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Disgusted of Tunbridge Wells is not amused - and in this case it is no mere figure of speech. Sitting at home in the Regency spa town famous for its Jaeger-clad Hyacinths and Daphnes, Caroline Gates-Fleming can only laugh at the irony. ‘I am one of them, really,’ she says, dabbing gingerly at the tender scars of a recent facelift. https://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2010/11/06/article-1327282-0BE9AB1A000005DC-639_468x604.jpg ‘Middle-class, middle-aged, respectable. I was brought up nicely and married well. Our boys went to public school. ‘But after what I’ve been through, I know they’d find me unacceptable around here. Things like this don’t happen to women like me.’ She has a point. For in Caroline’s case, ‘things like this’ means dabbling in fraud and embracing folly on such an epic scale that even her close family struggles to comprehend. ‘Everyone asks how could I have been so stupid,’ she sighs. ‘I got more than I bargained for.’ How could she fall in love with a foreigner on the internet and then, despite his many and obvious lies, entrust him with £40,000, money she will never see again? In fairness, Caroline, now 54, has the honesty and intelligence to talk about her motives and the loneliness which is at the root of her current predicament. Similar to many women of her age, with two failed marriages behind her, she badly wanted the comfort of a relationship. https://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2010/11/06/article-1327282-0BE9A91D000005DC-237_233x438.jpg ‘What woman doesn’t worry about growing older?’ she asks. ‘It’s not just about looks. Confidence evaporates. Builders no longer wolf-whistle. When you have always attracted men, invisibility hits hard. 'It’s in the genes: my late mother Pauline was always glamorous. I won’t even pop to the shops without full make-up.’ As a young woman, Caroline had worked as a jobbing stage actress and dancer, and all that theatrical attention, she admits, had made her rather vain. Later in life, she turned her hand to property development, buying, renovating and selling cottages with some success. ‘Coming to terms with ageing is my problem. I need reassurance from a man,’ she says. ‘I was unhappy alone, and shattered by having brought up three boys. ‘Marcus, my first husband and father of Piers, my eldest [now 24], was long gone. Peter, my second husband, father of Rupert and Theo [19 and 18] had little to do with us.’ Craving a fresh start, in 2002 she moved to Marbella in Spain, where, rather romantically, she thought she might meet a new partner. ‘I still craved that special someone to say, “Want a cup of tea? Let’s have a cuddle,” ’ she says. ‘It is not about sex, but togetherness.’ But she never really settled and returned to Britain after four years, depression having kicked in, and in need of a job. If glamour has always been a watchword for Caroline, she was still not too proud to take on ‘unattractive’ jobs and found work as a full-time carer for people with learning disabilities. Her stores of confidence, though, were dwindling. ‘I was still alone, still desperately unhappy,’ she says. ‘I wanted to be flattered and taken out. But it’s so much harder to meet men when you are older. My girlfriends were all married. I had to do something. I’m not the kind to wait for things to happen. ‘They say you learn from your mistakes, but I’ve made the same mistakes with the same kind of men my entire life.’ So when, in August last year, Caroline came across Match.com, a high-profile dating website, the temptation to sign up was overwhelming. It felt safe and respectable, she says, and, after all, ‘you had to pay’ to join. At first she was conservative, making sure her meetings took place in coffee bars during the daytime, but she soon found that her ‘dates’ were on the cautious side, too. ‘There was never that spark,’ she explains, flicking at the pink tips of her bleached blonde crop. ‘I began to find men my age too old for me. I don’t feel like a woman in her 50s. I fight it. I’ve had a gastric band and a facelift.’ Then she came across a man she calls Sab, who seemed so very different from the run-of-the-mill men she had been meeting. ‘Of course, his name is really Steve,’ she says, of the man she now understands is a Nigerian called Stephen Ehiamhen. ‘I call him Sab because, when he first advertised on the site, he called himself Sabastine Roland. He used a fake picture and posed as a Greek, claiming to be an entrepreneur in Nigeria.’ Caroline accepts that even the earliest signs were dubious. ‘He was vague about his age,’ she says. ‘First it was 47, then 37. He told me that when he applied for a visa to travel to South Africa, he had been advised to say 27 so that he could make out he was a student going to the World Cup. ‘After two emails, he phoned. I knew the moment I heard him that he wasn’t Greek.’ In fact, while ‘Sab’s’ English was limited, he most certainly did not speak the language of Sophocles, preferring a version of pidgin laced with dialect and slang that is widely spoken in Nigeria. ‘I challenged him about it but he laughed,’ says Caroline. For all his obvious lies, she found him attractive. ‘We messaged and emailed every day. 