sexkillz:

^^^
I suggest she tells her husband! It's better than hearing it from someplace else. . . This is too weighty a matter to keep from a man who is looking for a child.

omega25red:

i would have said to tell but she should have said something at the beginning before she got married. Tell her husband now would only create a problem she wont be able to fix. I am responding as if i am her husband and i can't imagine being told after we got married that she was violated (allegedly) by her cousin and she had the baby who died and now she still sees the guy and wants me to handle the matter. Im sorry that would be a deal breaker

She should go back to her family members and have them handle it since she believes in voodoo instead of medical science.

kokoye:

Why does she want to tell her husband. . what for?

It's not like she had an abortion . .the baby was born but died.

Although what the cousin did was totally wrong, she cant go blaming him for her delay in having a child . . is she the only one he slept with before marriage?

I aint saying forget . . but she needs to forgive and let go . . maybe then the child will come . . .Amen.

#realities_of_life

Mynd_44:

The guy will find out from someone else when the situation heats and how do you think he will feel? Atleast if she tells him, she can control the way he gets the info

~Mikael~:

I agree it cant change anything, but what happens when someone tells the husband the truth, since what transpired is not a secret between the woman, and her said cousin alone?

~Mikael~:

How would you feel if you were the husband, and later found out?

kokoye:

Why do I need to find out? It happened before I met her

worse, I go vex small . . but later come to my senses that it really is not my business.

Again, that is not the reason why the lady is yet to conceive.

r231:

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-855820.0.html#top

LesbianBoy:

So my girlfriend was gisting with me that her friend confided in her(my GF) that her(her friend) got violated by her cousin when she was 20 yrs and in the process she got pregnant and had the baby though the baby died later! This caused a lot of issue in their family at that time. she(my GF's friend) is married for over 5 years now but she is yet to have a child in her marriage though her husband is not complaining for now o,  but the thing is she still sees this cousin of hers up till now and she finds it hard to forgive this cousin of hers. she is now contemplating telling her husband what happened btw her and her cousin in the past,

NLders what do u advice her to do should she tell her husband or not? Because she doesnt know how her husband will react considering the fact that the 'RAPER' is a relative. And he may also think her cousin is/has been behind their childlessness!

NL what wud u do if u were in the girl's situation!

Mynd_44:

@Mrs Chima, nobody is talking about the birth issue here but if the man finds out elsewhere, it will be worse

deniyor:

Raper??

deniyor:

Raper??