₦airaland Forum

I believe girls cheat as a sign that there is something wrong in the relationship, there is something missing and they are trying to fill it, but this is not an excuse because cheating is a cowards way out of being an adult. Most women who cheat are to scared to sit down and talk with there mate. Also, most cheats have the grass is greener on the other side mentality, but they are to scared to committ to the other dude and wants to keep you around as a back up choice just in case it doesnt work, its really stupid.

A guy must have trust, honor and compassion. If he shows this to a women, knows when to stand up and fight or when to just listen, if he makes you feel like you are the only possible choice for him (even though he sees you for the good and the bad). If a man can truely touch a women without any expectations on getting anything back. A women would go to any lengths the light that reflects off this man or do almost anything. Guys remember women are easy creatures when it comes down to it, and men you have one simple advantage the world is forgetting what it is like to raise true men and women, so if you are truely a man like your parents raised you to be then you should be able to get almost any women because you are the rare gold that we search so hard to find, and I totally agree we are unforgetable because of are essence and the fact that god indeed knew what he was doing when he created man and women , we are wired to remember the great ones.

I am feeling every word you say, its crazy, and hard out here on the streets

becareful you could be safe guy, that is the guy that a girl wont go for but can get used to make ya feel better in time of need.

Hands down confidence will always make a girl think twice but don't be arrogant there is a difference, confidence laid back and chill works for me.

Ouch, not much to do except spring for a room next time. Not your problem to fix or even say anything about. That is her family so she has to talk to her brother and hopefully he can keep it on the down low. Yet, just in case don't go over for a minute and see how it plays out.

Ok if your read the first part of my post, Have a Niger guy who been dating for 5 months and doesn't want to show me where he lives. From the previous post I have decided I should definitely have a chat and talk with him about the situation. If nothing gets resolve he will have to exit stage left. Now my question is How do I talk with him without sounding like a nagging/crazy person. Just so you know up front I am very chill hardly ever yell. However, this topic of visiting someone house, well lets just say it sounds crazy when I say it out loud. Who has has a conversation about visiting someones house? So any advice would be appreciated.

also reply to the fling comment: Seems like you are a fling
I would totally understand if I got that vibe except duded was quick to say we are in a relationship: He pushed off the gate. Yet you may be right he could just be saying that and I am infact just a fling.

I don't want to resort to following him, got way to much on my plate to be stalking someone. I got school, work, all the above. If I need to go crazy to find out about a guy then I just let the guy go its not worth breaking my cool. I really just want a way to talk to him about it, every time it comes up its like some of the people that post , why is the house a big deal? Really when it comes down to it I didn't want to possibly break up with someone because of something that may be rooted in there culture. But from what it seems like this is not normal behavior in Nigerian culture. Now I post this question to you guys , best way to talk to him with out sounding like a nagging crazy person , because this is something I have never had to even bring up with a guy. Never came accross this issue.

nope all sampling has been done in hotel (nice hotels not that it makes much difference) but he wouldn't even come in my house when invited in,

Yahh but check this out, I know he lives close to his work but don't have and address to check it out. I have poped up at his job he loved that. He is just werid he thinks that all of his relationships end because he takes them to the house to fast and then he has antisocial behavior (computer related job) that causes girls to stress and get mad and dump him, (bogus I don't know). So pop up is defenitely out

Only way to be sure is to go over and check out , So advice guys on how to confront this problem. If it is a lady she can have him, How should I bring this up to him

He makes a lot of money so I know its not embarrassment,

Not to be perverted or anything, but she could always use other things to go a second round without going a second round, be creative even show her different techniques she can use that would be adequete , hope yall get my hint

Because people cant compromise and find common ground.

I am not even talking about visiting his parents, he is in his upper 30's live on his own with a a roommate , I just talking about going over to your house and watching a movie or something. His parents are in Africa .

better my guy won't add me to facebook because he says its for family only, I would gladly take complicated, Tell her the truths you put that status up for a reason. If the realtionship is complicated this is the perfect time to sit and talk it out with her and tell her why, good luck

I am an African American sister dating a Niger man. He is very smart, sweet, adventurous and funny. However, there are weird things coming up that is getting very hard to ignore. I have been dating him for five months now and I haven't seen his place of residents. When confronted on this he says he is not ready for that step. However, when I have invited to see my house its the same thing he gets very uncomfortable. I am not sure if I am running into a cultural issue or this is just we rid period no matter what culture you are from. Also, he seems unnecessarily worried about things. For example, he is worried about me wanting to get married (its only been five months what person wants to get married so fast). I have never even brought the subject up or hinted to the relationship going there. These things are stressing out the relationship and the chill guy that started is slowly turning into a secretive weirdo, help am I stressing over cultural issues that will work itself out , or should I dump and run and not be stupid because if he was a man from the states I would have been LONG gone.