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24volts:
I did appreciate all the advice , especially the advice of sending her back to her house, I never thought of that.

I just discussed that with my wife on phone , that I would want her sister and kids to go back to her house so that she can start getting ready for her kids school online.
But my wife said no , that she is the only sister she has , that she needs her her sister's company until when school resumes they can go back.

I called my sister in-law privately and arviced and promised to add money to her little business if she can convince her sister that she wants to go back, but she turned my offer down and refused .

The only option now is to let the cat out of the bag, But the consequences between the two sisters will be a grave one.
I know my wife , she will never forgive her sister for life . Oh my God!

Brother, I will advise you dont tell your wife.
Once you do, you have caused serious enemity and disaffection between 2 sisters and your wife's family at large.
Apparently, your wife is not ready to allow her sis and her kids leave your house because she doesn't want her to be alone and of course , being sisters, she will always fill in the gap.
Secondly, what you dont know wont kill you (referring to your wife now) and finally,
If you have the means, I suggest you set up a small business for her while in your house to keep her busy.
With that, her mind will wear off such thoughts from you.
If your wife have such business, allow your SIL to join or assist her in her trade till you intelligently send her packing without your wife noticing the reason behind your action.
Best of luck.

Smile4mee01:
I think Islam was right about women...

That what please

NockMedia:
LOL it's not true. Yoruba men shower ladies more with money. Most Igbo men are frugal.
Before an Igbo man lavishes money on any lady, he must have seen her as an investment.
I'd take an Igbo lady over a Yoruba lady because cheating is very rare amongst Igbo women compared to the yorubas. A Yoruba woman can love you and still cheat on you. It is crazy.
I'd prefer a golddigger for a partner instead of a cheating spouse.

Where you keep hausa men?

LibertyRep:
Then Nigeria Government and indeed Africa should return the favor

Very apt and as simple as ABC

Donald3d:

I was about to say it isn't important and you shouldn't bother yourself about it, but I have learnt something in marriage, everything is important .

So, let's dissect your issue starting from the root. I believe starting from the root is the best way to solve problems, to prevent a recurrence.

Let's start with WHY

Why do you want her to share your pictures ?

1. Is it because you want to do what others are doing (the ones you are jealous of). You want online validation ?
2. Or is it because you feel she doesn't love you enough, because she isn't sharing your pictures.

If your answer is number one. You really need to rethink this Sir. Online validation no dey help anybody. Its a gathering of people who really don't care about you or how much you or your wife love each other. It would put your family under unnecessary stress to "keep up" with what everyone else is doing.

You would be subconsciously pushed into basing your love for each other on what people's perception of what your love for each other should be . I hope this isn't confusing.


If your answer is number 2, you really need to take it easy with her and also treat her "issues" from the root. Ask her WHY , in a very calm manner, without looking or sounding judgmental. You need to communicate your worries to her and what you would like her to do and WHY you want her to do it. Also listen carefully to why she hasn't posted your pictures. You would be shocked to get replies like "I don't want anyone to steal you from me ". Just ask her, in a respectful manner.

Away from your concerns and your worries, please understand that people show love in different ways. Look around you carefully, everyday, and see other ways she is showing you love, apart from uploading your picture online.

Offline show of love is always more real than showing it online. Because its done out of selflessness(because no one is watching).Most (not all) people who constantly post their families or spouses online are just looking for online validation, an invisible competition to see who can display love the most. Of what use is it, when love is shown online and you are not treated right offline.

What I am trying to say Sir is, while you try to find out why she isn't sharing your pictures, appreciate the other ways she is showing you love offline, because at the end of the day, that is what really counts.

@OP, this is the best reply so far.
I unequivocally endorse this

Abike, so so talk but no action.

ChizzyBuna:
I'm curious to know if anyone has ever succeeded in chiking those customer care call girls that call to check delivery..

I heard one sweet customer care voice call me this early morning.. her voice was so sexy that I mumuly asked her what's her name. Lolz
She just brush that as if she no hear me.

Has anyone been successful toasting a customer care call girl?

Bro, you go shock say majority of them resemble something wey them suppose carry do ritual.

Kiddler:
which is one of the reasons for SA's senseless xenophobia. Most SA women admire Naija guys, I heard it's because of their huge 'tools' and their generosity with cash. So SA men think Naija guys are out to take over their business and women. I have a friend who visited SA a while back. He said Mzansi babes are one of the most endowed he's ever seen. But dem dey share HIV like anko.

Na that HIV be the issue else, bois for don lost tey tey for there.

This is mostly one of the reasons why our 9ja brothers will go to SA and never want to return

Rozz:
you should ask her where you have gone wrong to warrant such statement from her. Obviously you have been hurting her. Find out

Hes a funny fellow.
He even still went ahead to do the do despite the bombshell not even minding her.
Conji really na bastard

Him wahala o

Na dem

This is what china has caused the world and people are wondering why trump wants to deal with them

How many times will the MOD allow this make front page ?

daddytime:
Every discerning mind suppose know say the guy na the real HRH.

His Royal Highness (HRH).

See how the guy serious dey grind the Maggi like say na FG work.

Igboo na bastard sha

Aswear you no well

You didnt snap and you expect us to listen to you?

God help us.

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Indicate where the estate is located.
How can you just type Mandela estate without location and probably pictures for those who might be staying within that location or maybe wants to relocate to that location?
Location name is key.

stupidity:
This is rubbish. Anyone saying you should trust her and leave her to do her thing. I was there. I trusted her to the core. But e shock me last last.


Humans are weird. They blame and curse you if you don’t trust them but they break that trust.

Took me a while to realize someone she hated most and always condemn his actions at every given chance. They blasted. Hence the always condemning and hating on the guy. Fear woman. Not women. Fear humans.

Either find someone to do proper investigation for you before you return home to a bag of cheats.


Even if you know about your wife or trust her. What do you know about this said bachelor? Some men are just fools looking for vulnerable married women to toy with.

Trust my foot. Your own mother can mess you up if it suits her talk more of a woman that can leave you anytime.

I salute your level of intelligence.
Best comment so far

Bad publicity.
Those products shes an ambassador for will want to cancel her contract.
JJC put her in this mess.

He should better be before the postpone the fight

And you expect me to believe this thing is sleeping
Keep fooling yourself

How many years used sir?

Under cool condition abi

You want make people laugh their 3rd class and pass results abi

phorget:
Is the op not a Nigerian?
Please just bluff his threats and if he eventually come up with the said videos and pictures then use politicians tactics in defending yourself...
"The person in that picture or video is not me. The video and pictures has been doctored by my enemies just to make it look like me"

My thoughts exactly.
He just wants more by taking advantage hence the empty threats.
I doubt if there is any video or pictures as he claimed.

Watched this news on TVC.
Fascinating I must say.

This president always sitting on the fence and staying aloof on serious National issues like this.
I still dont understand what is wrong with this man?

Catchfirez:
Tell your homie to go hustle and leave woman matter alone. When money come, woman go come. A guy that is still in school. Better leave the girl alone make she follow who go help her life.

The girl will still come back, no worry. No be only your friend get the girl, Na him turn, Now na Army Guy Turn.


Tell your guy to move on.

And the army man go knack stupid and nonsense join with sambisa and BH commot for that babe body.

seanwilliam:
nokia WAS baba

Just give them time.

emeijeh:
I saw my N95 8gb last week in one of my old bag, powered it on.

It still came on.
Nokia!

sefan.ru
waptrick.com

Those 2 sites suffer for legends hand
If you know, you know.

Take it or leave it, Nokia na baba.
Those guys churned out bad ass phones then.

We now know where the problem is actually from.