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I'm an educationist not into tech...but all I can say is...Mr Seun... please work on our dear nairaland..you did it greatly in 2005, you can do it again.

I believe in you Sir...get up and do something to upgrade the site and bring back our old members and new ones with innovative threads.

It would also sound great if there can be a place to private chat others without going through emails or old thread to mention.


Those private chats are helping facebook and whatsapp

People will keep coming back and can easily engage in more cordial conversation and it's a win win for the site and it's member.

You can do it!!!
Do it afraid!!!!

I prefer connections... there are some doors that only require a few seconds of phone calls or chats to open that millions couldn't open.

Reason why it's not good to burn bridges in life....no one is worthless...time and chance happens to everyone.

Henryfocoyo:
sorry to ask o, are you into farming now?

I'm in a semi-urban city where I don't have the resources it takes to farm... especially land...but back home my Mom is doing it as a side gig and it helps a lot....If I see land I 4 don dey farm tey tey

As a lady, I'm teaching and doing extra lessons but still earn triple of what he posted but it's still not paying my bills as a single mom of two.


Him considering marriage with that amount as salary in the present economy is risky.

No one knows tomorrow, but he can start acting for a better tomorrow today.

If you're a man in this present Nigeria economy earning 50k monthly....at 40+

Omoh! I'd advise you relocate from your current location or go to rural areas and invest in farming... agricultural products are all selling now and you'd spend little on feeding.


No matter where you are in Nigeria...50k monthly can't start a family except you want to be having issues maritally.


But why wait till you're 40+ before realizing that you're finished Sir?

Time never go...start acting now!!!

Cc:
Cococandy
Prestonn
GboyegaD
Akposy
Ahnie
Bintawood
Radautoworks
armyofone
Blueraydick
And this lady that loved 'dodo' I've forgotten her monicker ..Mariahangeles..I guess🥰


Hope you're all doing well? It's been long we saw your posts on here... happy Easter you all!

GboyegaD:
Thanks for checking, I'm doing good. How are you doing?

Egbon kilonsele?

Your side too dry lately...those plates dey give inspiration say tomorrow go better...why you cum lock up patapata?

Justice for our ashes colour plate egbon mi!

Bring back our ash plate!!🥰🤓

armyofone:
I'm wondering too. The page isn't moving.

No food to look at and dream belleful.

annie, pls bring us some red oil meals.

The people that made this thread lively had been chased away by trolls

Others are busy in the diaspora.

The situation of things in Nigeria is telling so much on this thread and other aspects of nairaland....I checked the stats on a Saturday on nairaland and saw 957 members online.

Cc Seun... please bring back our good old nairaland with insightful threads and intelligent people to engage.

Formerly I can't but come on nairaland daily....but now it's just not as it were anymore

No regrets, just lessons learned!

I know I can't change the past...but as the river keeps flowing... I'd keep on moving on........

If she's the biological mother of the child then she's extremely heartless...no matter what a man can do to hurt you... your biological kids shouldn't be at the receiving end.

RIP to the innocent child

GboyegaD:
She was trying to understand and I needed to answer her.

You try sha....it was becoming uncalled for..but make I face front sha.

Se alafia lewa ati gbogbo ile Sir?

Eku itoju ile.

GboyegaD:
Wouldn't take extra. If I think i should be full and I'm not, will rather take something else, maybe a snack or yogurt.

Egbon you're really humble oo... I'd have stop responding to him/her since.

Eee need lati ma salaye ...he/she should do what he/she loves...ewo logun JAMB questions lori ounje olounje?

Silentgroper:
What about your husband??

I'm a single Mom of 2.

REGINALD001:
SOME LADIES FACES MUST BE LIKE THIS TODAY ........

Your making heaven is view once with this picture

I downloaded some movies using nightlife sub... cooked for my kids and watched away my sorrow.

Deepspirituals:
Let's Catch some Fun.

How Long have you Been a Member on Nairaland ?

Are there Members that have been on Nairaland since 2005 when Seun Founded Nairaland and still on here without being Banned ?

I Congratulate you and Call you Baba Agba , Foundation member .

2012

Misplaced priorities.

Beautiful!

