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Weytin be dis na. Ever see gentle hippo dey swallow cash? Abi you get evidence?

I see snake and cows dey raise dem heads to smell billions. No give hippo bad name o. Nor compare dem to money eating snakes and cows a beg.

njuwo:
They have divide the money among themselves already before it's arrival. Later we will hear in the news that hippopotamus has swallowed it.

Got to be careful. Former girlfriends or even new ones have done it to punish or retaliate against men.

Some even do it out of wickedness to trap men. The world has changed.

Watch out for your wife's friends or your girlfriend's friends trying to look for an opportunity to break you up.

What is wrong with dis shedren?

Na so Ojukwu die? Na di porn movie of Bianca and ime nephew he dey enjoy live wey wata dey dribble from ime mouth.

Be careful O. Bad boy.

Thetruthsayer10:
ojukwu died senile with spit dripping from his mouth he was useless in life and death with no achievements to his name. Awolowo legacy continues to live on with one of the best school in the country named after him why ojukwu is just remembered as a failure who could not take his people away from Nigeria but ran wearing skirt to ivory coast

Really! You mean seriously?

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prolog2:
oduduwa is a political creation, created in order to prop up the ooni of ife and unite tribes which have little in common.
yoruba itself is a political entity with no history. Those calling themselves yoruba descend from slave returnee and migrant workers brough by the british and also some locals like the oyo and jebu.

This prolog2 of a guy is now totally confused.

So, he does not believe that Oduduwa was real. I thought you guys claimed Oduduwa was Ekhaleran!

Not only have you guys lost it individually, you should read and re-revise your your claims again with your Oba book.

You got away with murder when that book came out and were ignored for too long.

Tell your graduate or PhD students to submit your lies as thesis and watch how they FAIL mightily.

This revised history of Bini is becoming weirder by the hour. This guy wants proof that Ogiso existed before Oba!

We cannot settle that here. Go home or better still, go and meet Bini or Edo historians and settle it with them.

Chineke-God come see Bini man asking for proof of Ogiso, king of the sky.

Are there any Edo people reading this?

I agree that Yoruba should stop dragging Bini into their history. But it is the Bini that cannot stop because without Yoruba Arts and History which translate into Oba history, they have no relevance whatsoever.

How often have you heard them relate Ogiso history? Some of them are even denying Ogiso.

For a long time, Yoruba never took their revised history seriously. Since they were ignored, they kept on building on lies dragging Yoruba into it.

Scholars that are not even Yoruba ridiculed revised history nobody ever heard, wrote or with any archaeological backing until after 2000.

Who else would quote Oba Eko that claimed Ado the son of Ashipa was the son of Oba Bini or did not know that his own great grandfather is Alagba from Ilesha and even denied the whole interview he gave.

So, for a long time serious historians ignored them but when lies are built on lies, children started believing them.

True, it is only the ruling house that are Oba descendants. Ogiso existed before 12th century as the ruling house.

The more Yoruba ignore them, the more they feel abandoned and seek attention. Left to them, they would claim they are the king of the sky that created heaven and earth and Nigeria last.

It is not my intention to dislike this lady. If anything, I like her and her family.

But this craze for fame to make money and gain accolades has gone way out of order in our Country leading to desperate and unbecoming acts.

There are still very respectable families North and South in the country. We know them. They and their children do not hala for attention.

Indeed they stay stay away from it. This girl is lucky to come from one of such families. This goes beyond her father that many of you know.

So, I like this lady. She has no reason to be attention monger. In the process of seeking attention, she has been slammed sometimes. Why risk the name of her family?

Abi name has no more value in our country?

Is there a possibility that any bona fide Lagosian will support these Atohunriwa named Tinubu and Ambode?

This is a war on Lagosians. Most of the original Lagosians would lose their houses to Tinubu and Ambode when they would not be able to pay. The curse of Tinubu will not end until Judas is made out of him the way we used to do on the streets of Lagos.

Enough is enough.

What is wrong with this girl. She is such an attention seeker. It seems that is the only job she has.

