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Romance › Re: Men Chase Ladies Before Romance, Ladies Chase Men After by nobaga(op): 12:24pm On Apr 16, 2016
feldido:
Just as we love and value rare gem, so we value what we spend so much time and attention to get.
But I can't guarantee what's gonna happen if I got it on a platter of gold. Such is life
You get what you want not what you deserve OR you get what you deserve not what you want. Somehow, only in a few cases do you get a perfect match.
Romance › Men Chase Ladies Before Romance, Ladies Chase Men After by nobaga(op): 9:31pm On Apr 15, 2016
Men Chase Ladies Before Romance, Ladies Chase Men After

Read more: http://newsrescue.com/men-chase-ladies-before-romance-ladies-chase-men-after/#ixzz45vfgDmie


If a lady wants a man she fancies, she displays behavior typical of all animals in the kingdom to get noticed. Once she is sure that the attention is secured, she plays hard to get. She expects him to come after her before she gives in. Some ladies may boldly initiate romance. Dominated female world include Aka of Congo, Masuo China, Sworn Virgins’ Albania and India’s Meghlaya.

There are many characteristics females display in the animal kingdom to get chased. One of the most beautiful displays of animal behavior is that of the avian species with beautiful rainbow feathers spread to attract attention of the opposite sex. It is also natural in human behavior. Yet, ladies tell us most of the time that she just wants to look good to please herself. Cosmetic display has gone crazy these days. Some are actually overdone and scary to some men.

Usually ladies are trained not to give in easily to men because once they mate, men’s attention span is less than that of a boy. So in order to get their maximum attention, let them sweat for romance. More ladies actually believe that the longer men wait, the more attention they get from them. The problem is if you play too hard to get, you may lose out to competitors that are ready. Not only for romance but also for family. Note career ladies want to wait a little longer.

After romance at the earliest or marriage at the longest, women have to chase after their men to retain their attention. It sometimes goes both ways but as usual, it is more beneficial for the adult in the relationship, mostly women to keep their men focused. Again ladies have been told never to lose sight of their men. After getting attention and being chased, the role is reversed.

Black men’s appetite for curvaceous buttocks as bootylicious has created market for designers selling clothes to shapely and sexually attractive ladies with more than just bones on the body. Pretty ladies that have been shunned in the past as too fat, now feel very proud in their skin. It has always been the case in Africa and African communities in Diaspora. It is a new fad though for white or Asian ladies expressing their black “genes” clearly in leotards and skintight clothes.

Of course women do not wear tight to be sexually attractive, they wear it to please themselves. So they readjust it for girl-watchers! It seems that some women do not know when to stop and hand over to younger ladies. Even the skintight clothes do not look good on every lady. Some women are better off in flowing clothes leaving the rest to suspense in imagination. But when ladies force themselves into clothes that do not argument their bodies, they look unattractive.

Designers sell artificial padded butts and boobs. One cannot but wonder what happens when a lady captures a man and takes off her artificial padded stuff. The clever ones would postpone eventuality claiming they want to get used to the boyfriend. Brazilians would go to doctors’ clinic for quick operations to add body fat. Just like face lift, some of them have turned awry.

Other cultures have their way of attracting men that may not be appreciated elsewhere. They apply different colors, painting of the body, scarifications or tattoos. Sometimes cultures may have a subculture within, each frowning on the designs of the other. Generally initiation of sexually attractive display suggests certain amount of maturity and age. But some younger girls have defied their parents because they cannot wait to be seen as matured and older.

We have very successful ladies that wished they had gotten hooked earlier, if they had to do it all over again. The choice between career and family could be tough for ladies. Most attractive ladies get snatched first and may lose out on their careers, unless they had decided to work on it later. We have very supportive men that have encouraged their wives in that direction after she had supported them to facilitate his career by staying home.

There were very strong women like Mrs. Ransome Kuti, Fela Anikulapo Kuti’s mother that broke every rule in her days. She never stopped after having her children. Her life was a whole story by itself. She will always be known as a pioneer of Women’s Movement in men’s dominated world before her contemporaries in the Western world gain attention and recognition.

Africa’s first lady Prime Minister of Liberia Helen Sirleaf, married at the age of 17, before her long career in politics unlike many African women. United States former Speaker, Nancy Pelosi reminded the press that she started her career late after supporting her husband and children. So she was not retiring anytime soon. So was Prime Minster Margaret Thatcher of England.

However Hear Word an African play featuring Joke Silva, Taiwo Ajai-Lycett, Bimbo Akintola, Rita Edward, Omonor, Elvina Ibru, Ufuoma McDermott, Zara Udofia-Ejoh, Adenike Odetola-Odeleye and Debbie Ohiri directed by Ifeoma Fafunwa told lady’s deeply emotional, disturbing yet funny stories. But for ladies that fought back in the play to standing ovation at Harvard few men might have lost oyinbo wives. Romance is equally pleasurable for ladies and inevitable for procreation

The crude habit of genetic choice of male over female has consequences not only in Africa but worldwide. It is the root of indignities ladies encounter in male dominated world.
It is very disturbing and may predict the end of procreation, as we know it. Arrival of designer babies is just like going to show rooms to choose a car. The next generation may be able to choose the gender, eye and hair and skin color of their children, leaving romance by the way side.

Moreover some crazy scientists were speculating about the time ladies would not need men for procreation anymore since other means could be used to stimulate the eggs for fertilization. Nature has a way of disposing our proposals by the law of unintended consequences. It will deprive us of the joy of romance, courting, all the cultural ceremonies, hide and seek that go with mating. A different type of world that most of us would not desire or enjoy might emerge.

If ladies and gentlemen can no longer look forward to the moment they can romance, get one another into the sack, there would be a great deal of behavioral changes and wonders about what else to do. Pursuit of happiness by the way of coupling, hugging, entertaining and eating together make up most of our world. Other important activities like working is to provide for the families by making ends meet. One without the other may be worth very little.

Romance revolves around a couple as a company of each other; and by the time children are introduced, they become a crowd that can throw a party and enjoy themselves within.

Read more: http://newsrescue.com/men-chase-ladies-before-romance-ladies-chase-men-after/#ixzz45vezEy8O
Business › Re: Big Biz Must Generate Their Electricity & Foreign Money Now by nobaga(op): 1:26am On Apr 08, 2016
Drabeey:
It takes a lot of balls to generate your own......
You are right but so is anything worth doing. Remember that the most desirable is not the easiest attainable.

It may spur competition in solar, wind and other renewable energies. What we have now are individual attempts and success but if big businesses take it on in a large scale or larger than they have now in their enclaves, they can sell surplus to government grid as the writer suggested and to individuals. If more of them do it, the people would have competitive choice between companies and government's grid.

Oil companies have power now in oil towns, they just need to expand it and make money out of it too. These individual solar power is just not enough to make a dent but better than nothing.

As for foreign allocation, let those who compete with us at Central Bank go to their hidden accounts in Panama.
Business › Big Biz Must Generate Their Electricity & Foreign Money Now by nobaga(op): 9:43pm On Apr 07, 2016
Big Biz Must Generate Their Electricity & Foreign Money Now


How big does multibillion businesses have to be before they started generating their electricity and foreign/hard cash? They must stop depending and blaming our unresponsive governments they control. Generate your foreign money like poor students, entertainers, sports figures. Start selling your surplus electricity back to national grid, right now, not in five years or in the future.

We have to thank God that finally Dagote and Chukwuma of Innoson motors are promising to generate foreign money and depend on local raw materials for their products. There are more of you out there like OBJ, Dantata, Otedola, Danjuma that have multibillion businesses but are still competing with little start-up companies for meager Government foreign reserve, national grid; not Panama accounts. Stop or give up your Central Bank foreign allocations and PHC/NEPA.


Certainly the gesture of Dangote and Chukwuma are the right moves in the right direction. Our fear is that all the promises made by African political and business leaders featured in blue prints were always postponed when it came to due date. We are so sick and tired of rosy road maps and plans that never materialized. Many of these companies except Innoson motors have been in business long enough to implement these promises right now.

However, Africans depend on government as the biggest employers and our big businesses depend on government for allocations from foreign reserves. It is important to note that for budding businesses and start-ups, this is expected. But once they started generating profits from sales inside and outside, they should source their own foreign money from their profits. Ikechukwu had to source dollars from oil companies, a historical first. Owo Abu nse Abu lalejo!

When Hubert Ogunde started entertaining us with our own culture for shillings in those days, most people never believed he would make money from what is now known as Nollywood! They are now one of the foreign currency earners in Nigeria. These young men and women achieved their success without depending on the governments for handouts, allocation from foreign reserves or crying for NEPA. Indeed, they built their own world of infrastructures.

So are our young students around the age of twenty-three while studying, also working to send money home to their parents and siblings: pumping foreign money into our local economy. If many of us knew what the hell it took to do this, we would not venture out of African countries. But when young men and (pregnant) women swear they are ready to die in the deserts than stay at home and suffer, we must examine how and who are the managers of our resources.

It is not western governments that make their countries rich, it is the people and the businesses they created worldwide selling goods and services that brought foreign riches to their countries. The roles of their governments are limited to laws, regulation and rules that further their effort and protect their existence. In some cases, these businesses are so jealously protected abroad to the detriment of ours. Enron was a case in point that defrauded some developing countries.

