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NO!

you need to move forward for you

you are still emotionally attached and feel some need to connect which is not ok

it is just not healthy to maintain contact with the X

you'll just get hurt again..

don't be a doormat...move on..

for you...you deserve that much and believe in yourself..

Well, you aren't the only one in that situation at all!! I've haven't spoken to my ex over a month too. When he broke up with me, it was hard and its normal to feel the way you do, believe me.

perhaps this video might
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J7-au6XphLs

I don't believe he has forgotten about you. If you guys were together for over a year, that is a long time and I'm sure he has many great memories. I think most people have exes that will always be in their hearts even if the relationship didn't work out. There may be a song or a place or a certain smell that makes you think about them from time to time. It is perfectly normal. Each relationship will help you grow and realize what you want and do not want when you move on to someone else. Good luck!

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Do Exes Come Back? It's amazing how Hollywood celebrities got their exes back, this might interest you:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J7-au6XphLs

if she wont talk to then you need to drop her like she has done to you BUT if u still want ta send her a message try this....
stop ignoring me and get back with me, you know you miss my body and i do miss yours so just come back to me....idk lol It would be better if you thought of your own stuff because it's coming from you

Just found this video on YouTube for those in this same situation


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nacIZhLmVgo

Please advise, how to get my ex girlfriend back. We've been together for 2yrs. and we broke up last January..in the relationship we had few arguments but loved each other so much..the last fight we had burnt up everything that led her to a break up.

very interesting

maybe it's about her, trying to make you think she's amazed with something or someone new in her life & want u 2 b jealous. whether it about her, or you (her thinking you're over her already) it's definitely meant to make you tweak & talk to her : make sure it's something you want & can work out with her, since you've already been smart enough to do the initial hard yards good luck either way

Wow great video...

Very interesting

I agree with Rossieb

That video help me on my situation when;

i broke up with my bf (now ex) because he liked my best friend and i found out. I broke up with him so he could be with her and i started going out with one of his best friends. This was not to intensionally hurt him or to get back at him or anything like that. Now him and my ex are fighting because my ex wants me back. Last time my ex tried to talk to me but i feel like i don't want to talk to him because he only came bak because my best friend rejected him. My bf and my ex started gettin aggressive to each other so me and my bf went home. My ex wont stay away and now i didn't know what to do till i watched the video above If you need professional help I suggest you use the info on that video.

The information on the video is very useful, thanks for sharing. I'm posting it on my facebook right away, my friends will love it.

1. Your ex boyfriend needs some space and time to remove all the negative associations from the breakup and start missing you. People have a common misconception that if you don’t contact your ex, they will forget about you. But in reality, if you don’t contact your ex boyfriend, you will give them time to miss you more and they will be wondering all the time why you are not contacting them. Remember all the mistakes in Part #1 of this guide. Every one of them made your ex think of you as a needy person. By not contacting them, you immediately become not needy in their mind.

2. You also need some space and time. You need to get a hold of yourself and gain some perspective. The fact is, you are a mess after the breakup. And you need to calm down and analyze your relationship thoroughly to realize whether or not being with your ex boyfriend is in your best interest. It could be that you are just missing your ex boyfriend. You need to learn to enjoy your life without your ex boyfriend. You need to prove to yourself that you can be happy without your ex boyfriend. You will eventually realize that you DON’T NEED YOUR EX to be happy. Maybe you’ll still WANT them, but there is a big difference between needing something and wanting something.

3. You must become an attractive happy person during this time. You need to take a step back and reevaluate your life. You should make a lot of positive changes in your life. When you meet your ex boyfriend after the no contact period, you want them to be attracted to you. And the best way to do it is to start enjoying life and being an overall happy person. Don’t take this point lightly. This could be the difference between getting your ex boyfriend back or losing them forever.

Contacting Your Ex Boyfriend aka Re-attraction

Remember when your ex boyfriend left you? They thought of you as a needy, clingy and desperate person with little to no self-respect. After not being in contact with you for a while, they must be wondering what the heck happened to you. They will slowly start to forget that image of yours (the needy desperate one) and start remembering the things they liked about you. They will start remembering the things that they found attractive in you.

