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This is where Africa got it all wrong. Who are you to torment people in the name of discipline.

Nacoss25:
Good day my people. Ignore my wrong sentences please.
It all started like this.
On Sunday my wife wore a dress am uncomfortable with and which is unexpected of a married woman(I mean the gown was too short), when we came back from church I told her never to where such dress again to church she then picked offence that I always complain about her dress being too short, (My wife love skimpy dresses alot which I don't like) I was still talking she walked out on me went and stayed outside like someone who was chased out of the house, she stayed outside for about an hour and later came in and started dressing up to go for an evening program in church, I then told her not to go to anywhere in need us to talk, why I told her not to go is so we can settle the issues. She insisted that she must go that I can't stop her, I repeated my statement telling her not to go that I want us to talk she insisted on going. While she was about to leave I forcefully siezed the house keys from her and let her go, this happened around 5.30pm.
I love seeing my woman in short dresses but not wearing them to church.
On reaching the time she is expected to come back home around 7.30pm I left the house without dropping the house keys anywhere to a hotel and lodged there, she waited outside still around 10pm and sent me a text that do I want to sleep outside I did not reply her, she now called Me i picked and told her to go and sleep where she went to since she has the guts to disrespect mess her husband that am in a hotel at the moment to pass the night there and ended the call she called till 11pm and also sent text messages begging for forgiveness, she then called my younger brother who then called me too begging me to go back home I never picked her call and I switched off my phone.
I came back home around 5am only to discover that she slept on a bench in the veranda.
My people I want ask a question.
Don't I as a husband have the right to tell my wife not to dress certain way or don't I have the right to tell her not to go out, mind you am not the authoritative kind of husband but on this one I need to stamp my authority as the head of my family.
My wife is a good woman and I love so so much, I just needed to discipline her.
Our marriage is two months old.

You're doomed
Marriage is not run by power. Better apologies and run the marriage with love and trust. If you continue this way then pray she doesn't get into her comfort zone.

I don't know but this thread gives hope

When Nigeria economy hit you hard with your true love mindset, mosdii will be calming you down.

BrazilaAirporta:
Jamb had always been hard. Some of us wrote jamb more than 5 times back then but when I look back now, I wouldn't have written anything if I had known

When high population goes over one thing, it gets difficult, after secondary school I knew I had to hustle. Today it's paying off meanwhile i would have been in the university wasting my time.

Schooling abroad is different. Nigerian educational system is wack.

TheUndercover:
Appreciation:

Learn how to appreciate. If someone does something for you or gives you a gift, appreciate the gesture as though its worth more than what they gave or did for you. For example, if someone gives you a money gift, let's say $10, show your appreciation as though you were given $10,000.

When someone gives you something e.g. a present, even if you don't like what was given to you, do not show an expression of disappointment or sadness. You should accept it at that moment, never reject a gift overtly.

If your girl doesn't show any appreciation to whatsoever you give or do for her, or she felt entitled to it (like its your job, its what you should do), that's a big red flag, dump her!.

Don't over appreciate things people do for you in fact show little appreciation as if it's not that big deal else they'll want to own you.

Supib1997:
Reading stories and especially comments on nairaland romance section has made me lose interest in girls.Toast a girl is now herculean task for me. Do I need help?

Me too bro, me too

BLOODYSPERM:
If a man calls himself a male Feminist or identifies anyway with Feminism don't trust him

But I support feminism. Does life even have rules

tartarus:
Nairaland boys will always find a way to shame women! I haven't seen a comment demonizing the men taking part in these "immoralities" it's the women that are the problem. Nonsense

The funny thing is that men are the real cause of the situation.

Isn't this country fighting crime again


It's obvious all youth are now into Yahoo work. When you see good people join crime, it means the problem is no longer the people but the government.

You trust her then you shoot sperm inside and you weren't expecting pregnancy

Bitch have gotten all she wanted, she now seeks true freedom and happiness, you should have worked hard and make the money yourself instead of through someone's else success.

Certified bitch

Myfault:
Lol, where you there during the research?
I am talking about my personal experience not what a "pro researcher" said.

