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I want to ask the chefs in the house about the best method to cook beans and save gas.


Since I started buying gas at 1200 per kg.....and my kids loves eating beans...I just woke up one day to try the soaking up the beans for longer hours... sometimes overnight.. before cooking and it gets easily done and has lesser gas.


My question is...hope the method of soaking doesn't have side effects on eating?

Human needs are truly insatiable!

Do you call this a problem to worry about too?

"Bo se n se epo ...bee ko lo se n se ora!"

Wow!

Nice piece.!!

Thanks for sharing.

September thread

70k that would buy 2months worth of food
stuff for a family....you sat down and gulp it up on a sit.


Their kind are reasons why Nairaland guys insults females at the slightest provocation.



Can she intentionally spend the 70k on food on a spot from her hard earned money?

She sucks big time!

Hmmmmmmmmmm


Bi a ko ba reni feyinti....bi ole laaari!

Better days are coming!

I'd be patient....no regrets in life....just lessons learned the bitter way!


"*aaro kan kii gbona dale*....mo mope oun ti ko to si ma po"

I'm so sorry if my question sounds stupid....I do wonder why the news always say Nigeria is borrowing or owing a huge amount of money ....why can't they just print the money in excess to clear the debts or make the budgets?

TheBTCinvestor:
If u check on am...dem go bill you

Should he was having he wouldn't have billed anyone.

It takes a lot of shame to beg one's mate or others for anything....lack and poverty or problem can sometimes make one to forget about ego .

Telling him you can't afford to send him anything due to your own status too but showing how much you care and relating well would make him feel better.

So painful!

May his soul rest in peace!



I kept asking about how Nigerians show much care when someone is dead than when he/she is alive and passing through challenges.

Those sympathetic RIP posters would have turned him down or blocked him when he needed help.


Please... let's not wait before an individual dies to show that we care...it might not be monetary...few checking on him and words of encouragement would have saved him the suicidal thoughts.


May peace be still in in every stormy life IJN.

Sound health and mind

ahnie:
If you're in Asaba I could share my lil foodstuffs with you.

LoL

Dear ahnie,....I appreciate your generosity... God no go shame us all IJN.

Thoughts of survival.

If I start narrating my daily ordeal as a single mom of 2 kids in this perilous times.. some would tag it begging.


Honestly...the days are hard down here in Nigeria....our private school teaching salary never changes yet prices of commodities kept increasing on daily basis.

It takes only the grace of God not to compromise... despite having a hectic week at work...I couldn't sleep soundly cos of the thoughts of survival...no gas ...no foodstuff yet I work heavily from 7am-6pm daily.....kids tuition increased... rent increased...my tuition increased.....but I appreciate God for the sound health of my kids and I.


I just pray God sees us through it all.

Gbas! Gbos!!

On Nairaland.com

I wish one day I could brag of USA and others cities like this

Fighting get levels abeg!

Ahnie you too much...#thumbs up!

Jeon:
Everyone with her choice about her life.
And because of experiences like this I refused to welcome any man, lik you said "they are many of them bad ".
So what are the expectations of you having the good one, upon how you said did to the one you once trusted?.

My dear sister, it hurts to be betrayed and hurts a lot more when the betrayal is coming from a place where you've struggled a lot to make work.....but the courage to let go and let the past be behind you is the best thing to do.


There are many good things in life yet to be enjoyed...why let a little betrayal turn you to a bittered person?

Men include your male family members and kids when you eventually grow out of this your claim ... please let love reign in all that you do.


"You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough" Mae West.

SapaProMax:
Where did it all go wrong?

Fine Naija girls on Insta and X. I go just slide in their dms. It's easy for them to reply me cos the boy is fine and I don Japa tey tey. My problem is this; Many of them can't hold a good conversation. Like they literally have nothing interesting to talk about. Some don't even have short or long term plans. Some of y'all should add words like daft, unintelligent, uninformed or slow to your bio

Your generalization irks me!

Mind you.... you're what you're attracted to...like minds they say.......

Jeon:
They want 90 % supports from a woman's life but will never try to invest 10 % into her life and still wants her to be submissive to his trash.




Please ignore those saying nonsense to you. They won't be there to share the sorrows in one's marriage.

I can sense that you're still very young Sis...kindly change your mentality about men and marriage...that a man betrayed you doesn't mean others would... despite how bad many of them are...we still have the good ones.



