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kponkedenge:
Na so wuna go de form perfect husband online meanwhile na una type go use work kee your wife.

Lol… for your information, I live alone, and I’ve been living alone for years. So who exactly do you think handles the house chores? If I can keep my space clean and organized as a single guy, why shouldn’t I continue the same habit in marriage?

Besides, I work remotely, which means I’m practically home 24/7. So if my wife has a 9–5 or an on-site job, it only makes sense that I handle most of the chores instead of waiting for her to come back tired and still start cleaning, doing school run, going to the supermarket to get basic supplies, my laundry...etc.

This isn’t about forming or trying to impress anyone. It’s simply my reality. I’ve always been responsible for myself, and I don’t see why marriage should suddenly change that.

You really need to understand that marriage is teamwork.

Honestly, you’re not doing anything wrong. Marriage isn’t a competition of who does what. It’s a partnership. If your wife’s job keeps her busy and someone has to handle things at home, then you’re just stepping up to fill that gap, and that’s perfectly fine.

Doing house chores doesn’t make you less of a man; it shows maturity and responsibility. Many men in your position would rather argue or abandon those duties, but you chose peace and understanding. That’s commendable.

However, I also think you should find a balance. If it’s starting to affect you mentally or emotionally, talk to your wife again. Maybe both of you can agree on getting a part-time helper or finding another way to share the load. You’re human, and you deserve rest too.

Marriage works best when both partners are comfortable. Not when one person carries all the weight.

pocohantas:
Both of us haven't seen a Standard Chartered bank in years. All my time as a banker, it was the only bank I didn't know someone in. They are that coded. Why bother because they stated the obvious? They never wanted us and we know this.

As for rich people. Na them still dey price and underpay but I no dey too reason this matter again. There is a restaurant that trended for something similar. People dragged them and they dropped their standard. E no reach 1month, videos circulated of some young girls doing TikTok video in the center of the restaurant. They even went inside toilet to change clothe and come back. We all had to apologise to the restaurant😂. I cannot blame these businesses sometimes. Thankfully they have told us officially. Make we avoid them

I couldn't agree more. At least now we know where we stand.

When I was in secondary fear couldn't even allow me talk back to a teacher. Yet this one's are killing theirs. Na wa o

VillagePipu:
Empty barrels make the most noise. How much do you have in your GTB and Access kobo accounts that you're making noise.

The fact that you can't afford something doesn't make it bad. Stick to your GTB and Access but don't rubbish Standard chartered because you can't afford to bank there.
I have accounts in both of them too. I have corporate and dorm accounts in GTB.

Gtbank and Access are not in the league of Standard Chartered. Don't forget SCB Nigeria is subsidiary of SCB Global.

As at last year, Standard Chartered had a global asset of $848 Billion.
Nigeria's total economy which includes all banks plus the CBN was worth $478 billion in 2022 and was estimated to be around $364 billion in 2023.

Standard chartered is spending $1.5B in marketing cost aimed at growing it's affluent banking segment. Just a small business line o.

Bro, just stick to what you know.

Lol… empty barrels, really? That’s cute. 😂

My guy, calm down. Nobody is attacking your beloved Standard Chartered. You’re the one acting like their PR officer on commission.

You keep throwing figures around like you’re reading their financial report to shareholders. $848 billion asset, $1.5B marketing spend. Bro, relax. None of that changes the fact that they have fewer branches in Nigeria than some fast-food chains.

I’m not rubbishing them. I only said their policy doesn’t make sense for a country where the average person is hustling to make 200k monthly. Whether they’re a global brand or a Martian bank doesn’t change that fact.

And for the record, I’m perfectly fine with my GTB and Access kobo accounts. They’ve served me well, my transactions go through, and I don’t need to keep 7.5m parked somewhere just to prove class.

The funny thing is, people like you defend these brands more passionately than their own employees.

At the end of the day, let’s be honest 99% of Nigerians don’t care about Standard Chartered because 99% of Nigerians have never needed them. It’s not pride, it’s just the truth.

So yes, I’ll “stick to what I know.”
Because at least what I know doesn’t require me to have Lagos rent money for 10 years sitting idle before they say good morning to me.

pocohantas:
Their target is not poor citizens. Jeez!
Must every service be for the poor? There are enough retail banks. Way more than the likes of Standard Chartered. Some are even in loss and struggling to get into Tier 1. Patronise those ones.

Nigerians probably started crowding their banks and elite customers that used to come in and go out in 5mins, began to stay on queue. Some might come inside just to shit and collect AC. That is not their target market.