'He soon said he was falling in love with me and I began to feel the same. I found it hard to explain to my sons that I was falling for someone I’d never met. 'Strangely, though, you communicate at a very intense level when it’s not face-to-face. ‘Sab is a direct, articulate person. 'He said he goes to church every Sunday and that his faith is strong. He said we were fated to meet. ‘When he first emailed that he loved me, a month after our initial encounter, I wrote, “Don’t go there.” I was terrified of the intensity of my feelings towards him.’ Caroline was well aware that much of ‘Sab’s’ story was invented, yet it was only after two months of passionate conversation that the two of them spoke seriously about his identity. ‘He confessed he was not who he’d said he was, that he couldn’t do it to me any more, that he “hadn’t planned on the emotion”, as he put it.’ He had to come clean. Hearing that he was really a black Nigerian came as no shock - his pidgin English and African-style dialect had given Caroline a major clue. She says: ‘He said he was desperate to do something with his life, that he’d been looking for money to get into oil.’ At this point, she explains, her story took a darker turn, one very much at odds with the image of respectability so carefully nurtured by Royal Tunbridge Wells, a town that has not so far made its money through black-market oil deals on the coast of West Africa. By this stage, the alarm bells should have been head-splittingly loud, yet somehow Caroline managed to ignore them. ‘It’s big business in Nigeria,’ she says, now shocked by the sheer madness of the scheme he was proposing. [size=13pt]READ THE REST OF THE STORY HERE:[/size] http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1327282/How-middle-class-mother-Tunbridge-Wells-stupid.html |
phreakabit:Dat's not what i've been reading, try and read all his former posts on this topic! Anyway, if i'm wrong, my apologies @ ranocsky, i noticed u are always following invisible's post and dats why i called u a sidekick or maybe u are thesame person! |
guddsid:@the devil's advocate invisible and his laughing imbecilic sidekick - ranoscky, with other pro rotten whale eating advocates, u all should go and bury your brainless heads in the sand! Yeah, we just saw your mates on youtube and their sea elephants and sea porks! is this not a display of poverty and ignorance at its highest level? mtsheeew idio.ts! ![]() |
JOKYTECH:Your reasoning is very flawed! Do you go and drink water from d gutter because u dont know whether the tap water u're drinking is piped directly from the gutter? ![]() I'm simply amazed at the backward thinking of some people on this board! ![]() [quote author=invisible! link=topic=545927.msg7089457#msg7089457 date=1289040498]I hate hypocrisy with a passion, just because this whale turned up free of charge for us to eat and you are annoyed because you paid good money to eat your own whale? Na bad belle go kill you.[/quote][img]http://arrestedworld.files./2010/11/whale1.jpg[/img] i'm sure u're dat boy grinning like an i.d.iot, hope the osofree will not become a bone in your scrawny throat! My concern basically is d health implication anyway. And dis is my final post on dis issue, eat whatever makes u happy, even if its harmful to your health! As for me i value my well being alot ![]() |
[quote author=oyinda. link=topic=545927.msg7089213#msg7089213 date=1289036575]thank you. Most human beings (whether barbarian or civilized) know not to eat rotten meat purposely. we are psychologically wired to be turned off by decaying stink etc. the meat must have been freshly dead. and besides, such things have happened before and the people who ate the meat aren't dead yet!!! even if it carried health risk, my guess is that the risk will be from excessive consumption. no comment[/quote]Massive Whale Swept Ashore At Seme Border By Laide Adekunle A massive whale was swept ashore yesterday morning at Seme border. [size=13pt]The whale, which was already dead, was swept into the Customs quarters at Seme by the waves of the Atlantic Ocean. Hundreds of people were seen this morning hacking at the fish, which was already smelling badly. But the stench did not deter the emergency butchers who all scrambled for a piece of the action[/size]. As the crowd was becoming uncontrollable, the Customs officers chased everybody out of their quarters and later set the fish ablaze. Not long ago, a dead whale was also swept ashore at the Lagos Bar Beach. It also attract a huge crowd and some people hacked it to pieces and carried them off despite the odious stench it was emitting. http://www.thenewsng.com/modules/zmagazine/article.php?articleid=19975 https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-88626.0.html#msg1617421 We dont have information about the recent one, but this one is an eye opener! |
I love delicacies too, infact, i've eaten whale, shark, frogs as delicacies in an oriental restaurant before, but to descend low and be cutting a rotten carcass by the beach because its free! ![]() Poverty and long throat no go kill una! |