SAMKHAY:
...but they never progressed to sexual intimacy, as I exercised self-control.


I am 34 years old, married to my 31 years old wife since 2020. While we are still trusting God for children, I have remained faithful to her throughout our relationship, since dating, courtship and marriage. I mean I have never had any affair with other lady/woman since I met her in 2018 till present. However, I am currently facing a serious issue and seek your counsel.

In September 2023, my wife's 21-year-old sister moved in with us due to challenges she faced while living with a relative. I genuinely care about her and my wife's family as a whole. My wife, a hospital worker here in Port Harcourt, often works night shifts.

In October 2024, an inappropriate incident occurred between me and her sister, a hug escalated into an intense kiss. This happened twice more in November, but all these three times, they never progressed to sexual intimacy, as I exercised self-control. During the last incident, she asked if it would be wrong to engage in further intimacy to have sex, instantly I realize the gravity of what I was getting myself into. I immediately set boundaries, the next morning we prayed together, asking for forgiveness, and since then, no further incidents have occurred, not even a single feeling.

However, I have noticed a shift in her attitude towards me. Recently, she has become disrespectful, and despite multiple discussions with her, her behavior persists. This evening, after reporting one of her actions to my wife over the phone, I later tried to have a conversation with her. During our conversation, she became defensive, disrespectful, and expressed her desire to leave the house. She confronted me about our past actions, insisting that while I reported her wrong this evening, I should have also disclosed our actions to my wife, even though we never engaged in sex.

I pleaded with her to keep this issue dead, as my wife does not deserve to know about this betrayal, she deserves better from both of us. She has calmed down for now, but I am deeply troubled. My wife is returning tomorrow morning, and I want to ensure this matter remains resolved and private for the sake of my marriage and trust. I would appreciate sincere advice on how to handle this situation and prevent any further harm.

Kindly explain in details how the scenario went and send the manipulative sister out of your home to make peace reign.

Else, she'd blackmail you with it for years that you'd regret ever keeping it a secret from your wife.

To cover a single lie... you'd need thousands more lies and this shit ain't worth it.

When younger, we make various choice's without the future in mind. Sometimes those choices bite us in our mid-life. These are some of the things one might regret when they're older.

1. Marrying the wrong person

When you're young, check your motives for marrying. Don't marry to copy your peers, or for social standing or out of pressure. Marry for love and companionship, marry the right person, marry your best friend. For if you marry the wrong person or for the wrong reasons, you will have to put up with that person the rest of your life. Things might get worse between you two; then depression, physical abuse, affairs, pain, shame, court cases, bitterness will define your mid-life years all because you chose the wrong one. Things will get worse when children are involved. Make the right choice of a spouse when you are young.

2. The opportunities you did not seize

When you are younger many doors will open, you will get many chances. Many young people let these opportunities go because of fear, laziness, or pride; yet well younger and with more energy is the best time to start a venture and a name for yourself. Some think the opportunities are too big for them. Take advantage of them or one day when you're older you will want to go back and grab those missed chances.

3. The bridges you burned

When we are younger, we care little for relationships, what most think about is getting money and moving up the ladder of success at all cost. Many use and trample on people to progress, they take relationships for granted, messing up bonds, sleeping with people for personal gain. But these bad actions will catch up with you ahead. When you will realize how empty life is without love and friends. When you will have success but no one around you or no one to trust you.

4.The child you aborted

You are a young lady, you get pregnant and you are scared. You take the aborting option quickly thinking of that moment then. But when you are much older, you will look back and wish you kept that baby. When you will be rich and successful you will wish that child you gave up on would be around to enjoy the fruits of your hard work. Being a single mother doesn't mean you can't make it in life or you can't find a man in future.

5. The child you rejected

Young man, you impregnated a woman, she told you she's pregnant with your child. You rejected her and the baby and ran. But years later when you're 50 something, you will wish you were responsible, you will wish you manned up and became a father to that child. You will see that child excel and become an adult but will have no claim to that grown child who you rejected from the beginning. You will regret being a Dead Beat Dad by choice

6. The marriage you destroyed

So you get married to your good fiance; the first months in marriage were good but shortly after, with your money and charm, you started having affairs. You became unfaithful. Your spouse begged you to stop, your children started hurting, your marriage was collapsing. One day when you are older, it will hit you how foolish you were to destroy the good marriage you had began to build for mere temporary thrills in affairs that did you no good. You will realize the damage you caused to your children and spouse.