They want to refocus on their core. HNIs and corporate entities.

Lol… calm down, Pocohantas. I'm not dragging Standard Chartered with you. 😅

We understand that not every bank is meant for the masses, and that’s fine. Every brand has its target market. But truth be told, once your business operates in Nigeria, you automatically become part of the general economic conversation.

If they say 7.5m minimum balance, people will naturally react. Not because they want to bank there, but because it’s simply out of touch with the reality of 95% of Nigerians.

It’s not about jealousy or poverty mentality; it’s just shock at how disconnected some policies are from the environment they operate in.

And lol @ people entering the bank to shit and collect AC. 😂

Let’s not act like the elites are angels either. Some of them will park Prado, enter the bank, and still price 10,000 service charge like okrika.

At the end of the day, they can do their niche banking. No wahala. But people are also free to talk about how ridiculous it sounds in a country where minimum wage is still 70k.

That’s not hate; that’s just reality. 🤷🏽‍♂️

pocohantas:
Not every bank is into RETAIL BANKING. If you like, let the country be poorer than South Sudan. Zenith bank was originally not into retail banking, na peer pressure make them start am. As for Standard Chartered, they have always been a niche bank. If their money was coming from poor Nigerians, they wouldn't be alive today because I can't point you to one of their branches for 5m.

Lol… I get your point, but you’re missing mine.

Nobody is saying every bank must do retail banking. But when you operate in a country where the majority of the citizens are struggling to make ends meet, and then you suddenly announce 7.5m minimum balance or we close your account, it’s only natural for people to talk.

Standard Chartered can decide to serve only billionaires and oil moguls, no wahala. But let’s not act like the policy is normal in a place where people are still budgeting garri and transport money.

And truth be told, if not for topics like this, half of us wouldn’t even remember that Standard Chartered still exists in Nigeria. Their branches are rarer than PHCN light during rain.

VillagePipu:
Standard Chartered isn't for people with your type of thinking. 7.5M is less than 6k USD.

Firstly, they don't approach random customers to open accounts, they provide banking services to MNCs and HNIs.

Go and find out how they performed excellently during the Meffy madness. Their customers had ready access to cash while others were stranded.

They are focusing on niche banking. If you don't deserve their services or you can't afford it, there are other options to choose from.

Always remember, the least paying customers are usually the most troublesome.

Lol… @ my type of thinking.
Do you even know how much I have sitting in my GTBank and Access USD account?

It’s funny how some of you rush to defend these banks like you’re on their payroll.

Honestly, I can count how many times I’ve seen a Standard Chartered branch in real life. I doubt if they’re even up to ten across all the places I’ve been. Their presence in Nigeria is almost like a unicorn sighting; you just hear about them, but you rarely ever see them.

And that’s fine, really. They can focus on their “high net-worth individuals” all they want. But it still doesn’t change the fact that Nigeria is a developing country, and the majority of people here don’t even earn anywhere close to that 7.5m minimum balance.

I already bank with stronger and more reliable institutions, and they’ve never failed me. So honestly, I don’t even care about Standard Chartered’s policies. Their decisions don’t affect me, because I barely even remember that they exist until threads like this pop up.

These people are really funny. Sometimes I think the people making decisions in Nigeria don’t actually live here. Maybe they’re just visiting us through Zoom.

How can a country where most people are earning less than 500k a month be talking about having 7.5 million naira minimum balance to keep your account active? Like are you for real.

Let’s even be honest; how many Nigerians have seen 7.5 million at once in their account before? Some people’s total life savings, business capital, and village land inheritance isn't even up to that.

At this rate, when you enter the banking hall, they might soon start checking your account balance before allowing you to sit on their chair or drink water from their dispenser.

No wonder people are running to OPAY and PalmPay like it’s Noah’s Ark. When you have sense, you adapt, but when you have greed, you lose customers. And trust Nigerians, once they see free transfers and zero balance, loyalty changes immediately.

But to be honest, 2026 no go funny at all. The economy is tightening like a new shoe. Food, rent, fuel, now even bank accounts want to join the suffering.

We really need to plan financially. Cut unnecessary expenses. Save where you can. Invest small, even if it’s in your local hustle. Because the way things are going, it's not looking funny anymore.

muyico:
I thought 💭🤔 they will arrest him

Arrest him for what exactly...saying the truth?

fergie001:
City 4
Liverpool 2

angelfrost dfrost kyase nazgul doomsday fuckingmallam45 lamasta wordson chikason22 wiseone28 kimo21 vicegivernor numerouno obidientnaija prinsam lamasta

I Believe that a draw would be better for everyone.

