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Gobdddd:
Strickly for the married

Good evening tweeps, my marriage is jerking. Needs a quick solution.

We married 9years ago.
She was a virgin in my Church. I am a pastor too.
Though we were not in the same state.
She was the first woman I had sex with after our marriage.
But I noticed that she has no interest in anything called sex.
She will not deny me sex, but I do not enjoy it because she's not enthused to it.

I have tried all I could to make her love sex, but all to no avail.
If you do not demand for sex, she'll not show any interest, even if you stay one year without talking about it.
And I am 100% sure that she's not seeing any man anywhere.

I took my time to educate her from the little research I made, but she wouldn't pay any serious attention.

I querried myself as to wether I do not satisfy her, on another point, sometimes, I'd last for 10-15 mins which, according to research is not bad.

Last night, I got angry at her attitude towards it. To me, she just try to open legs for me to satisfy myself and get down.

This has affected my psyche towards her.
But apart from her low libido, she is a very wonderful and good woman to be with.

So, last night, I opened up to her once again and told her she's making me to think twice and that am not happy at her actions.

Since today, our relationship has dwindled.

Alot of things have been going through my mind.

I don't know what to do. Am confused.
I can't go to another woman and leave such a good woman that have given me 4 kids.

Pls is there any known solution?

I need help.

TalkTalkTwins:
Were you pressing his pimples?

begoniaa:
There is NOTHING in this world, absolutely nothing that can be compared to men's hypocrisy and double standards. Especially the ones on NL. So if I actually left my boyfriend of 3 years, for his friend, or a guy I met through him, to be getting married to the new guy -- will y'all be here celebrating me and telling him I found something in the new guy that he (my bf) doesn't have?? Will you be calling him a brhoe that cannot be husbanded??

And when the Dregstan or whatever he calls himself said girlfriends are masquerading hoes, about 2,500 of you liked it with over 300 shares and one DrayZee was dragging me oh. Because a girl was feeling conflicted over two guys: her bobo and a new guy and there was no sort of words you didn't call her. Now you're actually here justifying this again? Nah. I refused to be shocked, but I truly marvel at who do una this kain thing. It's not ordinary eyes.

Girl leave boy...women are hoes and aren't loyal.
Boy leaves girl...well, that is life. He probably doesn't see what he wants in you. Men are the prize.
Girl in a relationship is having feelings for another guy...women? They are the most confused beings in the world.
I am a lady that doesn't put all my eggs in one basket...and the men dating you thinks they've found a valuable thing in you? Spits. Your toto must be wide.
Woman divorces a cheat...these vaginarians are gold diggers.
Shameless man comes to drag a fellow doctor in the lowest manner possible...what women will cause ehn. Fear them.
Randy lecturer fired for soliciting for sex...another man destroyed by a pussy. But if those girls were intelligent, why are they going to meet lecturers?
Man slept with maid...can you see? Can you see what happens when you raise your daughters to be slay chicks that can't cook?
Man cheats on career woman...well, something must have pushed him out. When she's too busy going all over the world.
NOI becomes WTO-DG...can you women see your lives outside? How many of you are this impactful? It's to be posting bumbum on IG you know...but if you have a political career sha, I don't care, my meals must be fresh, cooked and served.

Ndi ala.

micellgevity:
Pls, for those know about Oron, what is the life like there?
A friend got a call from his brother to come and work in Maritime Academy Oron. But he is sceptical about it.

Though, here in Ilorin his salary hardly lasts 3 days before he is broke again. He already built his house and married.

In Oron, he will be appointed as irregular staff, as they call it, though, he will later be converted to regular staff after some time.

There is no much difference between irregular and regular staff salaries.

The question now is should he go, is 85 thousand naira salary worth it in Oron? For those who know about maritime academy, pls, your input is needed.

E.g. the actual salary of level 8, security, social life, cost of living and quality of life, hostility from the indigens etc. I forgot to say there might be accommodation.

Justbehave:
That's the most important thing to me. My kids. And If idie,then I ve lost everything.

Justbehave:
We are saying the same thing. It only takes a strong man to do such. I love my kid too but Is better I live to see them grow than to die from a woman's wickedness and not see them again.

Justbehave:
That's why I said that if a man is weak or Lilly liverd,he can't do such.

shadrach77:
The answer is simple. It's because the whole world has been cajoled to believe that the man must soak up pressure and endure so much pain just to keep the marriage going. But only a fool will believe that. There is no point risking one's health for a lady who doesn't care about you when there are several outside who will appreciate you for who you are.

Like Fela once sang, "If you die you die for nothing" so a wise man will drop the woman like hot potato and find another one or live his life like that so as to maintain his sanity and prolong his life. Trying to force yourself to remain in a loveless marriage for the sake of the kids is nonsense. You can only be useful to your children when you are alive

Justbehave:
only weak men tolerate such in marriage siting kids as an excuse. See if the man develop HBP or Stroke and die,the children will still grow. The best is to send her and the kids parking and visit your kids often. Only selfish men survives this shits from women.