Personal experience ke, throw more light on it cos I couldn't see anything more than blabbing

Myfault:
Continue lying to yourself you hear. If you masturbate everyday, at first you might not feel anything and even feel better instead. But don't forget that masturbation is just like smoking, it will affect you long-term not short-term. You are telling me that masturbation is good but for four years I didn't get the benefits you stated here so don't come here and lie.

P.S: I wanted to ignore this but I wrote this for others who will come to this thread later not to be misled.

Are you better than pro researchers who has done series of experiments to get their results.

Don't take it too personal, we're talking facts here.

Martinez39s:
Exactly! Either a virgin with good manners or no marriage at all till. Used up hoès with high or low body count and supposed utmost femininity and good manners should get out of the way. Let's learn to create high standards that do not yield to any perceived scarcity or lack of options.

Those who are overwhelmed by the feeling of starting their own family and propagating their genes (continuing family name and legacy) will likely rush in, lower the standard and manage the non-virgin hoe he gets as long he gets to build his family and propagate his gene. They don't want to miss out on this "must have" or big achievement. Nature can be funny at times.

More like modern Viking era

Spitting your fantasies, the demands on your choice of woman is almost impossible.

Power mentality, wanting what you can't give.

TOPCRUISE:
I just don't know why some ladies benefit in destroying marriages. You know a man is seperated from his wife due to marital issues and you went ahead to spread your legs for that man so that he can impregnate you

Lol dude are you serious

Babe look like someone nigga's trying to please.


I hope it doesn't end in tears

It depends on what you call introvert
I was an introvert when I did a marketing job. It never affected me speaking to customers cos it's my fvckin job.
Do you hear me?
I'll have to do my fvckin job.

brownemmanuel43:
Your last paragraph is absolutely correct, I'm just waiting for one or two things before going back to my STATE TO ESTABLISH MYSELF

Doing that already, I had to hustle in Lagos and establish myself in my home state.



Developing a big farm, hoping in next 2 to 3 years it'll reach company level.
Coming from a highly disciplined unreligious person.

iamphenomenal:
Another brainwashed fellow...
Well I no blame you sha. Not totally your fault

People naturally prefer to learn the hard way. You will just look back and wish you had listened to this message. That time is coming Bro

Good luck

And he took personal. The aim is enlightenment, letting people know the effects of things they do through research, facts, there's no need creating problems cos of your personal views.

Keep it to yourself.

The girl na mumu you should be happy

MALIGNANTGuest:
I suffered same FATE too.
It appears there's a headstrong spirit that accompanies Nigerian Ladies to the USA.
INDIANS & Chinese move with their culture.
Their women respect their men a lot despite residing in the United States.

I keep warning Nigerian MEN residing in the US...
In Fact, I stood up and called men out in our last Sunday meeting to stop traveling to Nigeria to get married. After all what will these LADIES do 4u?
Between you and the Lady residing in Nigeria who is doing each other a great Favour?

What you need, are KIDS, nothing else.
MILLIONS of Ladies are willing to give in to that.
Travel to Nigeria, get them pregnant.
Place them on reasonable salary or pay them off if they demand. Takeover ur child's custody.

Please cancel every suggestion that will to lead to Nuptial knot-tying. It's not worth it.
The MADNESS is too much.

You forgot their men respect their women too, they even put women ahead. Here in Africa with their stupid redpill power mindset they'll be competing with women out of bitterness and ends up complaining.

The problem is the government but not just the government



Africa is ruined with anger and aggressiveness, minors can not even ask a simple question without being bashed