You know, when people talk about exploring dishes from different parts of Nigeria, I just smile. Because honestly, I’ve already tried almost everything from other regions. Soups, stews, snacks, even street foods.

From the East, I’ve had my fair share of Ofe Nsala, Afang, Oha, and Abacha.

From the West, I’ve tasted Amala, Ewedu, Ofada, and of course Jollof with attitude.

Even from the South-South, I’ve enjoyed Banga, Starch, and Fisherman Soup.

But when it comes to the North...I don’t even know where to start.

I don’t know their delicacies by name. I only hear things like Tuwo something and Miyan something, but I can’t tell what they actually look or taste like. How do I try food I can’t even identify?

prinsam30:
Hey guys it's about to get down, fergie kyase angelftost folake nazgul oya let's go oo

Our performance today wasn't bad. It shows that we're improving.

omooba969:
Another big test for the Red Devils 👹.

Daddy G.O Nazgul, wotz up?

I missed the game cos I had a function today. But at least we didn't loose.

If I had watched it we would have won.

pocohantas:
Oh well, this is one of those cases I hate to say experience is the best teacher.

Hmmm.

pocohantas:
Lodging in a hotel for newly weds gives them a little space to rest from all the wedding prep stress. If they go home, they might have to start fixing their meals or Nigerians will start coming to say congratulations. Sometimes there are visitors in their houses and it would take them up to a week to leave. No need going home to all that.

It is the same thing we do with new mums.
She is discharged by 9am and by 4pm, they are coming to her house to sing and pray.

If the new couple can afford it, I recommend.

They won’t even need to fix meals. There’ll be plenty of leftovers from the wedding. Half the time, food and drinks go surplus. That one shouldn’t be a problem.

As for people coming to say congratulations, common sense should tell anyone that by 7pm, it’s time to go home and allow the couple some privacy. No one needs to spend the night disturbing newlyweds.

For those visitors or family members staying over, it all depends on planning.
If they’re coming from outside the state, lodge them in a hotel for a couple of nights. If they’re within the state, make it clear ahead of time that they’ll need to leave within 48 hours so you can have quality time with your wife. Communication solves that.

And about the comparison with new mums. That one is totally different. A new mother actually needs help, care, and guidance from older women. But marriage? That’s not something you need assistance for. I doubt any couple needs an elderly couple hanging around to teach them what to do in bed. 😂

pocohantas:
How many couples do you think have energy to knack that night?

Exactly my point. Most don’t even have that strength after all the wedding stress. That’s why the comfort of your own home makes more sense. You can rest properly, no pressure, no hotel rules, no noise from the bar, customers or reception downstairs. Just peace.

Lalami3232:

These are some of the reasons:
1. Imagine say I go marry a Northern lady from sokoto, do you expect me to take her back home that very day after the stress?

You can always book a return trip, bro. Traditional marriages don’t take the whole day. You can even let the family know your schedule ahead of time. By 2–3pm you’re done, and by 4pm you’re already at the airport. 6pm max, you’re back in your state with your wife.

I’ve actually attended one in my village (in the East), and the groom came all the way from Owerri. After the traditional rites, he still left with his wife that same day. It’s just about planning.

Lalami3232:
2. Privacy: neighbors and numerous people go dey come knock door to greet/congratulate una, which is a sort of disturbance as at that time.

That one na if you dey live for face-me-I-face-you. 😂
If it’s a proper apartment or your own place, nobody go disturb you. Most people in standard estates barely even know each other , talk less of knocking for greetings.

Lalami3232:
3. Comfort: for good hotel, everything go dey provided for una. But if una dey house, una go dey so on una own which will be kind of stressful.

Let me gist you small. There’s no major difference between some hotel rooms and the self-con I stayed in during my university days. The only thing making it luxury is the AC and the bedsheet. 😂

When you say “everything is provided,” what exactly do you mean?

If it’s food, you’d still have to order and pay for it.
If it’s comfort, you’re limited to just that one room.

At home, I can stock my fridge, move around naked, cook breakfast in the kitchen, and chill in the parlour afterward. That’s comfort and freedom.

Lalami3232:
4. Trend: some people just dey wan do am because others are doing it.

I agree with you on this.

Lalami3232:
5. If you n, you suppose know say dem don carry her go hotel tire, so you need to appease her one last time by taking her to a hotel so that her kpekus can finally give a good farewell to the hotel bed and A.C. It's just like say you wan take me out to USA finally, I will have to go and meet my friend and spend quality time with them for the last time na. If not for non-virgins, hotel businesses for no get gain, hence the reason you have to take her there to appease the hotel room.