There was a time I shared my story on here in 2021 about how I was betrayed..abused and still shoulder responsibilities to keep my home for close to 10yrs yet nothing was working....I ought to grow a huge resentment towards men but I just couldn't...it got to a point..some big Sis on here tagged me a wife material when my comments never seem hurtful towards same men that betrayed me.


Dear Jeon,. I've been reading many of your comments and the only thing I have for you is......let it go!....let go of those hurtful memories...let go of the bittered heart towards men....give your heart a second chance to love...that one man out of the millions whom will cherish you would someday locate you...and always remember that no human is perfect... we're all working towards perfection...if at 29yrs I'm left alone with two kids to cater for all alone despite all the hurtful past experiences..I don't hate on men...my dear...I believe you can do better.


Let love rule in your life and every other things would follow.


Wishing you all the best in life Sis.



Cheers!

jabolo:
By eye really. Slimmer profile blocks are better to behold somehow.

Or, just count the number of coaches on the fence. Typical 9 inch blocks would be 9 coaches, here we have 12.

It's been a long time Sir.

Greetings to you and yours Sir.

Jewessgratitud3:
You're welcome dear.

I'm glad it as helpful.

Whatever makes you happy is cool honestly....but I can assure you...having a kid or two is good...not because of what people would say but because of old age..


I'd love to go closer to you cos I lack courage as I dey so... LoL


Sharing your story like this take a lot of courage.


Kindly ignore the trolls giving hurtful comments on your thread...many of them are taking more shots offline yet forming red pill on Nairaland.


Wishing your parents rest in perfect peace... I'm sure if mom were to be alive..she wouldn't have watched you go this far without settling down.


In everything...give thanks Sis...

Jewessgratitud3:
author=Newborn27 post=126658739]Wow!


This is deep!

I don't even know what to say or where to start from... truly you're courageous and strong.


At this point, if it comes fine, if not, fine. I'm not the one to make such plans. If I get what I want, oh.. why not but if not, men e go hard o. Like I said... In this year alone, I've had two suitors. A very responsible guy and a man but the thing with me is that I'm too picky. if I don't like you first, it will be very difficult. These two were not my spec and I won't trap myself in a loveless marriage all because of age or "time is going " , if it's not what I want, I won't do it.



Like I told you before, what tickles every one's fancy is different likewise what bothers them.
You may fancy all the bolded and I may not. What you want out of marriage is different from what I want. So it's not a one size fits all" thingy or compulsory that we all must like to do or have things the same way. That is why you will never see me envy married people or people with children because to me it's really nothing. Now, my Mom married at the age of 10 . Had all of us before 30 but died in her Early 40s. So of what use was her early marriage and child-bearing to her? Fine they use us to remember her but she as person, what did she enjoy in her life for achieving those? Just suffered to raise children that she didn't live to see even one grandchild? Abeg abeg.


Why? That's like saying I regret.. I have saidvit countless times that I've never regretted it for once . Ok let me even pause for a moment and try to remember if I ever wished I did.......... 🤔 🤔 🤔.... Ogbeni nothing like that o. Rather I've always thought that if I had married maybe by now I would have left the marriage cos e for don taya me and that's the truth. In fact.. sometimes I used to silently thank my stars that I'm not married with kids in this economy because I can't endure suffering and hardship with children. Not like Im wishing myself hardship but men in this present economy, everyone is facing it and someone like me can't take the heat with such responsibilities even when shared.
There's a friend of mine that always wish to switch places with me saying I'm enjoying because I don't have anything bothering me and I'll tell her I'm glad I don't have those bukata.



Stigmatization? LoL.. see so far e no affect my pocket, whatever anyone says in that regards does not bother me. it's when you listen or go close to people they'll stigmatize you. I don't keep companies. I'm a loner and it helps a lot to stay away from such. No be if I smile with you you come know wether I don marry or not. I feel free saying it here because no body knows me in person and it all ends here. Of course some people in the past have said some things like your twin is married you're here forming oge, but I didn't give a damn because when I look at their lives im doing far better than them and living life to the fullest. Abi What is life about? No be enjoyment? See it's all in your head o.life no hard reach like that




I love my family. They will never pressure you. My dad before he died would be like, if you do anyhow I'll take my daughter back ( referring to my in-laws.) So all his inlaws are pals with him. They'll be like ogor, oya make we go chill. He will tell you, don't stress them for me o. As for the single ones he'll make sure he provides our needs so we don't look outside. Even as a working class lady, my dad when he collects his pension, he will buy a bag of rice and share to every one of us in our various houses. He was still giving me money till his death in 2012 ( miss you pop). My dad na guy man. Him no send o.