When Dangote goes to establish plants in African countries, he never complained about lack of infrastructures, electricity and water. Dangote made his own electricity, roads in and out of the jungles and created his own water. Indeed, in most cases he leveraged his own money from the profits of his companies in and out of that country. He does not have to wait for five years to do that in Nigeria. He can start right now. Rankadede!

Dangote self-reliance in other African countries is not unheard of. Some African companies and many foreign companies know it is good business. Oil companies usually generate their own electricity, roads, staff housing and schools. A few even extend social functions to neighboring communities close to their established oil companies’ villages or sell surplus power to national grid. Apart from generous “bush” allowance to staff, they just want to make them comfortable.

If we ask African businesses not to depend so much on governments, foreign big corporations that have been in Africa for ages making profits, have no reason sharing or asking for allocation out of the little government reserves which is much less than theirs. These are companies that paid less wages compared to foreign staff, get most of their raw materials locally and export declared and creative accounting profits out of Africa. Reinvestment of some profit is good biz.

We are not asking these companies to take over the responsibilities and functions of their local governments, we are only asking them to be responsible corporate citizens. They should not poison the well they drink from. If they can hold their noses long enough to make profits while here, they should not drain the governments’ foreign reserves. They can plough some profit in.

In essence we have Panama looters, local big businesses and foreign companies competing for the little and dwindling foreign reserves of countries overwhelmed with the basic needs of folks. They are vultures threatening jobs and meagre salaries paid, unless they get their lion profit out.

Some of the conditions laid down by Chukwuma are fair responsibilities of the Government. It is disgraceful that we have local auto plants but our government ministers and officials are driving vehicles whose makers have not contributed anything to the economy. Yet our producers of nothing and consumers of everything cannot wait to purchase these foreign cars with our hard earned reserves at the back of fishermen in environmental polluted swamps.

Right now in United States, the Government has introduced corporate inversion regulations to prevent their big corporate companies from dodging their taxable profits on paper by merging with small companies overseas while retaining their advantages in U.S.A. Making big companies accountable is the reason for government in the first place. Article on African inversion later

Read more: http://newsrescue.com/big-biz-must-generate-their-electricity-foreign-money-now-by-farouk-martins-aresa/#ixzz45Avm3ZDe
Business › Re: parallel & Black Markets Compete With Central Bank by nobaga: 4:28pm On Apr 02, 2016
Note that this was written in Dec. 2015 and still relevant.
Politics › Economic Blackmail By Foreigners And Their Protegees by nobaga(op): 11:28pm On Mar 28, 2016
Economic Blackmail By Foreigners And Their Protegees

[b]So unless Nigeria opens up its limited foreign reserves to everyone that desires as much foreign goods and services as he wants, the Country is going to blazes. But if the Country exhausts all its foreign reserves, it will be saved from economic ruins? If we are to believe these foreign trained economists, their magazines, newspapers or prostitutes, Nigeria has no choice but to devalue its currency so that it can pay more in local currency for their odious loans, goods and services.

Once Nigeria pays more in devalued naira, goods, services, transportation fare and service loan fees will increase accordingly. Housing and car purchases increase will follow and workers will demand more to meet daily expenses. It is illogical to think that paying more in devalued naira will automatically solve the problem of a market without abundant local products to export.

All foreign loans would need more naira to maintain. As well as foreign goods, housing estates, constructions and infrastructure. In order to pay lenders, more would have to be demanded from users to meet their obligation to buy dollars with devalued naira. These increases would fuel more inflation as workers work harder or take other jobs to pay their rents. More naira would be needed for freely imported food, pencils, secondhand materials; killing local goods.

Manufacturers that need essential raw materials that are not available in Nigeria would have to compete with pencil, water and tooth picks importers paying more devalued naira. If they could not generate enough naira to buy dollars, many would have to close shops, plants and factories. Workers would be laid off increasing the number of people in non-essential markets eking out a living. One would think that these manufacturers would be the first against devaluation.

Yet, some of them are threatening to lay off millions of workers if they do not get their free and open way to buy dollars as they wish as if Nigeria prints American and European currencies. The foreign companies have money in their foreign banks 10 times the amount of African countries’ foreign reserve but they will never reinvest it in Africa. They will rather exhaust the little income these poor African countries have so that they can be destabilized after sucking their blood out.
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However, they have another reason for free falling devalued naira. Most of them make so much naira from their undeclared profit in Nigeria, they are ready to buy dollars at any price so that they can export unreported profit as well as profit made in dollars from export. Use different methods of creative accounting where they could hide undeclared profit as expenses. Their foreign and favored local employees are paid so much naira, they could buy dollars at any price.

One of the head of Mobil claimed they could not establish oil refinery as Dagote is planning to because they had to report to their American shareholders with different interest from Dagote. This is a Nigerian Director being manipulated against his own country and must deliver even if the interest of Nigeria is at stake. It gives an insight on how divergent our interests are. They are in Africa to milk us dry and pollute our environment in the process without responsibilities.

Take gas flaring for example. These same oil companies claimed they needed time but many deadlines passed and there was no action. Many African countries had to pass laws against gas flaring because each time they try to work with oil companies, they reneged on their goodwill and promises. They ignore and flaunt these laws while intentionally wasting valuable resources and polluting the environment. They install African directors to further neo-colonism interest.

In order to get hold and exhaust African Country’s foreign reserves, they refused to establish refineries and agricultural farms partnerships to create jobs. They would rather import oil and modified genetic seeds from the farmers in their home countries. Better still, would operate refineries and farms there and import the products into Africa. They are now one step further. They are buying farms in African countries dictating what to grow, the price and where to sell.

What type of PMS, sugar, milk, cocoa or alcohol beverages do they need to import that cannot be refined, grown or established in African countries? They use machines and equipment as excuses. After fifty years, none of these machines and their parts are made locally so that they can have reason to import them and bring glorified mechanic as engineers to service them.

Most of these foreign companies have been in Africa for ages and they sell many finished products made in Nigeria outside without reporting profits in dollars or paying taxes on these. Foreign companies claim they need all the foreign currencies they could get for raw materials imported. Even when we know that most of their raw materials are available locally. You may wonder what raw materials are needed for sugar and water companies like Coca-Cola.

Cocoa and beverage companies that have been in the Country forever are competing with star-up companies for foreign reserves when they should be the source of foreign exchange earners for the Country. The raw materials of most of them are cocoa, sugar, milk. Even those that claim they need wheat or barley for beverages could have established farms across the Country to grow their raw material after all these donkey years. But that will defeat their insidious goal.

They would rather grow wheat in North Africa and import it to Nigeria but if we grow cassava in Nigeria they would only export it to China at their own price. The common mean spirited policy here is their freedom to grow anywhere and export. As long as the country of operation has no control over the movement of currencies. It is their way of beating the currency restriction. Foreign companies get subsidized at Central Bank and use illegal earnings to buy local currency.

Ironically, western politicians decry most of the trade agreements as taking well-paying jobs away from Europeans and Americans. You can imagine what they get away with in Africa where selfish local managers and politicians collude with foreign companies to defraud Nigerians.

None of these companies would dare operate this way at home without bilateral agreement or multilateral agreement. This was the reason European and American local unions campaigned against cheap labors in Asia where they could pay starving wages to maximize their profits. We must give some credit to Asian countries since their governments get cuts in profits from shares in the companies, taxes on profits they must declare to patriotic local managers.
http://newsrescue.com/economic-blackmail-by-foreigners-and-their-protegees-by-farouk-martins-aresa/#axzz44Esly7jb
Romance › An Older Man's Rock Or A Younger Man's Cougar by nobaga(op): 12:01am On Mar 23, 2016
An Older Man's Rock Or A Younger Man's Cougar

Most men of all ages want ladies in their twenties but most ladies in the 20s want men closer to their age. Unfortunately, there are not enough men in their twenties to satisfy the needs of all those ladies in their twenties. Some of the men are just not ready for huge responsibilities of marriage at that age anymore unless they have rich families insisting they get serious with their girlfriends. They would rather wait to plan until they accumulate wealth or save enough money.

What drives other ladies to older man other than money? Plenty: elevation of status or security. Most women, more than most men, are very educated consumers when it comes to choosing a partner, even in their twenties. Though as men get older, they become wiser. When it comes to young tote, the older they are the easier they lose their senses. Many have been taken for rides!

While delaying marriage, young men join others in their thirties and sometimes those in their forties. We know that at this point, families would become worried wondering if their offspring are going to get serious about producing grandchildren. In some cases, the ladies these young men would love to get married to may be wishing to hook up with a different young man in his twenties. An irreconcilable mismatch posting some women into their thirties may be regretted.

The same is true of the young men, as they procrastinate into their thirties and forties, they are no more in the favored age group most ladies in their twenties would like to marry. Since ladies in their twenties prefer young men around their age. Remember that men of all age groups prefer women in their twenties. By the time men wait until their thirties and forties, they are not looking for women in their age group anymore. They want younger ladies, in the twenties!