And that’s when you contact them, you talk to them and then meet them. Just as they lay eyes on you, BOOM. That’s the new and improved you. YOUR version 2.0. They can’t help but wonder what brought so much positive change in you.

For that to happen, you need two things.

1. You should actually bring a positive change in your life and become a confident, happy and attractive person.
2. You should contact your ex and meet them somewhere.

If you have been following this guide till now, then you know how to go about the first point. So, let’s get straight to the second point.

1. Your ex boyfriend needs some space and time to remove all the negative associations from the breakup and start missing you. People have a common misconception that if you don’t contact your ex, they will forget about you. But in reality, if you don’t contact your ex boyfriend, you will give them time to miss you more and they will be wondering all the time why you are not contacting them. Remember all the mistakes in Part #1 of this guide. Every one of them made your ex think of you as a needy person. By not contacting them, you immediately become not needy in their mind.

2. You also need some space and time. You need to get a hold of yourself and gain some perspective. The fact is, you are a mess after the breakup. And you need to calm down and analyze your relationship thoroughly to realize whether or not being with your ex boyfriend is in your best interest. It could be that you are just missing your ex boyfriend. You need to learn to enjoy your life without your ex boyfriend. You need to prove to yourself that you can be happy without your ex boyfriend. You will eventually realize that you DON’T NEED YOUR EX to be happy. Maybe you’ll still WANT them, but there is a big difference between needing something and wanting something.

3. You must become an attractive happy person during this time. You need to take a step back and reevaluate your life. You should make a lot of positive changes in your life. When you meet your ex boyfriend after the no contact period, you want them to be attracted to you. And the best way to do it is to start enjoying life and being an overall happy person. Don’t take this point lightly. This could be the difference between getting your ex boyfriend back or losing them forever.

Contacting Your Ex Boyfriend aka Re-attraction

Remember when your ex boyfriend left you? They thought of you as a needy, clingy and desperate person with little to no self-respect. After not being in contact with you for a while, they must be wondering what the heck happened to you. They will slowly start to forget that image of yours (the needy desperate one) and start remembering the things they liked about you. They will start remembering the things that they found attractive in you.

And that’s when you contact them, you talk to them and then meet them. Just as they lay eyes on you, BOOM. That’s the new and improved you. YOUR version 2.0. They can’t help but wonder what brought so much positive change in you.

For that to happen, you need two things.

1. You should actually bring a positive change in your life and become a confident, happy and attractive person.
2. You should contact your ex and meet them somewhere.

If you have been following this guide till now, then you know how to go about the first point. So, let’s get straight to the second point.

What to do when you ask how to attract my ex boyfriend and get his attention again

My ex girlfriend and I just broke up. I didn't want the breakup to happen but we got into an argument and we both lost control. She discovered I was double dating with her and yet I refused to open up to tell her the truth, until she proved I was lying all along. But, I tried to explain to her that the reason I lied was because i didn't want her to get hurt. I need you to help me get my ex girlfriend back into a relationship with me. I miss her, i still love her and i want her back. What can I do to get my ex girlfriend back when i miss her?

Make My Ex Boyfriend Love Me Again - New Ideas. It is difficult to know when your breakup is completely final. This is because couples breakup all the time and end up getting back together. Before you can get back together with your ex-boyfriend it would be a good idea to know how your ex-boyfriend really feels about you. If there are still feelings there then it is up to you to decipher what he says and does. He will rarely be honest and upfront about his emotions after the breakup. This means that you will have to be on the lookout for subtle signals that he is pining for you and misses you.

Breakups are extremely hard to handle. This is even more true when you don't really understand the reasons for the break up or if it was completely one-sided. Nevertheless breakups are a big part of life. You need to know how to handle them properly if you want to get your ex back.

There is every chance that you and your ex-boyfriend can reconcile. You just have to know the way to go about it. Whatever drove you two apart, you should put a plan in action to lessen the wedge between you and get your ex back into your arms again. When you walk the right path this is not only possible, but straightforward.

