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Sixfeetbelle:
I decided to let you go when you quoted the first part of that verse without the second. I don't like people with selective behaviour like this

hahaha!! I thought you are good with the game

Anyway

I have lots of things to say to you, but you can't bear them now

Sixfeetbelle:
If you love me, you'll let me do as I want. Accept my no when I say it.

If you love me, you'd let me go

the things I do and speak are not of me but of He who sent me,
if I let you go (and do your wish) then you have no part with me

PrinceMajestic:
bastardoh, you're doing good.you must have had enough honour with my response pussy god worshipper. Have a good time anyway

hahaha! Honor from a son of a slave! So laughable! If only you know what I do to your arrogant lot here! I don't want to flaunt it, so run off you miserable nitwit!

PrinceMajestic:
dirty slave you shall die in your inferiority complex. You're not worthy to be one of us. You should have been born in a lybian refugee camp and prolly be dead from starvation or disease. Bastardoh

hahaha hahaha! E pain am! Anuofia, Omo ale jati jati lolz
wannabe prince haha
for your ignoramus, royals don't make noise!!

Who's even your father
I'm sure he's a born slave
Raising slaves to keep bearing slaves lol!
Little wonder he raised a nicompoøp to rant like a lost cause here.

When the learned take steps you should follow suit and don't die in your stupidity.

PrinceMajestic:
Trash. How can a pussy female with occasionally monthly flow be handling traditional affairs. Dirty sick youruba people and their culture

you must be sick! How can the whole of England that colonized you morons have a pussy called queen on the throne revered by every world leaders.

You better wake up from your stupidity it's 2020 already

PureFace1:
https://www.legit.ng/1350665-female-monarch-oluboropa-iboropa-seating-tradition-ruler-attend-nysc-camp.html

what's her handle on Instagram, make I follow her.

Sixfeetbelle:
Husbands, love your wife completely as Christ loved the church

if you love me you will submit to my will (you will obey my commandments)

BeyondGrace:
Hi, good afternoon.

For anonymity , my name is Lola (4th birth name) and this is my plight.
I met my husband during nysc camp in 2011 and for several years of our courtship till we got married.
I v constantly been reminded about his plans to relocate abroad someday but I never knew It would be at mercy of our marriage and my career years later.
Due to the high job demand in his field of study in school. He got a job not long after

nysc while I pushed my fashion designing business further, got a place in a good neighbourhood in Lagos and rebranded myself with the nysc money I was able to save.
During those times, I realized every phone and WhatsApp conversations of ours nd our once in blue moon date whenever he comes around often involves the relocation talk but I blindly thought it was something we could settle when we marry.

Note: He was living in porthacourt while I was in Lagos

After we got married, Him being the one with a good pay and the man, we mutually agreed for me to relocate to ph to settle and leave my fashion business and for some couple of years that we v been together. I observed his whole savings and investments have always been to raise enough money to sustain and perfect the relocation while on the other hand, i restarted my business and in a year+ i had a big boost in my fashion designing business.
I was able to gain a bit of popularity in porthacourt and good paying clients which led to an extreme work stress . While in search of how to balance my work routines, I luckily got some girls who wanted to learn and be their own brand later.
Few months after learning some basic things, they became the brain behind many designs of my fashion designing business and there after I rented a bigger space for my business, had a progress of clients and solid financial security.

Prior to the lockdown, our relationship was of the perfect one but weeks after it came into effectiveness and we all had to stay home. My husband came calling with his well structured plan and findings of the best country on his laptop for us to review and asked me to have it in mind and also plan ahead of informing some few friends and family ahead so it won't come as a surprise to them immediately full activities in the country resumes.
That was where the issue came from, I immediately cut him off with a "NO" I'm not relocating like that. He asked why ND I made it known to him, I v my career and life going perfectly well here. What will happen to me if I abandon my business and relocate with him. This looks like it's only about him cause of the obsession to push his career while I lose mine and then relocate to being a stay home mum. While I was ranting and letting him see my opinions. What if what if ? While trying not to be negatively minded but how certain is our career life there ? With the segregation of blacks, racism and the news of how the other side isn't always Greener than it seems.

