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Well then I think you have answered your problem. He neva dealt with his past relationships. He neva got over them that is why he is unloading it on you. You now have to help him come to terms with his problems and help him deal with it. I cant make any suggestions on how to do this because I dont know what kind personality he has and what kind of communication you have with him.

He is clearly afriad that you are going to go down the paths his exes took but you now have to reassure him and leave him to deal with it. You cannot mother him on this issue or he might become dangerously dependednt on you.

Does any of this help?

Sugarplum

I like your name and u talk like one.

First of all,,  what was your husband's past like,  as in has he been hurt before or being cheated on. What kind of friends does he keep. What are their coconversations like? What are the marital status's of his friends? what are their views on cheaters and heartbreakers? What kind of girlfriends do you keep? How much of the convo btwn u and your girlfriends do u tell him about? Have any of your friends being unfaithful to their partners that he knows about?

ask yourself this questions before u approach him because personally I think this is either psychological of a result of immense peer pressure. For your sake I hope its not both. its not enough that he's insecure, its deeper than that.

You will have to tenderly recondition his mentality to understand that there are different kinds of women out there are you don't belong to the heartless ones. You also need to understand that this is a problem that is coming from within himself and he will have to acknowledge that he has a problem first (which u will need to help him get to) and decide to deal with (which he will need some help as well)

Does any of it help?

by bush rat I mean bush rat! nka ne kwu nonsense bu bushrat. Ndi Hausa bu enyim. u understand? They are my people. but dis kind talk wey Sly dey talk na absolute nonsense. Which qualifies him as BUSHRAT!

@Hazel-eyed

I be naija babe and i dont tolerate bushrats. u no wat i mean,

You ARE A GOAT!!!! how dare u call yourself pastor and talk about sex so loosely. ANUOFIA!!!!! Even animal get sense pass you. If this na how u wan make name 4 ya sef ,  your head no correct. your head like pangolo!!!!! stupendous intete!!!!!! E be like say u miss road jam nairaland. Well for your information u beta fix up fast or your neighbouring cockroaches will eat u up. AFARIKONDO!!!!

pounded yam and egusi soup with bitterleaf. pokoto and round about and then wash it down with Palmwine. then a desert of Peppersoup with the longest and Juiciest opkoroko with efuru yam and dried scrumptious dried fish.

I am in support as well. If there is a way to pay directly to his school then I am willing to help out.

where can I find men like u $$Rhino?

pastor sly,  anuofia!!!!! ewu!!!!!

Pastor of what,  ?? I Feel to this you but I think not; incase u start crying!!! Because u be pastor no mean say u no dey nack woman. i hear say na una worse pass.

@aisha2

who's da question directed at?

newly single and loving it at da mo.

@OlowoTee

innit tho!!!! they are all saying yes they will but I think half of them MIA knowing what men are like.

I love her shape. I almost got that shape and I think its da african ting. Damn right. especially with a bum!!!!!

The bible says the man shall leave his Father and Mother and cling to his wife. Emphasis on leave and cling. If my husband does not understand that then there must be something wrong.

I have no problem with him having a relationship with his ma but he needs to understand that with time I will become the woman in all levels and respects in his life and he should not fight that. or it could look like I am just a Bleep body with no friendship watsoeva becos he gets that from his ma.

I might kill anyone who hurts my ma or makes her cry.

congrats Ani4life!!!!!!

@pisces20

It makes a lot of diff my dear. It determines if your man has ball to stand by your side fro better or for WORSE!!!! The same way its for ladies ,  if they can stand by their man when financial trouble starts. Our own is pain their own is ego. Do u understand it now?

My Baby must be there when I am giving him his baby. Last time I checked He was there when we were making da baby innit?! If I scream obscenities then its all part of the process. It will be out of love. LOL!!!

I am looking forward to slapping him whilst I am labour. lol!!! that will be absolutely fantastic. After all the nonsense men do it will feel good to beat them up under the pretense of labour. ladies what u think?

@Configur

of course it is

@ nana

y laff? wat part was funny?

am missing my stupid ex. i miss the love we shared, the way he touched me, the way he kissed me, the way he stradled and rocked me when am in pain, the way he looked at me,  the way he talked to me, the way he fought for me. i miss our quiet moments and play fights. i miss looking at him, i miss knowing he will always be there come rain or high tide, i miss loving him with all the strength thats in my heart and soul. i miss him.

a guy that can kiss has passion and knows how to connect with a girl. Why do you think prostitutes dont kiss?

U can have random sex but a kiss involves every part of your body including the very depths of your heart and possibly soul (in some instances).

For me,, a kiss is very important. Its a very silent but effective way to communicate you feelings to the one your planting it on.

My people dey talk say 'person way too dey ask question no dey miss road' ,   but u no what? , in this sitution it does not apply to you. You need help!!! from when you are considering it enough to ask if you should go ahead ,  hhhmmmmm ,  u need serious Mountain of Fire Deliverance.

MAKE THEM NACK YA HEAD FOR GROUND WELL WELL,  your head go correct with immediate effect.

ANUOFIA!!!!! (long hisssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss)

@Chidi-O

seeing as your answer came in one word then I take it to mean that you subconsciously agree with me. Thank you.