Internet has created many sick people looking for attention at all cost. I thought she was a nice young lady until I realize she feeds on attention. Please go find something to do to keep you busy. What else do you want?

What I notice with at least two ethnic groups is that anyone that does anything outside Nigeria, especially qualified foreign graduates are big news that must be celebrated. It could be as a result of those disgracing Nigerians outside. So a positive achievement becomes news for celebration.

You then wonder why employers prefer foreign graduates or pay them more.

Please let us celebrate local achievements that move us higher from our sorry state instead of celebrating looters, politicians and money-miss-road without any clear source of income.

I am sure Nigerians from the North and South are graduating from foreign universities every year.

Our Colo-mentality Too Much With No African Standard


[b][b]Africans are advancing no doubt but still at a point in 2018 where we value standards such as “civilized world, saner climes”; preference for foreign workers with less qualifications, foreign miseducation repackaged to us to avoid the label of “expired education” and most important, the Gold Standard used to influence fair and free trade. Education that does not foster foreign std. is an uphill battle. Case in point: lure of Ajaokuta Steel Looting College nor go well lailai.

It is no secret na; African employers prefer foreign graduates to our local university graduates. We have to be fair, some employers have good reasons like: it takes them too long to graduate because of strikes or students lack certain skills employers want. The one that ticked this writer off is that they don’t have time to train locals. Usually they look for readymade graduates that are foreign trained. The same way we patronize foreign hospitals despite highly trained staff and equipped wards at our teaching hospitals, loved foreign rice and hate local cassava bread. [/b][/b]

https://www.thenigerianvoice.com/news/264145/our-colo-mentality-too-much-with-no-african-standard.html#

If one had joked that he preferred foreign graduates locally, he might get away but certainly not outside the Continent. Most of us cannot imagine an American, German, Irish or British saying he cannot hire an American and prefer foreign graduates in America without losing his job or an election today when anti-immigrant sentiment is high. While it is appalling that after first year at local university, some lecturers jump to new universities to become professors; it is not an excuse by another foreign loser elevating himself to get recruits to say local education expired.

However, the most disqualifying requirement for most well qualified African graduates in the job market abroad is lack of Canadian, American or British experience. So many foreign talents are wasted abroad. But those African graduates that could slip through the bureaucracy always come out with flying colors proving to be more competent. Most of the blacks in American universities as graduate students are Africans, West Indians or their second generation.

Actually, some of the distinguished African professors in many universities abroad got first or second degree from African universities. If these sons and daughters of Africa can excel in their chosen field of study anywhere, one has to wonder what they could do if our African employers spent some quality time to train them at home instead of looking for less qualified expatriate. No one wants global multinationals to discriminate against either foreign or local graduates.

The same expired education trained new generation in arts and natural sciences recognized as pioneers in vitro surgeries, automobile engineering, social sciences, arts and literature. Boston Childhood Lead Paint Poisoning Prevention that led in United States through the eighties and nineties until high levels of lead in children was almost wiped out, had an African Manager. Compare Boston program that long ago to the high lead levels of lead in Michigan kids today!

Though Nollywood is highly praised and successful outside, our scholars ridiculed it instead of contributing to make it better. Ogunde, the pioneer said if he had studied abroad, it could have killed his ingenuity. As some African scholars claim Africans do not speak good English, others do recognize that we can import English into our language and export out philosophies, idioms and thoughts into English by writing many best sellers such as “Things Fall Apart”. As soon as foreign recognition is given, the tunes change. The scholars that once see American English as inferior, now point to even the British, copying them today.

In order to ameliorate this blatant assertion by this Nigerian, the facilitating professor tried to set him right by saying he meant preference for African foreign graduates not the foreigners. It certainly was not enough because most African local graduates know that foreign graduates are paid more except in the governments where there are salary levels graded by degrees. But in the private sector, the foreigners without university degree not only earn much more than local and foreign African graduates, the so-called expatriates supervise them. It’s all colo-mentality.