When many of the ladies get to their thirties, they have become highly matured, wiser, many with good careers and knowing what they want from men. Sometimes, it is turn of these ladies to attract men in their twenties. Especially those young men still struggling to find a niche. One pretty lady brought her case to family court against a man in his twenties that ditched her for younger girlfriend. She was ten years older, but still pretty as a rock, better off with older men.

This lady never saw herself as a cougar in her thirties, if anything, she looked as young as the boyfriend. The court and the boyfriend�s mother could see through the young man as a user that lived between her mother and his girlfriend�s house driving her car. She demanded in her claim, most of what she gave him including money as loan contingent on payback as soon as he got a better job. Well, it sounded like a code word for � only if he finally married her.

Women in their thirties are not so frantic to get a man but they harbor a feeling of helplessness if they get squished closer to their forties. They have to make the decisions whether to look for more matured and older man that will cuddle them like a gem. Either keep hope alive for a man around their age or continue their careers and settle down as cougars later on. They may not be so desperate if they have good jobs but they also longed for a satisfying relationship with a man.

Factors career ladies in their thirties preferred in a partner include gentleman that is just as educated, carry himself both in the relationship and in a circle of friends. But there are many single men with good paying blue-collar jobs looking for educated ladies. These ladies would keep them on the side to satisfy their sexual needs but will never go out with them or even get pregnant for him. How can anyone claim she is looking for a man, when one is right in her bed?

Well, if you work hard and paid your dues, there is nothing wrong with desiring someone in the same class. Sex is important but not the overriding quality most women desire in a man. There was a survey that asked married women if they want more sex in their marriage, most women said yes they do. But when asked if they would leave their husbands to get married to someone else for more sex, majority said no; they would rather stay with same man. Which country!

There is a general consensus that by the time ladies gets into their thirties, the age of partners is no longer a big deal. It comes from the notion that nobody should be getting into the sexual preference of a grown woman, no matter the age of the partner. This article stated that men of all ages prefer women in their twenties and ladies in their twenties prefer men around their age. In their thirties, ladies relax age preference to accommodate prevailing market for good men.

By the time women get to their late thirties and forties, single or divorced, they are ready or prepared to play cougars. The same ladies that dress older as teens for older men, would do anything to look younger for men of any age: diet, cosmetic surgery, bleaching, padded butts or boobs, fake hair. Even then, women are more discreet than men, with taste for younger partner. It may have something to do with community norms, double standard or men�s dominance.

Older men have more to gain from ladies in their thirties and forties than they do in preference for ladies in their twenties. As stated earlier, ladies are very educated consumers in their choice of men from their late teens. The general observation is that ladies in late teens or twenties looking for older men want a lot more than relationship. They want money, as everyone but not necessarily as much security as older ladies: young ladies may have no intention to stay as long.

It is the same relationship cougars crave for, in younger men � older ladies get excited and toy boys get enthralled. Both realizing their relationship is not going to last. Older men are sucked into believing that the relationship with young ladies would last forever; as some plan escape!

What is clear though, older men with young ladies last much longer than young men with older ladies. Reason: if young ladies stay long in the relationship nature holds them with children that are improbable from older ladies with young men. Try a Iara Oshiomhole or a Monica Lewinsky
http://nigeriavillagesquare.com/forum/articles-comments/92883-older-mans-rock-younger-mans-cougar.html
Politics › Re: President Buhari's Shoes Costs $8000 - Adeyanju Deji Claims (photos) by nobaga: 9:08pm On Mar 14, 2016
Walai tamedu, you guys are scary. Are you guys talking about naira or dollars?

I do not know what some of you are looking for to find shoes so exorbitant. Where do you guys work and what kinds of work do you do?

Naija, I fear una, no be small.
Politics › Fulani Cross-country Cattle Grazing Menace by nobaga(op): 7:22am On Mar 09, 2016
Fulani Cross-country Cattle Grazing Menace

http://newsrescue.com/fulani-cross-country-cattle-grazing-menace-by-farouk-martins-aresa/#axzz42NrN1rTw

Cattle grazing should not be a cross country menace across West Africa with Fulani’s philosophy that only God owns land. No ethnic group does in this century; because they only provide a marginal amount of Africa’s meat supply. It is about time their masters who are the real owners of the cattle measure up. They either provide modern facilities to feed their cattle where they are or face massive outrage in each of these countries treating them as cross-country terrorists.

[b]The appeasement of granting grazing rights on properties that do not belong to them deprive the owners their wish to use their land as they see fit. It is myopic, dense and opportunistic. One would expect better cerebral solutions from the Schools of Agriculture in the universities and colleges of any country. Are they going to [/b]each country to negotiate land or just creating attraction for other Fulani into one privileged country until they run out of grazing land again?

Another philosophy within Fulani is that the life of a cow is more precious than that of human. If that philosophy is limited to their communities, as if that is not bad enough, extending it to their hosts in each of the country they invade raises a moral problem apart from economic and precious loss of lives. It becomes a clash of cultures, religions and laws.

The Hausa in Nigeria have been dominated by Fulani for over a century now. Hausa are proud people with their own indigenous civilized way of life and religion that ruled some of the Great Empires of West Africa. Today Hausa children of kings and queens are most of the impoverished talikawa in West Africa. Generally spread but mostly prominent in Nigeria as Fulani dominate the Hausa. Unfortunately, Hausa have taken to the philosophies and religion of their captors.

Indeed, any Hausa that does not claim a lineage to Fulani, can neither become a religious nor a political leader. So, no matter how dark skin or African they are, their ultimate goal in life is to emulate the Fulani and pledge allegiance to Saudi Arabia like their master. But, they are not that different from African Christians that pledge allegiance to Christian, Canterbury or Pope as some even claim they are the Africa lost tribe of Israelis. Yet each argue about who are converts.

This background is important to understand the mentality of Africans when they convert to a religion that has no foundation in their culture other than to receive order from Mecca, Rome or Jerusalem. So when Fulani claim that only Gods owns the land and the life of cows is more precious than that of a man, you must understand where the Hausa charlatans came from.

The owners of the cows are their oppressors that keep them uneducated so that they would not make demands from their selfish leaders. Their leaders are rich and they fat on talikawa that worship them like gods. The intention of their leaders is to use them as foot soldiers to accomplish their wish of acquiring other people’s land. Whenever their grazing cows destroy farms and settlement and the people complain, they get tacit support from their oppressors.

The homeless have little to lose in violent clashes with hosts except their cows. Nobody in this day and age roam cross country grazing cattle as a profession. Actually, some have branched out into farming, motorbike hawkers and others have moved up by going to schools. But their oppressors prefer them as cowboys rearing cattle across the countries. It keeps them down and ignorant, they cannot ask for better jobs because they are away from home most of the time.

This is what is going on in Nigeria as well as other countries. The difference in Nigeria is that Fulani have used their Hausa number to their advantage. As mentioned above, Hausa make up the majority of the talikawa. They are forced to leave home and if they cannot farm or rear cattle, they become beggars on the streets all over Nigeria. Only few of them can afford stable homes or houses. So they move from street to street or congregate in open areas turned slums.

Most of them were peaceful apart from the begging harassment on the streets. But lately, they are growing wings by becoming armed robbers’ watch-out dogs, easy recruits as charlatans and thugs. In a country where little provocation results in ethnic clash, police on civilians over N20, soldiers on police over right of way and lack of respect or distinction between area boys and omo-onile. If it’s not Boko Haram, the world most violent terrorist militia, it’s Fulani the fourth.

We have lost most of our Hausa brothers and sisters to Fulani extremist religious fanatics and they are ready to lose their lives or take others’ lives by these philosophy and religion. This is why they think they have a God-given right to raise cattle lives above that of human. So anyone in their way, is subject to any force or punishment up to and including death. Just to enforce these “law” and philosophy Fulani gave them and ready for terrorists backup across West Africa.

Fulani are minority in every country. They must convert Hausa into their belief and philosophy. If they feel they are offended anywhere, they all usually rise up to prevent their limited number from extinction. Most of their hosts know this about Fulani and they try as much as they can to tolerate them. However, Ghana, Chad, Niger and other countries have had enough of their terror threats since it spills into lawlessness. Terrorist and bullies must be confronted head-on.

Just as they have a low mark, level or at the brink of triggering unreasonable violence; some of their hosts exercise low tolerance in return by subduing them. If they feel that they have been offended, they react viciously and if they are checked, they call for cross-country backup. This is why countries are fed up with them, calling on local militias to put down their aggressions.

No African religion force itself on others, the beauty comes from willingness of others to love and accept the culture so much that they want to convert. Indeed, The Yoruba philosophy had warned that “God forbid them from being taken by religion that is tainted by madness.” Olorun ma je k’a gba were me sin”. This is why Yoruba within the same family; “Santeria” different religions from home, all the way to Cuba, and would swear by all those religions, but not theirs.

