Probably - or most definately - not. I should read the book again to tell precisely. However, there are ages between me and a personality like O., I don't put culture above any other thing. I don't even care if the world is changing a.k.a. "falling apart".

First and foremost Okwoknwo is a fictive person, he is not real.

The story is about a strict traditionalist who is standing in the midst of a society that is changing, falling apart. He is ready to sacrifice his son for that, just the same way Abraham was ready to sacrifice Isaac for the sake of his god's ordeal.
I think the analogy was intended by Achebe. I just wonder why he didn't make him his own blood, would that have been too much of a taboo for the potential readers?

I've read these ones, I think they were meant seriously, published in a women's magazine in 1950something,

I thought it was left by the Portugese: "saber" meaning "to know" in english.

I'm chewing over another one: "consign" which is used for concern (e no cosign me). Was this originally simply a confusion with the similar sounding english word "concern" (it doesn't concern me) or is it really cosign as to be consigned (or to be assigned) with something?

@skfa1

Is it possible that your sister's stay in the UK is depending on her marriage? Then I understand why she's hesitating to report to the police and get out of the relationship.

Also I don't know how the police are dealing with domestic violence over there, but possibly calling the police in the first place could make everything worse. Would the police remove the violent man instantly from the house? If no, where is the woman expected to stay once she has reported the husband?

Aren't they any institutions that provide shelter and consultancy for battered women in the first instance in the UK? We have something like that in my country here. Abused women can go there in emergencies and stay over for a while with their children in a safe environment and plan their next steps.

@Stephen

I believe you. Maybe she's both. Or none of the two. I just found another thread iniated by her about Nigerian men and Zimbabwean women, where she refers to Zimbabwean women as "they" opposed to "us".

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=149006.msg2475545#msg2475545


However, the first impression I gained from this thread was that somebody wants to provoke Nigerian women in implying Nigerian men are more attracted by Southern African women (because they are so bootylicous).
Sorry, I believe this is a hoax, just like the other girl I came across recently that was also from Vancouver, if I remember well,  She claimed to be white and fucking dogs in one thread and she admitted cheating and abusing her Nigerian husband on the other thread. OH this Vancouver people 
(christyike was the user: https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?action=profile;u=223082;sa=showPosts )

@Stephen

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=126549.msg2482752#msg2482752

Here she claims to be from Zimbabwe (Southern Africa).

There seems to be much controversy in this forum (I am just a newcomer ) about this topic: Dating older guys is said not to be adviseable but on the other hand dating older ladies seems to be perceived as if it is some kind of taboo,

I personally think age doesn't matter as long as the couple has common goals and interest. If both are within the same generation I don't think age would be a barrier at all. However, I observe that some relationships with a big age gap tend to fail because of the wish to have children by one partner: If one is already too old or vice versa one is not ready but the other one feels it is about time there is not really a compromise.

My "guy" i.e. husband is 7 years older than me and I don't think this is of great relevance in our relationship.
I was 20 and he was 27 when started our relationship. But I acknowledge it would have been a slight different thing if he was 20 and I was 13.

(House hubby)

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Husband

Householder abi "head of household". Laundry is part of household.

who will do the laundry

Why not you? You'd rather pump money into drycleaing outlets (but not all laundry is drycleaning) or walk around in dirty clothes all this while? Moreover I assume that if your wife is such a career woman she can afford a washing machine.
Please, is it killing you to do laundry - keep your head up!

I am very sorry that this is happening to you, dear Kachichi. It just seems to happen from time to time that one is using the other one in the first place to acquire something he couldn't have otherwise.
You have all the rights to be angry and if you are determined to end this now I wish you all the strength to go trough with it. Soon you will get over it.

However, there seems to be one big problem and that is that you have a child togheter. You said you filed for sole custody over your son, please consider this once again. Afterall, it is his child too and that he played you so badly does not mean he has no feelings for his child with you, it is probable that he will not easily leave his son for you solely. Please don't take revenge trough your son, don't use him as a weapon against your soon-to-be-ex, it won't do him any good. I assume your son is still young and I think he will already suffer enough that his parents are going to separate. The best thing is to involve him as little as possible.

I wish you all the best.

"how long can this "stay-with-mother-in-law-till-hubby-returns" status last?"

