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bamisepeters:
A lady said to me that once she is married, herself and her husband will share the house chores equally especially when they start having children.

I looked at her in amazement and told her that it is very possible she get what she want in her man but she shouldn't be so sure that the particular desire will be granted.

Sharing house chores may work well for some homes especially in western world, but when it comes to house chore, many African men will want to prove to you the reason they are called man,that is when they have so much idea about tradition and culture.

Most men cannot even sweep the floor let alone bath a child. And if you have a man doing some house chores while he was a bachelor and you think that will also still be the case after marriage that should remain in your thought because you know the real identity of each other after the oath has been taken.

Yes, woman are not slaves and shouldn't be treated as one, however, men shouldn't be forced to partake in house chores.

What is the essence of the sharing formula when you still need to go over what he has done because most men cannot do this house chores as neat as a woman can do it.

Personally, i believe a "responsible and caring man" will help you with house chores when he is less busy or when he feels you need to be helped or if his mood allows him.

A responsible man should know how to appreciate and spoil a good woman with gifts and surprises because it is never easy to be a woman who knows her duty.

Men are to provide for the family and if by chance a woman is also providing for the family along with the man as expected by the recent economic brouhaha or whatever the case may be, that doesn't mean that the man should then be forced to do what he doesn't want.

When you fight for equality among genders i just think we need to apply wisdom.

I know many ladies may not agree with my stand and you a free to share your opinion on this issue.

Source: http://bamisepeters..nl/2017/04/is-it-right-to-share-house-chores.html

marry first nah then share your experience later

Truelies2017:
I don't think some men understands that no matter how angry you are there is power in the tongue and their are some you should never alter or declare on your patner. Correct me if am wrong.

Now this was what happened and I felt i didn't warrant being called that name.

I found out about a cheap land out for sale in lekki. Called hubby to inform him that we should go check it out and might just become land owners. So I think he also discussed it with his mum cause she also planned to buy land for her kids as gift..

So mother in law called me this morning and said she would like to go with us whenever we intend checking the land. I wanted to pour my heart out to my hubby immediately after the conversation but I thought it wasn't the right time.

So later that evening he raised an issue about us going to the land. Then I said i I won't be going since mother in law would be going. I think that got him angry. I tried explaining to him why I won't be going.

To cut the long story short. He started calling me all sort of names. The next word i heard was VAGABOND!!!! In my heart I thought too much. I cried bitterly. It would have hurt if it was just anyone but not the man you are married to who should be the one blessing you. I feel sometimes some men take their power for granted and don't even know the words to refrain from. He repeated this word almost 3times, then it dawned on me he didn't even see anything wrong. So many times he has used other hurtful words and while am trying to make him take back the words or even return the words back to sender am termed as a disrespectful wife. So I thought I seek others opinion.

Are our husbands allowed to use any word on us just because they can and if not this is the medium to let those who doesn't know.

why are you reporting your husband to children that are born in the 90s and 00s

youngest85:
Dis mama jst made me believe that we're descendant of apes

Wayward child

Sad that we don't have President., only a figure head.

adewumiopeyemi:
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pool party for omi iya'laro abi

bunch of clowns

Hope Uzodinma mounted pressure after Masters Energy Commodities Trading Ltd imported 30 containers of Rice claimed it was Yeast

scam at the highest order

It is well


but where una dey run dey go

naija i hail thee

what is the import of this trash

parent open eye pickin near oil and fall inside


the parent needs to be flogged

what is a child of such age doing near boiling oil ?

kennygee:
Even the dogs are staring at her and asking "why you dey lie?"

See international disgrace.

Followed by local insults

See failing hand oooooo

Abeg who get that Lil Wayne photooo

Yawa

Na so heritage bank own take end

zubby29:
old meat wey u no fit buy. dey console urself

You don't use old meat to cook soup. Except you wan die of food poisoning

You dey play with cancer

SweetBoyFriend:

That's a lie

Snow tyres do not damage asphalt

Go to Maine where it snows all year round or Alaska where it snows 7 months in a year, there roads are in good condition

Road damages occur because of cheap materials used in road construction and poor maintenance

No one in the USA changes their snow tyres and they have good roads

Stop putting your blame on tyres

If no one in the US changes their snow tyres how come we have snow tyres pelnty plenty at ladipo

weyab:
Na to buy tyre first then start thinkin about car... Tyre case tire jor

You want to buy tire before you buy car ?

How did winter tyre come into nigeria

If not for failure of govt and the system

AK6464:
Tire na Tire

People like you don't have car so no expectation of something sensible

SweetBoyFriend:

That's a lie

Snow tyres do not damage asphalt

Prove it and stop shouting

You are right

When will Nigeria make tires that is afford so that cheap tyres and snow tyres don't infiltrate the market

Lilimax:
What of you?

Young blood

softwerk:
All female bloggers are getting married while our Aunty Linda Ikeji is still searching for Mr Right even at the age of 42

When eligible bachelor's like Seun and Lalasticlala full ground?!

Hmmm, well sha it's none of my business

Linda na old meat

Will the wedding take place on blogger.com

Dbanj and his hype

Has gone under the bridge sank and drowned