Read more: http://newsrescue.com/fulani-cross-country-cattle-grazing-menace-by-farouk-martins-aresa/#ixzz42Ns01vO3
Crime › Re: The Look On Face Of Ese Oruru, As She Sets To Return Home (Pic) by nobaga: 10:49am On Mar 02, 2016
How did you know?

quote embarassed author=osmodes post=43407457]wen she don taste sex and remember the ecstasy, y she go like go home? those aboki joystick....chai[/quote]
Politics › Re: Suicide Is In My Mind by nobaga: 1:06am On Feb 21, 2016
Do not believe that you are going to get 40 virgins with burnt weewee in hell if you cannot satisfy them with 14 inches on earth.

abah009:
I feel like committing suicide. Iam depress.When i reach hell, iam gonna Bleep sexy ladies with my fourtteen inches dick.
Politics › Love To Spend Dollar & Pounds But Hate Buru Job by nobaga(op):
Love To Spend Dollar & Pounds But Hate Buru Job

Our politicians have been pictured as foreign high maintenance lady


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9T44W-QMe4s?t=6

https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=9T44W-QMe4s

http://article.wn.com/view/2016/01/30/Love_To_Spend_Dollar_Pounds_But_Hate_Buru_Job/

Well, nobody forced Africans to change tastes to conform to foreign food and goods enabling Bureau De Change. They are proving to the whole world that they are “civilized”. In the same way, only a greedy fool would fall for a scam that that millions of dollars is waiting for him in some poverty stricken country or even relatively potentially resource rich country in Africa.

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Politics › Re: divided Biafra Cannot Stand by nobaga(op): 8:00pm On Jan 19, 2016
The only voice you guys listen to is your own echo. Others have no right to their self determination, only Biafra does. You better wake up, you can not force Biafra on them because they share boundaries with you.
Politics › divided Biafra Cannot Stand by nobaga(op): 5:07pm On Jan 19, 2016
Divided Biafra Cannot Stand

This close relative of ours made a passionate plea sometime ago that it is better for each ethnic group to go its own way than to stay together by tulasi killing one another. It’s like a wife pleading to leave an abuser rather than stay with him and get killed from one of those violence. No matter how we feel about Nigeria, most Nigerians do not encourage abusers that failed to reason and make amends to his victims, each time after violence erupts.

It is getting to a point where many Nigerians have given up, that much the agitations for break up has achieved. It must be started that Igbo are not the only ones that want to leave Nigeria, there is a general agreement that most Nigerians are tired and do not care if the Igbo leave. The Hausa were lured into Nigeria with conditions and the Yoruba are just sick of labels for making Nigeria work. Even more important are the various ethnic groups that may not be as big as the three behemoths but whose interests are just as important as each of the ethnic groups.

IPOB is now encouraging and going back to the same violent tactics that got MEND famous. We must account for destructive process achievements. Years of environmental pollution by the oil companies complemented with sabotage of pipelines, contracts to protect pipelines and six years of Jonathan at the very top as President, never made a dent to the fishermen in the area or those that live, go to school and play by the rules. The poor are always the victims of power.

If this is true about Ijaw agitation and the rest of the militias, one must wonder why the Igbo would want to drag other ethnic groups, no matter their claim of relationships, unwillingly into Biafra. If they see themselves as past victims just as the Igbo feel in Nigeria, it not in their interest to entice them into Biafra with the promise of a better relationship they were not offered in the past. Do they really want Ogoni, Okrika, Itsekiri, and Edo in Biafra?

It is true that many Nigerians think Igbo is Igbo but Igboid deserve the same self-determination as any other ethnic group. The reluctance of Ndi-Igbo to accept this fact may undo their own destiny in an Independent Biafra. It has been alleged that Biafra need Ijaw, Urhobo and Itsekiri for no genuine purpose other than to get access for the shore and more important for the same reason Nigerians want them. That is, for their oil resources. BTW, oil has lost its market value.

Some brothers and sisters want us to distinguish between the agitation of Indigenous People of Biafra and the aspiration of Ndi-Igbo. They are not necessarily one and the same. Each time Nigeria bleeds, IPOB cheers. Their cry is louder in the support of Ijaw than the bereaved and their cheers for Tompolo and the destruction of Niger Delta environment is louder. Yet, you do not see IPOB turning Igbo environment into wasteland the way Delta has turned into disaster.

Pipe blowups turning the land and water into waste has been used against Niger Deltans by the oil companies and ethnic groups within and outside the Delta because intentional sabotage and polluted environment has not achieved anything but concessions to a few militias that take the money and invest it outside. Operation Wet-E in the West, Biafra War and Borno massacre are lessons some of us learn from while others repeat the same violence expecting different result.

While many Igbo feel more Nigerian, loyal and patriotic; extremists on all sides betray the way we feel about the Country. Innocent victims are dying for a few craving power. Some folks claim Igbo want it both ways as soon as they fail to win at the ballot box: hold on to Nigeria and at the same time use agitation as blackmail to get juicy positions. Indeed, almost all the ethnic groups have militias to back them up. No matter what, you do not cut your nose to spite your face.

Ikwerre are Igbo closest relations, so are the Anioma that claim their relationship to Benin than to their brothers on the other side of the River. The case for Ijaw, Urhobo and Itsekiri is more tenuous. An independent observer, that is someone that is not from any of the ethnic groups may be tempted to ask if the Igbo are not making the same mistake. If they cannot learn from their relationship with other Nigerians, enticing rebellious Biafrans in Biafra will be a disaster.

It is very difficult to find a “pure” Nigerian especially along the border of each ethnic group. We are so related that many observers wonder how successful this separation would be. Calabar areas of Nigeria around the Ibibio and Efik illustrates this point. As we move north, more ethnic groups are related one way or the other to Igbo, Yoruba or Hausa. The Idoma and Igala claim to be independent ethnic groups in their own right. Anything else would be disrespectful.

Looking at the southernmost part of River State where we have Ijaw and Ikwere dominating, it may be wishful thinking to expect them to give up their independence of self determination for a new country with the Igbo, even when we know Ikwerre are closely related. Yet, this is where the Igbo lost most of their properties after the war. It is such a sore point that many Igbo have moved on for peace sake and the Rivers folks do not want to be reminded. Can this be Biafra?

One of these are the Edo. They are known to be bigger than present day politics would admit as Edo make up the majority of the old Mid-West. Their role in the old and new days of politics in Nigeria cannot be relegated or diminished because of violent ethnic militia of smaller groups. In terms of relationship to ethnic groups, Nnamdi Azikiwe, Igbo, traced his people to Benin just as the people of Anioma. It will take a skillful surgeon to separate twins of Nigeria. Ethnic Map

The Edo are related to one of the behemoth, Yoruba. Their relationship is now being re-defined. Instead of the Yoruba giving birth to Oba of Edo, the son of Oranmiyan; the novel theory is that Prince Ekaladerhan the Yoruba has known as Oranmiyan gave birth to the father of Yoruba, Oduduwa. It suffice to say, Edo now claim to be the progenitor of most Southern ethnic groups.

By the same novel theory, the Ijaw has laid claim to all coastal areas within Edo, Igbo and Yoruba areas. The whole Country is up for grab by the most volatile militias. The reason is that there is hardly any area in the Country that does not have other ethnic groups as minority within. So creation of any statehood will not only have to deal with its minorities but also with their cousins that are in majority in the neighboring states.

This illustrates how Biafra has to prepare for the new Biafra within it. In spite of the creation of many states in the Country, there is always a cry of marginalization by some ethnic groups that feel they are not being treated equally. Africans generally blame it on the arbitrary delineation by the colonial powers but some Africans still hold allegiance to them.

http://nigeriavillagesquare.com/forum/articles-comments/92240-divided-biafra-cannot-stand.html
Politics › Re: Buhari The Democrat Or Buhari The Dictator by nobaga(op): 7:59pm On Jan 03, 2016
Well, it has been so many months now. Has opinions changed?

Buhari a dictator or Democrat or Baba-go-slow or Baba-yara.
Politics › Get Foreign Loans From African Looters Not IMF by nobaga(op): 8:31pm On Dec 23, 2015
Get Foreign Loans From African Looters Not IMF

There was this nightmare about a family that was robbed. He was taken to the Police Station to identify some of his robbers. He could not see any of those that “visited” his home. On the way out, he was introduced to Sergeant-in Charge. When their eyes met, the man fainted. It was the Sargent that led the robbers!

When Buhari, the new Nigerian President was shown evidence that Abacha looted all that money, like the head of the family, he fainted. He could not believe Abacha his Head of State and the Army led robbers to loot Nigeria blind. He swore it was a lie!


Haba, you cannot paint everyone with the same brush. Dare call their son and daughter looter, a whole village or town will turn against you. As long as we faint out of fear of identifying the Sergeant; join them because we cannot beat them; or government money is nobody’s money; we’ll go on in vicious circles forever.

As western countries debated where to return Mobutu, Selassie or Abacha’s loot, they had to identify the saint, the Sergeant and leaders to give back the money. Some argued that the loot should be left in high yield bonds to earn high interest for creating special African projects in Nigeria, managed internationally.

Others claimed that the money could have been better spent on projects managed by British or Zimbabwe banks! The rational is that colonial masters or “Mugabe” white farmers were better than our own politicians that suck our blood dry like vampire without any responsibility or anyone to hold them accountable.

Many of our leaders felt insulted, they assured these countries that the money would be held in special trust for development and infrastructure specifically. European and Americans decided to release the money gradually instead of consolidating all Abacha accounts into one and releasing it to one administration.

Why would careful and rational western banks return Abacha loots through the trained agents as those that negotiated for Abacha? One would have expected them to faint like the man that was robbed by the Police Sergeant. What some of us do not understand is that financial market prefer familiar faces trained by them.

