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Auxtan:
Thank you so much.

What’s the update bro

Auxtan:
Thank you so much.

Come back after 1 week and thank me.

Auxtan:
Will try it out bro. Thanks so much 🙏🏾

But is azythromycin an ointment, cream or tablet?

it’s an antibiotic. Just go to a good pharmacy. Tell them you need azythromycin 500mg. It’s drugs like normal typhoid tablet. What you have it’s in your blood. You need to clear it from the inside. I’m a living testimony my man. For over 4 years now I never forgot the name of the Drugs that did wonders in my life and will never.

Mikocake:
What's the dosage boss?

Normal 1 morning 1 night. Buy the original one and thank me later bro.. it works!! You will start noticing it drying off the next day but make sure you finish it. By the end of the dosage it would completely dry off then you can use your fingers to peel off the rest. I never gave it a chance again so I bought another one and finished it completely. 4 years and counting that shit never raised its ugly head again!

Nwagod26:
And I guess your relationship with your wife and mother-in-law is in great health abi? Since you distanced yourself from your won mother, has your wife distanced herself from hers?

Oga use your head oooo. No woman wants to lose what give her joy, and for your own mother, na you dey give her joy ooo. For you keeping quiet that your own wife hasn't reached out to your own mum, hasn't asked that you both do, at least, ma guy you don go marry pesin wey worse pass your mama ooo.


We live in a clime were religion has ruined thinking of many, especially women. I would have expected that you as a grown man, and experienced would wade in to offer teachings to your mother on what is especially in a world were dynamism has come. Instead you dey here dey tell us say since your wife no dey call your mama, na so you just dey flex peace. Baba get sense. If you lose your life today, your will move on, get married, have those kids for another man. But your mum, may never recover from that shock. Come to think of it, do you not think you and your wife should learn to bring your mother close, with sense and show her love? Make her know that marriage is not about tribe and religion? Even th religion sef, na christian christian for da mata. Guy go and restore peace in your home. If Dem talk of men stamping authority, na here Dem need am no be by beating wife and barking orders. Let your mum know your wife and kids are now centre, let your wife know that your mum is your responsibility biko

I don’t think you read clearly what I wrote there.
What do you mean distant my self? Maybe you should go back and read again but this time read to understand. Thanks

iamme1234:
My wife is cool with it and said she doesn’t want that closeness with my mom even though she has forgiven her too.

Bro dont hate ur mum for ur wife
Please be guided
I have once fall in this category sometimes ago
I applied maturity.
And all goes well later.
Do not hate ur mum because of your wife master.
If your mum didnt birth you, ur wife wont see u.
Remember wifey might go away in life when life turns red in living and financial aspect,but ur family remains till christ comes.

Naa I don’t hate my mom at all. If you read clearly you would see I still take care of her and her needs. Everything she did though was extreme and is enough reason for most children to abandon their mom but I never did. I still do my duties as a son

stainlessnature:
This is deep.

I deduced from your story that:
1. You are the only Son/child
2. it seems your father is late
3. You married a woman she had reservations about. (Although that's normal).
4. Your mother stays very far away from you.
Yet, you seldomly call her
5. Your mother-in-law is living with you without any plan to leave.
6. You only send money to her, no family bonding in your story.
7. You didn't encourage your wife to call her often.

Why won't she give you problem? It's up to you to make the amends.