Coming back to the training part; for sixty years or after independence from colonial powers, African countries have not insisted that every major contract or project must include training of Africans! It is only lately in some African countries including Lesotho that we see such contracts included in their projects. Some West African countries including Nigeria and Ghana would rather accept bribes and give foreign contractors a pass as in South Africa Zuma/Gupta/gate.

Frivolous excuse that they have no time to train local graduates prevent local production of pins and pencils. Our universities cry for imported equipment instead of designing and making theirs after so many years. Imagine how many engineers, ironworkers, plumbers could have come out of Eko Bridge, Eko Atlantic or diamond and gold mines that were exported from countries with so much, one was named Gold Coast. Colo-mentality pride on English gold and expatriates.

This brings us to the meaning of standard. Whenever you hear an African talk about “standard”, please ask him whose standard he was referring to. Most of the standards Africans talk about have no relevance, input or consideration for and from Africans. They are American, British or western standards, mostly. In some cases, such as World Health Organization bodies, African experts are consulted or actually have inputs before the “standards” are developed.

When China started their barefoot doctors and finally got to the point where their scientists are awarded Nobel Prize, nobody would even think of meeting “world standard”. If the Russians have to wait until they could meet “world standard”, they would still be trying to figure out how nuclear bomb design could be stolen and developed. Nobody outside America doubts that the Cuban produce one of the world best doctors, yet they did not wait to meet “world standard”.

Those of us old enough know the history of the “Gold Standard” that was abandoned when it could not be supported by their natural resources and services. It is still used to control world financial system by printing papers instead as: I Owe You. If you have been following this train of thought, the meaning of “standard” is so jaundiced to favor those that developed it. Yet, the Africans that are not invited for input or contribution, are the ones insisting on rigged standard.

When United States CDC rushed to Nigeria during Ebola, diagnosis had already been made from homemade machine in one of the new universities: Redeem in a village at Ede. The slogan was if Nigeria could kick Ebola, so could USA! Schools of health technologies training Community Health Officers, Nurses and other health grassroots workers were established by giants in the field in Nigeria hopping at least one African country would catch up with our needs and spread it across the Continent. When was the last time you heard Community Health Officer deserted?

Our educational standard has not expired, just to be renewed by foreign equipment. We have not developed ours as China, Germany, Cuba or N. Korea according to our languages/cultures. We are still training doctors, nurses, engineers and social scientists for alien countries. We then wonder why most of our doctors desert our countries for greener pasture.

Source: Farouk Martins Aresa
Published: Wednesday, March 7, 2018

Since these PhDs drivers took over the wheels, na soso die people dey die O.

Seriously, Dangote must set up a fund or more insurance for these accidents. True, accidents happen everyday but our drivers are reckless.

I remember that Dangote wanted his drivers reported for any reckless driving. He must do more to repair bad publicity caused by these drivers.

Which is worse?

Daily humiliation of rescued folks drowning,

Those waiting on death penalty abroad,

Xenophobic attack or

Die trying to get rich by any means necessary?

Well, I agree that you must get out fast from her and the parents. You can be nice to the father as he was to you if you like.

The problem is the children. How close are they to you, do they know anyone else as their dad? Nigerians are very particular about children DNA but even your own children may not be your loved ones especially if you are very rich. They tend to take life for granted and in this case, their mother have already taken you for granted.

Do not deny basic necessities for those kids, no matter what DNA reveals. There are people that adopt kids that are caring and some of our own that turn out otherwise. If you can afford it show care and love to the kids and move on. You may later have kids that are yours. Our morals in this country has gone to the gutter. Her mother probably know she is a slooooti.

Politicians Drive Youths To Suicides, Pastors, Imams, Militia, Desert & Sea

Do you recall when desperate youths thought of land flowing with milk and honey or dear life? Kill youths dignity and self-esteem, salvation are left to miraculous pastors, imams and juju. The desperate acts: sudden rise of youth suicides, selling body parts, seeking easy way out by act of God alone; emulate mismanagement, looting and waste of our resources by politicians. When Africans could not wait to get back home after studies abroad, has now become ancient history.

