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LuvU2:
no honey, still waitin for d perfect man

Are you perfect yourself ?

Why Buhari not on the List ?
Have you forgotten the 3 years (1985-1988) he spent at top security Kirikiri Prison ?

Bisjosh:
Career

Because career will not wake up one day and say it's leaving u

Wrong. You can be SACKED or medically unfit to work. ..... and your career WILL leave you.

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Cameron is a first class hypocrite. Was he not the one that failed to declare the inheritance from his parent and failed to disclose his investment in his father hidden tax-avoidance offshore funds.

Dmillionaire:
you are very wrong. dollars at the parallel market or black market as at this afternoon is $317

You are the one in the wrong here. Check your writing

kennygee:
So from the beginning of the marriage, they should start sharing bills?

What if the guy is capable of footing the bills.

If u see a woman you love and can live with, because her account balance is Zero, you should not marry her?

Well, where I'm from, the woman's family takes care of the engagement or trade wedding. The church wedding is on the guy.

If the girl's family is not buoyant enough, yhr guy can support too.

You are very wrong. Women should also contribute to the wedding because it's them that are always pushing for the marriage.

A woman who has no money deserve NO marriage. The days of leeching are long gone.

pinkiberry:
the truth is that you can't eat your cake and hate it back. why lie ? but the guy mumu o why didn't he check to know if its true from the beginning?

Why are you calling a decent guy "a mumu". That is not the wise thing to say.