He shouted with " i'v worked several years for this and you wouldn't be the reason to stop me" I should either choose between him and my career.

Been weeks we last got fully talking except some yes/no monosyllabic words quite necessary to say which I fully know its not ending soon.

I'm getting worried everyday, I love my husband and really want his progress but I don't want to abandon my booming business nd relocate to lose all. What career do I v waiting for me there ? Won't I end up being a stay home mum whose long time focus will end up in exile forever. I honestly don't mind him having the kids if possible and relocating alone while I shuttle between the two countries. I might end up agreeing with him buh what do I v waiting for me there ?

Kindly advice me.

wives submit to your husband says the good book.

Forgive and forget, she's changed. And if you can't forgive, let her know, let her go and move on.

In all of these what's your sister's position in marrying her?

kenzysmith:
oga na winch dey warri u no make me swear 4 u o if i go there go allow warri he consign u?

see person wey wan go bbnaija, na so you fine reach? Lolz.

On top say you wan go dey scream warri warri lolz.
Thank God say dem no pick u, I for no watch am at all hahaha

Na wa o.. What should we call this now.

Mimivicy:
Morning all,
Am a lady of 23 years and a born again Christian,.
I live with my uncle and his family, two months ago he called and told me am of marriageable age and I have to pray really well if I want to get a good husband and God's will...he gave me prayer points and I prayed about it...a month after I forgot about it since I didn't see any sign..

Then there is this guy we went to same higher institution but he was higher than me in school..
We were casual friends and he is a Christian..we also attended the same church in school...he chat me up on WhatsApp after a long time of no contact and we got along well joking online and all....he is done serving and also working....but am still in school.

He voiced out to me last month that he wants to marry me and I asked him if he prayed about it he said yes and told me to pray about it too...
I did pray about it and after like a week I had a dream about him...I wasn't convinced yet so I went into prayer again... This time I had a dream again.... I was still not convinced about him ..though I didn't tell my uncle about it or he would pray and pray and even tell all the pastors to pray about it....so I decided to give the guy a try....we haven't seen each other since after school so we only call and chat...just last week we were chatting and he got talking about sex...
I told him I can't do sex before marriage and he told me I have to if he wants it....
I was really shocked and I told him off never to contact me again....
He apologized and I let it go but am having doubts about him now...
I went to God in prayer again but this time no dream,nothing.
And besides I only like this guy as a friend
Should I tell my uncle about it or just tell the guy off..
Pls advice ,thanks.

whether you are a virgin or not, leave sex till marriage, let your no be no.
And at 23, marriage shouldn't be your priority now, just keep putting it in prayers though.
More importantly pray to complete your studies successfully and get life going well for you.

petux:
I saw this on my Facebook News feed. A page I followed posted it. Is this really true?. I mean I can't believe someone did that.

Tempt not the Lord thy God.

Daniel didn't just walk into the lions den to exercise faith lolz! He was thrown there by wicked men with wicked laws and since God find Him righteous He was saved from the lions mouth.

PS573:
I'm in a relationship with a lady I love so much, she's so loving, caring and kind to me and after some months I asked her (Can you marry me?) She replied yes and she asked are you sure you can marry me? I replied YEs.

After Two weeks time she came to my house sadly, I asked what's wrong with her? She asked me again' are you sure you can marry me and I replied YES and YES, she said OK!

She opened up to me after some months, that she have "Tow kids from Two different men".... I felt so bad,speechless and confuse for a while, I just closed the conversation that day but till now I'm still confuse because I loved her before she opened up to me.

Please I need your advice what to do because I'm confuse and scared right now.

I appreciate all comments

you talked as if the whole of nairaland is coming to leave with you and her after marriage.

It's your choice bro! Can you leave with such, will your family accept, kindly weigh out the pros and cons before going further. It's like going into marriage with ready made baggages! So sort yourself out bro.