Instead of politicians creating jobs or enabling businesses, they make our youths vulnerable to unsavory endeavors. Those Asians that were starving and forced one child one family on their people used to come to Africa to work so that they could send money to their families. It has reverted, African youths are desperate to get out in order to survive outside their countries by any means. Death penalties, use of body parts or slavery no longer daunt breaking foreign laws.

Whoever you are, foreigners look at you in disgust. No matter how big your jets, houses and how many cars you drive, you cannot escape the plight of your people on television. Yet, there are Africans on spending spree in Dubai, Europe or America thinking they are better than their brothers and sisters literally trying to float above the water, waiting for gods to save them. We all carry the shame of how we treat one another regardless of our status or station, anywhere.

The lives of Africans have been so devalued, they are lucky if they survive in rubber boats or rescued by emergency ships patrol. They pull out as much babies and women they can rescue and leave the rest to perish after effort to save them fail or not timely. By the time they get to slave post to be sold like cattle or shores of Europe to be kept in refugee shelters, they become cheap commodity treated as less than humans. Who would respect any African or back man?

In order to escape the stereotype of begging or starving Africans, some people claim there are poor people everywhere and African are not the only people dirt poor. Some of us fear we are next. Recently Africa took the first place in world poverty , as usual. Even China and India with their explosive population manage and took care of their poor better that arrogant Africans.

Africans youths prefer to risk their lives than stay on their land. These are children of the same Africans that did not lay down and played dead to the whims and caprices of their tormentors. Youths have never been this hungry nor were they known as cowards. These were the children that were only willing to die when their dignity is reduced to shambles. Since they are unable to materialize successful lives or careers at home, are subjugated and turned into slaves outside.

Some Africans have been domesticated like animals fleeing their oppressors and driven into the hands of Africans that sell them as prostitutes and for body parts in North Africa in collusion with Arabs. African children would rather remain in subhuman refugee camps, prisoners and slaves in foreign lands than as free men in their own countries fighting for power. Africans have been so stripped and dehumanized, they sell themselves as cheap commodities. What a life!

While it is comforting to say not all Africans are guilty, only a few; the blemish is on all Africans. Indeed, it goes beyond the Continent, Diaspora Africans are ashamed of brothers and sisters in African countries as a few display blood money they made from selling their own; looking for more abettors in foreign countries. Not only do politicians sell us cheap, pastors or imams from whom we seek salvation forsake their mission of saving souls to open business centers (church).

The sudden spate of suicides especially among African youths is unprecedented in our history. We are not talking about only those offering themselves to the sea and desert but youths that feel unfulfilled in lives because of the myriad of resources wasted or negotiated away for personal gains by the politicians. Selling national companies and parastatal to one another.

Nevertheless, times has changed. The Africans that showed their kings calabash when they failed, fought against slavery on land and revolt in the high seas have been reduced to shadows of their bravery. Instead of fighting their oppressors, when backed to the wall, they melt into the walls of politicians and seek refuge in the hands of pastors and imams only to be raped and exploited by those that gain followers by predicting calamities and raising the “dead”.

Suicide used to be forced on kings that have failed in war and whose people had lost confidence in them. Shaka Zulu, in spite of his success in the war against the British had to commit suicide. Just as British Churchill Party was voted out after the war. In the Yoruba tradition also, if a king failed his people, he is shown the Calabash. So it is our leaders that have failed African youths that should be committing suicide not our precious adolescences, the future of Africa.

When we heard that Umar Farouk Abdulmutallab, the underwear bomber nearly brought down a plane, many of us denied that he could be an African. Not only is he an African, but a Nigerian from a wealthy home. Why he would take up the cause of Arabs in America while there are so many causes of talikawa he could have taken up at home was beyond us. Families of politicians and billionaires, he could have activated a suicide bomb in one of their extravagant ceremonies.

