There are many reasons that might have caused the man to change his mind.
1)He might have a terminal illness and wanted to spare you of mourning him after
his demise
2)He might not have the financial wherewithal at this period and as such, at the
mercy of the mum whom he may have been hoping will finance the wedding
3)The family may be against the union or the have seen a rich/wealthy lady to marry
Now my humble opinion, keep the pregnancy, people will talk about you for a couple of
months and then they will be tired and find something else to talk about. Trust me,
that child will be your saving grace someday. It will be a difficult journey/task, but
you will sure pull through.

2 years ago, a friend of mine registered for a professional exams and she was so secretive about it(i had no problem with that though), until about 2 weeks to the exams date and she had not gotten all necessary documents which of course should have been with her at that moment. She reluctantly told me about it and i immediately plunged myself into the whole situation because i had written the exams a couple of years back before we started working together. Everything did work out well and she was able to write the exams but did not pass due to inadequate preparation, all because she did not ask for help or guidance. Last year again, i told her to try the exams again and this time around, i helped her with the materials needed to prepare and she is happy. though she told me she had a bitter experience with some colleagues while she was working at home, but she has come to realise that everybody is not the same. I personally don't like getting under peoples skin. Everyone is entitled to the privacy of their own lives and we have to prove that we are trustworthy for me to be at ease to disclose personal problems or plans to us.

baby_123: Would it have been better if it was rice? Because he had to attend to you all he should die and not eat lunch? Abegi. You have issues. Some people dont have time for lunch. . What exactly is your problem? You went to his office and his desk, he didnt come to you. Were you hungry or what? I dont get the whole point of this post.

It is very unprofessional for him to eat at his desk in the office and attend to customers at the same time. The appropriate thing is to eat in a private place such as the dining lounge or a pantry. Though i doubt if he has any specific time for lunch which is supposed to be a must, but in Nigeria we work people to death. No lunch break, no annual leave and even no guarantee of payment of salary at the end of the month.

[quote author=beautiful Onyi]While I appreciate nurses, I believe one can state their point without bringing down another profession. I'm a doctor and I can proudly say that:
1) Nurses do not work as hard as doctors. They work an average of 6-8hrs daily, because they run 3-4 shifts per day. Doctors on the other hand work an average of 10-24hrs daily. Doctors run 24hrs -72hrs calls.

2) Issue of strike: when doctors go on strike, they are more merciful. They may not admit new patients, but they still take care of the patients they admitted before the strike. Nurses are ruthless when it comes to strike. They don't show up at all. They leave doctors to do their work, which we do without much effort because truth be told, the work of a nurse requires little or no brain work, zero IQ. A primary school child can do a nurses work. No pun intended

3) Education: it takes 3yrs to be a nurse. It requires no university degree (bsc nursing is a recent development). It is not a profession for intelligent people. Really what do nurses do? Document, clean poo, make beds, hang IV fliuds, take instructions from doctors, shout on patients, nag nag nag, quarrel about 'days off'

Ps: the above concerns Nigerian nurses who should change their stupid attitudes and learn to accept and live with the fact that the doctor is the HEAD of the health team and always knows better.

Now, nurses abroad....a different ball game, pls nigerian nurses should learn from them. [/quote


You got it all wrong my dear, try treating one nurse with respect and you will be amazed at the result you will get. In my previous post i did mention the relationship between all the members of the health care team in the facility am working and that respect is not one sided. Whatever happens to maintaining the dignity of man irrespective of socioeconomic status of that person. No wonder our society is still the way it is today because those that are supposed to be agents of change are the ones that believed that "some animals are more equal than than the others" I wish you goodluck in your bumpy ride with the nurses.

[quote author=adeaugustus]Nurse:
I respect them a lot, they're always at the fore front with the patients. If a nurse is not too good at what she does, then the Doctor on call should be ready to have a messed up time.
On the other hand, if you meet the cruel ones, you'll not like their profession. Nurses in my school health centre don't bloody care if you're dying, because they won't attend to you until they're done with their food or some other silly things. While I see this as something very bad and unethical, I wouldn't blame them too much because most of the patients they attend too don't really appreciate their service, the government is not appreciating them too (In terms of wages).

