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Solatium:
Don't divorce her yet,just look for one side chick to calm your nerves,let her know you are getting attention from another female companion but never reveal her identity,if in 6 months she did not go back to default.

File for divorce

ahnie:
Are you related to Peter?the dead discipline of Jesus Christ?
See how you have sharperly denied your spouse

ahnie:
Naaah Heineken is not my thing...I do crispy chilled 17:59 made of black.you cud add spicy peppered barbeque to eet Sha.

But on a serious note guy...you gaz chilax.

ahnie:
Guy chilax...go sip one bottle of cold beer.like I said...na normal runs una go settle.

ahnie:
Lolz...abeg free the guy he's in sifia pains. ..

Kobojunkie:
ROFLMAO


You dey advice people to marry friends and not lovers but look what the same time did to your friendship to?
Marriage no be formulae like that... there are folks who marry strangers and still end up making it Nwork out.

Shokoloko:
You seem very honest. I was expecting you to exaggerate facts but you didn't. Well done.
From what I gather she is home from 3pm in the afternoon and home from 6.30pm daily.

Now, that your first child needs to start helping, he can take over the light chores.

I will let you know that some relationships expire, when the two partners grow in different directions.

Lets explore your feelings when you are not with your spouse for a couple of days:
When you travel for contracting, do you feel your peace return when you are away from her? Are you relaxed when you are away from home. That will give you an idea of what you will feel if you decide to separate.

ahnie:
Guy relax....una go settle na normal runs.even those cheering you on,theirs is worst than yours.

MALIGNANTGuest:
She has never Loved you at all.
She just wanted to get married and evade societal shame nothing else.
IF I tell you things I have achieved through marriage you will weep, yet I don't give my wife that space for cocomplacency & laxity.

inumidun2010:
You PEOPLE are really making me get SCARED OF MARRIAGE...
WHAT DOES A WOMAN WANT?.. My GIRLFRIEND has been BEHAVING like a MAD WITCH lately WHY? she said I Dont have her time, se make I no hustle ni....

Shokoloko:
Lets try to get to the root of the matter. What are your children's ages? What s your wife's career? What time do you come home from work and what time does she come home from work?

Kobojunkie:
1. WOW... snooping around to find out what your wife makes.... you both need serious counseling.

2. You most definitely need to seek help for your marriage rather than seek ways to bring it down without first making the effort. J

3. Have you considered that It maybe your own frustrations that are causing the discomfort you say your kids are feeling in this?

Please seek professional counseling and when you do, open up , not shout or argue - but open up about everything you feel to your partner so she can know what you are dealing with and how you have been processing all you have been. Then LISTEN, LISTEN, LISTEN to hear what she has to say too.

If it all goes south still, at least then you know you did all you could and there is no need to be depressed about that.

Kobojunkie:
You say she has worked for 10 years straight,
does she handle expenses in the household as well or does she simply work and keep for herself Have?

Have you tried Professional counseling to drill down to the core issues in your marriage? All you have listed don't sound like real issues so it continues to seem as though there are other reasons which are not included in your text. This is not to say that your frustrations aren't real, no. You both need to talk and work out issues as adults rather than simply shut each other out. Please try to seek counseling from professionals.... I would not recommend family as they might inject their own biases and further fracture the union where there may be no need for such.

InTheCloudySky:
Go for marital counseling together to get to the root cause[s] of your issues. Stay in your marriage and make it work.

MALIGNANTGuest:
MARRIAGE is not joke these days.
For my kind of man, Any Lady that Feels she can get employment through marriage has failed.
My Wife knows that.
She knows what arouses me.
And she knows I am hollow in terms of Feelings.

Start making arrangements for a second and competent wife and see her WAKE UP.

Kobojunkie:

So, you want to ruin your 15-year old marriage for the sake of your ego?
■ You go to market
■ Cook
■ clean the house
■ wash the children uniform
....
So you do these things in your own home and you expect what, a medal? The person that used to do them before, I am guessing your wife, she no be human being like you?

So your wife is interested in her career, and you are what? Against your "friend" doing well in her career or what? And let me guess, communication has degraded between you two and probably between your egos are butting heads at this point and rather than working on that, you are instead thinking of ways to end your relationship?

Look, no two marriages are created the same and no two individuals in a marriage are exact copies of themselves. You and your wife are meant to design your own marriage in a way that works for you, not go around comparing yourselves to others out there.
Die to your ego if you must and learn to grow rather than destroy your marriage over petty things such as what you listed here.

MALIGNANTGuest:
MOST WOMEN become complacent and laxed the moment they secure marriage.
They forget the nitty-gritty of marriage.
The only way to keep them in check is to make them compete favourable among themselves, this you can do by getting another wife rather than divorcing her outrightly.
WOMEN hate competition.
They dislike competing among their peers.
OUR Forefathers knew this and kept them in check by marrying many.

jimmyolasun:
I am not married and never been, I shaaa just wan help you reason I edited your post for easy comprehension.

Albertone:
I had to re-read to know If OP is the wife or husband.
Omooo OP na the husband oo.

If she is not the breadwinner of the house and she is doing this,you have not been the man of the house.Being a man is not just by having dick o.It is by being able to control the home.

okoroemeka:
when I told my father that I want to marry,he laughed and sat me down and asked me if I have seen him and my mother fight,I said no,he asked again if I have ever seen people come to settle dispute for them,I said no,he told me so long I have decided to get married I will be responsible for whatever happens,that I will never call him if we have problems obviously he will not come ,that it is me that will settle the dispute, asking strangers on nnairaland what you will do in your marriage is wrong,take the bull by the horns,talk to your wife,allow her to vent her anger so you might understand what went wrong,she is a woman,you can easily control her if you know how.

elonmuskbaby:
Dele so as you get money reach you nor fit renovate your father's house/ compound.at least give it a face lift.someone can't see that house and believe that you came out of there. you can do better.at least honour your father in death

Dozieson:
But I changed my gear( same car) and it is working fine after 5 yrs

okoroemeka:
that particular Camry model is the strongest Camry ever made and changing it to a manual may cost more than just buying another gear,and the gear is only having issues in reverse shows it is not a major fault,there are experienced gear technicians in mgbuka onitsha that will repair that gear with guarantee,if he is living in the southeast it is the best option

okoroemeka:
is it a must to comment,the op has a problem with the transmission of his car and what you will advice is to buy a new car,this is a naive and childish act,do you know how much that particular Camry is costing now?or will you give him money to buy the car,you didn't even help with the contact of a gear tech that can restore the gear at a cheaper price,do you think it is child's play to buy car in Nigeria now.lets us not play with everything.

Teebaba1456:
Hello all.
Please i have this problem with my Reverse gear. When the vehicle has been parked from some minutes or hours, the reverse doesn't select at all, sometimes it takes about 5 to 10 seconds when i am lucky, this doesnt happen when the engine is hot or has been running for sometime.

The drive gear selects well and moves fine.

Filter has been changed, valve body has been replaced, ATF has been replaced but the problem still persists.

Please help.

Car is Toyota Camry 1999 2.2L