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Count yourself lucky ,  He clearly had other agendas. U love him but he never loved you. U were blinded to sleep with him and gave him something so precious. Well at least he did not stay with u and reduce u to a whimpering sobbing empty broken hearted creature. So yes u are lucky 

Mind u,  When he comes back have the sense to say NO. And guard your ,  With the wall of china 

Interesting, But I agree only 5% has been given ,

Thanks a lot you guys, i love the different perspectives you have brought.

Miss Ife - our stories are surprisingly similar. very very similar infact.

I understand that friends can be for a season and some for a lifetime , i guess i was hoping this one would be for a lifetime and that is what i am struggling with.

jennykadry:
NH you need to find out what she's been trying to tell you about your husband.

Honestly i don't think i wanna know what she really thinks of my husband or what she really wanted to tell, me. The gist of it is that she does not like my husband and I sincerely think this is not about any hidden shenanigans. if he was a boyfriend then maybe i would wanna know but things are different now, (maybe that is the problem, )

stillwater:
I don't think having friends is really that important.

I really believe having friends while married is very important. I think it keeps you sane. they may not be very close friends but it should be like a breath of fresh air.

what is soooo annoying is that i am starting to question our friendship! I think I really need to let go

hahahahahahahahaahhahahahahahaaaa, school fight! next thing na cutlass lol!

How is your friend doing? hope well,

@topic

i don't think its a problem but if your SO has an issue with it then she takes priority. do what is best for your relationship,

heheheheheheheheheheheheheheeeee, my skin is itching but ,

[quote author=Mynd_44 link=topic=693721.msg8545645#msg8545645 date=1308437514]My girl is jealous of my DOG apparently they have the same brain size but my DOG has more class[/quote]

toyemz:
^^^^
that says a lot about you too
dont you think?
shame

almost peeeeed laughing heheheheheheheheheeeee

@topic
Jealousy is not a good thing. Protecting your own is however a very different thing,

Your friend has refused to take panadol so you decide to overdose yourself

Good things come to those who wait. Let the babe enjoy herself joh, you self need to relax

Big2bore:
wot i will advics you to do, is to try and get a nigeria friend, male or femel, ask some questions on dis issues and let see what happens.

this might come back and bite me in the ass but , hehehehehehehehehehehehehe

@ PureOhio

Nigerians really are friendly people. It may have more to do with personal characteristics rather than a general attribute within a particular race.

Na Wa!

That you had to shout at her in front of your friends is not enough you had to come on here to embarrass yourself too?

No wonder she could not tell you she could not cook bitterleaf soup. She so afraid of you. Not a healthy thing for a relationship.

You should be more grateful that she attempted at all rather than dwelling on the fact that she messed the soup up!

Or na the money wey you give am go buy ingredients dey pain you?

mydreamz:
Some mothers are not worth the love, but that doesn't mean when they need our help and we have the capacity to help we shouldnt.
Though it hard to forgive, but its a better option than bitterness.

one of the points i was trying to make,

honeric01:
@NaJa HaJe

  Yes, mothers deserve love but NOT every mother.

Siena:

There are good mothers, and extremely bad ones too. A bad, unrepentant mother does not deserve the love of her child, and let's leave quotations from the Bible out of this.

I personally don't think,  in all seriousness,  that anyone deserves more or less love than the next person.

As i had previously pointed out, external people may decide a mother needs to be served some justice however great or small but the child in question does not have the right to deny his/her mother love. 

How the child chooses to love or show love depends on how far they can go.

The flipside is if the child is absolutely abominable should the parent deny the child love? There are millions of debate on parents disowing their errant and evil children and majority of people still say 'that is your child, so no matter what you have to love'

I sympathise with her Jenny. I really do. i dont like to compare stituations as each case of 'abuse' is always unique to the people involved. For your girl in question; the situation was appalling indeed. However i still stand by my opinion to love your mother.

Yes, some mothers need to be [b]stoned [/b]to death! [b]Flayed alive [/b]and left to rot. - this is something other people can say about a mother but not something a child should say about his/her mother.

I dont have many regrets in my life but i do regret ever telling my mum i hate her. Your mother is your mother. simple as that. Its in the bible; Love your father and mother. That commandment was given with no conditions. This was what made it easy to patch things up with my own mum.

There are some mother child relationships where the bounderies need to be wider to protect yourself from being continually hurt but this does not give you good reason to deny your mother love. One can love from a distance.

It is very hard to forgive and forget. But from experience ,  it is completely rewarding. Bear in mind the person you hold so much ill feelings for may not know the true extent of your pain and may never even fully understand even if there was an attempt to explain.

@Jenny

so are you saying the mother may not deserve love as a result? I really dont think the mother abandoned her child. Honestly. It is a tough way to bring up her child, granted, but it could be her way of preparing the child for the big bad world. She could have had her reasons. Maybe the child in question was becoming wayward and needed to reigned in. It is all tough love.

J12:
All these "she carried you for nine months" trash. Doesn't it get old?

no it does not! millions of women have done it but it still does not make it un-special.


reading the original post again - i really think this is a childish rant. if the mom did it once then OMG she abandoned the child, I personally think there is more to the story than is let on,

well my husband aint stopping me from having friends, that would be a different ball game.

Nah, she's not dead. The relationship is dead or more or less fizzled out and it hurts like hell. We had a huge argument which i thought we had resolved but then she goes and drops this bombshell on me. She had issues with my husband and am not sure what it is exactly. she beat around the bush a lot and it really got my back up.

Older women keep saying its ok to be married without friends but i am really pissed at that comment! I strongly believe married women need thier friends,

@poster

so after 8 years you realise you 'think' you love your fiance?

the evil that men do live after them ooooo!!!!!  Bear that in mind o!

I bet all his 'raining' clouded your judgments fo a while no?

I really feel like blasting this guy! (are you sure it is not you OP ?)

Guys go around talking about how they want that perfect wife material - they find one but then proceed to mess her up. Hia!

No he should not marry her. He would make her life miserable

WOW , reading this made me feel really old!!!!

If she ever took the ring and wore it then NO.

Actually , am not sure i will take it all, re-sell it and get me something that reflects me.

hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha ,  hehehehehehehehehehehehehehehe !!!!!!!! OMG!

You sound so silly it's unreal

People like you don't need advice. Mba! You need to be flogged and paraded on the streets with a Love Machine. on your head.

You thought you would get away with it eh? God don catch you! The best addition to this story would be that you caught some disease. preferably around your mouth. 

My heart goes out to you bride. If you could do this so close to your wedding day (when plans and preparations are in full swing) you don't deserve her at all!!!!

Pounded yam - Naija missile

Food - Things sentenced to death

Love - an emotion that certifies you as idiotic, stupid and a pushover

Oh for goodness sake!!!! all these small pikin dem sef!

the mother carried the child for nine months and catered till 15! Some mothers leave/abandon thier children immediatly after birth, or dont bother much with them once they pass the 'handbag' stage.

Maybe she wanted the child to become more independent which is not a bad thing at all.

This child in question has no right to deny his/her mother love. na wa!

@JennyKadry

Madam how far? it has been a while, I bet you fantabulous!

I do that as often as i can!

There is no bacteria transfer, the child came from me

To my married sisters , How has married life affected your 'girl friends'?

I strongly believe that every married woman should have girlfriends, I just lost a friend and am having a difficult time accepting it. Am sure there's someone out there who has lost a friend in marriage - am curious to hear details and advice.

biola44:
Tristan and Isolde

Nice one

sparta:
U go soon die

bluntly put!

IFELEKE:
Leave her alone and face your studies.

Sounds like my mum

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