7. The God you disowned

When you are much older you become wiser, God becomes more real as you see life in a more meaningful way. But don't wait to get older to start enjoying a relationship with God. Know God when you are young, build your future with God. Don't be a young rebel who runs back to God when age catches up.

8. The body you messed up

You have only one body to live with all your life. The cigarettes, the alcohol you are abusing, the drugs you are taking, the unhealthy food you're consuming; all that will destroy you slowly. When you are 50 and lifestyle diseases catch up with you, you will wish you took care of your body when younger, that you exercised more; but now the damage is done.

9. The time you wasted

The time you are wasting when younger in worry, wrong relationships, laziness, being a couch potato, giving excuses and pursuing meaningless things; you will never get it back.

10. The dreams and talents you shelved

Are you talented when young; are there things you love to do and you are good at them? Nurture those talents, exploit them, don't give up even if you encounter set backs, don't give up on your dreams. If you give up, when you're older you will look at your peers who stuck to what they love and made it and think to yourself, "That could have been me". Pursue a career, study a course you love. Don't waste years of your life in a field that doesn't fulfill you.

11 The name you defamed

When you are older, a legacy is very important, the value of your name is crucial. You will ask yourself what is your reputation, what are you leaving behind? Your legacy is a sum total of your actions since youthful days. We write our biography by how we live life everyday. When you look back your path and you see the mud you threw at your own name, the shame you attracted and the little value you have added to the world; you will regret.

12. The wealth you threw away

Are you riding on good money during your productive years? Earning good money? Don't throw away that money in clubs, reckless living and wasteful shopping. Invest with that money, widen your revenue stream, make that money work for you and keep it safe to take care of you in your older years. Leave an inheritance for your loved ones so that you will never say "I wish I knew better"

13. The good love that got away

Is there that great person in your life loving you good? Don't push that person away, or else that person will walk out your life and you will never ever find someone that incredible and who connects with you all your life. It will torment you to grow older with thoughts of "What if I was still with that person?"

14 The parents you despised

When younger, it is easy to show contempt to your parents; what do your parent's know? They are old-fashioned, shady and small -minded. But your parents are still your parents whether you agree with them or not, whatever their style. Don't let your parent die or age separated from you, reconcile and make up. When you get older, you will realize why your parents wanted to be close to you. The older you get, the more you see the value.
Thanks for reading

To realize
The value of a sister or brother
Ask someone
Who doesn't have one.

To realize
The value of ten years:
Ask a newly
Divorced couple.

To realize
The value of four years:
Ask a graduate.

To realize
The value of one year:
Ask a student who
Has failed a final exam.

To realize
The value of nine months:
Ask a mother who gave birth to a stillborn.

To realize
The value of one month:
Ask a mother
Who has given birth to
A premature baby.

To realize
The value of one week:
Ask an editor of a weekly newspaper.

To realize
The value of one minute:
Ask a person
Who has missed the train, bus or plane.

To realize
The value of one second:
Ask a person
Who has survived an accident.

Time waits for no one.

Treasure every moment you have.

mayorall:
Paid.

Received with a grateful heart Sir.

May God Almighty continue to bless you and your company IJN Sir.

Thanks so much for all that you do Sir.

Keledua dakun dabo jekawa naa rina rilo debi ta o le fi san esan ire fun awon elomiiran nihin loruko Jesu.

LIVE08:
@mayorall, Greetings sir, please, kindly do your checks.

against me, Files assertion is false. I have nothing to do with betting thread or alternate account that has benefitted from your gesture before.

Please I really need this.

You don't need to start calling him out on here...b4 selecting the few people he did his background check and already told us he'd get back when the network is okay.

He isn't owing any of us and we shouldn't be pestering him to send it cos it's voluntary effort made by him and his team.

Give him time, he'd get back to us.....he might be busy or sort of.

Ignore the troll trying to pull us down b4 him....what will be, will definitely be.