Forget, this life is what you make of it. I try as much as I can to enjoy myself and make every minute of it count

Hmmmmmmmmmm

So deep!

Thanks for sharing your story ma'am... I've learnt one or two lessons from the above.


I wish you all the best in all that you do ma'am.

Wow!


This is deep!

I don't even know what to say or where to start from... truly you're courageous and strong.

Back to my former question ma....did you still have any plans of getting married or having kids of your own?


Kids are very beautiful my dear sister...money is enjoyable when spent with your loved ones..... watching your baby grow into an adult is also a beautiful thing... having a man who truly loves you for you is also nice.


I'm sure you're happy but more assured that there are days which you wish you were married with kids.
..

How have you being coping with stigmatization?

Pressure from family... friends... co-workers... church members?

Jewessgratitud3:
Newborn27. Heres the post I promised you.

Enjoy!

WOW!


Thanks for the mention...let me quickly read through.

Kobojunkie:
Are you referring to the same twisted doctrines that are used to indoctrinate kids into living a life filled with fear and anxiety? How in the world is that favorable?

2. They created the doctrines you teach your kids exactly for their own purpose so why is it pathetic?

3. If I eventually? Ha! I will never feed any child I love with any of religious doctrines. That hasn't happened and will never happen.

It is well with you ma.

It's only the people that get moved or intimidated by the ill gotten wealth and show off on the internet I pity most.


Contentment and godliness is a great gain....now 7yrs is going and it'd remain part of his history.

CloudTrees:
I know it hurts.

It’s a very strange feeling how someone can be in your life for months or even years and then one day ... all of a sudden not be there anymore.

Maybe the relationship ended on good terms.... or maybe it was completely catastrophic.

Either way .... it’s so bizarre how relationships can change so vast and rapidly.

And you know what .... you may not be at peace with what happened between the two of you ... and thats perfectly fine.

Sometimes the end of a relationship can literally be one of the hardest things we go through in life.

I want you to know it’s okay that your heart still hurts because of what happened.

You have made alot of memories with this person.

And these memories that you have made is something you can’t erase no matter how hard you try.

Whether you like it or not, they are a part of your story.

I know looking on these memories can be hard, and you may wish you could forget them.

But instead of forgetting, maybe we should try to focus on what came from the relationship.

You two joined paths for a particular reason.

Maybe you walked through some of the hardest times together.

Maybe you understood each other in a way no one else ever did.

Maybe you encouraged one another to be strong or to embrace who you genuinely were as a person.

Or maybe your relationship with them opened your eyes to what you truly needed in your life.

Regardless of what the reasoning was, it’s okay to acknowledge that .... that person meant a lot to you.

And it's okay if they still do.

It’s also okay that they aren’t in your life anymore.

What alot of people dont understand is, not every relationship we encounter will last a lifetime.

You shouldn't be lingering in the past questioning why everything happened the way it did.

What you need to do .... is to take what you've learned from that relationship and move forward in your life.

Knowing there are other relationships that will give you exactly what you've always dreamed of and more.

I need you to know that you're not going to feel this way forever.

You will continue to move forward and you will continue to grow with everyday that passes.

Take my advice and remember ....

Sometimes the people you wanted as part of your story, are only meant to be a chapter.

This is coming in at the right time... thanks so much for this piece...it was as if I'm facing a counselor reading this.

Jewessgratitud3:
Awwnnn.. so sorry about your experience dear.

Well... What bothers everyone is different and how you chose to see a particular thing determines the effect it will have on you and how people will regard you at the end of the day

For me, not being married or having any child even if it's one out of wedlock (like somebody once said) doesn't and has never bothered me and that is the gospel truth because no, it's beyond my making. 2, it's a huge responsibility and great duty on its own. so why worry about not being burdened with this great task when I can equally maximize my singlehood and enjoy the freedom it gives me while it lasts?
The only thing that can make me worried in life is when if I don't have money. Aaahhh.. the whole world will not rest o. You'll see it written all over me and that is why I guard against such by working so hard with the help of God to prevent such from happening.

My dear, make i go prepare breakfast first. That is the Koko. .