Ibkhaleel01:
In the Bible especially in the Old Testament, we find that drinking wine is prohibited. We see this prohibition at least in five places in the Old Testament. For example we read:



8. And the LORD spake unto Aaron, saying,

9. Do not drink wine nor strong drink, thou, nor thy sons with thee, when ye go into the tabernacle of the congregation, lest ye die: it shall be a statute for ever throughout your generations: (Leviticus 10:9)



Notice that “God” (Jesus according to Christians) Says that it shall be a statute forever throughout your generation. Which means also for the days of Jesus and even it is a statute in nowadays for us.



In another verse we read:



Wine is a mocker, strong drink is raging: and whosoever is deceived thereby is not wise. (Proverbs 20:1)



No comments! Very clear verse concerning what wine really is, and what it cause to human being.



In the same book we read:



For they eat the bread of wickedness, and drink the wine of violence. (Proverbs 4: 17)



Here we have another description of wine, which is violent.





In Isaiah we read:



But they also have erred through wine, and through strong drink are out of the way; the priest and the prophet have erred through strong drink, they are swallowed up of wine, they are out of the way through strong drink; they err in vision, they stumble in judgment. (Isaiah 28:7)



Here we have a detailed description of what damages and errors can occur through wine. We are told by “God” ( Jesus according to Christians) that the Priests and the Prophets erred, in other words wine brings “the incorrect” and the “error”, for example bible testify some “errors” from some prophets did through the wine:



The error of Prophet Noah:



20. And Noah began to be an husbandman, and he planted a vineyard:

21. And he drank of the wine, and was drunken; and he was uncovered within his tent.

22. And Ham, the father of Canaan, saw the unclothedness of his father, and told his two brethren without.

23. And Shem and Japheth took a garment, and laid it upon both their shoulders, and went backward, and covered the unclothedness of their father; and their faces were backward, and they saw not their father's unclothedness. ( Genesis 9 :20-25)



The error of Prophet Lot:



31. And the firstborn said unto the younger, Our father is old, and there is not a man in the earth to come in unto us after the manner of all the earth:

32. Come, let us make our father drink wine, and we will lie with him, that we may preserve seed of our father.

33. And they made their father drink wine that night: and the firstborn went in, and lay with her father; and he perceived not when she lay down, nor when she arose.

34. And it came to pass on the morrow, that the firstborn said unto the younger, Behold, I lay yesternight with my father: let us make him drink wine this night also; and go thou in, and lie with him, that we may preserve seed of our father.

35. And they made their father drink wine that night also: and the younger arose, and lay with him; and he perceived not when she lay down, nor when she arose.

36. Thus were both the daughters of Lot with child by their father.

37. And the firstborn bare a son, and called his name Moab: the same is the father of the Moabites unto this day.

38. And the younger, she also bare a son, and called his name Benammi: the same is the father of the children of Ammon unto this day. (Genesis 19: 31-38)





In The book of Joel we read:



Awake, ye drunkards, and weep; and howl, all ye drinkers of wine, because of the new wine; for it is cut off from your mouth. (Joel 1:5)



Another clear prohibition of wine by “God” (Jesus according to Christians) calling the one who drinks wine “drunkard” and “for it is cut off from your mouth” which means that wine is forbidden.



Interesting is also the comparison that “God” ( Jesus according to Christians) use in order to describe what wine is equal with:



Whoredom and wine and new wine take away the heart. ( Hosea 4:11)



In other words wine has the same results with prostitution! And they are equal.





In the Gospel of Luke, we read about the John the Baptist:



For he shall be great in the sight of the Lord, and shall drink neither wine nor strong drink; and he shall be filled with the Holy Ghost, even from his mother's womb. (Luke 1:15)



John the Baptist is described as an abstainer from wine and for that reason is great in the sight of the Lord.





As we noticed above from the biblical passages, it is quite clear that wine cause errors, and that “God” ( Jesus according to Christians) prohibited, condemn and many times curse it. Also it is prohibited “for ever throughout the generations” as mention in Leviticus 10:9.



But the real problem arise when “God” (Jesus according to Christians) came down and became human (only according to Christians) and BLESSED wine! As we read in the Gospel of John:



1. And the third day there was a marriage in Cana of Galilee; and the mother of Jesus was there:

2. And both Jesus was called, and his disciples, to the marriage.

3. And when they wanted wine, the mother of Jesus saith unto him, They have no wine.

4. Jesus saith unto her, Woman, what have I to do with thee? mine hour is not yet come.

5. His mother saith unto the servants, Whatsoever he saith unto you, do it .

6. And there were set there six waterpots of stone, after the manner of the purifying of the Jews, containing two or three firkins apiece.