Slap1 na wa o, your oil? hope u're not from the North? ![]() You see, Nigeria is far gone for any strong leader to remedy, to do the needful (which is surgical removal of the unrepentant and corrupt leaders), his action will be seen along tribal lines!, and that may be the beginning of another pogrom. ![]() The best thing to do is to CUT AND RUN! And rebuild from ground up. Yes we need someone who is fearless to set the ball rolling! |
Not really ![]() just love the way he was able to put the points across. Its like what i said in one of the previous posts "It seems the only people really fighting hard to hold this patchwork of a nation together are those robbing us blind, why is dat? " We need a face for the dismembering school of thought. ![]() I think Mr. Tony will do fine! ![]() |
Mobinga:40GB for 9k I'm on unlimited download, and i pay approximately 4200naira monthly with a dedicated speed of about 4mbps and i was thinking it was too expensive! chai, MTN don kill people o! |
Lets get this man into Aso rock, A.S.A.P ![]() |
slap1: ![]() My point exactly, the fear of the repercussion ought to slap you into shape! ![]() |
Yes I do believe that better governance, more productivity, a committed, hardworking and more patriotic citizenry will be very difficult to achieve with the current over- sized Nigeria- both in terms of population and geographical size. And No I do not want the country broken into two- North and South as some have been clamouring; and not even along the three pre-independent regional divisions of North, East and West to form three countries, as I feel division along these lines will exacerbate the problems of the minority tribes the more than is currently the case with 3-4 large tribes subsisting to check mate each other in the current nation of Nigeria! Before I come to my reasons or rationale for advocating for the break-up of Nigeria into smaller units, let me recommend that breaking Nigeria, peacefully, into Six countries, along the six geographical zones recommended by the 1996 constitutional conference will be the ideal thing to do. And now my reasons for the recommendation: 1. Nigeria, as is currently managed and with the type of technological and managerial personnel available to it, is just incapable of managing a huge geographical size of about 924,000 Square Kilometres and a massive population “estimated” to be 150 million people. Note the word “estimated” as Nigeria, in its current form cannot even reliably count its population without all the acrimonies and disputes from all shades of opinion, ranging from political, ethnic to religious groups because population have been, and continue to be used as a tool for deciding how many local government a state gets; how many House of representative members go to Abuja to share oil money to themselves and their cronies; and more importantly how much each state and local government gets into its “begging bowl” in the monthly oil monies sharing in Abuja, in the name of Federal allocation. Nigeria may not be the biggest to be managed as a country in the whole world but the challenges of properly running such a massive country with the dearth of technological and managerial capacity is proving overwhelming. 2. Corruption and indiscipline, the real bane of Nigeria’s underdevelopment and stunted growth will persist with the size of the country, especially with the claim of entitlement to oil monies without any need for competition and productivity by subsisting states. How on earth do you think that one EFCC, a single central bank and Police force will be able to monitor and regulate financial crimes and criminals across a large country as Nigeria? One EFCC chasing thieves and financial criminals across 36 states and the Federal capital territory and then 774 local government chairmen and thousand more councillors who are busy feasting on monthly allocations at the expense of long suffering poor, helpless and hapless Nigerian masses in the nooks and crannies of the country. Because the sheer weight of chasing too many thieves has overwhelmed the EFCC, even if it has the best intentions, they can only limit themselves to the big thieves in the banks, state and national public treasury looters. Local government chairmen theft, in millions of Naira, are considered as “Petty cash” and not worthy of been chased with the little resources that EFCC has. So they must prioritise to be able to even seem to be doing anything by on-lookers. Same applies to one Central bank overseeing the whole banking in Nigeria or one Federal Inland Revenue service trying to assess and collect taxes across such a huge area. The result is a poor regulation and governance across the board leading to inefficient and ineffective economy. 