Call her as often as possible
Make her feel loved
Always request for her prayers.
Remember that, Mother-in-laws and our wives should be best of gist mates. They would always think and act good for us
By this, she will give you your desired peace and not all those negative vibes

I don’t understand people at all.. Did you read the narration at all before coming to conclusions? Smh try to get sense pls

I had this exact growth when I was in the university. It lasted for over a year. It was too embarrassing. I tried every medication, drugs, injections but to no avail. There was no cream I
I didn’t apply on it and drugs I didn’t take. I was even cutting it myself with a blade sometimes but it grows back bigger. One faithful day I went to the pharmacy to get a drug for some infection I had and the pharmacist gave me azythromycin and to my outmust shock this antibiotic didn’t only cure the infection I had but I noticed this shit at the back of my head started drying off. Damn!! I was more than happy. By the time I completed the dosage it almost dried off completely. I went back and bought another pack and it completely cleared it up damn. I understand how u feel man that shit is irritating. Get azythromycin. Make sure it’s the original one. Go to a very good pharmacy. Should be around 3-4K and believe me this would be a thing of the past. Come back and thank me later

nnamdiosu:
My post will hurt, but it's 100 percent true. My post will sting but it's the transparent truth.

You are a very nice guy, and I'll commend you for protecting your wife and being unbiased. Some men would have also told.their wife that try and understand mama, she's an elderly person etc. But you stood on the truth.

That being said. YOUR MOM WILL BREAK YOUR HOME . your mom will scatter your family. This issue is a serious issue that can be generational malice.
I'm sorry if the above hurts, but deep down you know it's true. Your mom is being selfish, putting her own desires before your happiness.

The truth is, even her pastor supports her, don't be surprised he might be the one feeding her those lies.

Your wife and mother in law are very nice people, God blessed you with a very good in law. Honestly.

Solution:
Bro, if you value your happiness and home, keep your mom away from any discussion or activity that affects your home.

Support her, check up on her, send her money BUT DONT BRING HER INTO ISSUES WITH YOUR HOME OR WIFE . Separate them like how oil mix with water.

This is the true test of every man, and the way you carry yours will prove if indeed you are a man. Just be cheerful, don't let it weigh you down. In this matter, your mom's mind is made up for war, and appeasing such people is very very difficult. You need prayer and wisdom.

I hope this short advice can help.
Every problem that has a begining must also have an end.

Cheers up bro

Thanks for your advice. So far I have done almost everything you said and I have had peace since then. I only feel somehow they are not talking but now I guess keeping the distance is the best way for my sanity

spice123:
Firstly, you're blessed amongst women. I congratulate you on that.

Now to the issue at hand...

You see marriage ehh, just thank God that your own Ziggy zaga stared early with this, you will know the true character of your mum, wife and mother-in-law. All you need to do right now is to take your time to study these women in your life. Give it a space of 3 months. You will be the one who will reconcile all of these at the end but live your life freely.

Secondly: after the 3 months or even more, tell your wife you need to visit your mum with her that it concerns you and it is very critical (you know how you will persued her). Then take a knife along with you (act itooo) when you get to your mum's place with your wife, bring out the knife and tell them that if they don't reconcile now in your presence, you will kill yourself. Your mum will have no son and grandchild and your wife no husband.

Period.

Thanks for your advice but I don’t think I’m that crazy. Lol.

oshopychi:
Op
This is just the beginning.

Your mother is looking for how she can manipulate you to share her thoughts.

That is why a man will leave his father and mother and stick to his wife and become one.

My take; you need to use your 'ignore button' and face your wife.


When the time is right they will find peace themselves.

She’s tried everything. I don’t just buy her talks and that’s the problem. She believed I have been bewitched. She has said several times I have been giving love portion

pussygotlips:
So many weakling men nowadays.. This generation is fvked up.

Can you in a sensible way explain the reason for your comment?

Zonefree:
His mother in-law is the one around giving attitude not his mom.

His mom is far away from the family but she still extends her motherly love trying to save her son from impending danger.

My mother inlaw lives in the East. My mother lives in the same town with us. And I never said my mother inlaw was giving attitude. Read to understand pls

Good morning guys. I need some matured minds and married men and women in the house to look into this matter and give me an ideal way to go about this. Would be a long read pls bear with me.