If he was so disturbed by causes perpetrated by his family and their cohorts in politics, he could have helped us to get rid of some looters; most of whom are invited to ceremonies regardless of their party or ethnic group. Conspicuous display of stolen loot, diverted from infrastructures and the treasury could have justified his irrational behavior at home not in a foreign country. His martyrdom could have been celebrated if it could have reduced youth suicide rate at home.

Always remember the smart clown someone paid in Abuja to blow up the House by driving into it with a truck loaded with bombs. You could trust a Nigerian then that no one would die for big money he could not enjoy! He put a stone on the accelerator and left the truck to move on without him. Fortunately, the truck stalled and did not blow up. This was the African we knew, this sudden increase in the number of youths committing suicide is disturbing.

What is surprising is the inability to fight back and take control from those that rule African countries without any guilt or remorse for intentional indifference to the plight of their folks.

Source: Farouk Martins Aresa
Published: Thursday, February 15, 2018
https://www.thenigerianvoice.com/news/263372/politicians-drive-youths-to-suicides-pasto.html#

It may not be that bad.

There are cases where the man married to get his papers only to turn around and send for his girlfriend.

Other cases regretted their action after their chi caught up with them. One remains miserable and childless. The only child he had with his previous wife rejected him.

While in school there was a guy with a very big one. So if a girl wanted more or bigger dick, we always pass them on. Not the one you like of course but the ones that complained like this girl here.

A few ran away from him after first encounters. One complained bitterly that he only lasted a few seconds. He countered that he he never counted how many seconds he lasted but how many girls he passed through.

A lesson for both boys and girls. Do not dicuss your friends private parts.

Short memory will not remember that the joint chiefs refused to have a meeting with the defense minister who was even a Northerner then.

For some reasons, he never gave up on Igbo even after he fell out with Akintola.

This man went back to the East to campaign until they almost killed him.

Look at how the 20 pounds he gave Igbo has been twisted today. At that point and time, Awo was accused of bribing the Igbo. Igbo were not the only ones that lost their possessions during the war. Many on both sides did.

In those days, for a starter, 20 pounds would pay your rent for five month in Lagos island. Rent in Surulere was two pounds ten shillings and less if you go further West like Mushin, Ikeja not to mention Agegunle areas.

Today, ingrates talk as if it was 20 naira. Even those that never saw the inside of a bank claimed they had millions!

Awo was not a politician. He worked on principles, very naive.

Watch this thread, you will understand why Igbo used fabricated reasons to hate Yoruba. Anyone old enough knows that Zik started this hatred and vengeance for the only reason that Awo denied him the Premiership in the WEST. This was well before the WAR for heaven's sake.

The younger generation of Yoruba are now wondering what Yoruba were smoking to elect Zik from Lagos to Ibadan to represent them.

Every fabricated reason after this is simply ridiculous. They planned coup to install Awo. They released Awo from prison. Awo asked them for a bribe to get their land back from their Ikwere cousin in Port H. They took Awo out of prison at night to a comfortable house etc.

Awo wrote Ironsi letters for his release. He and his Ojukwu backers never acted on it despite the fact that Awo planned UPGA party with them while and before he went to prison while Akintola objected for the simple reason that - whatever benefit Igbo got from alliance with the North, Yoruba want the same!

Akintola was right, look at Igbo now calling Yoruba Hausa slaves. Is that what they were in alliance with the North, even when Awo offered Zik Executive Prime Minister.

Look, Yoruba can only love Igbo to death, Igbo will never reciprocate. Give them Lagos, they will demand more!

This is the problem we have in Nigeria: blind loyalty no matter what, even if looters burn the country.

If Jonathan was fair, did not burn his bridges, loot since "it is our money" and loot since stealing is not corruption, left his own environment in polluted degradation worse than he met it;

would Buhari be President?

If Obasanjo does not qualify to speak up- who else is so qualified? This is the first President since the war that brought out the Igbo from obscurity to the forefront.

Today they thank him with abuses. Some Igbo that appreciated his boldness were labeled traitors. As long as we have self-centered Nigerians, this country is going nowhere.