I saw Daddy G. O. last night

Godlovesyou28:
I hope to take care of something first; I guess, get stronger physically before going. Am so afraid (I really don't know why). Never been so scared and insecure all my life.

I am so hated in my family (I never thought it'll get to me this much).

I can't sleep anymore and sometimes I don't even remember to eat until after a day or two at times and don't feel notice until I feel too weak to get out of bed. I hate to go out too except its extremely important. I get very angry for no reason at my self and destroy or set my belongings ablaze. Am loosing touch of my business and my sales girls are looting me dry and I don't seem to care.

Why? Can't I fix anything anymore?

of course you can.

Don't you have someone close to you that can help you with your quest, like your husband/fiancee, close friend/bestie, or a confidant! Don't put too much on your self! You need someone to share this burden with and drive through.

skimena:
Last month made it 4 years since my neighbor travelled to Italy via the Mediterranean Sea. Thank God for him, he arrived safely irrespective of the hurdles on the way.

He left behind a beautiful young woman not up to 29 years of age and with a little daughter of 6 years old.

Prio to this time I wasn't close to the wife but as time goes by this woman started greeting me frequently, exchanging cd plates with me even joining me to watch movies sometimes. I started noticing she's hot with her sexy hairy body. One night she opened up to me that she needs the touch of a man if we could be doing it secretly because her husband still promise to come for her hence what she needs is someone to be touching her once in a while and it must be a secret.

I truely like the offer but I'm scared of betraying my neighbor by banging his wife. I'm still thinking about it.

sleeping with another man's wife! Ah! Haba! Fear God na. He that does that carries fire in his bosom and surely will be burn. Don't do something you'll regret later.

Righteousness89:
How many us have Noticed the Increase in Wickedness and Wicked acts?

And because of increase in wickedness, the love of many shall grow cold..

These are signs of end time.

Ay92:
Wow!
I feel immensely blessed and touched by your post. It's not that I don't believe in God for provision but my fiancee and her people are not patient enough. I understand that we're both getting old but a woman will always be a woman, I don't care much about my age. I don't wanna lose her either that's why I'm contemplating about having a side job

you welcome brother!

Don't worry too much about your financee, it's expected of her to do so, just try to admonish her to understand with you. If she believes with you her parents won't have issue either.

God that has called you into the ministry will not put you to shame.. When I was going to start He says "don't worry I'll supply all your needs and even bring that woman to you" today it's all making sense and I give God all the glory, Amen.

Ay92:
PLEASE THIS THREAD IS NOT FOR ATHEISTS OR HALF BAKED CHRISTIANS
Hello everyone!
This issue has been bothering me for a very long time now. I knew I would be a man of God ever since I was a small boy. But I still went ahead to pursue my education. I completed my NYSC in 2017 and since then I've got no good job. So I went ahead to learn barbing which till this day I don't understand despite having clippers. I had to forcefully register at a theological seminary not long ago after receiving a very strong warning in my dreams that I will suffer a lot if I don't return to the ministry that God has called me to.
But what worries me now is that I don't know if things are difficult because I didn't heed the call of God, and then all the men of God around me are full time pastors and things are sometimes difficult for them. I don't like begging people for money and I always tell God that I don't want to depend on anyone for money and I'm not going into the ministry for the sake of riches. So "experienced people" ,CAN I HAVE A SIDE JOB LIKE A BARBER SHOP ALONG SIDE THE MINISTRY?

Working in the vineyard of God is tantamount to work, and every Labourer is worthy of His wages.

Whatever you need you should ask from God because you work for Him and He'll provide for you.

Now you can't serve two Master else your mind will be divided and love one more than the other, but God wants you wholly for His work and you should attend to Him, else things won't go well.

Going to learn barbing is even not necessary, it's like telling God you're not interested in what He has for you and while you are learning barbing I'm sure the angels of your ministry will just be quite angry at you while God will just be laffing you, lolz .