Doctors:
I don't know why most of those guys think they are the one in charge, actually they're not, earlier on this thread i read somebody's comment about the doctor doing the brain work, (that comment breaks my heart). Doctors are not adding any value to the medical profession (at least the ones that are not into research). A very good nurse can always kick any doctor's azz any day any time, A physician assistant will function as a doctor on any given occasion.
I don't like it when they receive the glory that is supposed to be shared by all health professionals!
The above comment about doctors doesn't mean i don't respect them, I do respect them alot, because without their help, all medical research and findings wouldn't get to the reach of our people. But what I demand from them is that they should acknowledge those that are helping them to have a successful day at work.

From what i observed, this attitude is peculiar to Nigeria doctors alone, as I was opportuned to read Dr. Ben Carson's book "Think Big" He actually appreciate everybody's effort in the successful separation of the sesamese twins, from the surgical nurse even to his secretary.

Pharmacists are doing a great deal of work too......
Public Health Officers.
Medical Laboratory Scientist.
Biochemist.
Physiologist.
Anatomist.
Therapists.
E.t.c.

Your observation is spot on my dear. I am a registered nurse trained in Nigeria, worked for a couple of years In Nigeria before traveling outside the country. Everything about Nigeria sometimes seems to be done the other way around. Drs and Nurses are always going for each others' jugular in the name of fighting for superiority. This is sometimes at the expense of the patient(s),then i felt i was in the wrong profession as the people that are supposed to be working together don't even get along, nurses are constantly humiliated by some doctors who feel that they are everything in the field. I personally did not have any problem with any doctor because i believe we should all get along and also i make friends with almost everybody in order to make my work easier. For that was an advise i received from a good friend in the profession, which has been my guiding principle even in foreign lands. When i traveled out, i experienced a totally different work environment where everyone starting from the cleaner up to the hospital administrator have cordial relationship at least most of the times because we have people that are incorrigible everywhere. You can easily ask a doctor to hand you something in the unit if you are busy or cannot leave the patient's bedside at the moment. Doctors with many qualifications are so humble to the extent that they can even share their lunch with a cleaner in the hospital. This arrogance is not peculiar to people in the health care professional in Nigeria but it cuts across all professions in our society(Nigeria). My advice to everyone is 'team work' and the work load will be much easier as no one person can handle a patient seeing that we are already overworked, why add more to your burden. Doctors treat your nurses well because they are human beings first, Nurses respect doctors so that you will be able to discuss patient's care together, don't forget you are patients advocate. Make the work environment favorable for your own good. This is just my one cent

Nickydrake:

Regarding the bolded, i'm uh... somewhat ignorant in that field.

What is the nature of this protection in oral s*x? Who wears the protection? Where exactly is it worn?

If there are any active practitioners of this ancient act in the house i'd be most grateful for an explanation.

MouthAction is safe with the use of "DENTAL DAM" placed over the area to be sucked (penis or vagina)so that instead of sucking directly on the skin, you will be sucking on the dam which is already flavoured like your chewing gum and you still get the same feeling as if you are sucking on the skin. Dental dam is gelatin like sheet with different flavours specifically designed for MouthAction. It has been in use in the western world and something tells me our ministry of health is aware of it as it is usually distriuted free of charge to many countires with HIV/AIDS pandemic. From the comments here, it seems that the awareness has not been created in Nigeria. Please if you cannot use that, do not practise MouthAction. Love yourself!

Please before you judge me, i am health care professional with specialty in prevention and clinical management of HIV/AIDS and other STDs. Feel free to contact me if you have any questions relating to STDs

code_0:

Without cutting? Can u explain further pls. Possibly get more details from your mum and get back to us.

Circumcision can be done without cutting with the use of "PLASTIC BELL" that is attached to the phimosis which falls off after sometime. There is no risk of bleeding or infection.