What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news of DNA test

Lol

duduade:
Just say you are stingy Bro

Na the money dey do you
Stop using the amount spent to justify how you think people are wasting funds just to go stay in hotels/resorts/relaxation spots to enjoy their special marital consumation

Lol...you called me stingy because I said I don’t see the need for newlyweds to book hotels for their honeymoon. Like, how does that even relate? 😅

I’m just looking at it from a different angle. I’ve lodged in hotels outside my state of residence several times. Even the fancy ones, and honestly, I feel way more comfortable in my own house than in most of them.

I’ve stayed in rooms that cost up to 50k per night, and still, it’s just one limited space. You can’t move around freely unless you’re heading to the bar or lobby. For me, that’s boring. At home, I have space. I can walk from my room to the kitchen, to the palour and even the balcony without restrictions.

Me and my spouse can move around naked, make breakfast together, even have a little fun before returning to the bedroom. 😏 That’s freedom. You won’t get that in any hotel, no matter how expensive it is.

Let me even gist you. I once lodged in a hotel in Abeokuta for 30k during a burial trip. By midnight, they switched off the generator to manage fuel. Imagine being on your honeymoon and they switch off your light while you’re trying to vibe with your partner?

At home, I can run my gen till morning, play my music, eat when I want, and enjoy my own space. That’s real privacy.

So no, it’s not about being stingy. It’s about comfort and control. Some people just love the hotel aesthetic, and that’s fine. But for me, nothing beats the peace of enjoying your own space with your spouse after the wedding.

Something has been on my mind lately. Why do most newly married couples prefer to check into hotels immediately after the wedding for their honeymoon?

You’ll see a couple that just got married rushing to one expensive resort or hotel room that same night as if their house suddenly became uninhabitable. I understand that it’s meant to be special, but shouldn’t your home be the most comfortable place to start your marriage?

Personally, I don’t think I’ll feel at ease consummating my marriage in a hotel. There’s something about those places that just doesn’t feel personal. You’re surrounded by walls that have seen hundreds of other couples before you, beds that have witnessed all kinds of stories, and staff knocking at your door at random hours.

Meanwhile, your own home...the place you built or rented, carries your scent, your privacy, and your peace of mind. No distractions, no check-out times, no fake luxury. Just two people learning to be one under their own roof.

Of course, I understand that some people see it as a way to spice things up or escape family interference right after the wedding. But still, I feel like the real honeymoon should be in your own space. The one you’ll wake up in every morning as husband and wife.

I’d rather make memories in my home than in a hotel that costs 150k per night just to say we did honeymoon.

What do you all think? Is it just a trend, or is there something deeper about newlyweds choosing hotels over home for their first night together?

How can the same government that pardons and reintegrates hundreds of self-confessed Boko Haram fighters; people who have destroyed lives and displaced families, turn around and keep Nnamdi Kanu behind bars as though he’s the biggest threat to the nation?

Let’s be clear. This isn’t about supporting lawlessness or separatism. It’s about fairness. If terrorists who took up arms against the state can be forgiven, given skill-training, and settled back into society, then why is someone whose crime is mostly political speech still being held in detention?

We can’t claim to be running a democracy when justice is applied selectively. It’s either everyone faces the law equally, or we stop pretending that justice exists at all. Selective justice breeds resentment, deepens divisions, and destroys the very trust citizens should have in their government.

You can’t say unity is your goal and still treat one region’s grievances with bullets and another’s with handshakes.

shegzhkn:
What the hell does that even mean

He doesn't want the US to blacklist him for visa application. He knows that Nigeria isn't safe and APC wouldn't remain in power for ever. So he's playing safe.

Has anyone noticed that this Champions league is boring because Manutd isn't participating in it?


As for tonight's game, I see Madrid defeating Liverpool.

Has anyone noticed that this Champions league is boring because Manutd isn't participating in it?

Lol ordinary Telegram bot wey I build with n8n and some cheap tools dey speak Pidgin fluently 😂.

So imagine wetin Meta, with all their billions, massive servers, and worldwide AI network, go fit do.

I'm shocked that you're surprised.

Victory662:
Na who put Nigeria before North Korea What sort of a joke is that na

APC agents compiled that list I'm very sure of that.

Lol. He wants them to be selling water in carts. What kind of empowerment is this? What kind of skill are the going to acquire from selling water?

Honestly, this country is cursed with bad leaders.