Way-forward: wholly dedicate and devote yourself to what God has set you to do, be zealous and let Him direct you on how to go about it. You can open your barbing shop but don't involve yourself with it put som1 there and let him deliver to you.

God makes way out of no way. Lean not on your understanding in all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your path.

Why not focus more on you making heaven than pokenosing in another man's matter.

judedwriter:
So very sad....

The last time I watched him on TV, he preached so well explaining on how the anointing is based on God's Word. Never knew he had such an embarrassing weakness.

Well, we all have weaknesses, it's wisdom to work on our frailties, before they expose us like this eloquent pastor!

you see, that's why many people missed it "he can preach so well" it's not about the preaching it's about the fruit of the preacher, if what he's preaching doesn't change him then with all the anointing he's on his way to hell.

Onyxunlimited:
Thank you for your advice. I'm a sister by the way
I've taken a few minutes to ponder on what you wrote and the thing is, I don't think of her. The few times I have is when I use her as an example to explain to my siblings how narcissists could manipulate and gaslight you. I just want them to know how to handle toxic people incase they meet any of them. Before my encounter with her, I'd never encountered a toxic person before. So when she was exhibiting her toxicity, I didn't know how to handle her. It was after I'd quit that I tried searching about her symptoms that I knew about narcissism and other toxic characters. I found out that narcissism is a spectrum and she's at the end of the spectrum. I began to regret not having any knowledge of narcissism before my encounter with her. If I knew about the disorder, she wouldn't have succeded in gaslighting me. I began to feel sorry that I quit my job not because the pay was great, but because I had become attached to the children. I was a mentor to them, they loved me and copied almost everything I did. They called me "mummy" but they called Kate and other female workers "aunty". Whenever they had nightmares/attacks, they would tell me about it and I always knew what to do cos nightmares and attacks waa a constant thing for me while I was growing up. Sometimes, the social workers would ask me to help them to get information from the children that they needed cos they opened up to me more.
After a while, I got a new job and got busy I was no longer feeling sorry for myself but I became angry at Kate cos I blamed her for being separated from the children. I visited the children often up until a year later when I relocated but it wasn't like when I was with them. I knew that the anger I harboured towards her was dangerous as the Spirit of God had asked me to forgive. I just told myself to give it time. Time heals wounds they say, so mine shouldn't be any different. But I guess I was wrong, time dulled the pain, it didn't heal the wound. You made me realise that. Another thing I realised is that I didn't really pray to God to help me handle her. I guess I should have done that instead of giving up. I guess have a portion of the blame as well. Well, I don't totally regret everything cos it has been a learning experience. I will take your advice and reach out to her. Thank you brother Charles for your time. May God bless you richly.

when you remember someone and you get angry for what they put you through, then the grudge is still there, thank God that he brought it to your knowledge through that dream. so just pray that grudge away from your heart. Accept Kate for who she is, if you accept people for who they are you won't have problem with them, rather you will try to help them become a better person without letting them robbing off on you.

Let the joy of the Holy Ghost fill your heart always even if they are making you pass through trying times, laugh, smile, be happy rather than crying, crying only encourages the devil to do more in frustrating you, Kate might not see you crying but the devil sees it and empowers kate to do more to frustrate you.

So cheer up sis, you may reach out to Kate or you may not, but let your mind be plain to her, don't see her as the devil, she's not, you can't start a war and not expect response from the enemy
How you tackle the enemy goes a long way in you gaining victory.
Happy weekend

YorubaKinging:
Lol, if you read your Bible very well

You'll know the two witnesses are not like your average daddy G.Os or pastors

Their mission is strictly end time related

You'll know it when they come

And according to the book of Revelation


They will only preach , dressed in black clothes in the cities of Judah alone

they'll preach everywhere! The two witnesses are not just two persons but two groups of people appointed to carry out the end time work.

Kobojunkie:
There is nothing uncomely about Sci-fi/horror genre. The belief that God is concerned with such things was created by men and not God who created it all to be enjoyed by those who will enjoy it.