So late late 2021, I got married to my long time girlfriend. Before the marriage, my mom had a little reservation about the girl and her family for some odd reasons due to her tribe. She’s Igbo. Everything was funny because the first day I introduced my wife to my mom. She liked her and everything was cool. They where going on well until my mom started telling me she’s having some dreams about the girl and her family. She’s white garment member. I think her dislike started growing when she told my wife about her church and she said she can’t go to her church for any reason. I was a former member of the church when I was a teenager but with time as I grew I stopped going to the church not because it’s a bad church or something wrong with it. I just don’t fancy going there and also not a church type of person. My mom believe it was the girl that made me stopped going to the church which was funny. She has said that several times.

For the record, I’m an only child of my mother, my dad is late and she’s yet to marry again. I do everything for her like her rent, monthly upkeep, and also got her a good car. Initially I thought she was doing all these because she felt she hasn’t enjoyed me yet and another woman is coming into the picture which is normal for most parents. So I did everything I could to make her comfortable before my wedding.

We did the wedding and everything went on smoothly aprt from some normal family disputes and all but the wedding was successful. Deep down I know my mom still doesn’t like my girl because of her statement s most times but I don’t always give her that room so she’s always quiet and rather not talk what’s on her mind.
Later on, my mom started complaining of the money I give to her. She seems not to be ok with it. Trust me guys. I do more than enough for my mom. I just tried my best to handle everything well and sometimes allow her have her ways with her demands so she doesn’t see my wife as a stumbling block to her.

To cut the long story short, my wife took in and was due for delivery and her mother came like a month before the delivery. Actually my wife had a false labour that made us rush to the hospital and doctor said she has very high maleria and was in serious labor. I called the mother immediately and she started coming the next morning because she lives in the East. The doctor gave her some injections and drugs for the maleria and the labor stopped. Doctor told us it wasn’t the right time for the baby to come out because it was 8 months.
The next morning when she was strong, we went back home with the mother that was already in town.

The mother decided to stay till the delivery instead of going back and coming again when she delivers which I supported.
Two weeks the doctor gave us turned to 1 month and labor didn’t still come. All these while I never knew my mom was so bitter that my mother inlaw was in my house for that long. She once asked me why the woman didn’t go and come back. It was that bad. To make matters worse, I lost my child after a CS was done on my wife. It appeared the baby was in distress which the doctors failed to notice and came out with birth asphyxia. After about two weeks, she died. I opened a thread on that.

Problem started after I buried my child. Everyone was in sorrow and so much pains especially my wife. A day after the burial my mother called my mother inlaw and asked her why she hasn’t gone yet. Started accusing the woman of killing the child and all manners of things. How she had turned her husband to vegetable and now she wants to teach her daughter how to turn her son into vegetable too. It was really bad. They both insulted each other and quarreled seriously on the phone just a day after the lost of my child. She also called my wife and told her “shebi she doesn’t want children” my wife was quiet and didn’t utter a word.

I was in so much pain and so pissed at my mom for everything she did and didn’t even speak to her for like a month even though I still sent her upkeep money. I reported her to her uncle and a few respected people. I don’t know if they talked to her but nothing was done. No body called for any meeting even her own pastor that I reported to. Instead he told me it’s woman talk. That they both insulted each other and the rest..

After that incident till date. My wife, mother, and mother inlaw haven’t spoken to each other even though I have had more peace since then but the fact still remains my mom and wife are not in good terms. I have long forgiven and moved on with my mom even though that closeness is not there but I don’t fail to send her money for upkeep every month. My wife is cool with it and said she doesn’t want that closeness with my mom even though she has forgiven her too.

My mom and I talks once in a while and never for once has she asked about my wife since that incident and my wife hasn’t called either which I don’t blame her. The last time I visited my mom. She said some ill things about my wife and her family and even told me my wife is not my rightful wife and some other things. I usually don’t listen to her talks because I know how religion has turned so many people into something else.