Itsekiri conquered a part of Lagos, Bini owner of Lagos, Igbo has 90 % of Lagos, Hausa has 50% of Lagos, Ebira has 25%, What about, Dahomey, Ghana, Togo, Sierra Leone 25% each.

Some people go choke on this Lagos O!

Most children carry this burden of living "alone" with their fathers while their half siblings are more privileged. But you may not hear them say it until they become independent adults.

Divorce: Best Mom Even In A Slum May Not Be The Best Wife

Fathers need to be sensitive to the kids of their ex-wives. It could be miserable homes for them.

Whenever some of the sweet-mom children run back downtown to mom, they are taken back. Some of the stories these children tell their mothers may be exaggerated, it includes beating by their step mother, neglect while half-brothers or sister are cuddled or spoilt with more toys and clothing. What is clear is that even when their mothers could only provide less or same toys and cloth, the fact that half-siblings got more from dad got them sad. Their stories can be touching.

Sweet mom is the best, no matter where she lives, even in the slum. No one can underestimate the umbilical cord between mother and children. The man that competes with a woman for the love of most children inside or outside the same house is wasting his time. GRA, Government Reservation Areas, strictly residential, used to be for colonial officers. They were dry, quiet and the few African officers’ kids there, could hardly find anything to buy unless they go downtown.

Unfortunately, children’s priority have changed. These days, most children want to live in areas where the middle class or the rich live. Their home address matters so much that some girls would not date anyone outside these “exalted” addresses. Other boys or girls even put on their best attire with just enough money for transport and a drink where they could hook up with guys that live in highbrow part of the city. If they do not “catch” any, they go home hungry.

Suburb and slum are relative depending on the country you live in and when. In the 50s, 60s and 70s most of us in African countries live in towns and cities that are more or less the same except for those living in the GRA that is designated as for senior government officers, mostly white colonial officers. Cities and towns where most of the fun were for children; were better.

The planners of GRA in those days were daft. There were hardly playgrounds for soccer and no mom and pop stores where you could even get candies. There was Adelabu, the very popular politician from Ibadan. Whenever he was in Ikoyi, Lagos; he would bring his drummer with him. Since most of the GRA residents were full of those white government officers, Adelabu would tell them to go back to their countries if they did not like the loud sound of talking drums.

It is different in the developed countries where ghettos are desolate, some areas are prone to crimes and underserved schools. In Canada though, there is hardly any place that fits definition of a ghetto as in the United States and all the schools in Canada regardless of where you live are well provided for with more amenities than one would find in the USA ghettos.

Back to Africa where divorce was rare in those days but still happened, children were either with their mothers or their fathers. Poverty is so rampant these days; a kid would be crazy to choose to live with a parent in the ghetto or slum when he could have a better life with the parent in the suburb or GRA of those days. But then, most women would not leave their kids with estranged husband and another wife or woman, only to turn their kids into house help.

The point here are those children that chose to live with their mother, no matter what. The bond between mother and child can never be undervalued. This writer can still remember his first time in the boarding school in another city. One day he got so sick, he had to be sent home. As soon as he saw his mother, he got well, only to be sent back to school immediately!

So those places that look like ghetto or slum to some folks were paradise. In any case, children loved the towns as much as their mothers and fathers. But there is also the umbilical cord tying mother and child together. No matter where the area is, rich or poor, children of those days would rather stay with their mother. The same may not be true today since courts always give custody of the children to the parent that is better able to provide them a “rich” environment.

This may be so in such cities as Nairobi, Accra or Lagos. What is surprising and even confound planners is why some successful blacks refused to leave and few return to ghetto. Indeed, some of them refused to leave the project despite the fact that they have to pay more or about the same as private apartment in a better area. So, it has little to do with money because they have good jobs with nice salary to escape the ghetto. [url][url]But it is the only place they feel comfortable[/url].[/url]

Another way one can understand this in African cities, is when people are asked to move to new development outside their own so that their homes could be demolished for new modern projects. In Lagos Nigeria, people refused to move to Surulere with good facilities like flower garden in front and vegetable garden at the back, indoor bathroom with septic tank compared to ancient “shalanga” where “outsiders” were employed to rid waste once or twice weekly.