I know what Paul said, but I take my matching orders from Jesus Christ and Jesus Christ never said"Do not watch horror movies even if you understand it is all make belief".
Well, I don't fear make-belief so I don't have the spirit of fear.

no problem! keep feeding your mind with horror movies! The truth is these things affect not only your mind but your spiritual bodies. Make believe or not!

Kobojunkie:
I am asking to ascertain if the same Spirit reveals to you too.
Trying to find the biblical angle to all of this. The Spirit of God engineers our dreams and tells us what our dream means. But that He engineers the dreams for one and then instead tells another the meaning - that I haven't found anywhere in the New Testament under Jesus Christ?

dream is a journey of the spirit of the man, but if the mind of the man is dull to understand what he sees then he seeks interpretation from one who has discernment by the spirit of truth.

Kobojunkie:
Since the dreaming lives in our mind, one would have to have mind-reading abilities of some sort to access the details of said dream and also properly interpreted it too.
Think about it, we each experience the world around us in very different ways, and our minds process that information differently too.
For instance, I love the sci-fi/horror genre, so I feed my mind with such things and ideas. But another person, let's say person B, may scream if confronted with what I feed my mind.
As far as nightmares are concerned, I love em.. but person B may wake up soaked in sweat and screaming for the heavens after experiencing one of the nightmares my mind produces to entertain me with while I sleep.
If my dream were to be properly interpreted, one would need some sort of access to my mind to learn what I feed it, and what it produced in order to appropriately decompile the content of said dream, don't you think?

feeding your mind with horror movies is uncomely for you as a Christian. The Bible says what so ever thing is good, and of good report think on these things.. The mind is seat of consciousness, and it harbors whatever things or spirit you feed it with. "We are not giving the spirit of fear but of.....sound mind"

Kobojunkie:
Scripture?
A different interpretation for the same thing?
As far as truth is concerned, there is only one and one interpretation for truth. If your supposed truth has more than one interpretation, then it is in fact a lie.
As far as the very word of God is concerned, for it to be Truth, it indeed has to have only one meaning and one meaning alone. And from my experience, much of the word is to be read as-is presented-- no special interpretation necessary.
And this is a serious problem... if different people who claim to have ability to interpret my dream, each present me with different interpretations to said dream, then how is their so-called interpretation any different from, say, an opinion?
And since opinions are not truths, how then can anyone suggest that the very Spirit of God, the SPirit of Truth, is in any way involved in the interpreting to begin with?

if you have the spirit of truth you don't need to be asking people to interpret your dream for you, be content with what the spirit of truth reveal to you and take it as truth.

Kobojunkie:
ROFLMAO!

The highlighted is the most obvious explanation for all dreams of this kind.. Not some devil trying to seduce one or anything like that.

the truth is when thoughts like this comes on one's mind it drives in some strange energy which sexual demons take note of and may want to use to take advantage of the person with such thoughts! The bible says guide your heart diligently. Jesus says if you look and lust then you sin, because in your mind where you are lusting the demon is already frolicking with your spirit man and made you unclean.

Kobojunkie:
They can't read your mind. They can only make attempts at reading your mind through your reactions to situations and questions asked, but not directly read your mind.

hahaha you're looking for mind reader! No one has trained is mind to that point, it's only more expressive in the spirit realm where your mind speaks louder than your mouth. But physically your emotions are good enough to determine what is on your mind, attimes you'll hear people say “how do you know that's what I wanted to say, how do you know that's what I wanted to eat, to do" it's because their emotions are expressive enough.

Kobojunkie:
I am glad you finally brought God into it. Why were you not able to see and explain my dream as He, the Spirit of God, explained it to me?
I mean how do you know if you have discernment to read a dream and when you don't?
Or does it operate as other gifts operate, meaning it is constant?

lolz! I'm trying to get this your question, but the thing is we see in part and we knows in part, there could be different interpretation to one scripture verse and they both pointing to same thing! So different people can have different views of your dream but that won't change the main theme on which the dream borders on.