Manage whatever God put in your care for Christmas until God uses him to help us....we have to keep waiting.

Merry Christmas Sir/ma

GboyegaD:
Yes, he did. How have you been?





Thanks for mentioning me. We are not the same and the person used one of my old pictures.

I thought as well...if one is a regular on the food section...he/she would know that this plate and presentation is your signature... reason why it's always good to be original...even the cheese he sprayed on it is your style.

Merry Christmas egbon mi jare..... Aseyi samodun loruko Jesu Sir.

jaksmillioniar:
We cook Chicken salad macaroni

Why your plate and presentation cum look like GboyegaD own?

oliverwrites:
Thank you for this. Many people don't know they are making themselves poorer even when they think they are smart.

Merry Christmas to you, the queen and the girls.


May God Almighty give us all reasons to celebrate every day of our lives IJN.


May God Almighty bless the works of my hands and elevate my status away from being poor to a giver IJN


Aside from the analysis on fuel and rent...there are lots of things being poor does to one that being rich or averagely okay wouldn't...e.g see finish, misconception and others.


Keledua dakun dabo mase wa leni iya loruko Jesu.

Be careful what you wish others bro.
Madarikan in very real in Yoruba...may you never be a victim of evil circumstances in life IJN Sir.

God abeg o!

Who do us this thing for Nigeria?

I could remember when minimum wage was 18k under jonathan... you'd buy a bag of rice and other things

When Bihari turned it to 30k

We could buy half bag and ororo

Now with 70k... you'd keep checking your bag if you lost money in the Market.

The masses are suffering.... majority of the governors haven't implemented the minimum wage ...not to talk of private schools.

We're living daily by God's grace.... it's just to exhausting to be an adult in Nigeria.

nlfpmod:
https://fij.ng/article/just-in-oonis-ex-wife-silekunola-naomi-agidigbo-fm-ceo-remanded-in-prison/

Olorun eledaa mi, maje kin si ooore se!
Maje kin taraka kinto jeun debi tin ma rin de giveaway oni stampede!

May the dead rest in peace.
May God Almighty vindicate the queen and Mr Hamzat.


#Hungerbad

Files:
Sir all these monikers are alternates except (I think) Obinnanelso

If you check well you'll see. This is not fair
But please check their posts from the betting thread. They are alternates

I have not gotten anything and they've gotten more than twice.

You've been on nairaland for a while, you should be able to spot the alternates... Look at the interval of the dates you started and when they suddenly came active.. Check the newborn over 20 days interval prior to December 19

OMG!

Why use me as an example bro?

I've been active on nairaland since 2012, being a private school teacher with disciplinary actions in my school.. I'm not always active during school days but holidays...you can go through all my previous posts...I even have virtual family members on here who can verify on how legit I am.


Being chosen among the last list is an answered prayer to my kids and I....we have nothing for Xmas...I couldn't even afford to buy Xmas clothes for them cos I just use all my savings to pay up their school fees and books of #220,000

My son still asked me last night if tomorrow is truly Christmas cos he's not seeing its signature in our home...I told him to believe in God that there are many beautiful Christmas to celebrate together.. when there's life... there's hope.

mayorall:
New winners.


LIVE08
Podium
Obinnanelson4
Newborn27


Kindly send your bank details here. Please do not put space. Thanks.

Wow!

This is glorious... thanks for counting me worthy among the chosen Sir....may God Almighty continue to bless you richly and enlarge your coast IJN

Your company shall never fall nor fail...as you're putting a smile on my face this early in the morning when all hope is lost and I'm looking up to Christ Jesus only, I pray you'd never be sorrowful every days of your life IJN Sir.

I'm wholeheartedly and sincerely grateful Sir.

0221204562
Wema bank

Mine


I just wish I could Cook my normal Christmas fried rice and chicken for my kids.

But considering how I just paid for their tuition and books ....I couldn't even afford to buy anything..no wears..no food.

But I'm grateful for sound health and Life....hope dey for us IJN.

Doings

God abeg o...when i go enter aircraft like this talkless of traveling abroad?

I know I can
Be what I wanna be
If I work hard at it (with the help of God)
I'd be where I wanna be.