowunmi: Suicide is a problem for people when they feel lonely and have no one to express their truest feelings to. Nigeria particularly is a place where the voices of young people are oppressed, repressed, and suppressed.

slimyem: Sucidal thoughts over acne?It can't be that bad.
Has he been nicknamed or rechristened pimple yet?A friend in school had his name with "pimple" as a suffix because it was tooo much on his face.They were like boils.The first and only thing you see when you see him but he didn't die and isn't planning to anytime soon
I don't believe acne is the problem.There must be some other underlying issue your friend's not telling you about.
Either way,he needs professional help-health and psychological.
Get his parents aware of the situation before he ends it.

slimyem: Sucidal thoughts over acne?It can't be that bad.
Has he been nicknamed or rechristened pimple yet?A friend in school had his name with "pimple" as a suffix because it was tooo much on his face.They were like boils.The first and only thing you see when you see him but he didn't die and isn't planning to anytime soon
I don't believe acne is the problem.There must be some other underlying issue your friend's not telling you about.
Either way,he needs professional help-health and psychological.
Get his parents aware of the situation before he ends it.

dayokanu: The acne would go when he gets laid more often

biolabee: kolo

baby_123: Tell him not to pick the acne. Get acidiophylus (if that's the correct spelling) to increase the good bacteria in his body. Take it as directed on the bottle. When he is doing this, he should try to be on a veggie and fruit diet. Maybe for a week. Then he can start reintroducing other foods to see which foods trigger the acne. He should also reduce all hormonal food intake and stick to skim milk. Acne can be cause by hormones or bacteria. Also, water is very important. Take 8-10 8oz glasses a day! Most important, don't pick at the acne. It causes scars and spreads when he does. He should leave it alone. Using natural rose water as a toner after cleansing also helps. Find a good facial cleanser and lotion that is oil free and non comedogenic. Eg, aveeno. He should look into cosmetic procedures to reduce or eliminate the scars. I wish him luck.

baby_123: Get help with a trained psychologist. Besides its not the end of the world. There are ways to eliminate acne scars these days. If you have the money. If you have a problem, look for the solution. Don't just give up. Anyone that doesn't accept you, that should be their own problem really. But you have to love yourself first. How bad is it? And how old are you? You may just be having unnecessary body image issues.

baby_123: Suicide because of acne scars? What should people who have real health issues and life challenges do? Surely there is more to life for you than the superficial. Get a hobby or something. SMH.

birdman: Can you add an example to buttress your point? I know tons of people, who by virtue of not being born into developed countries, had a starting advantage by going to those countries as young adults.

ekt_bear: A fair point...I guess not reasonable for me present myself as typical in this case.

One_Naira: You are wrong. This is a bad news for those that still believe in Nigeria. 80 spots are the states sampled so far so nigeria was last in their sample which you should be sad about.

Anyway it came as of no surprise to me so moving on

birdman: The study is too nebulous to be useful though. I would argue a child born to a Nigerian middle class family is luckier than one born to middle class African American family in 2013 on average. You can finish secondary school and university without an ounce of debt. And all the crap we pulled in boarding school in Nigeria would in the US get you a rap sheet so long you couldn't get into a good university, never mind a decent job. Lets not even talk about being born black in Britain or one of those Euro countries. My point is, Nigeria may be corrupt, but the state is not fundamentally designed to put you on the outside.

ekt_bear: i was born in naija and turned out ok

Pukkah: I agree, Nigeria may not be the worst country to be born but Nigeria did not come 80th out of 200 (as you wrongly stated) because they did not rank more than 80 countries.

Now, if 200 countries were ranked what do you think would be Nigeria's position?

Pukkah: Nigeria did not come 80th out of 200.

Nigeria came 80th out of the 80 countries covered.

chidyke77: ok, why d pic?

Flytefalls: sigh. I hope he finds her...

Flytefalls: sigh. I hope he finds her...