One of the problem they have with African trained Accountants is their unfamiliarity with Wharton School of Finance, Harvard Business School or MIT School of Management. Coming from Fourah Bay College, University of Ghana or University of Ibadan is well understood, but would expose chicanery. “You know what I mean?”

The irony is that Africa’s dutiful and honest accountants either on New York Wall Street, London Bond Street or Lagos financial center that are too particular would not get enough contracts to pay employees or feed their families if they dare mind African interests. Well, that may be too harsh but the point is made.

How could that be? The Minister of Finance for Abacha was one respectable head of Peat Marwick, Anthony Ani. His integrity was unquestionable among world accountants. Indeed, another don of accounting, Pa Akintola Williams’ firm had audited failed banks.

These firms were the ones that audited and gave most respectable banks high marks before they failed. Very much like the rating firms on Wall Street, before world financial mess tumble on all of us and drag world economy into recession. But we have to be careful so that we do not hastily condemn all accountants.

Returns started from the time of Obasanjo to the Administration of Jonathan with the excuse that court processes, bank fees and retrieval would take some time. Like the head of the family that was robbed, they found Okonjo Iweala a familiar internationally trained OBJ’s minister. She reappeared to work out the return of Abacha’s loot. She was no different from Abacha’s Anthony Ani.

There is a difference between the charity sign of the Cross and financial sign of Mercedes Benz. The act of business management requires certain principles. Capitalist system necessitates some understand that not everyone can obtain credit to speculate in the market. The Nigerian guy that beat Wall Street at its game years ago was denied profit because he had no reputable credit .

When it came to Abacha loot, no matter how sincere a government, it is the commissioned agents that scout the banks, “put” money in, sell or buy in the market. They get paid each time. If you are not aware of any, you will be introduced to them by the bank or financial industries. They do not make a deal with strangers!

If you think there was a better way to return Abacha’s loot, you have to devise a new method in Africa which may be against their interest but acceptable to abettors where they saved their loot.

If you want to stop it, support a crusader outside or in your ethic group, outside or inside your party or like Boko Haram, go fish out your son, daughter, if they join the looting class.

http://article.wn.com/view/2015/12/23/Get_Foreign_Loans_From_African_Looters_Not_IMF/
Source: Farouk Martins Aresa
Published: Wednesday, December 23, 2015
Politics › Re: Like Africa Like Biafra Like South Sudan by nobaga(op): 1:29am On Nov 02, 2015
Like Nigeria like Biafra like Somali like Congo like Hutu like Tutsi!
Politics › Re: Like Africa Like Biafra Like South Sudan by nobaga(op): 9:05pm On Nov 01, 2015
Otito koro, yeap!
Politics › Like Africa Like Biafra Like South Sudan by nobaga(op): 11:03pm On Oct 31, 2015
Like Biafra, like South Sudan

Has anyone envisaged what Biafra would have been if Ojukwu had succeeded with the Urhobo, Itsekiri, Ijaw, Ibibio, Okrika and other ethnic groups in Biafra? Creation of South Sudan is not far from our curious minds. As long as Africans cultivate ethnic champions within our communities, no African country will live up to or near its God given natural potential, it is not a curse. It’s the same empirical evidence Africans demonstrated since Independence yet want different results.

Igbo need Yoruba support as Ijaw did to become President. Zik got Hausa’s to become President. Hero’s welcome Yoruba gave Ojukwu in Lagos thrilled Igbo but no longer good for reconciliation. As long as Igbo feel marginalized in Nigeria, echo of Ojukwu, the Biafran rebel leader (not the reconciled Nigerian) will continue to resurrect anger. If it is not Boko Haram it is the Ijaw or Igbo. It has got the rest of the Country fed-up and ready for breakup, if that will solve our problems.


In the interest of full disclosure, this writer believes that Nigeria is richer with Ndi-Igbo and Igbo are better off in their indigenous Country where they have existed with Yoruba, Hausa, Ibibio, Igala and the rest of other ethnic groups since Nature created man in Africa. Nigeria is neither South Sudan, Somali nor Ethiopia-Eritrea. But as Africans, we must learn from Hutu and Tutsi.

Even in separation, the problem will not go away as evidence throughout Africa. The second round will be boundary disputes and the third round will be full scale civil war over oil, gold and diamond. As we are busy fighting one another, the “rescuers” will come to share our resources.

When Ethiopia and Eritrea separated in 1993, skirmishes and border dispute escalated into full-scale war in 1999. Biafra and South Sudan are more complicated than this writer can put in an article but the picture is clear. Ethnic rivalry always leads us to disaster. Power for life creates illusion of indispensability by their ethnic leaders that should have used another ethnic group to solidify the country instead of perpetuating themselves in power.

Some scholars fear that it is more than ethnicity. They introduced arsonists throwing bombs into each African society scattering the communities so that they can be easily captured which they called “rescuing” Africans from dictators like Gadhafi. We must temper our emotions and take this school of thought into consideration when planning our future. It must not deprive us of our sensibilities and responsibilities to one another as Africans.

Yes, Ojukwu was a young man, brilliant and well informed. He had so many advantages most of his cohorts lacked. He actually displaced it “On Aburi We Stand”. With that wide gap, he could have realized that since he took them to the cleaners, compromise for its ratification later. Even more to his advantage, he had Azikiwe’s matured instinct and guidance. However, his youthful exuberance, ambition and stubbornness compared to his maturity in later years, cut him short.

Ojukwu came back home to a hero’s welcome as a mature Nigerian that had learnt, if not his lessons, a different strategy to be elected as national leader. Came as a Nigerian leader suitable for his charisma, ability and wider perspective. Unfortunately, his hold on the people he left behind had slipped. During his absence, Igbo scholars and leaders sprung up to fill his vacuum. Whether he was rigged out of elections or defeated by lesser mortals became history passé.

Only if and if only we could find a compromise between the more mature Ojukwu that came back to hero’s welcome to all Nigerians and the one that stood firmly “On Aburi We Stand”, we could have avoided the anger and suspicion running in today’s politics of greed and selfishness.

This is what we see in South Sudan today, ethnic rivalry and communities that can longer hold itself together in spite of all hopes, rosy picture for the future and paradise. Like Nigeria, their oil production has multiplied their curses. Leaders scramble for power like elephants fight in the jungle. The grass, that is the people running for their lives fall into the hands of arsonists coming to their “rescue”. The new Country is in tatters. See Shattered Dreams

Our enemies are different now, they are not from outside our Continent, but from within. Pick any country in Africa, you will see ethnic rivalry within the community. It is destroying us but we refuse to accept it as a fact. Some Yoruba are nostalgic of their cousins from Egypt, some Igbo worship their cousins from Israel and some Hausa are still tracing their origin to Dan Fodio and Arabs. Yet, every scientific study traced the birth of man closer to Nigeria than anywhere else.

Indeed, you can see the Igbo, Hausa and Yoruba in the Sudanese whether we accept it or not. What we cannot deny is that every civilization and Empire that existed in Africa were led by the great people now at one another’s throat base on an amorphous ethnic division created by adaptation to localized environment while the Barbarians were invading and destroying Europe.

Unfortunately, this commonality within us, either in Sudan or Nigeria only elicits brutal cravings for one ethnic domination over the other mainly fuel by selfish leaders whose greed has no bound and ready to sacrifice human suffering, blood and tears. Some scholars think it is more; otherwise we could have solved our civil wars in Somali. They are one people, one language and one religion. Yet they find reasons to annihilate one another.

Somehow, poor folks that have no chance of benefiting from ethnic leaders that are ready to sacrifice our blood and everything just for the sake of that ethnic leader. Even if he is not their ethnic leader, he can be adopted and his lineage adapted. Somehow people can find no lineage when a leader is not in the party they voted for. But once the leader changed to their party, our novel historians will spring up lineage for our mis-education like IBB is Yoruba and Ebele Igbo.

- See more at: http://www.xclusivenigeria.com/index.php/component/k2/item/3291-by-farouk-martins-aresa-like-biafra-like-south-sudan#sthash.ZRRhCwqF.dpuf
Politics › Parents Redistribute Money From Children To Children by nobaga(op): 1:16pm On Oct 23, 2015
PARENTS REDISTRIBUTE MONEY FROM CHILDREN TO CHILDREN
Posted By: THEWILL_Posted date: October 23, 2015In: OpinionNo Comments

Has a parent ever said: if you dare ask how I used your money, I would return it instantly? Yeah, shakara as if she still has it. Fingers are not equal and some children do better than the siblings. The relatively less wealthy ones always go back to their parents to milk money out of them as they know their wealthier brother or sister would give more to their parents. It gets irritating if one of the parents is denying herself certain comfort that have been provided for her.

There was this lovely girlfriend that had her mother living with her. Each time we decided to give the mother a present, she insisted that it must not be money. The mother was on pension, as soon as she got her check, one of her sons was always around to raid her. No matter how much her daughter and other brothers insisted she must not give her money to him, she gladly did. This guy had a job and his own family but always dropped by to raid the mother’s comfort.


