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@Dolly... I so much love your post above... You just break it down for her.. That's what most "feminist" fail to comprehend, the man is the head / leader of the family doesn't mean he should/will act like a dictator.. Your example about the course / class rep is wonderful... I pray you get (if unmarried) a wonderful husband that will appreciate you and no other side chick and on a last note, I hope you will practice what you just preach?.

[quote author=Dolly-Parton]Am not comparing humanbeings to animal.
Am saying hierachy is a normal thing in the society.
Humanbeings are guilty of the same offence.We tend to put everything around us into hierachy.
Why call the bible sexist because the husband/man has been placed as the head of the family.
Some1 has to be in authority. We know an organization cannot function well without a leader.[/quote]I had to quote you again, someone might have missed reading it.

Happy Independence celebration to the U.S

xynerise: Lobster.

Shrimp.

They should just ask for the camp to be seperated along religious line. Camp for Christains and another camp for Muslims

Caracta: Why are you like this? Did you read other people's comments? Did they throw shots? See guy, nobody is fighting with you here. I read your comments on other threads and i wonder why you are usually harsh and spoiling for a fight.

Biko, take it easy. This is a thread, not a battle ground. This thread is not just about me, don't take it personal. No vex, you hear?

Pls let peace reign. Let's learn to control our emotions and temper, argue without cursing, you can throw in a snide remark.

Smartie gurl: I react badly to number 5. Please what does number 3 mean?

Sugar, honey, nwa baby, sweet babe, etc when it's the first time to communicate to each other... Most girls don't like it, makes them feel as if he's syking them (which he's probably doing)

You forgot to add " The man is the head of the house"... Many feminist hate this, especially Aunty Kulyie.

slimyem: A lot of Nigerian men think like you.
Some might even throw it in your face later that "Shebi you were the one that asked for my hand in marriage"?

Even the ladies say such words to their husbands when they argue.

THIS IS SERIOUS... ARE THEY REALLY PROGRESSIVES OR WHAT?.

Where are those guys that are fond of shouting "revolution" here?.

FUNNY sh*t

Ijebu babes are in abundance here o

No

Some men are so dangerously cunning ... Thank God for her maturity in accepting the other wife in

It's stories like this that gives some guys the heebeedeegeebees about marriage.

coca cola bottle shape

varrd4real: izzy hommes, dat 1's possessive n got a temper
do yor thing, don't love up but be affectionate
but rememba...u da 1 wit da balls

@bolded, with what he wrote about her, you are very correct with what you wrote... She's quick to anger, and very possesive, quick in assuming things but she's also quick to calm herself down.

Great... Hope he really meant what he said..

alutacontinua:

I meant that thread..

That's the Nigerian Coat of Arm alright..

Sanboy25: So her family/kids didn't try to call her or visited her for more than five years ?!
I'm going to call my Mom right away

Some parents neglected and abused their kids both physically and psychologically so when the kids are opportuned to leave, they do so and never looked back.. It's good for parents to see their kids as a blessing both in the present and in time to come.

Since you are having this doubt in your mind, I will quote a passage of Proverbs from the Bible for you "my son, if sinners entice you, consent thou not".... If you don't want to go, just find an excuse.

alutacontinua: nbright, I MISSED YOU!
How ya side

Hello aluta... Longest time... By the Grace of God, I'm fine.. Hope you guys are still going strong?..

@Idowu, I used a phone to create this thread.. Sorry for the inconvenience...

@Andy, she was molested in Nigeria on her way to school not in Spain (I don't know if she was molested when in Spain)

P.S: And to think the Spainards molested us yet again in soccer.

Raped in Nigeria, maltreated in Spain
•He impregnated me at 15, in JSS2,
attempted to kill me in Spain
From CHIDI NNADI, Enugu
A young Nigerian mother, Martha Happy, has
narrated how she narrowly escaped death
in the hands of a 70-year-old Spaniard who
allegedly raped and impregnated her in
Nigeria at the age of 15, and later attempted
to kill her in Spain.
Happy’s sad story was told barely three
weeks after Nigeria’s Ambassador to Spain,
Mrs Bianca Ojukwu, raised the alarm that
many Nigerians, particularly women, die in
the desert in their desperation to cross over
to Spain.
The young woman from Edo State, who
returned to Nigeria in April this year, told
Sunday Sun that but for sheer luck, she
would have been strangled to death by the
elderly Spanish father of her son in far away
Spain, like a fellow Nigerian, 29-year-old Miss
Ada Maureen Otuya, allegedly killed by her
martial artist lover in that country.
How we met

Narrating her harrowing experience, Happy said she had met the Spaniard (names withheld), who worked for the Liberian Airways as an engineer, in 2009, while he lodged in Topsy Hotel, located near her school, St Paul’s, Ketu in Lagos.

She said that the Spaniard usually greeted her on her way to school, and on one of such days, he sent her to buy sachet water for him.