If we are so attached to our environment, it could provide social planners and social workers the reasons children go back to their mothers in a less desirable housing after common sense or court order agreed that children are well provided for in a rich environment. By this we usually mean housing, good schools and other social amenities. As much as some of the mothers love their children, they know they may not be able to provide as much as their ex-husbands can.

Even Surulere, the New Lagos of those days, it is now seen as a ghetto by the children of those that used to live there. The only real problem with Surulere in those days were mosquitoes and too far from action. The schools and playgrounds were nearby. A cousin decided to show her children where she used to live and they shouted: mummy you used to live in the ghetto!

The areas in old African cities like Monrovia and Freetown may look like ghettos now, they were the place we were very happy. We had soccer fields close by and where there was none, we created ours on the streets. When cars came, we made way for them and as soon as they drove away, we resumed our game. Today, with so many people, you cannot even see Lagos roads, full of people. Cars make their way through like a divided sea that closes as cars move away.

We played marble and station, seeds from “agbalumo” on the sidewalk. We knew where to buy tuwo, rice and beans, akara, mosa, ewa-Ghana and even kenki. There is this attachment not only to our mothers and fathers but also to our neighborhood. If parents separated, those with custody of children of their ex- must watch out for kids’ depression. May not complain to dads.

Source: Farouk Martins Aresa
Published: Tuesday, January 30, 2018
https://www.thenigerianvoice.com/news/262787/divorce-best-mom-even-in-a-slum-may-not-be-the-best-wife.html#

No blame de man jor. The word Lagos dey command all kin spirits for head. If you get plenty money to waste, that magic wod no be foolish O. Na kokobility.

Usually, men would marry any lady they like even from broke ass home. So they like to marry up. But there are girls from good homes looking for a presentable guy they can introduce to their parents.

So the prenuptial goes both ways.

spinna:
the fact is this: Many 9ja women are f@*$d up in the head, especially some of the so called 'good ones'. Endless judgement and measurement of you. Nothing is ever good enough. Money determines your worth not wit or charm.

Abegi o.. When ur relationship is not perfectly in harmony th i nk twice before marriage or get a prenup..so as not to be wrecked by divorce nuff said

Better Be A Single Broke Ass Than A Shafted Divorcee


Broke Ass Have Rights Too! You worked day and night all your life just to be able to have happy homes, wife and children, only to end up with a failed marriage. Your wealthy status changed if you can hardly support yourself, your new girlfriend, wife or new a family. A court can make it so difficult that by the time you pay for the taste of your ex-wife as if she was still married to you, child support and upkeep of the house you were kicked out of, you are left hanging dry. If you think this can only happen by court order outside of Africa, you better think again.

Shafted Divorcees also have right too! Actually, there are 3 sides to a story: his side, her side and the truth: determined as facts by a court. When we were growing up, a couple returned from London and later got a divorce. When they were studying in London, the husband became a lawyer but he was partially supported by the wife’s money sent by her parents. Whenever they had differences in England, there was an elder lawyer there, from their City that settled it.

Some of her friends had squealed to her parents that instead of studying in school, she got married to her boyfriend and both were raising children as a family. In those days, nobody sent you to school to go and get married. Africans did not meet one another on the street, families marry. You were supposed to come back home as soon as your study is completed unless you want to kill your mother. Most friends and family would start counting the years, as you leave.

If you do not return after four years, people would go to your family and ask why you were not back home. Oh, he has decided to stay back for masters, the parents would say. If it went beyond that, it was either you have become the Mayor of London or got lost abroad. Anyone that saw you in England would be wondering if you want to kill your mother at home. If they found out you were not serious, they would tell your mother to send you a ticket; back home!