Your ex boyfriend's feelings for you don't disappear overnight

You're probably thinking that your ex-boyfriend wants to forget all about you, but is it really that easy? He might be pretending that he doesn't care any more but is that really the case? Think about it logically for a minute, why would your ex suddenly forget you? Just because your boyfriend dumped you that doesn't necessarily mean that their feelings for you have completely died. It is normal to still harbour feelings for your ex months and even years down the line. Why should your ex-boyfriend be any different?

No matter how much you ex-boyfriend denies it, he will still have some kind of feelings for you. This is positive for you because it gives you something to cling on to. When you know how to use these feelings to your advantage, you can make your ex-boyfriend realise that the breakup was a huge mistake. Even if he is not showing any of the signs below, that doesn't necessarily mean that he has moved on.

Guys are very good at hiding how they are really feeling, especially after a break up. Think about it for a moment, why would they want to let you know that they're still still hung up about you? It would leave them very vulnerable and be a huge knock to their ego if you rejected them off hand. This is why they keep their cards very close to their chests. Who could blame them? It is human nature to try and protect yourself.

This is why you have to be smart and work out the signs for yourself. Luckily there are lots of things that you can look out for when you are talking to your ex-boyfriend. Some of these signs are incredibly subtle and it takes a clever person to spot them. Some are much more obvious and when your ex-boyfriend exhibits these kinds of signs you will know that they are still in love with you.

Please look out for these signs before you make a move on your ex-boyfriend, the last thing that you want to do is assume that you ex-boyfriend loves you and make a fool of yourself. You have to be sensible here and protect yourself too. Look at the signs below and figure out where you stand with your ex-boyfriend and if you have a chance of getting him back again.

They remain in contact with you after the breakup

When your ex-boyfriend texts and calls you after they have broken up with you it is a clear sign that they have not fully moved on yet. Why would your ex-boyfriend feel the need to contact you constantly? You have broken up after all, they should be moving on and not keeping you on a short leash. If your ex-boyfriend is getting in contact with you, you can be assured that it is for a reason. They are obviously not ready to let go completely and prefer to keep you at a close distance.

They contact you at the weekend or at night
You also need to be aware of when your ex is contacting you. Is their contact mostly at weekends and at night? If this is the case then they are probably missing you. This is when they had spent most of the time with you, so now that you are not around they are feeling lonely. They should also be out at the weekend or busy instead of contacting their ex-girlfriend.

Their contact with you increases
When your ex-boyfriend is trying to test the tide and find out how you feeling, they will try to increase communication with you. They are doing this to figure out if you have moved on or if you are receptive to that contact. They will subsequently be asking lots of loaded questions and trying to engage in lengthy conversations with you. If anything, your ex boyfriend's contact with you should dwindle after breakup, after all they have no reason to keep in touch with you.

They ask you about your social life frequently
When your ex-boyfriend is interested in what you're up to, they're obviously worrying that you are moving on before them. They will try to be subtle about it but ultimately you will see that they are trying to figure out if there is someone else on the scene. They don't want to bruise their egos and want to find out in a non-obvious way.

Your ex-boyfriend really shouldn't be interested in your social life. They would be too busy getting on with their own life and leaving you behind if they had truly moved on. The reason that they are enquiring about your activity is because they want to fill in the gaps themselves without asking outright. If they ask you how your weekend was, do you really think they care? They want to see if you offer any information on what you were up to. Then then they can retreat with the least embarrassment possible if you say you were on a date.

Your Next Steps
There are many more signs he still likes you, look at them in depth and ascertain if your ex-boyfriend is exhibiting any of these signs. Before you make a move on your ex boyfriend you will need to be sure.

After that, there are so many more techniques and strategies that you should be putting into action right now. First of all you need to make him want you back. If you can increase his desire for you then getting back will be no problem at all. You also need to avoid the common breakup mistakes that women make in your position. Knowing the pitfalls of post-break up interactions will make your ex-boyfriend view you in a positive way. If you still love your ex, don't give up.

Making Your Ex Boyfriend Or Ex Girlfriend Miss You With Human Psychology - New Ideas. Making your Ex Boyfriend Or Ex Girlfriend miss you is a powerful tool in your arsenal for getting them back. The trouble is that most people get the steps very wrong. This is because they act on emotions rather than common sense. This is entirely natural after a break up and very human. However, acting emotionally, hitting out at your Ex Boyfriend Or Ex Girlfriend and doing things that you will later regret, will push you farther and farther away from your ultimate goal of getting your Ex Boyfriend Or Ex Girlfriend back.