Cheer up o! Life na only once. Person wey marry dey die, person wey no marry dey die. So if you still find yourself breathing, thank God and go through your day with every joy you can get. ; .

Wow!

I salute your courage...for you to be sounding this strong and tough... you'd have been through or seen a lot about life.

I'm sorry for the past experiences that built you and bring out the strong woman in you.

I'd reserve my other comments until I read your post on the shared experience.

Have a beautiful weekend ma'am.

Jewessgratitud3:
😂 😂 😂 lol... I'll share but in a new post. I already planned to do that even before you asked but just waiting for my heart to say go!

It's nothing serious though. Just normal overprotectiveness. And please stop pitying me cos I'm fine cool with it. I'm a very happy fellow if you see me, you won't even believe. Will be explaining that too in the post.

Will definitely tag you when I do.

I'm sorry for pitying you big Sis... honestly my lil experience in less than 2years of living as a single mom of 2beautiful kids made me feel the pity.

I was never married...was impregnated at 20yrs and hoped the relationship would work for close to 10yrs...I suffered a lot trying to make it work cos of what people would say and the stigmatization.


Since he left us I do wonder if I can still go into a relationship or real marriage at 29yrs... seeing your 42 and happy with no child made me feel bad that I've been ungrateful all along... trust me... it's not easy being single at that age or single mom...our society wouldn't listen to your story nor where you are coming from...they just want to admit that you're at fault and the major reason why you are still single.



I'd be honoured to get a tag from the planned post to learn a few more things from you ma

Keep holding up...may God see you through it all IJN ma.

Jewessgratitud3:
Yeah I'm proudly 42.

Huge 42?!

Sis what really happened that made you come this far being single?

I'm sure you're not a Yoruba lady...else.. family and friends go don frustrate a hell out of you.


Mind sharing your story?
Do you envision getting married at all?
Do you have kids of your own already?
Is it your career?
42 is a huge number ma'am.


I know it's your personal lifestyle and you owe no one an explanation on how to live it....but a part of me just felt deeply sorry for you seeing 42.

Blackveil:
These reasons are not enough to change my mind.

Even if it’s the only way to heaven, I'm not getting married

Can you share the story that made you have this strong determination?

We might have one or two lessons from your story.

MaxInDHouse:
It's common sense nah!

To illustrate imagine a market where only few people goes to sell firewood, charcoal and palm kernels as the marketers makes little cash just to feed compared to big stores where all kinds of electronics are sold and in millions the marketers smile to the bank daily which of the two will attract thieves?

Ọmọ forget about jazz if fortune could be found in shrines all what the thief needs is to fortify himself with strong jazz before invading the place, you and i know that thieves always takes risks they're not scared of anything as long as it involves huge success.


Jesus has taught his disciples not to store what will attract thieves:

 “Stop storing up for yourselves treasures on the earth, where moth and rust consume and where thieves break in and steal. Rather, store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust consumes, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also." Matthew 6:19-21

So if some people now claim they're followers of this man yet keep attractive things in their places of worship abeg from who do you think they are expecting protection?
Definitely not from the man who has already warned them against such things! Matthew 7:24-27

May you have PEACE!

WOW!

Kudos for this response and the biblical backup.


Christianity has been messed up cos of our religious leaders greediness.

Taylor92:
Thats their mode of operation



Support a drug pusher and scatter the economy



Keep the people hungry and make naira worthless



Then give them a million each


Who see one one million to 750 people go think say na big money


That’s $460k dollars the exact amount Irigbaji maggot forfeited in Chicago


Have you ever seen Otedola or his daughters ulter a word on this finished nation?


No because they’re the pioneers and benefactors



If Bad government no pay



Otedola bridge go pay via skull

I'm sorry to quote you sir...but this comment being the FTC is unfair....that one million naira each given to parents would definitely ease some of the burden the present economy is giving the citizens.


Let's not be tribalistic on everything on here and appreciate good gesture....as little as the 2billion naira is to you Sir...if we can have a hundred citizen like Otedola doing the same thing... Poverty would be minimize in the country.

Reading through your comment shows you're not an average Nigerian....how many people have benefitted from your wealth Sir? How many people have being lifted up through you Sir?


We don't need to be part of the government bodies before we contribute to the nation's growth...change can as well begin from you Sir....many Nigerians are striving to have a 3square meal and we're not lazy .....if the masses can be motivated and assisted in their little businesses...no one would wait for the government again to have a saner clime.


Let change begin with you Sir.