Their mediator came back home first and later became a prominent judge. He had retreated from their family affairs as a couple since both had African parents to settle their differences. The wife’s parents were not happy that their daughter did not qualify since she spent her school fees on the husband. As a very successful lawyer in England and later in Lagos, the husband had another girlfriend that led to their separation. In short, they filed for divorce.

Guess who got their case as an Appellate Justice? The elder who settled their differences when one was a student and the other a dropout in England. Both were happy the elder that got their case was a member of the appeal panel; since he was fair in those days in England. The case went on for a while before it got to the Appeal panel of which the elder was a member.

It could have been better for the husband if they had settled out of court or never appealed the lower courts judgment. Most of the witnesses at the lower courts that were students with them in London supported the wife and recounted all the sacrifices she made for the husband to become a very successful lawyer. Usually, by the time cases get to Appeals Court, point of law raised matters more than the facts and credibility determined by the lower courts.

Nevertheless, the Appeal Court judgment was devastating to the husband. He lost so much to the ex-wife and children, he could barely support himself and his new fiancée. If he had to do it all over, he might as well have remained a broke ass than a wealthy married man that went back to being broke again. If this case had been decided in Britain or United States, we could have argued that it would never happen in Africa. Ladies now make fun of a broke ass divorcee.

Indeed, this happened in Africa, not lately but some decades ago. You must have heard stories of what happened to African men that married in Europe and America and how they lost cars and houses to their wives. Some of these, as girlfriends actually told their friends what they were going to do as soon as they gain a solid foothold abroad. There are stories circulating how some of these ladies later sent for their mother, father or siblings only to kick out the husbands.

One father even told a husband on his way to work to take a second look at his house because that would be the last time he would see the inside. Only a bias fellow would take all of these stories truthfully since there are three sides to a story. We hardly hear about nurses that were dumped by their husbands for different tastes or returned to old lovers. But there are enough documented cases of African wives using police and oyinbo’s law to displace their husbands.

Unfortunately, the pressure from work is taken out on their families when both get home. The last thing Africans want at home is stress; in a hostile environment. They need understanding and strong men or women by their side. These are the type of ladies that came out of Africa in those days. They were not that many around, but the few then, were very dedicated to their men. There were some trusted older men around acting as elders, settling differences.

What is clear is that black or African men are only respected in Africa just as white men enjoy privilege in Europe and America, Asian men enjoy privilege in Asia. African, black or mixed race enduring discrimination outside of Africa, are so frustrated, a few have taken a law, they do not believe favor them, into their hands. Husbands have caught wives with boyfriends red handed only for the boyfriends to call police on the husbands: for abusing his wife and assaulting him.

There are many reasons some guys do not want relationships with ladies abroad where they live. They expect a submissive African lady just like Americans going to Europe or Asia; wish for the same. When told by relatives that the girl he came to marry worwor, leftover for naive men abroad, he would ignore them once the girl claimed mischief or that the people were jealous.

These days, the question is: out of all the pretty African students and other ladies with you guys abroad, you could not find one to marry? Oh well, he could be looking for a nurse. They make good money and all the investment in a nurse would pay off. We heard about guys coming back home surveilling nursing schools for the most beautiful girls. Some guys look for girls with good sciences grades in high schools, they can send to nursing school in the United States or Europe.

If many of these guys have to do it all over again, they would remain a broke ass some ladies call them than lose all investment to become a shafted divorcee. But some girls countered that African broke ass men cannot afford them, not to talk of sexy dolls. What they forget is that African men improvise. Before those sex dolls, were inflatable big sized dolls! Lose investments to become broker than ever? Believe it or not, there are ladies still looking for just decent men.

Source: Farouk Martins Aresa
Published: Thursday, January 25, 2018

Source:https://www.modernghana.com/news/830703/better-be-a-single-broke-ass-than-a-shafted-divorcee.html#

I am yet to see a ughly lady that went bald voluntarily. Most of them are pretty and confident.

What a lovely and sincere man.

Please keep her in Nigeria. Otherwise na police she go take remove you from your house abroad.

Can everyone see what I see. A Not Nigerian man!

Anyone but a Nigerian.