3. With such a huge population, all dependent on a mono-culture economy, there will always be unemployment, lack of innovation and creative thinkers and low productivity, if any production is even going on. Everyone is waiting for monthly allocations where state governors go to Abuja to share oil money and no one is thinking of productivity and generating employment for the massive population of unemployed youths, many university graduates, without a hope of gainful employment some 5 years after graduation and counting. Some may argue that the problem is bad leadership and lack of appropriate technology, governance and effective regulation, and whilst I agree with these claims I do think with the level of Management and technological capacity available in the country, the best leadership will still struggle with such a huge landmass and population. Forget about claims that Nigeria has enormous material and human resources: Material resources may be, and this has fuelled the looting and lack of creative leadership, but Human resources, I would say No. Where is the technology? Just go to South Africa, Brazil or even Mexico and see the technological capacity available and how these have been utilised to improve their infrastructure and transform socio-economic activities, never mind the advanced countries of Europe and America, and you will know that Nigeria really has nothing to show in technological abilities in comparative terms. Can we produce even a pin in that country? This is 2010 and Nigeria still cannot produce a fully “MADE IN NIGERIA CAR,” that is if they can even produce a Wheel of a bicycle! 4. If Nigeria could be turned into six countries, which the united nations should readily accept and recognise considering that these nations will still top a population of about 25-30 million people, each nation or country will find a way to survive rather than the current deceit and laziness going on among the regions and states. Governors and potential governors, ambitious politicians no longer think of how they will generate and manage state revenue to cater for the needs of their people, because they believe there is oil money to be shared every month. Why worry thinking of Budgets and financial planning? Just get the commissioner of Finance to Abuja and bring the monthly allocation and we can start spending and stealing with impunity! 5. And definitely employment in various forms will be generated and resources, including labour, will be better applied: think of six football countries instead of the current only one, Nigeria, competing for positions in the World cup, more athletes from six countries at the Olympics; more volley ball and Basket ball teams, and some like a country in the Niger Delta may even produce swimmers and canoeist for Olympics unlike now where, despite living in rivers, we do not have swimmers or canoeist at the Olympic stands. Laziness and unemployment is been encouraged by the sheer size of the population accompanied by irresponsible and clueless leadership. I believe that much more jobs will be created in all spheres of endeavour if we have six countries in place of the current just one called Nigeria. 6. Election rigging and the imposition of leadership will reduce, if not abate completely. This is because a leaner territory will be more amenable to control and the people will feel more sense of belonging and ownership and therefore ask for transparent and accountable leadership. 7. AS currently is Nigeria suffers from a dismal image problems across the globe. We are looked upon as a country managed by incompetent and very corrupt idiots in all areas of leadership positions forcing the vast majority of Nigerians to either die of poverty or resort to one form of crime or another to survive. No amount of Dora Akunyili’s rebranding will remove this tar brush from the minds of outsiders, and it even now appears like aunty Dora has given up on the “rebranding Nigeria” scheme! A couple of weeks back I was at the Nigerian High Commission in London, forced to renew my passport by the demi-gods in power in Abuja, when my current passport still subsists till 2012. That itself is poor judgement, or if you like very bad policy decision by the ministry of internal affairs, calculated to inflict unnecessary pain or long-suffering Nigerians who are always put at the wrong end of the stick by clueless, incompetent and greedy people in government at all levels. Now after surviving a long queue outside the building, in the wintry rain of London, we entered two more queues inside the building with many non-Nigerians who have come to get a visiting visa. In frustration I heard a white man who came for visa complaining to his pal on the phone that it may take a whole day to get a visa because of the crowd waiting and incompetent Nigerian staff. I did not agree with him that the staff were incompetent; despite my frustration that day I could see some hardworking staff operating from very difficult circumstances occasioned by a huge population overwhelming resources- both building and staff. Note that the Northumberland building has been in use since the 1970s when the population of Nigeria was less and far less Nigerians were domiciled in UK. There is definitely a strong case for mutual agreement to split Nigeria into six countries, if possible more. Why not? Many countries in Africa and indeed the world have populations of less than 10million people. Why must we be forced to live in one country that is proving incapable of been managed to the satisfaction of the vast majority of the people since Lord Lugard and his wife deliberately merged such huge areas for the selfish benefit of the British empire and to the indefinite pain of the people so merged? Tony Ishiekwene tonykwene@aol.com http://www.saharareporters.com/article/case-split-nigeria-manageable-units |