As long as the situation requires it, I guess. How long is the guy still depending on your marriage for his stay to be secured?

Well I have been married for over six years and I think I can add my two pence from a the perspective of a married wife.

I am not super-educated in terms of university education. I am currently doing my BSc and at the moment I don't plan to go further than this, I am already 27 years old with children.
But I can definately say that I am emancipated. Which by the way lets me raise a question: Why is it believed that uneducated women are unlikely not to submit to their husbands? While reading this thread, I gained the impression that women are implying that higher education is THE empowerment for a woman to reason and act on her own. I think all women, regardless of their degrees, are justified to do so as well as I believe that the majority of even illiterate females don't follow their lords and masters blindfoldedly.

Some men claimed that it is compulsoury that one (ideally the wife) must generally submit to the other in a marriage, otherwise it will not work out. While I admit that a final decision in favour of the opinion of only one party must eventually be taken when there is an issue where no compromise can be reached, I don't think the decision must always be in favour of the man. It all depends on the situation and how something is priotorized for the individual. There are decisions my husband takes that I actually don't support but when I sense that he is very opinionated on this specific issue, I feel it is not worth a long debate and I leave it up to him. However, when something has huge priority for me, I try to stand my ground until I convinced him (or vice-versa).
Such heavy debates do happen, but not very often. If it happened over every thing, we would have to ask ourselves if we were really matching each other.

Concerning respect, respect has nothing to do with submission in my opionion. Respect is a normal thing, it should be as a matter of course that wife respects husband and husband respects wife. Unless you believe a woman is already acting disrespectful to her husband in airing an opposite opinion, an argument can always be porsued in a respectful manner.

Well, that topic just caught my interest. I am expecting my second child in four weeks time and the question of whether my husband should accompany me to the labour room or not has been occupying my mind since a couple of weeks.

My hubby was there with me in the labour room when I was about to give birth to our first daughter. However, in retrospect, I'm afraid his presence wasn't that ideal,
At first, he was barely able to stay awake and then he took on the - agreed unsympathic - midwife. I believe all this just distracted me unnecessarily. Labour then became very inefficient and long-lasting. Eventually the health of our unborn was at risk and I ended up in the operating theatre and our baby was delivered with a C-section. Of course the distraction with my husband was not the main reason but I take it as a contributing factor. That had almost caused him nervous breakdown. We have spoken about that on several occasions afterwards and I don't blame him, but we agree his support could have been better,

Now as the birth of our second child is imminent it seems to be as a matter of course for him to be present in the labour room again. I was thinking once aloud that I might consider another person to accompany me to give birth, but he wasn't relieved as I had expected, on contrary, he was rather snuffy.

I love my husband over all but I am just afraid of having a similar situation again. What if he is overchallenged again by the situation and what if I feel angry and distracted again?
I could have tried it all alone but on the other hand, in an emergency situation, I'll need somebody to defend my interest towards the hospital personnel. And it is my husband that I feel most secure with, it is him that I trust to protect my interest best if the worst comes to the worst.

I was also thinking about my mum and a female friend. The problem with my friend is, that she lives far away and I don't know how quick she could make it here. The best would probably be, if several persons (including my husband) are within reach that could take turns according to my needs.


To the original question: Husbands are allowed in the labour rooms, here. (We live in Europe). But there is ambiguity if they are really the best fitting companion to their birth-giving wifes. I read many midwifes have concluded men shouldn't be in the labour room. They say it should become a woman thing again.

Hello

What type of snack you suggest to bring along to an multicultural gathering from your Country?

We enrolled for "salty Nigerian snack".

We were thinking about Akara, Meatpies, Jollof rice,  but we are still undecided.

Last year we brought Akara and MoyinMoyin, while the Akara went like hotcakes the MoyinMoyin weren't that popular.

Any suggestion welcome, especially quick and easy recipes since this year we don't have a lot of time to prepare.

Thank you!

Thank you for the welcoming uspry.

looks like the button just appeared now, probably it took my reply to this thread to come out from its hideout

After having been a guest to this forum for quite a while, I finally registered a few minutes ago. Unfortunately, I can't find the "new topic" button either, not even after reading this topic. There is no further button next to "mark as read",

Has it got something to do with me just being new to this board? What needs to be done before I can start my own topic?

Thanks for helping me out,