It is time to take stock of the situation and look at things from your ex's perspective. This means that you need to brush up on the psychology of the opposite sex. The opposite sex behave in a very different way from you after the break up. Likewise different psychological tactics will work on them from the ones that will work on you. Instead of relying on techniques that you believe will make your Ex Boyfriend Or Ex Girlfriend miss you, (i.e. the ones that would work on you), you have to go against this logic sometimes and put yourself in their shoes.

For instance, you might think that by placing yourself in your ex's line of vision will make them realise what they are missing out on. Unfortunately it rarely works like this. When you are always there your Ex Boyfriend Or Ex Girlfriend will never have the opportunity to miss you. You will actually be making the break up a whole lot easier for them in the process. Not only will your Ex Boyfriend Or Ex Girlfriend not have to commit to you, they still have the added bonus of having you around and knowing what you're doing. In essence, they will never fully feed the loss of you in their lives – this is a bad path to go down.

Make your Ex Boyfriend Or Ex Girlfriend miss you – step one

Now is the time to disassociate yourself from your Ex Boyfriend Or Ex Girlfriend completely. You don't have to be rude and ignore them if they try to initiate conversation – that would be counter-productive. Instead you have to remove yourself from any interaction are you currently have with them. This may prove difficult if you work with your Ex Boyfriend Or Ex Girlfriend or are likely to bump into them regularly. Try to come up with solutions we see them as little as possible, then you're less likely to do or say something that you will reflect badly on you.

Make your Ex Boyfriend Or Ex Girlfriend miss you – step two

As well as staying away from your Ex Boyfriend Or Ex Girlfriend physically, you have to avoid them in the virtual world as well. Even though you may feel like updating your Facebook, your Ex Boyfriend Or Ex Girlfriend will know how you're feeling and what you're doing, this is a bad idea. They will know exactly what you're trying to do – get a reaction or attention from them.

Even if you're not directly messaging your Ex Boyfriend Or Ex Girlfriend, they will know that your updates are for their benefit. It will be glaringly obvious to them that you have too much time on your hands and that you're not really over them. You might think that you're being subtle, but your Ex Boyfriend Or Ex Girlfriend will be extra sensitive to what you say and do after the break up. You did not want to risk the danger of making your Ex Boyfriend Or Ex Girlfriend see you as desperate or pathetic – there is no way that they will miss you if this is the case.

Make your Ex Boyfriend Or Ex Girlfriend miss you – step three

This step is an important one because it will remind your Ex Boyfriend Or Ex Girlfriend how much you mean to them and they will start seeing you as attractive again. Remember that you're trying to be someone that your Ex Boyfriend Or Ex Girlfriend will miss here. That means that you have to rediscover who you were before you and your Ex Boyfriend Or Ex Girlfriend got together – this is the person that they fell for and will begin.

To be someone that your Ex Boyfriend Or Ex Girlfriend will miss you have to redeem your self respect. If you don't respect yourself then your Ex Boyfriend Or Ex Girlfriend won't either. It is hard to see your self worth after a break up because you feel rejected. You will need to get your confidence back though and reclaim the person that you were before. This will make your Ex Boyfriend Or Ex Girlfriend sit up and take notice of you again and start to wonder if the breakup was a good idea after all.

Your Next Steps

Now that you understand some of the fundamental steps involved in making your Ex Boyfriend Or Ex Girlfriend miss you, it is time to implement other techniques to make your Ex Boyfriend Or Ex Girlfriend want you. When you know how to use psychological triggers to make your Ex Boyfriend Or Ex Girlfriend react in a certain way, you can gently encourage them to miss you and realise that the break up was a mistake after all.

You also need to know where you really stand by reading the signs Ex Boyfriend Or Ex Girlfriend still loves you. They may be hiding how they're really feeling, but you can decipher their behaviour to find out the truth. This will save a lot of embarrassment and upset.