The question right now guys. What do I do in this situation. The truth is nothing can change my moms mind about my wife and her family. But still as a husband, I still feel somehow knowing my wife and mom are not in good terms. My mother inlaw the last time told me she wants to make peace with my mom that they can’t keep fighting forever especially because of her daughter. But deep down I know the thought my mom have about them. So I just told her it’s not the right time and with time everything will be fine. I can’t force my wife to call my mom because she didn’t do no wrong. At the same time my mom won’t even listen to me for any peace making. There are more things to say but I will end here. Sorry for the long write up.
Your opinions would be deeply appreciated.
Thank you 🙏

illicit:
Are you AA?

If u are, it's a problem associated with it

The funny part is I’m b+ with genotype AS. My wife is AA yet she hardly fall sick

Good morning Nairalanders. Pls I don’t know what is wrong with my body. I’ve been having reoccurring fever and slight headache. Each time I go for test, it’s maleria. I usually do full bloood count and maleria test and it’s always maleria. My full blood count majority of the time appears normal.

So far so good for the past 2years I have been treating maleria every month.. the longest I have gone without anti maleria should be maybe 3 months in the last 2 years. Sometimes it comes after 3 weeks of treatment and most times together with typhoid drugs.

For the record;
1. I don’t live in a mosquito prone environment. Even though I don’t sleep with mosquitoe nets, I don’t remember the last time I got bitten my mosquito.
2. I take what I eat and drink seriously. I have been on bottled water for the past 3 years and I rarely eat out. I’m married and my wife cooks my food. She hardly fall sick. She’s 0+ while I’m b+
4. Even the times I take a lot of immune booster, supplements, I still feel this way after a few weeks
5. I have done general check up including hiv and kidney test and everything is fine. The only thing the doctor told me was my bad cholesterol was high but not so bad. He said I should be doing more workout and eat healthy with fruits which I have been doing.
6. I take lots of fruits in the form of smoothies even though I don’t do this every day but I know I eat good amount of fruits in a month.
7. I have ulcer but not so bad, it only comes when I take too much alcohol and maybe starve my self from morning till night. Because of this I hardly take alcohol and eat atleast 2 times daily. Morning and night and ulcer hasn’t been a problem for a long time unless I take things that trigger it
8. I was having acid reflux (gerd) that started about 3 months ago but I have been able to know foods that trigger it like bread, noodles, too much eba which i have stopped. In fact I eat oatmeal floor now and have completely stopped bread and noodles.

Guys I listed all these so people understand my lifestyle. I seriously don’t know why I keep having reoccurring fever and little headache that would definitely progress if I don’t take medication and stop immediately I take anti maleria only for symptoms to come back after a few weeks.
I need help pls because I’m tired of going for test and taking drugs or injections. I’m seriously worried. Got so bad my wife and mom thinks it’s something else
Funny part is I eat and drink same thing with my wife yet she hardly fall sick. I’m the one always treating. It’s terrible.

Thanks boss. Done that

Good evening Nairalanders. I decided to Create this new account to stay anonymous.
Long story short, my wife delivered our daughter a few days ago and she was diagnosed for “moderate birth asphyxia” because she couldn’t cry out loud after birth and didn’t breath well. according to the gynecologist, she came out very weak and a bit blue.

This was quite devastating and shocking to me and still is, and I wonder why this happened because she registered her ante-natal in same hospital and came for all the doctor’s appointments and took all the prescribed drugs she was given. Every thing was Normal until birth. Baby is full term (40 weeks). Did all the series of text and doctor certified her ok and fetus was fine.

Two weeks before the birth my wife was getting inpatient because lots of people had told her first babies usually come early and the doctor has been recommending cs in a subtle manner if she was inpatient. Being the husband and also scared of Nigeria health care, I was skeptical of the cs because there was no indication for cs. The pregnancy wasn’t at risk. Doctor said baby was ok and it’s either she do the cs if she can’t wait or we wait till when labor is due. Those where his words. I was just in a dilemma and had to make a decision ASAP.