Myfault:
Good day everyone, today I am here to tell you about the benefits of masturbation. I have masturbated for over four years and I can tell you confidently with my full chest that one of the prominent benefits of masturbation is NOTHING. There is no benefit to self pleasure, if anything, self pleasure will ruin your life. Sex is something that is supposed to involve two people. But when you masturbate, you rewire your brain to think that sex is an act only involving one person which is all shades wrong. A major consequence of masturbation is hyper sex-drive. When you masturbate, your brain gets flooded with dopamine which is a feel good hormone. Humans seek comfort, and when you release dopamine, your body will seek out that source of dopamine to feel good again. That is how the addiction to masturbation starts.
On a side note, if you are currently addicted to masturbating, congratulations, you have taken the first concrete step to ruining your life. I feel so happy for you, I swear.
Now let me truthfully list the benefits I got from masturbation.
1) Weak bones: When you ejaculate, you release semen, and semen contains zinc which is found in the bones. As a result of ejaculation, you lose zinc and it will make you weaker the more you ejaculate.
2 Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction(PIED): Another benefit I got from masturbation is loss of morning wood. My dick didn't rise in the morning anymore. If you hate your dick and don't want it to rise anymore, I urge you to masturbate like this is the last thing you will do on earth.
3) Pimples: I had too much pimples on my face, pimples colonized my face to the extent that they was no breathing space for me anymore.
4) Loss of hair: I currently don't have hair in the middle of my head, and I am 19years old now but no beards. Young guys who I am older than already have beards troubling them but here I am, no beards. I feel so happy, I really am.
5) Submissiveness: Because of masturbation, it was very easy for me to be manipulated and tricked due to reduced mental capacity. My brain was always thinking about porn, sex and my next fap session, i will always agree with what people say even if I didn't like it.

I will stop here for now. If anyone wants the benefits I listed above, you can continue masturbating.


P.S: This isn't my current state now, this
is what happened to me when I was still deep into PMO

It's the opposite
if you masturbate everyday will your health be harmed? If you cum after you masturbate everyday is it healthy and safe?

Masturbating every day — or even more than once a day — is perfectly healthy and safe, whether or not you have an orgasm.

Some people masturbate every day or more than once a day, while others do it once a month, or once a year. Some people never masturbate at all. Every person is different.

Masturbation has no harmful physical or emotional effects. In fact, it has a number of physical and mental health benefits, like helping with stress, helping you feel good about your body, and even helping ease period cramps.

Frales6:
mine was on Facebook ooo, we bonded as well. in fact we have started calling ourselves sweetie and honie, only for us to meet.....choooiiii....he escaped imbbecile... (God forgive me ooo). I don't know what the shape of his head, his body, his mouth, his legs look like... aahhh! I tire!!! I just managed to smile while gisting but no be me dey there aswear. and the funny part...I was to sleep over at his place bcox I was coming from a very far distance. he started introducing me to his friends around, that I'm his wife....they were hailing him...I shame tire. fast forward to night...guy man no gree me sleep, say him wan nack....omo I provoke bcoz already I dey vex

You didn't finish it. We want the full story

If I can't lead I can't participate

Damn

DEMZEE:
How is Africa doomed

Psychopaths living with us

CaveAdullam:
DAY 144, REDPILL 2021

Dad is always a "tyrant" because he instils discipline and always come hard for you. And mum your "princess" because she always pamper you and want to make you feel comfortable.

Dad has experienced the vicissitudes of life on a firsthand level and wouldn't like you to experience such, unlike mum that was passed from your grandfather to your father to continue help him protect and provide for your mother.

But when you've been tyranically shaped into a beautiful and mature adult, then, you'll realize that dad wasn't just a king but a wonderful artist.

Authority: Positive masculinity.

Tyranically shaped



Africa is doom

Mumu country

Victim card, terror, manipulative, jealousy, lying, shameless, fighter, always late, hardworking lazy, controlling, un pleaseable, not good cook, bad behavior, stingy, troublesome.
Generally to me she's a great mother and I'll appreciate her for the rest of my life.

Good sides
Unsatisfactory hardworking(working only things that won't profit anything), terror care(at least she cares), good listener and advisor.


My Dad is a good man and I wonder how he's still alive despite the kind of woman he lived with.


I ran from my first ever love due to manipulation, emotional blackmail when you don't reach her demands, laziness, useless spending, wanting princess treatment, exploitative.





From comments here we can see where the problem came, mosdii was right

Nigerian girls uselessly important only because of their reproductive nature.
Only very few girls are worth it which which is why you must make money and create options for yourself so you could find one.


Las las marriage is scam.