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It does, thank you

Thank you all for your replies.

We are currently living in Northern Ireland so the NIgerian Embassy in London is too far to travel too but as I am Irish citizen (though living in UK) I think i will try embassy in Dublin!

Hope it works

Hi Im Irish & my husband is Nigerian, we both live in Uk but got married in Benin, Nigeria. We have been told that we need an apostille now for our marriage cert (so we can get a schengen visa to travel to europe) as it wasnt issued here in UK, does anyone know if this can be done by Nigerian embassy in UK or does our certificate have to be returned to Nigeria to be stamped?

Im Irish & my husband is Nigerian, we both live in Uk but got married in Benin, Nigeria. We have been told that we need an apostille now for our marriage cert as it wasnt issued here in UK, does anyone know if this can be done by Nigerian embassy in UK or does our certificate have to be returned to Nigeria to be stamped?

I was exactly the same before mine too, and it was made all the worse that we got married in Nigeria too as his mum wanted to meet me first! So not only was i nervous about getting married but also about travelling to Nigeria for the 1st time, but most scary was the thought of meeting his mum!! I needn't have worried about her though as she was so lovely to me.

Because none of my friends or family were there with us we are planning on having a blessing later this year here in Ireland on our 2nd wedding anniversary so have all that to try organise now!

And as for all the rumours about these bad Naija men, of course some guys are lousy but they are like that in all races, just relax & enjoy!

My husband is also Nigerian. We have only been married just over a year but hope to start a family very soon. I have already told my husband that when we do have children i want them to learn about his culture and his language etc. I assume we will continue to live in europe for many years and feel it is equally important for any children we have to know & appreciate what both their parents have & where they came from. As for his family in Nigeria, his mum & sister are continually asking when we are going to bring some yellow babies back to see them

My husband does the same, kisses with his eyes open. It used to really really bug me but now im sort of used to it. I did comment on it at the start & he says thats just the way he does things. If everything else is good dont let it become a big deal

I am Irish also but live in Northern Ireland and am married to a Nigerian. If you are looking for some female attention i suggest you move up north. There are a lot more black people, not all necessarily Nigerian, in Dublin & it is a much bigger city. Because of this apparently black men are still a welcome novelty here. I have been told by friends that in certain clubs here the white guys stand on 1 side, the black guys on the other & the women all over with the black guys - obviously im not taking my (very handsome) husband in there so cant vouch for how true it really is

My parents knew i was getting married but niether of them gave their blessing or attended. Their main issue with it was because my husband is black (Im not). We were mean to be getting married in Scotland with both my parents invited, but because i knew how they felt about my husband & the fact they are divorced & hate each other it would have been to akward having them both at the ceremony, spoiling things for us so instead i decided that since we were going to Nigeria to meet his mum that we should get married there. Thankfully his family were lovely to me & we had a great day though it was slightly sad not having any of my family there, but hey if they want to be small minded enought to have issues over the colour of someones skin that's their problem, certainly wasnt going to stop me marrying him.

I really hope it is possible as i am married and really hope & believe that my husband would never cheat. Nice to see some reassurance from some of the men on here though!

Coming from Northern Ireland, when i was a teenager there was no choice but white guys to date but i have also dated white guys from aroune Europe & various parts of the world (and yes i am white too). However i am now married to a Nigerian guy from Benin.

And yeah there are quite a few differences in how they treat you.  My husband does my head in sometimes as he is quite moody (especially when stressed or thinking about money) and he doesnt like to spend money in the same way i do (white men are more generous i feel) but he is much more affectionate and caring than the majoirty of white guys i have been with, he likes to take care of me & make sure im happy and is much more honest (sometimes too much!) and straightforward & doesnt play stupid mind games.  He makes me feel much more loved & wanted which to me is the most important thing of all.

Overall i prefer how my husband treats me now than any of the past white boyfriends (I am 34 so i have had a few!) & hey nobody is perfect.

@Fhemmmy - hey i know my question sounded dumb (even to me) but i just had to be 100% sure cos i couldnt work out what solemnized was, and my husband isnt the brightest button in the box to leave him to find out

@aysometin - Well i am Irish so he worked out quickly the way to my heart

Ok thank you for all the info

Nope 1 husband is more than enough thanks I only mentioned "Nigerian" husband as i am on a Nigeria forum

I met my husband 3 years ago on the underground in Barcelona. He tried to talk to me when I had in my earphones in so i told him to get lost!! I then felt bad and apologised to him for the way i had spoken to him & then realised just how handsome he was! I was only travelling 2 stops so we only had a very brief chat, i got off at my stop & then realised he had gotten off too. He invited me for a beer, we started dating and we got married in Nigeria last year!

My family disapproved of our relationship from the start and are only slowly coming around to it now and i was realyl worried about meeting his family in Nigeria but they were really lovely to me & made me feel very welcome. It is now coming up to our 1st wedding anniversary & although we've faced a lot of opposition in lots of ways im really glad i met him.

@mikedeoye - thank you for all your help & information. I do have the notification paper, but we did also have a ceremony at the registery office with witnesses before the date stated on the registration certificate. Am i right in assuming from your explanation that this means it has been solemnized then (sorry its just i have never heard this term before)? After this ceremony we did recieve a certificate (a long blus peice of paper) with our names & our witnesses on it also - is this the FRN Certifcate then? I apologise if these sound very stupid questions but as i explained i had never heard the tem "solemnize" before & was concerned that the certificate was unlike any other countries. Also i want to make sure everything is in order to prevent any hassle with my husbands visa. I really do appreciate all your help.

@fhemmmy - yep i am very happy with my Nigerian husband, thanks

No im not still there, this was last year, i meant that we had to leave 2 days after getting the details amended

Basically we are hoping its invalid so we can get wed again , its all to do with visas, so if anyone does actually know the answer it would be very helpful.