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Jollyjoy:
wtf! Isn"t dat absurd? Asin it rediculous,die for love kie, hmmmm abeg,i came into dis world alone,helplessly crying 4 help bt none came until my mum lift me up,she is d only one i can die 4. Guy wen go spit 4 ur grave... Smh sha... Life goes on.

I promise I won't spit on your grave

bellong:
^^^ You were able to pull that off because you have another country you can run to.

The person in this story doesn't sound like a migrant.

Are you saying a citizen of a country cannot go and live in another country.

I think us, the men are our own worst enemy.
My wife who I imported from Nigeria to Europe tried that nonsense with me after 3 kids.
She took me to court for child support money and visitation. I told the court from day one that I am not interested in someone restricting my access to my children because its against my Yoruba culture . I walked out of Court, Icame back to Nigeria and cut off communication.
Now its the baby mama begging me to come back after 7 months.

@filani.
God Bless you.
Best post of the year .

filani:
@ Charlzok

You are a 36 y/o man so i will take the risk to assume you have the prerequisite level of maturity to handle a no holds barred assesment of your post. Ok , here goes.

In a manner of speaking you have answered your own question. You have followed the textbook example of what society expects from a 'good man' but like most good men you have given all these fine qualities to a woman who is not worth it.

You say she does not make you feel loved at all but i put it to you brother that her attitude to you did not just manifest overnight, she must have displayed signs of this tendency during your dating/courting period but you likely chose to ignore the red flags or even worse you didn't see the red flags as red flags at all!

My father pulled me aside one day and gave me some valuable advise which more young men should recieve before they get married.
He said 'My son, whatever you know in your heart you can never tolerate when you are married, Never Ever tolerate it while you are dating!'

The rationale behind the statement is simple, our dating life with our partners is a practice run for what married life with them will be like. If you notice a bad trait in your partner and rather than raising the issue with them you make excuses for it or tell yourself ' it will change after we get married' then you are simply your own worst enemy and you are not walking in wisdom.

Concerning your wife, think back to your dating days . did she ever go out of her way to do anything for you just because she 'cares' for you? Did you get into the habit of taking care of her without thinking that she should also return the favor? If you are brutally honest with yourself you will see that you laid the foundation for what you are experiencing now during your dating days.

You did not set a standard of positive behaviour that you expect from her for being a good boyfriend but rather you rewarded her for not pulling her wieght in the relationship by marrying her! Yikes!!! And now the result of that is clear, she has everything she wants or might want in the future because you have made it your 'duty' to give it to her .

1) she wants a good looking guys, who keeps himself fit and trim unlike those other naija guys , CHECK

2) she wants a hard working husband to handle things around the house, CHECK

3) she wants a baby, DOUBLE CHECK

4) she wants a domesticated guy who does house chores , CHECK

5) she wants a guy who makes it clear that he will do whatever it takes to please her, even thou she doesn't give a rats ass about him, CHECK

My brother , do you see the pattern here? You have sold yourself short BIG TIME!

A popular saying goes ' Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?'

My brother it is time to take your destiny into your own hands. It is time for you to go back to basics and rebuild yourself again.

1) keep working out and stay in shape but don't do it for her, do it for yourself b'cos you deserve to be the best you can be.

2) keep being a good father to the kids, develop a solid relationship with them.

3)Raise the issue with an authority figure in her life, her parents, her pastor.....lay down the story from A to Z , don't sugar coat it, let them know where you are coming from.

4) you have already raised the issue with her but do it again from a position of strength not from a beggarly mindset .Ask her what she wants from the marriage and what if anything she feels is still lacking then also tell her your own expectations from the marraige and how your deepest needs are not being met and how she can remedy that state.

4) when all else fails , serve her with DIVORCE PAPERS. You derserve to be happy ,life is to short to spend your days in emotional hell .

Shalom.

If you are an ugly man like myself, cheer up you have a brighter future .
Because I wasn't wasting my time and money on girls when I was younger, I became a Landlord at the age of 30. I now have 3 houses.

1). You won't waste your money and time on girls.

2). You won't engage is sexually activities and you will be physically and spititually stronger as a result.

3) You will be more focus on your career.

Pls feel free to add yours.

sexymoma:
So why lamenting Sir ....

I am not Lamenting.
I created a thread fot public discussion.

If you are an ugly man like myself, cheer up you have a brighter future .
Because I wasn't wasting my time and money on girls when I was younger, I became a Landlord at the age of 30. I now have 3 houses.

1). You won't waste your money and time on girls.

2). You won't engage is sexually activities and you will be physically and spititually stronger as a result.

3) You will be more focus on your career.

Pls feel free to add yours.

DrGroove:
Characteristics of a poor man.
I didn't have to open the thread before I knew dude was poor!
No man with money commits suicide cos of being deserted by a woman.
Rich man throws wife out,she goes back to beg.if she doesnt,e would quickly remarry n start having new kids!!
E no go better for poverty!