As Happy who was in JSS3 at the time, went for the water, the man returned to his hotel room and when she returned and made to drop the water with the hotel’s gatemen, they told her to take it to his room. The gatemen had reasoned that they would not risk being blamed if the white man came to any hurt after drinking the water.

Old man turns rapist

Happy who said she did not suspect anything, accepted to take the water to the Spaniard’s room and he raped her.

“He saw me each time I passed the hotel to school and he would greet me because my school was opposite the hotel. I thought he was a responsible man and old enough to be my grandfather at about 70 years. I felt he had no strength to go out to get the water; so I helped him. I did not know that he would rape me. When he held me, I shouted but he had locked the doors and nobody heard me shouting,” she said.

Happy told Sunday Sun that her parents were not aware of what happened to her because she lived with her sisters in Lagos.

She recalled that the Spaniard fled to Spain when she told him that she was pregnant, but returned after three months and relocated her to a hotel where she stayed for one month before he rented a room-and-parlour apartment for her.

She said the man took care of her until she gave birth to a baby boy on April 25, 2010.

Journey to Spain

Thereafter, he started processing travel papers for her and their baby, Anthonio, but the Spanish Embassy allegedly appeared reluctant to issue her travel documents.

“He wanted to take me and my baby to Spain. He got all the papers for my son, but mine was difficult. The Embassy denied me three times. They demanded to see my parents because I was too young then. But I obtained my international passport in Abeokuta and got three months visa in February this year. So, on February 18, I travelled with him and our son Anthonio,” she said.

Terrible times abroad

Happy stated that shortly before they boarded the plane to Spain, the man’s attitude towards her changed and things got worse for her when they arrived in Spain.

“When we got to Spain, he would take the baby out alone and at a time, I followed him anywhere he took the baby and he did not like that. He later blocked my phone and I could not talk to anybody, including my father,” she said, adding that when she asked him why he blocked her line, he threatened to kill her with a knife.

Happy told Sunday Sun that the man abused and beat her each time she wanted to return to Nigeria until a lady who usually dropped newspapers in their house noticed what was happening and called in the police who arrested and charged him to court in March.

Consequently, she was taken to a home for abused women in that country where people advised her to go to the Nigerian Embassy, that helped to bring her back home in April.

Alleged killing of a Nigerian

The young mother also told the story of a fellow Nigerian she identified as Ada Maureen Otuya, who was allegedly killed recently in Spain, by her Spanish lover.

It was reliably gathered that Miss Otuya, who hailed from Agbor in Delta State, arrived in Spain from Morocco in September 2009, and was undocumented, thereby living in the country illegally.

The source also said that she was picked up by a Spanish martial artist, who took her to his gymnasium in Bilbao, Spain, where he allegedly tried to strangle her but for the timely intervention of neighbours who alerted the police.

The Spanish police were said to have taken her to hospital where she died on June 5, prompting the Nigerian community in Spain to stage series of demonstrations in Bilbao.

The suspect was arrested, charged to court and remanded in prison custody.

The Nigerian Embassy in Spain was said to have briefed a lawyer to handle the matter because the deceased had no relations in Spain.

Checks also revealed that when contacted by the Embassy, her family members in Nigeria expressed desire to have her remains brought back home.

Thanking the Nigerian Embassy in Spain for accepting her and bringing her back home, Happy advised other Nigerian girls still in Spain that, “no matter the situation in Nigeria”, they should come back home.

She added: “There are lots of better things they can do at home here than prostitution. They should have hope because prostitution is not a good way of life. There are so many things one can do here to earn a decent living.”

Happy was unhappy that she hurt her parents because of what happened to her, but added, “I am happy to be back.”

Father’s demand for son

About her Spanish husband, she said: “My husband sent a message that I should bring Anthonio back; that he was coming to take the child, but I told him that he would never see Anthonio again.”

She appealed to public-spirited individuals and the government for financial assistance to enable her start a business and cater for herself and her son.

When contacted on phone, Ambassador Ojukwu said that many cases similar to what befell the late Ada and Happy confront her mission daily, adding that diplomatic reasons had placed big hurdles in the way to handle such cases.

Ambassador Ojukwu reiterated her advice to young girls who are not professionals and have not completed their education, to think twice before going abroad to work, pointing out that most of them end up as sex workers.

She said that her mission would always assist Nigerian girls and others in Spain who experience difficulty in returning home.

Source

http://sunnewsonline.com/new/cover/young-nigerian-mothers-sad-experience-in-the-hands-of-70-year-old-spanish-lover/

where's kulyie?... I need to "read" her view on this topic

Both the woman and the attackers are wrong.. They violated the laws of the land (France).

booqee: islam-a-BAD. *covers mouth*

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ffo: WHY ARE THE FIRST 4 POSTS HIDDEN??

MAYB THEY WERE SAYING FIRST TO COMMENT.

No they weren't... Rule 17 is still very much encoded in the gene of Nairaland programming... Though it's not mentioned but kindly check the rules you will noticed we have 16, there is no 17 but an 18 so rule 17 is still alive, Seun didn't kill it, he just hid it.

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