So last week monday, we went to the doctor after much pressure for her normal monday appointment and the cs talk still came up. I said ok let’s book for cs and also asked him if I can go home and think about the cs. He said ok no problem, that baby was fine but I should listen to my wife if she wants the cs. I was still thinking, this is our first child and all. No complications, baby wasn’t overweight. She was 3.5 kg that monday. So Wednesday passed we didn’t go for the cs. On Thursday my wife complained of abnormal baby kick in the womb. She said baby hasn’t kicked that way through out the pregnancy. She called the doctor and doctor said it was normal kick.

The next morning Friday I took her to a lab to do a scan to check the health of the baby and know if it’s engaged yet. My plan was if baby doesn’t come out before Saturday, then by monday we would book for the cs. We went for the scan and everything according to the scan was normal apart from the baby’s weight being 3.88 which is almost 4kg. I said ok this baby is getting big and it might be too difficult for you during labor. I made up my mind that moment and we went to the hospital that Friday night for the cs. We booked for the next morning .

The doctor checked the fetus heart rate and said it was a bit low and said we have no choice than to do the cs which i supported fully. Next morning by 7 am she did the cs and some nurses came outside and told me congratulations. All of a sudden i saw some persons running upstairs. In about a minute they came downstairs with oxygen tank and I knew something was wrong. I became anxious even tho some came out and said everything was fine. It took about 10m before they allowed me inside to see the baby.
I saw my baby from afar being cleaned up with oxygen pipe on her nose and she was crying weakly. I was just happy and thought that was normal.

Later on, the pediatrician called me and told me series of jagons I didn’t understand Bcs I was too excited at that moment. Later she Said the baby has to be put in the icu unit for 24-48 hours for close observation. I said ok that’s fine provided my baby would be fine. So after some hours I went to the icu unit to see her and she was still on oxygen and was in incubator. They later removed her from the incubator that She doesn’t need it and just placed her on oxygen and light for jaundice with other fluids and antibiotics.

I suspected something wasn’t right when the pediatrician wasn’t coming out plain even though she is a consultant from a different teaching hospital. Mine is a good private hospital. She wasn’t just specific. I asked several times if baby would be fine, she just keep beating around the bush with no concrete explanation to what’s wrong with my baby and the cause for it.

After about three days in the icu, atleast she improved a bit. They took the oxygen off intermittently. She could poo, pee. Shake her feet but there’s no general body movement and her cry’s are still weak. I later found out that she has moderate birth asphyxia and I started making research about it and it breaks my heart what I see online. I started asking them questions with so much annoyance and need answer. They were just hiding and trying to dodge some questions. After 4 days the pediatrician callled me and also called the head doctor and said somethings about her health. Told me her condition is fair but in conclusion they would recommend I take her to a teaching hospital upth. I declined I told them why do they want to send her out if she was recovering. There was no explanation to it.

I started making research for a good children hospital and asking questions too and came up with a very good one. Very standard. I cleared the outrageous bills in the hospital and took her there and she was admitted immediately. The doctors also confirmed she has sepsis.

The story is long Guys I’m just trying to save time. Pls doctors in the house. What is ur experience about cases like this and parents that have experience this how was the recovery of the child. Did they develop well with no issue in the future. That is my fears. I know she will live but fear of the unknown is killing me.
I have read terrible stuffs about birth asphyxia.

Pls your advice and inputs would be highly appreciated. Thank you.

Good evening Nairalanders. I decided to Create this new account to stay anonymous.
Long story short, my wife delivered our daughter a few days ago and she was diagnosed for “moderate birth asphyxia” because she couldn’t cry out loud after birth and didn’t breath well. according to the gynecologist, she came out very weak and a bit blue.

This was quite devastating and shocking to me and still is, and I wonder why this happened because she registered her ante-natal in same hospital and came for all the doctor’s appointments and took all the prescribed drugs she was given. Every thing was Normal until birth. Baby is full term (40 weeks). Did all the series of text and doctor certified her ok and fetus was fine.

