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OscarJaden:
Unfortunately for me i didn't experience fatherly or motherly love

Bleep my mom
She left us and my younger ones immediately when my dad died to marry his best friend....I was very young then
Well I've forgiven her already so throughout my schooling days....
It was my uncle who was training me from primary to university
At 300l he said he can't continue because his family responsibilities is much on him so i had to grind on the street day and night just to pay my tuition fee and my projects
Although i haven't gotten to where I'm suppose to be but am better than yesterday

ThankGod for street

Brother, I feel your pain. It gets me angry when I hear people say honour your parents no matter what. Some parents deserve no respect from their children. It is pure evil to birth children only to abandon them and not help them navigate the difficult terrain of life.

From primary school through University, my dad only paid my school fees once, in JS 2, and had never bought a single textbook for me. Not that he lacked the wherewithal, just sheer wickedness towards his son. My mom had health issues so she was incapable. I saw myself through school through personal hustles and with the help of some uncles.
Funnily enough, you need to see how entitled my dad acts towards the little cash I earn now. I give him the little I can and give mom a larger chunk.
Life was tough for me, spent my entire teenage years struggling. Luckily, I got a decent job immediately after I left the uni.

Started giving up on humanity when Nigerian Doctors threatened to go on strike if there's an increase in renumeration for other members of the health sector after they (the doctors that is) got their own increase. Shocked me then, but these days very few things can have such effect. I now understand humans have an inherent tendency to be evil and sadistic regardless of race, ethnicity, socioeconomic and educational status.

NO. My mum is too eager to please outsiders, sometimes at the expense of her nuclear family. She has a good heart and means well, but this is a flaw I wouldn't want my wife to possess.

Legendforte:
I always observe that allied health workers in Nigeria attacks physicians and surgeons at any slightest opportunity

You are kidding right? Nigerian doctors are really some of the most hateful professionals out there. They are the only professionals known to have threatened to go on strike if the remunerations of other healthcare professionals are improved.
To put things in perspective, doctors in Canada threaten to go on strike if the welfare of other healthcare professionals isn't improved.

I envy footballers that are paid truck loads of money for essentially doing a job that keeps them fit. They get to retire early, and live out the rest of their lives in luxury. Not some medical or first class student that will have to do a white collar job they will eventually hate for the rest of their lives, putting up with difficult colleagues and bosses.

You have no idea.

The NoHoper moniker was created at a point in my life when I felt really hopeless. I felt I wasn't in charge of my life. Felt like a victim. Felt like everyone around me was taking turns to screw me in the assss and there was nothing I could do. I was just a depressed loser.

But things have changed, thanks to a couple of books I read. I feel in charge of my life now, though I've stepped on a number of toes, lost some "friends" and "family", but it's a worthy sacrifice. Growing my savings now. I'm really at peace with myself.
Thanks to everyone who chipped in a word of advice here.

lekki1444:
WOW now these are Cancerian traits that i have discussed on this thread. Energy vampires that drain your energy, and always bringing you back down to the past WOW.. thanks for your input. it is very confirming

What do you think of a male cancer born on 29/06/1984

Reminds me of when I was a total loser. That's how a girl used to utterly disrespect me on a regular basis. She won't return my calls or chats and whenever I lodged my displeasure she would just casually tell me she is not in the mood for a fight. No apologies from her. If I insist she apologizes, she would threaten to end the relationship and then somehow I'd end up apologizing. Depression sucks ( I was battling some mild depression and anxiety and I thought she was doing me a favour just being around me).

After having enough, I developed some self respect and a bit of self esteem. The scenario played out again and this time when she threatened to leave, I said fine, you are free to go. She couldn't believe it. Sent in a couple of messages explaining why she behaved the way she did, but I thought I'd had enough.

I'm alone now, much happier, and I hope to work on my anxiety issues and build up my self esteem and confidence before venturing into another relationship.

Wow, almost like I'm reading about my dad, and myself. Only that my dad never even paid any of my school fees. He was worse than the dad described in that post.

F9 and if it is on a scale of -10 to 10 he scores -5.
He really was a failure as a dad. Can't even remember him paying my school fees or paying for anything at all. Not like he was broke or anything, he just felt those monies were better off spent on women. What's worse, he still doesn't show any remorse. Still feel I owe him because he did me the favor of bringing me into this world.

We are literally living in a shitttt hole created by the rich elites. The rich have basically taken everything from the poor.

Your father sounds absolutely like mine. Was a failure as a father, still remorseless and acts all entitled.

Get an uncle to act as a father during the whole wedding thingy. Also, to hell with his impotent curses.

This is just me, except I have a decent paying job which doesn't really count in the bigger picture because I have to hand over my pay to close relatives.

Life just sucks for some of us and the sooner we accept that the easier we will see out our time in this miserable realm.

I earn 250K and I hardly manage to save 50K at the end of the month. I'm "compelled" to pay a number of people salaries because they have similar genetic materials as me

A girl is better off marrying dude that earns 30K over me.

Every fuckinnng day LMAO


Yeah, I know. My life suck

Martinez39:
Females are everywhere shitting their pants. Men are waking up.

He really is waking boys up. The reality, however, is seemingly unpleasant for some of us. Really wish women are just as straightforward.

Don't know how to feel, mehn. My long time girlfriend is very manipulative, I discovered this with the knowledge I have gotten reading all these red pill stuffs. Kinda feel bad cos I thought she was different, genuinely. I'm well capable of matching her game but I fear our baby girl would suffer for it.

Hate my life even more.

Acha...common in jos plateau state, but you can find it in major markets in major towns in the country.

Very low glycaemic index, ideal for diabetics.

This thought crossed my mind everyday. I really do hate the world....

Story of my life. That's why I'm a no Nohoper. Everyone around me is my responsibility.

I've given up

Just totally incapable of saving because apparently my family (parents and siblings) believe they are my responsibility and I should more or less place them on a monthly salary. I'm 34, really wanna settle down but I do feel bad for any girl that would have the misfortune of being my spouse. So I stay away from them.

My life is really fuuckked up, for no fault of mine

Cool story

I do drugs...

My job gives me easy access to euphoria inducing drugs so I pop a pill or two whenever I'm down (which is most of the time).

Without them drugs I'd have probably committed suicide, no kidding.

SMH

That picture depicts exactly what I'm going through. It's so painful and I'm beginning to really resent my parents. They just churned out kids and are basically expecting that I should be responsible for them.

So in a nut shell, my parents enjoyed their youths: they fell in love, dated, got married and birthed kids. The kids they don't want to be responsible for. Meanwhile, me, I'm not supposed to have any life. Can't even have a decent relationship. I'm just here to slave away.

It will definitely have to stop.

I appreciate you all for your inputs.

Sharing this issue here gives me some relief (I haven't spoken to anyone in real life about this issue) and the advice I get here have been helpful.

I'm so grateful to you all.