I'm a xtian, i dont grab such ![]() U can turn to a tuber of yam, u know! ![]() |
@ tpia its no use arguing wit u, anyways don't pick money in d middle of the road o, American drivers don't like using their brake much o! ![]() |
[quote author=tpia@ link=topic=545927.msg7088161#msg7088161 date=1289013612]you go on with your petrol example and let me give you mine. if you're going somewhere and happen to see a $100 note lying in the middle of the road, will you or will you not pick it up. do you know where it's been? [/quote]your post above has just reconfirmed the poverty mindset!So, u will take it and give testimony in d church next sunday, abi? ![]() u know what happens picking money in the middle of the road, right? AWUFF dey kill o! |
slap1:LWKMD, pls slap make uno kill person o! |
@tpia [quote author=na2day! link=topic=545927.msg7088082#msg7088082 date=1289010477]Does my eyes deceive me? Infact your post above is a proof dat many nigerianyouths are basically walking about with brains atrophied by poverty? What exactly are u defending? That those scavenger's action not spured by poverty? [size=14pt]What ure tryin to tell us is, if u're driving by after closing from work and u see a beached whale, u'd jump out and start hacking, hoping to present d meat to your wife to prepare as your dinner? Because, its free and u don't want to pay for meat. [/size]If your answer to dat is yes, IT'S U DAT NEED TO GET your BRAIN EXAMINED[/quote]The bolded is the question! |
Nobody is against eating of whale, the issue is the Nigerian factor especially when things are free, not caring for their lives or wellbeing, if petrol is gushing out on the road, they will go and scoop, if whale is on d beach, no one will even ask whether meat is still good to eat, they'll descend like animals on it! POVERTY IS THE ISSUE NOT THE MEAT! |
[quote author=tpia@ link=topic=545927.msg7088116#msg7088116 date=1289012002]^^and where is your evidence this particular alledged whale was decomposing?[/quote]was dat the question asked? ![]() |
@ tpia, I hope u'll honestly be able to answer d question posed above? U're reeling out info about people who are whale meat addicts, and I don't see anywhere, where they mention decomposing whale as part of their staple! ![]() |
wesley80:Does my eyes deceive me? Infact ur post above is a proof dat many nigerianyouths are basically walking about with brains atrophied by poverty? What exactly are u defending? That those scavenger's action not spured by poverty? What ure tryin to tell us is, if u're driving by after closing from work and u see a beached whale, u'd jump out and start hacking, hoping to present d meat to ur wife to prepare as ur dinner? Because, its free and u don't want to pay for meat. If ur answer to dat is yes, IT'S U DAT NEED TO GET UR BRAIN EXAMINED |
johnie:@wesley The quote above shows the antecedence, infact there's no argument, just try and visit any General hospital, u'll be amazed how people are dying like cockroaches because they are so much in love with awuff! i hope u're not one of those guyz carrying basins in dat pix? ![]() |
MShittu:Ol boy, u too fork up with this kind of statement o! What makes Ghana better than Nigeria? |
@all the posters supporting the reckless behaviour as free meat, hope u guyz know dat AWUF dey run belle! Your reasoning is amazing! Have u considered the toll on the health from eating a decomposing carcass? Its like a busted petrol pipeline spewing gasoline and u decide to go and scoop free fuel because u've been paying for fuel all ur life, of course when u get roasted don't come here to complain, idio.ts! ![]() |
auwal87:At least we know where the Iranian bombs are going! ![]() |
It seems the only people really fighting hard to hold this patchwork of a nation together are those robbing us blind, why is dat? ![]() |
Pls, never compare us with Zimbabwe o, our case is not as hopeless as theirs o! Do u know that the rats in that country are becoming an endangered specie, cos thats the easiest source of protein. Our case will not get to that level in Jesus name ![]() |
vwvw:Why not just post the video for us! |
I'm sure that picture was extracted from a camera phone video, that expalins motion blur and the interlacing! |
Oh! i weep for this country See hunger in action! If this had happened overseas, U'd will see conservationist trying desperately to save the poor brute's life and crying if unsuccessful. But here in Lagos, na free wack, chai! ![]() |
gonzaga:u're either a mumusco or one of the beneficiaries of the stolen wealth! Imagine such crooked thinking! Walahi i tire for this country o! Its this kind of weird logic that has led us down this path of gradual implosion ![]() So in your own words, she has suffered enough abi? I dont think so, A very good example must be made out of her as a deterrence, but anyway we are in NIGERIA and not China! As Tacitus once said"The more corrupt the state, the more laws" |
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at the market but we have not come one on one with the sea fish . i call it live aquarium just like when moses saw fish when they where crossing the rod sea ( 
yoruba accent) i eat it yesterday but my stomach is still worrying me but i "enjoin" the fish sha. 