Two weeks before the birth my wife was getting inpatient because lots of people had told her first babies usually come early and the doctor has been recommending cs in a subtle manner if she was inpatient. Being the husband and also scared of Nigeria health care, I was skeptical of the cs because there was no indication for cs. The pregnancy wasn’t at risk. Doctor said baby was ok and it’s either she do the cs if she can’t wait or we wait till when labor is due. Those where his words. I was just in a dilemma and had to make a decision ASAP.

So last week monday, we went to the doctor after much pressure for her normal monday appointment and the cs talk still came up. I said ok let’s book for cs and also asked him if I can go home and think about the cs. He said ok no problem, that baby was fine but I should listen to my wife if she wants the cs. I was still thinking, this is our first child and all. No complications, baby wasn’t overweight. She was 3.5 kg that monday. So Wednesday passed we didn’t go for the cs. On Thursday my wife complained of abnormal baby kick in the womb. She said baby hasn’t kicked that way through out the pregnancy. She called the doctor and doctor said it was normal kick.

The next morning Friday I took her to a lab to do a scan to check the health of the baby and know if it’s engaged yet. My plan was if baby doesn’t come out before Saturday, then by monday we would book for the cs. We went for the scan and everything according to the scan was normal apart from the baby’s weight being 3.88 which is almost 4kg. I said ok this baby is getting big and it might be too difficult for you during labor. I made up my mind that moment and we went to the hospital that Friday night for the cs. We booked for the next morning .

The doctor checked the fetus heart rate and said it was a bit low and said we have no choice than to do the cs which i supported fully. Next morning by 7 am she did the cs and some nurses came outside and told me congratulations. All of a sudden i saw some persons running upstairs. In about a minute they came downstairs with oxygen tank and I knew something was wrong. I became anxious even tho some came out and said everything was fine. It took about 10m before they allowed me inside to see the baby.
I saw my baby from afar being cleaned up with oxygen pipe on her nose and she was crying weakly. I was just happy and thought that was normal.

Later on, the pediatrician called me and told me series of jagons I didn’t understand Bcs I was too excited at that moment. Later she Said the baby has to be put in the icu unit for 24-48 hours for close observation. I said ok that’s fine provided my baby would be fine. So after some hours I went to the icu unit to see her and she was still on oxygen and was in incubator. They later removed her from the incubator that She doesn’t need it and just placed her on oxygen and light for jaundice with other fluids and antibiotics.

I suspected something wasn’t right when the pediatrician wasn’t coming out plain even though she is a consultant from a different teaching hospital. Mine is a good private hospital. She wasn’t just specific. I asked several times if baby would be fine, she just keep beating around the bush with no concrete explanation to what’s wrong with my baby and the cause for it.

After about three days in the icu, atleast she improved a bit. They took the oxygen off intermittently. She could poo, pee. Shake her feet but there’s no general body movement and her cry’s are still weak. I later found out that she has moderate birth asphyxia and I started making research about it and it breaks my heart what I see online. I started asking them questions with so much annoyance and need answer. They were just hiding and trying to dodge some questions. After 4 days the pediatrician callled me and also called the head doctor and said somethings about her health. Told me her condition is fair but in conclusion they would recommend I take her to a teaching hospital upth. I declined I told them why do they want to send her out if she was recovering. There was no explanation to it.

I started making research for a good children hospital and asking questions too and came up with a very good one. Very standard. I cleared the outrageous bills in the hospital and took her there and she was admitted immediately. The doctors also confirmed she has sepsis.

The story is long Guys I’m just trying to save time. Pls doctors in the house. What is ur experience about cases like this and parents that have experience this how was the recovery of the child. Did they develop well with no issue in the future. That is my fears. I know she will live but fear of the unknown is killing me.
I have read terrible stuffs about birth asphyxia.

Pls your advice and inputs would be highly appreciated. Thank you.