7. Jesus saith unto them, Fill the waterpots with water. And they filled them up to the brim.

8. And he saith unto them, Draw out now, and bear unto the governor of the feast. And they bare it .

9. When the ruler of the feast had tasted the water that was made wine, and knew not whence it was: (but the servants which drew the water knew the governor of the feast called the bridegroom,

10. And saith unto him, Every man at the beginning doth set forth good wine; and when men have well drunk, then that which is worse: but thou hast kept the good wine until now.( John 2: 1-10)



This is a famous miracle of Jesus, he changed the water into wine in order people to drink abundantly.



This is a clear contradiction. In one place we have “God” (Jesus according to Christians) who prohibited, cursed, and condemn wine in several places:



1) Leviticus 10:9

2) Proverbs 20:1 and 4:17

3) Isaiah 28:7

4) Joel 1:5

5) Hosea 4:11

6) Luke 1:15







And in other place the same God (Jesus according to Christians) bless the wine and changes the water into wine for people to drink abundantly:

Ibkhaleel01:
[s][/s] you are a cursed people already....

pickatyoubackup:
U follow for the illeterate I am talking about.

So the north is the sperm bank as una dey born like goat.

GOTVee:
Even though I'm a born again Christian from the south, I think we southerners are been insensitive with our decision to collect VAT directly to our respective states. The north on record once financed the economy of Nigeria with agriculture and other resources before the discovery of oil in the south. Is this the best way to pay back the north for all their sacrifices for our dear nation? How can we expect a northern region ravaged by banditry and terrorism to generate huge VAT like our peaceful South? Why can't we be our brothers keeper for the sake of the survival of our dear country? It amazes me that a southern region dominated by we Christians fails to follow the bible comandment of loving our neighbors as ourselves. Its unfortunate that we are letting greed becloud our sense of jugdement on this matter. I would advice the federal government to use Veto power to over rule any court judgment on state collection of VAT. Any state that insist on collecting VAT should have their governor removed through state of emergency. Nonsense

GOTVee:
Even though I'm a born again Christian from the south, I think we southerners are been insensitive with our decision to collect VAT directly to our respective states. The north on record once financed the economy of Nigeria with agriculture and other resources before the discovery of oil in the south. Is this the best way to pay back the north for all their sacrifices for our dear nation? How can we expect a northern region ravaged by banditry and terrorism to generate huge VAT like our peaceful South? Why can't we be our brothers keeper for the sake of the survival of our dear country? It amazes me that a southern region dominated by we Christians fails to follow the bible comandment of loving our neighbors as ourselves. Its unfortunate that we are letting greed becloud our sense of jugdement on this matter. I would advice the federal government to use Veto power to over rule any court judgment on state collection of VAT. Any state that insist on collecting VAT should have their governor removed through state of emergency. Nonsense

armyjassy101:
Hi guys am just curious what keeps you busy like what interests you on your phone when you don’t have active internet connection because my phone looks useless to me when I don’t have active internet connection though I got a couple games but all are boring

cocolacec:
The North and some states in the East will oppose the new VAT Ruling.After Vat collection by state the next should be decemtralization of the Army snd the police.

Aldebaran:
Breaking....

FBI captures Sunday Igboho

ILoveDemMANNA:
You mean d cows you & everyone in your family av been eating since when u were born?
The cows u can neva do without in one day is now disturbing ur stomach? Yeye dey smell

Mossadd:
More tears for masari and those Northern parasite

IJOBA11:
WOMEN ARE SHAMELESS, ESPECIALLY IGBO WOMEN IN LAGOS

OgaRico:
Nedu Wazobia’s estranged wife, Uzoma Ohiri, has replied him after he accused her of having a child for another man while she was still his wife.

Recall that she called him out yesterday and accused him of domestic violence while they were married. She said that he beat her up weeks after she had a cesarean operation.

However, Nedu denied the allegation of domestic violence but revealed that their marriage crashed in 2018, because of many issues and infidelity on her part. He said he carried a DNA test on all three children they had at the time and that the test showed he isn’t the biological father of their first son, even though he was born while they were still married.

Uzoma took to Instagram to accept that she had a child for another man but accused Nedu of bigamy, marrying another spouse while still married. She also accused him of failing to take care of their two children.

Her response reads



https://www.instagram.com/p/CTZq25QjcPr/?utm_source=ig_embed&utm_campaign=loading

Sunnymatey:
Affang soup
Ekpang kwukwo
Edikang ikong

Juliusmomoh:
When am angry the only thing that can calm me down at that moment is 'rap music'.

If not, the anger remain still.

Now over to you

What can calm you down when angry??

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