I pray you will marry a rich man that will treat you like Shiite and throw you out of his mansion in the middle of the night . Ame

glimpse33:
OP, you should be greatful you are handsome!

let the ugly guys tell you their pains first, then you would be thankful to your creator!

note* ugly guys shouldn't quote me

Yes I am ugly but that hasn't stop me building 3 houses.
Besides not having girlfriends while hustling enables me to focus and build those houses.

sexymoma:
ye woman don show you shege ... Means u don't wanna be father

You are WRONG.Women never show me anything and I am already a father already to beautiful children. I don't need anymore.
I am enjoying my Life.

chinex276:
Behind every successful man dere's awoman... Then who is behind every unsuccessful MEN?

or to put it simply .... hehind every dead man, there is a woman.

sexymoma:
It means the woman owns the child.... The man is the donor while the woman is the carrier, A woman may decide not to have baby, the hubby go jos dey donate sp3rm lasan ni

There is no way I am donating my precious sperm free of charge to any woman again, NEVER.
Women have been deceiving men into fatherhood since the creation of Adam and EVIL .

dearpreye:
Both parents own the child. ....Period.

but who own the child more . Yes its 50/50 biologically but in other aspects, the mother is a clear winner.

Jollyjoy:
Both but the man own the seed and the seed is the child.

What about the owner of the egg ?

I have been thinking about this.

There is a saying that its only the mother who really know the biological father of her child.
Its a Woman who decides when and if to have a baby. I think women see us men as just mere sperm donors and a source of funds .
And its known that children give more to their mothers than to their fathers.

In my opinion, its the woman who own her child And it will be foolish for any man to fight for custodies of the children after a divorce.

Edwardhead:
[size=15pt]Tell me How PMB will not suceed immensely in this administration having a very active VP rather than Samboribobo


Sir, those that call you meer commissioner wont be president [/size]

He is now the Senate President.

netizenbuzz:
Shey eri awon mumu to n soro? If your daughter is about to get married, please make sure she gets married to a broke ass lol. Ladies please don't mind these idiots on NL. Na poor man get ego pass

You are the "mumu" that don't understand these discussions on this thread.
If a broke girl has the right not to date a broke man, then every man also has the righs not to date a broke azz girl .

You get it now?

Mznaett:
Truth be told: when a lady remembers how humble her background is she'd never wish to get attached to a broke dude


So if u know u're a broke dude pls stay off cuz no vacancy 4u

Thats d msg

Yes you are right .
I am from a humble background too.
And I will never date a broke girl .
Broke ladies are setback for rich men.

What about if the guy is broke?
THAT is a common reason why Naija girls dump their boyfriends.

pickabeau1:
Ok.. do u have a second family

No second family yet.

I don't need Children to enjoy long and healthy Life.

pickabeau1:
Strange that you don't miss the kids

Why do u think they will look for you

If they don't look for me, its their loss.

I don't need Children to enjoy a long healthy Life.

IamLEGEND1:

shey u sabi read english ni?


pls try to comprehend wat was written before spewing träsh.

You are the Legend.

kubba:
I understand, but, You sound cold! Don't you miss them? Your kids

Its the best way for a man to live longer.
and.. no, I don't miss the kids.

Ginaz:
e dey wait 4 u 4 hell fire

After doing some research on you, I found that you are the type of rude and poorly trained girl to AVOID .

IamLEGEND1:
u cant u stay for 6 months without sėx?

Nonsense.
For your information. I have not had sex for 3 years after separating from my wife .
I am now more physically, biologically and spiritually stronger.

I don't live in the US and I never wish to live there . I am very comfortable here in Nigeria, thank you very much.
Whatever laws US, that land of the evils, choose to endorse is None of my business.

I sponsored my wife to Germany with my hard earned money. We have 4 children. When she started misbehaving and called Polizei for me, I simply moved back to Nigeria and left her kids for her.
After a year, she is begging me to come back .
Men, don't stress yourself by fighting for children custody. Its not worth it. The Children will look for you when they are adults.

azuson:
There is no point killing your wife just try and return to Nigeria with her say for xmas and then burn her international passport,take her phone and all her contacts.

She will find it difficult to return to the USA

Its you that will suffer the financial burden of raising the Children .
The best is for the husband to come back to Nigeria and leave the wife to take care of her Children herself ....

Ginaz:
pastor, when do we start it?

send me a private message, pm

Islie:
Am not judging her......
Am just trying to state ways with which this could have being avoided taking the man testimony into consideration


And for the man to have reported himself at the station..... Shows him as someone who isn't afraid of prosecution

Ok . How is this not a judgement ?



*Islie*
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If only the woman who have not instigate the fight.... She would be alive by now.

She was the one that first broke the bottle wanting to stab the man and the man had to collect it.
Then she now went for the kitchen knife, the weapon that the man used to kill her.



If she has refrain and not be the aggressor..... She would be alive

BUT the woman is not alive to give her own version of the Story.

Ginaz:
I'm yet to get married, so which roof are you talking about? I live in the society and have seen first hand what they do.

get off my mention please, its obvious you can't give intelligent answers.

So his comment is not intelligent to you just because its not what you want to hear.
Seriously, you need deliverance

Islie:
If only the woman who have not instigate the fight.... She would be alive by now.

She was the one that first broke the bottle wanting to stab the man and the man had to collect it.
Then she now went for the kitchen knife, the weapon that the man used to kill her.



If she has refrain and not be the aggressor..... She would be alive

BUT the woman is not alive to give her own version of the Story.
We only read the Man story.
Be careful how you judge.