An extreme case is that of a grandmother that sent the grandson to school because his father died. The wealthier son provided bare minimum to get his nephew to school but refused to give the comfort his mother wanted to his nephew. So whenever he visited his mother, he would find out that the money he provided for her comfort had been given to his nephew that lived with her. The uncle was not mean, after all the nephew spent school holidays with him.

There are many cases where the mother would deny herself of the money given to her by a wealthier child to provide for the comfort of a daughter or son. We are all aware of some of you that never fail to visit mothers to make sure she is doing well. In the process, you also help yourselves to groceries, gifts, and items that will be more “suitable” for your house. When the buyer comes around, the mother claims she used them. So fast, between when and when Mum!

One wealthy son gave a ticket to his mother to travel. The daughter came, changed the ticket to her name and traveled with it. This almost came to blows. The mother threatened to give the son back the ticket or money. She even complained that she did not want to travel anyway, and cannot be bordered with all the trouble of going from one airport to another. So the daughter asked her brother: what is your business if that is the way she loved to use her ticket, happily?

There are other cases of providing a car and driver to parents only to be hijacked by one of the siblings and when the car breaks down, they return it to sender! There is nothing wrong with sharing what you have with your siblings. It is the African way. Is it fair for daughter to have two cars between her and the husband, and provide another one for the father, but none for sister?

We cannot forget those brothers and sisters living overseas. Some of those always complain of their money going to their siblings instead of their parents. Others complain of building the same house for over ten years without a certain date for completion. The brother or sister in charge of the house readily utilizes money coming from abroad to other more urgent purposes like taking their father to the hospital, buying drugs, birthday, weddings or AWOL contractors.

By the time some of these overseas siblings go home on vacation, they find out that the house is not half done, it has been neglected or the money has been used to build the brother’s house! Those looking to buy a land get the worst treatment of all. They have been warned several times to go home and buy the land themselves. Better still, take some time off, go home and complete your own houses in the village. Even that may not be enough!

Well, all parents are not that selfless. One lady was deported back home from Europe. She had feared that it could happen. So she saved as much as she could by sending money to her father in Nigeria. When she got home, she found out that her father was spending the money having children with young wives. The father had two houses in Lagos, he sold one and rented the other out. He then packed out of Lagos and went back to his village with one of the young wives.

Some parents redistribute the money coming from their children generously to little children from their young girlfriends. A friend of ours had this rich uncle. He could only afford to travel out of Nigeria on weekends so that his business could be completed on Fridays or Mondays. He could not wait to get back home. He sent some older children to schools in Europe and USA.

He definitely invested his money on the older children with the hope that they would bring up the younger ones, the African way of the older caring for the younger children. Unfortunately, he lost his job and had to depend on his investments in real estate, selling most. But his investment could not sustain the old active lifestyle of many girlfriends and younger children.

Since his older children were doing well, he demanded money from them to redistribute to the education and upbringing of the younger children. The problem was the amount of money he wanted from the older children and what they could reliably give to their Dad monthly vary by expectations. Children that are trained outside the country may not be different from those at home in giving back. If they think their parent spent their money unwisely, that’s another factor.

There are cases where some parents that had made their money illegally distribute it to their grown children so that whenever they are probed, their children could run with the money. However, the surprise for them is that; not even they can retrieve the money back from these children. Usually a good probe must include the children if they are within reach or within the arm of the law. If they are outside the country, not even the devil can get his money back.

Hey it is money, you cannot take it with you. Some people know how to spend it better than how to make it. Just make sure you do not invite heart attacks over your own money O!
Politics › Poor Children Love Their Parents More by nobaga(op): 6:22pm On Oct 08, 2015
Poor Children Love Their Parents More

[b] Do poor children generally love their parents more than the spoilt brats? It depends on the parents is not the answer. No matter how strict most parents are, rich kids have this notion of entitlement unavailable to poor kids. They develop some resentment if they feel their parents are “stingy” with imagined wealth. It’s like the university graduate that complained bitterly that his father gave him a Volkswagen after graduation while his friends got Peugeot or Mercedes.

We all love our children and expect them to love us forever. As we get older and they become adults, their responsibilities and focus shift to their own families. In order to attract them back, especially mothers, “bribe” them with gifts within their means. It could be with their favorite dish as a kid or a little money from her pension if paid. When you see old people playing lottery with a little they have, they want to share the winning with their children to gain affection back.

Unfortunately, the way parents make their money, in most cases determine how their children love them. Children, like adults, are usually proud of the parents that struggle hard to put food on the table and strive to meet their obligations. However, children cannot be proud of efulefu parents, are actually ashamed of those communities stigmatized as: onye-oshi, barawo or ole!
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Children are usually adaptable to their environment. There are families living on environmental dumps on the lagoon and on the streets. Yet, in these desperate situation some families are better placed than the others. One may be able to get better shelter made of aluminum, wood or readymade cave. Yet the bond between children and parents remain in those dire situations. Some of the parents have given their children to others to look after because they are too poor.

Just as a reminder, African children are more than investment. When Yoruba say – a jeun omo o – it is more than expected returns on the care we rendered them. Unfortunately, this is not the generation we can claim that much from. Even rich countries and parents fail to see rosy future for their children unless the top 5% spreads economy gains around. Some will argue it is the reason politicians think they can loot their way into the future so their grandkids will not suffer.

Mind you, riches even the one obtained the old fashioned way, can become a game of numbers. When we have enough to take care of our needs and wants many push for more than the other guys. A bigger house, better car or many more. If an Edge Fund manager, you want to create more profit than the other managers. At some point, some of us realize that more money does not give us happier children orfamilies. It may even deny us of quality time with them.

The relationship between a child and the mother is sacred and most fathers realize that. It takes an overbearing father to assume otherwise unless there is a contingent factor that renders the mother unfit. As in a true story of a toddler and his father struggling to survive. The father was homeless and one could not imagine a poorer mother. Children, no matter how poor, curious if mother or father in jailed. At some point, that child would find them. See HYPERLINK "http://www.sonypictures.com/movies/thepursuitofhappyness/" Pursuit of Happyness.

What is evident is the love of those children for their mother or father. They always miss the poor homes they left and the affection of their parents. When it gets to the point that a poor homeless father has to shelter his son or daughter without the comfort of a mother, it becomes a sadder story. There is some deep lasting affection from poor children. Giving back to parents, a big motivating factor to succeed. Unfortunately, armed robbers and prostitutes use it as excuse.

We also have great humble kids. Comparing their deep affection to those of children that grow up in poor families where the children think parents owe them less is sobering. While it is true that children compare themselves to their neighbors in either rich or poor environment, taking rich life for granted begin at an early stage. The attachment and obligations poor children have for their poor families can hardly be compensated by those of rich parents that hire helps.

Most parents love their children so much, they are willing to go without food, water, sleep and other necessities so that their children may have. Fathers work in camps for months and return home. As these children get older, their reluctance to leave home change from affection to survivalalone on their own.This behavior with children also exist within the animal kingdom.

There must be a continuum from affection stage to survival stage as children grow older. If the parents are rich, there is room to accommodate them. But if they are poor that option is very limited. Since parents always pray that their children do better than them, in the days of less opportunities, children may want to hang on longer at homes where parents are rich. They do not want to give up their comfortable rooms. The poor children do not enjoy that choice.

So poor children look for jobs more diligently. Psychologists have preached that rules have to change once the jobs situation is not favorable enough for children to take the plunge. They must look for some jobs even if it is not their ideal jobs and must contribute to the house. Parents must learn to set limits otherwise children will take over and kick out the parents. Most African parents are willing to accommodate their children longer, just as upper class Europeans.

Indeed some of these children bring their husband and wives home with the promise that they are saving for their own houses. Middleclass Africans and Europeans may accept it but it is less common among Americans until the recession hit. What we see during the recession in America are two generations of middleclass families living together in the same house. Generations of families living together is more common in Africa and Europe.

In short, children only realize fully what their parents went through as they become adults themselves. That is why children never forget the poor homes mothers struggle so hard to keep.

- See more at: http://xclusivenigerian.com/index.php/component/k2/item/3193-by-farouk-martins-aresa-poor-children-love-their-parents-more#sthash.Ji6zb73O.dpuf
Politics › Re: Office Politics: Husband Encouraged Her To Do It by nobaga(op): 10:54am On Sep 19, 2015
Why does everything have to be culled. There are Nigerians writers with originality, creativity and native intelligence.
Politics › Office Politics: Husband Encouraged Her To Do It by nobaga(op): 2:53am On Sep 19, 2015
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Husband Encouraged Her To Do It

Did you hear about the husband and the wife that got stranded on an island? Not that one. Another man finally showed up with a canoe that could only take two people. He had the only option of taking either the wife or the husband back to the shore. If you were the husband or the wife, who would be in the canoe with the canoe man with space only for two?

The canoe man did not care, he was ready to take one of them but would be foolish to take both at the risk of losing the lives of all of them in the sea as the canoe would capsize. After some thoughts, the husband encouraged the wife to go first with the strange man hoping one of them would risk the turbulence of the sea and come back for him. That was if both ever made it to the shore alive.

The wife and the canoe man ran into series of turbulence including fighting off sharks and other dangers in the rough sea. When the wife and the canoe man got to the shore, they debated on which of them would go back for the husband. The wife begged him to go back for the husband but he refused to risk his life for another stranger he hardly knew but was willing to let the wife risk her life for the husband.

The canoe man then decided he would only go if the wife made love to him. Suspicious and weary, the wife finally agreed as long as she allowed her to divulge the secret to the husband when she felt comfortable. After the most pleasurable love making she ever had, the canoe man wanted more. She enjoyed him but wanted him back to the husband before the weather become too rough into the season.

The wife decided to work for some money so that she could get capable boat and crew to go and save the husband. In that case, the canoe man wanted to get paid first for all his trouble or in return, she could remain his girlfriend until the husband returned. Since time was getting short and bad weather was setting in with little food to eat where the husband was, the wife decided to become his mistress.

The husband waited and later gave up thinking he was going to starve to death or eaten by some wild animals. After all, he knew he gambled on his wife. But he felt strongly that he made the best decision. It would be better for one of them to live than both of them dead because he refused to let his wife into the canoe for only two. True to the husband, the wife never gave up on him. She continued to improvise and labor hard for his rescue.
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Before coming back to this story, there are many real life situations where women have been pushed into other people’s laps in order to save not only a husband but the children. No man worth his salt ever pray for such situation but others have encouraged their wives into that situation. There are many cases where husbands and wives are inadvertently pushed into situations beyond their control in order to keep body and soul together.

On the other hand are men or women, in some cases where only one of them encourages the other into it. We have heard about men using their wives to facilitate their careers or to get promotions on the job. It is even worse in the entertainment industry where both husband and wife promised each other not to get jealous of their roles in movies and what it takes to get their roles. Some type of understanding until one partner cannot take it anymore.

Of course we are not talking about open marriage here. Those type of relationships are made with their eyes wide open. It may not start out that way and some may gradually grow into it. There are other relationships where couples decide to date other people with a chance that they may miss one another along the way and decide to resume their relationship later. Others have remained friends after breakups.

The reason for some of these aberration may have to do with the increasing amount of breakup in marriages or decline in the number of traditional marriages. There is also increasing amount of independence among couples with different lifestyles, education and social groups that their partners may not want to be part of but safe with their partner’s economic security. In such cases, money ties them together more than anything else.

It is not all men’s convenience. There are women that are not comfortable with one man but like the prestige of being married. If they can find a willing partner that wanted such relationship in exchange for economic security, so be it. So we have married women that are mistresses to other men in high places. There are stories of such women in international circles, travelling to exotic countries on “business”.

There are variety of cases, situations and reasons couples are drawn into various categories. We also know that in most of these, only one partner is comfortable with the arrangement, in most cases, men. Women have a better reason to be uncomfortable. They have a shorter period to be sexually attractive and be productive at the same time because they are usually tied down by child births. Even those that do not want children, seldom last in such market.

Men also have the advantage of not being tied down by children. Children is one of the most important factor women are driven into poverty. They are less willing to part with the children than men. It takes much more to gain custody of children if you are a man than if you are a woman. The weight of those children is a calculated risk and one of the reason women are savvier in their choice of men that will take care of the family. Sexual pleasure, secondary.

While some reject the notion that girls are more mature than boys early in life, they agree that girls have a shorter window to grow up and therefore forced into earlier choice than boys. If that is the case, it destroy the notion that men encourage women into relationships they are not comfortable with. The only way around it is: unless it is what the woman wants to do in the place, just looking for approval from a man that agree with her.

So when the husband encouraged his wife to follow the canoe man in order to save her and his life later, he should have known that his wife was not coming back to him. The wife went back!

Published: Saturday, September 19, 2015

http://www.thenigerianvoice.com/news/191041/1/husband-encouraged-her-to-do-it.html
Politics › Re: Why Redeemed Germany Led The Welcome Of Refugees & Bailed Out Greece by nobaga(op): 5:59am On Sep 09, 2015
Why? In need of redemption, vindication and a new start.

Nigeria where are thou?
Politics › Why Redeemed Germany Led The Welcome Of Refugees & Bailed Out Greece by nobaga(op): 7:00pm On Sep 08, 2015
Redeemed Germany Led The Welcome Of Refugees & Bailed Out Greece

Why are Arabs and Africans not risking ignominy and dear lives to cross into rich Arab, African countries rejecting them? There is this African saying about a lizard that jumped all the way from the top of a building. It looked to the right and then to the left, there was nobody praising it. He then nodded its head up and down. If nobody praised Germany, Germany should praise itself. Germans have shown leadership again in refugee crisis; for how long we do not know.

Once upon a time there were such countries as Nigeria, Libya, Lebanon and Jordan. All comers were welcomed as Africans are their brothers’ keepers with pride of accommodation just as Germany has shamed western countries into taking responsibilities for mess they created. Not part of the military adventure that created refugees, too busy bailing out bankrupt Europeans.

Poor Ghana, Nkrumah was so consumed, there was no African country he did not want to bail out or liberate from the yolk of colonialism. To our children, those are histories now, they want to know what Africa is doing for itself today to secure their future, so that they do not become the refugees. Indeed, some of our children are on their way to Europe based on false sense and temporary welcoming gestures. It has been made clear that only Syrian refugees are welcomed.

We must caution them that Germany tolerance today; what other western countries are forced or shamed to follow is only temporary until more batches of refugees surged to Europe. The Neo-Nazi are already demonstrating wondering if Angela Merkel has gone bananas. Though she is supported by two third, you can bet whatever that she has no future political equity left, after her leadership of generosities to refugees and bail out of poor European economies.

The riots and demonstrations by refugees and migrants invading the Greek island of Lesbos, in a country trying to survive, have been overshadowed by even direr condition of refugees in Hungary. Poor countries that are going through hard times cannot be expected to be generous as Germany. Even then, we do not expect Germany to spread the welcome mat indefinitely.

One incident of an Afghani man messing up Koran among the refugees in Hungary generated so much publicity because he was chased and had to be rescued by the police. Otherwise he could have been lynched. Religion is such a very powerful weapon even in the face of hunger, misery and squalor, there are those willing to risk deportation back to where they were fleeing from if they could not lynch the man that desecrated the Koran.

It makes their hosts wonder if these are genuine asylum seekers or soldiers in a “Trojan horse”. Once they settled down, the extremists and Neo-Nazi would quickly use this act against them and the authorities might even use it to screen those that might eventually gain admission while the radical fighters that wanted to lynch the Afghani who desecrated the Koran are sent back home. One country came out and said it out that they are a Christian country.

Refugees that are more desperate have decided to repent “their evil ways, reject the devil and accept Christ as their Savior”. For now Mohammed and the Koran can go to hell for not coming to their aid when they needed him most. They are ready to be baptized so that they can easily gain asylum because sending them back after Christianity conversion means death punishment. So when Christ said man cannot live by bread alone, he was not talking about these refugees.

Hungary gave cold treatment and Denmark told refugees not to come. After all the publicity of rough treatment published in the press, it is surprising some of the refugees were staggered by the treatment they encountered in the land of freedom and liberty as preached and expected.

Britain’s response in the face of the present immediate suffering is to admit 20,000 between now and 2020, only from the refugees that apply in their home country. Well, Mr. Cameron the Prime Minister of Britain, did not say never. But it makes one appreciate courage of Chancellor Merkel, what Jordan faced with so many refugees while rich Arab countries rejected them.

There are those claiming President Obama should come out more forcefully about the plight of the refugees. This is unfair, there is no President or Chancellor that has taken more abuse for fighting for refugees and migrants than Obama. He still has the ongoing battle of the children of undocumented migrants called Dreamers on his hands; that he gave temporary relief by Executive power. Yet, he has also given other class of refugees temporal relief.

President Obama was chased by the Dreamers and Hispanic activists until he gave temporary relief to some of the 11 million undocumented immigrants. It was challenged in court putting it in a limbo. If the same activists can only pursue other political leaders the way they pursue Obama. Indeed, opponents are scoring political points by promising to reverse the President’s Executive order on immigration.

President Obama made it clear during a question and answer period to a Nigerian that he wants those that have acquired skills and that have been exposed to democratic form of government to go back home and change the system instead of hoping for Presidential order to stay in United States. The brain drain must not deprived African countries of their most cherished possession which is the new generation of leaders that will help change the system.

It must be recognized that there are not enough countries that can accommodate all refugees that want to leave their countries for either economic or civil war reasons. It also makes sense that if migrants value democracy, capitalism and freedom practiced in the countries they love to relocate to, they must strive and achieve it at home. Most of those paying exorbitant fees to get smuggled out of countries are rich and middle class that could have changed their system.

Published: Tuesday, September 8, 2015

http://www.thenigerianvoice.com/news/190100/1/redeemed-germany-led-the-welcome-of-refugee.html#
Politics › Operation Declare Your Assets Or Forfeit Your Surplus by nobaga(op): 10:04pm On Aug 20, 2015
Operation Declare Your Assets Or Forfeit Your Surplus

Note that this was written in 2005!
We are still fighting corruption. God have mercy.

Operation Declare Your Assets Or Forfeit Your Surplus


Please let us stop chasing the ghost, cut the chase and go after the individual surplus. Every Nigerian knows where the money is. We know there is even more money outside the Country, foreign Governments have been sensitized to the source and they are now embarrassed as receiver of stolen properties. The problem is those conspicuous spenders who are spending the money in our face, living it in our face and no one can query them. Actually, Obasanjo had to negotiate with one to keep some stolen millions to avoid lengthened litigation, only to renege on the terms of his release.

Once upon a time, a Nigerian would take ten percent kickback from the central Government contract, but never from the local area where everybody knows everybody. Time has changed. Conspicuous spenders have taken over. They are encouraged by praise singers who eulogize them. There are two ways to dislodge their ill gotten surplus – 1. By revolution or 2. By due process.

There has to be due process. It has to be done with human face so that it does not become a class or an ethnic thing. I do not think Jerry Rawlings is better than those he killed in Ghana in the name of revolution.

Many of us are copy cats. If it is done in American and Europe, fine. If that is the only way to catch the fat cats, I will tag on. Well, the best way to catch a drug dealer, a spy, a terrorist and a rogue in these countries is to demand accountability for any conspicuous spending. Can you imagine a Nigerian oppressor without conspicuous consumption?

Conspicuous spending is a major part of our moral bankruptcy. It sends a powerful message to the have-nots to make money by any means possible. The armed robber, Oyenusi confession did not teach us any lesson. They always return to the crime scene.

Oppressor, for fear of dying, has to spend his money sooner than later. Watch out for his cars, his houses, political donations and funding of privileged organizations. We have a tax system in Nigeria but we have deliberately not used it to catch the oppressors. We are on the right path though. If anyone needs Government service, they ask for three years income tax receipts. Great! Let us move a step further. If you under-declare, explain how you are going to finance your proposals.
May 11, 2005 , 05:00 AM

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Politics › Re: Yoruba Intolerance For Looters Began At Home by nobaga(op): 4:47pm On Aug 05, 2015
Which Tinubu? The same one hunted, abused and condemned almost on a daily basis by Yoruba. This is why corruption lingers and until we learn to face our own devil the way Yoruba face theirs, Nigeria will never conquer corruption. Most ethnic groups have never challenged their looters the way Yoruba do. Give them that credit. They fight one another on Tinubu daily.
Politics › Yoruba Intolerance For Looters Began At Home by nobaga(op): 6:15am On Aug 05, 2015
Yoruba Intolerance For Looters Began At Home

Stealing began at home. We remember the days when Nigerians dare not steal from villages or towns because it is too close for comfort. These days most governors divert allocations of their local government into their pockets without paying salary. No conscience bank chiefs and civil servants embezzle funds, schools extort parents with exorbitant fees and text photo copies.

Why do Yoruba accept that they have vagabonds among them and others think they have Robin Hood, national cake and God-given right to the treasury? It is not that Yoruba are more honest than the other ethnic groups, yet the general notion is that Yoruba will expose their vagabonds before others even consider it. Others ethnic groups, in defense of their own looters, ask for all sort of affirmative defenses and rights they know have been abused through judicial system.

Poor Yoruba looters, they have no sanctuary at home. Yoruba masses are their worst enemies. They get pelted with pure water, hounded in the press and their families abused everywhere as if they are the only looters in town. The worst part of it, they felt, is that Yoruba encourage and join abuses from other ethnic groups on their sons. In short, Yoruba have very low tolerance for looters except in their immediate family. Even then, extended families pure scorn on the family.

The Yoruba are not perfect, but their tolerance for greed, corruption and vagabonds cannot be compared to the unbelievable excuses other ethnic groups mount in defense of their members. Unfortunately, we have moved from a time when Hausa man can be depended on for honesty, Igbo man for hard work and Yoruba man for fairness and tolerance; to this time where anything goes. People have thrown honesty and integrity out of the window, encouraging vagabonds.

Until other ethnic groups stop making up excuses for their looters whenever Nigerians start prosecuting them, we will never sort out the scourge of corruption. Nigerians are very good at pointing out others’ fault as long as it is not a member of their ethnic group. Most discussion on corruption are long and lively until the topic changes to a different looters with whom we have ethnic affinity. It becomes personal and degenerates to inappropriate insults.

One has to wonder why the masses that have nothing to gain, no chances of getting into the looters’ club, no way of becoming politician or ever getting connected to the rich and famous always jump to looters’ defense because they belong to the same ethnic group. On the other hand, politicians that empty our treasury have more in common to protect than their ethnic groups. They share humongous salaries and allowances, share allocations and contracts.

Yoruba are ready to condemn the former Speaker Bankole, Police Chief Tafa Balogun, Afolabi and Bank Thief Executive Akingbola among many. They condemn the judicial system that did not put them behind bars for life and their families and others suffer in these communities because of related names. They may not even know the thieves from Adamo.

Go anywhere in Yoruba land and mention that their sons and daughters stole money, most would curse and agree. The few that would disagree belong to the same party of members of looters’ families. In spite of Tinubu’s ACN alliance with Buhari to defeat Jonathan’s PDP, many Yoruba joined with their opponents in different parties to distance themselves from Tinubu. His fiercest critics are Yoruba from Lagos for commandeering Lagos State’s funds, not Federal.

Yet, other Yoruba see Tinubu as the bad boy and a necessary fire needed to put out fire against their interest in other parties. Tinubu would have been overwhelming accepted by other ethnic groups if he were one of their members. Even some of his Yoruba supporters have cast doubts on his long term benefit to their own interest since he would do anything for power.

The next Exposé is Tinubu/Fashola/Ambose Show! But as soon as we mention names of other ethnic groups, wahala starts O! Ethnic champions are ready to battle. They want evidence that will stand up in American and British courts. The rule of law, due process, innocent until proven guilty, the best lawyer money can buy and rights to appeal all the way to the Supreme Court. After all we want the same process if we are merely accused of any wrong doing, not convicted.

Nevertheless, if the same western courts convicted the member of their ethnic group, Nigerians switch to different defense. They want to know if others have been probe first, that their ethnic members are not the only ones stealing, and there are witch-hunting because they belonged to a certain group. There was even a new phrase in town: that stealing is not corruption. If nothing makes sense, some claimed with impunity – they cannot legally steal their own money!

It gets so bad, we start wondering if money is missing in the first place. If foreign account were opened and oil tankers diverted. It could be that people are just throwing accusations around only to find out a kobo never left the treasury or bank directors of their ethnic groups have been accused out of spite or for some political vendetta. The truth is who is fooling whom?

When politicians raise the anger of their masses as if they are being persecuted for stealing, we do not have to follow them blindly. It is very difficult to buck a trend dictated by the masses in fear of dear lives. A few of those that went against their masses have been ostracized and left to wallow outside their hometowns. They are targeted for abuses and sometimes jungle justice.

However, Buhari distractors claim that trust is relative, not absolute. IBB accused him of 2.8bn lost as OBJ Petroleum Commissioner. Later as Petroleum Trust Fund chief under Abacha. What is even more embarrassing was when Buhari gave them red meat: vouched that Abacha never stole! We just want corruption stopped even by a devil! Nigerians trust Buhari with treasury, oil dip, Boko Haram than any politician. It’s reflected in vigorous chase and EFCC North and South.

Published: Tuesday, August 4, 2015
https://www.thenigerianvoice.com/news/187112/1/yoruba-intolerance-for-looters-began-at-home.html#
Politics › Re: Buhari The Democrat Or Buhari The Dictator by nobaga(op): 8:36am On Jul 24, 2015
Sad to say, but some Nigerians need iron hands. It is a difficult balance when people break the law with impunity.
Politics › Buhari The Democrat Or Buhari The Dictator by nobaga(op): 1:29am On Jul 24, 2015
Buhari The Democrat Or Buhari The Dictator

It has been over six week since Buhari took over the new Government in Nigeria but looking at the criticism he has received, one would think he has been there for a year. Comparing this to the last time he took over as a dictator, when the impact was immediate after initial celebration that welcomed him and Idiagbon. What he lacks now is ruling by decree or fiat. While his voters may be patient for the next 100 days, the criticism by those that voted against him is startling.

All of us have to decide which Buhari we want. It has to be one that will let some criminals go scot free to our dismay, so that the right of most innocent people is not jeopardized or punish a few innocent people so that every previous government must be held accountable. It is easy to probe into ages in a kleptomaniac society as Nigeria but impractical even in western democracy.

Published: Friday, July 24, 2015
http://www.thenigerianvoice.com/print/186088/1/buhari-the-democrat-or-buhari-the-dictator.html
Politics › Re: Contractors Of Goodies Agents Ask President To Immediately Appoint Ministers by nobaga(op): 1:56pm On Jun 28, 2015
What are ministers going to do that is not done now, apart from another layers of looting?
Politics › Contractors Of Goodies Agents Ask President To Immediately Appoint Ministers by nobaga(op): 3:08am On Jun 28, 2015
It is ironic, when the new administration in Nigeria delayed the appointment of ministers since there were permanent secretary working on the job anyway, people became suspicious. They were not concerned about the amount of money saved in terms of salary and support of these political appointees or recovery from looters. There was even one lawsuit to force the President to immediately appoint ministers. Are these agents of contractors looking for goodies?

Read more at: http://www.thenigerianvoice.com/news/183484/1/propagated-states-ethnic-champions-ministers-empty.html

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