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15 Reasons Why Real Men Avoid Single Mothers
An American author named Shawn James this week wrote a controversial essay titled ‘Why Real Men Avoid Single Mothers’ – detailing 15 reasons why men should not date single mothers. It’s got people talking. Though I personally do not and will never support any write-up with broad generalization, I think Shawn had some valid reasons in the article but its would be plain dumb to generalize this on all single mothers, read and share your own comments below:
1. Never Available. A single Mother’s schedule is never open. Single mothers are the kind of women to always cancel dates at the last minute. Something always gets in the way of a man spending time with her. It’s hard to have a relationship with her because she’s never there.
2. YOU are NOT a priority. Usually in a relationship the man winds up DEAD LAST. Behind, her kids, her job, the car, the kitchen sink, the stopped up toilet. Even the dog gets more attention and affection than a man involved with a single mother. Any man who gets involved with a single mother winds up a fifth stringer in a relationship. And he rarely ever gets called up to play.
3. Thinks the world revolves around HER and ONLY HER. A single mother is one of the biggest narcissists on the dating scene. She often thinks that a man has to drop everything in his life to be part of hers and her kids. They’re so selfish they don’t think a man has needs, wants or a life of his own. He’s just supposed to be there to give her everything she wants in life.
4. Emotionally Unavailable – Most Single mothers cannot form an intimate connection with a man because her feelings are invested in other people. Usually her primary focus is on her children. In addition to dedicating herself to her children, most single mothers have given their hearts to someone else- their children’s father. And those feelings she still has for him will always prevent her from getting closer to you. There will always be some distance between a single mother and the new man in her life.
5. The ex/ Baby Daddy is ALWAYS THERE. A man just doesn’t deal with a single mother. He deals with her ex or her baby daddy as well. And this guy is always hovering around like a helicopter looking to c*ckblock you. Some of these guys still think they have a shot at getting back with her. Others just don’t want to see her happy. A lot of these dudes want to f!ght over her. Seriously, it’s a game they’re playing with each other. And they’ll be playing that game with each other until their children turn 18 or 21. Head for the exit. It’s just not worth dealing with this fool and his insecure bullshyt.
6. The kids are working AGAINST YOU When dealing with a single mother you also deal with Kids. Kids who still in their little heart of hearts think that Dad will come back and love them. Seriously, GET THE HELL OUT OF THERE.
7. Those kids will HATE YOU. They will act out to keep you from getting closer to mommy. They will make accusations against you to get you in trouble. Again, it’s just not worth dealing with the bullsh*t to get with a female. There are four billion women in the world. You can find a quality female who doesn’t carry all this baggage or give you this much grief.
8. Entitled attitude Single mothers think because she had a baby out of wedlock the world owes her EVERYTHING. And she thinks she’s the one who deserves the best. Even though she’s usually collecting welfare, food stamps, or child support, in eyes she’s still supposed to be treated like she’s a queen because she popped a kid out of her v*gina. In their deluded distorted vision of the world Men are still supposed to take her out to the finest restaurants and buy them lots of expensive stuff. And he’s supposed to take care of her kids too, buying them whatever they want while taking a blind eye to their bad behavior.
9. Distorted self-image Single mothers still thinks she’s as sexy like she was before she had a baby. Only she doesn’t understand how her body has changed. In some cases for the worse. Single mothers are the type to try to squeeze themselves into sexy outfits like low-rise jeans and cropped T-shirts to show off their belly button, not seeing the muffin top and stretch marks squeezing out over the top of their pants. They’re the type to stuff themselves into slinky spandex dresses, (not aware of that gut, and the cellulite on their asses) and head out to the club. She thinks men are supposed to run up on her offering to buy her drinks. And because a few thirsty simps step to her, she thinks she’s still got it. But the only people who wants what she has to offer are scavengers at the bottom of the social scene.
10. Always the victim. Single Mothers never take responsibility for their actions. The situation they’re in is always the fault of that “no good man”, “these damn kids” their mother or someone else. They never take any time to do any self-examination or make any efforts to change their lives. They’re still looking for some Rich Incredibly
Handsome Man™ to put on a cape and play Captain Save-A-Hoe™, sweep her off her feet and take her out of the troubling situation she helped make.
Jekyll & Hyde Personality. A single mother will be the sweetest thing when a man first dates her, but a few months into a relationship she turns into a NUTJOB. A man will usually see glimpses of this when she chastises her kids when he first meets them. During that meeting she’ll yell at them and bully them to get them to act right while praising a man like he’s an angel.
It’s all an act. Heaven will turn into Hell around the six month mark.
Once a single mother gets a man settled into her life it’s not common for her to start verbally abusing him and mocking him as she projects all that pent-up rage from those previous failed relationships onto him. And it’s usually around this point that most men realize why this woman is single and why it’s time for him to hit the exit door.
Drama Queen. Because a single mother always sees herself as a victim of society, she’s always talking about her problems. And she always has a new trouble to bring everyone. There’s never a good day in the life of a single mother because there’s always some new crisis about to emerge in her life.
The reason single mothers need the drama is because it makes them feel important. It makes people pay attention to them. And when Captain-Save-A-Hoe™ is doting on them trying to solve their problems it makes them feel an artificial sense of value. They need that value to deflects people’s attention from how pathetic their lives actually are.
Manipulative In most cases, a single mother has no interest in a man she’s dating. In a lot of cases she’s just using a guy as a pawn.
In most cases she’s dating to make her Baby Baddy jealous. Deep down in her heart of hearts she believes that if she’s seen with someone else who sees her as valuable that he’ll see her as valuable and take her back.
In other cases when she’s not trying to get a rise out of Baby Daddy she’s playing the sympathy card™ using a guy to get gifts, free dinners and free drinks out of him. To a single mother, The men in her lives are just human ATM machines where she whispers a sweet nothing in his ear like a PIN number and money comes out of his wallet.
And because she’s a drama queen who loves to play the victim, the Single mother plays to men’s emotions to get them to react in the way she wants. It’s not common for a single mother to tell her man man about her baby daddy so he can go fight him. Or pit two baby daddies against each other. Many a man has wound up either dead or in prison because a single Mother played the victim card™.
Dishonest. A single mother is a LIAR. It’s how she gets what she wants. It’s how she manipulates people. It’s how she takes care of her kids. It’s how she survives in this world.
Single mothers lie. And they LIE ALL THE TIME. They lie to men about their age, their height, their weight, how many kids they have, the job they do.
On top of the lies they tell to others They lie to themselves. They lie about about how beautiful they are. They lie telling themselves they’re still a catch. They lie telling themselves they still have a chance with a good man. They lie telling themselves that their lives will be happily ever after one day.
The horrible truth is without those lies most of those single mothers would realize how pathetic their lives are. How they have no options in the dating scene. That they’re at the bottom of the barrel in the dating scene and the only men who want them are pathetic Manginas and thirsty Simps.
Carries Baggage, baggage and more baggage A single mother has more issues than Time and Newsweek combined. And when she’s looking for a man, she’s not looking for an equal caring partner. She’s looking for a Pullman Porter™ to take care of her kids, and clean up her messes with her childrens’ father. Brothers, don’t let yourself get sized up for the white jacket and the bow tie!
Anyway, dealing with a single mother is like walking through a minefield. After several months of being involved with her, it leaves a man anxious and tense because he doesn’t know where to step that won’t lead to an explosion that kills him.
That’s why Real Men avoid single mothers like disease.
Real men understand life is too short to put up with someone’s drama and their emotional baggage. We only have a limited time on God’s Earth and who wants to spend it being a Pullman Porter cleaning up someone else’s messes. As I stated before in a previous blog, let that woman take her run over Jimmy Choos and clean up her own mess. She made her bed, now let her lie in the wet spot.
Don’t date single mothers and don’t waste your time with them. There are four billion women in this world. If you’re patient, you’ll find a good one.
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Mamywatobi:
she is a youth coper

If she is a youth corper, then she is NOT ready to Marry. She should go and get a job before thinking of living with a man.

Why no mention of MONEY ?

Good for him. He is now paying the price for his role in 1985.

DuchessLily:
Great list!! makes me remember my dad (rest on my hero dad, a very rare one )...

most naija men can't do these

I will rather be Single and Alive than to be a dead hero.

For me, I will happily stay in a friendzone if the Lady in question is spending on me.

What do other people think ?

The only reason I will ever stay in a friendzone is if that Lady is spending on me.

What a waste of a puccy

Snowangel4:
True love exist but it is vry hard to find

Why don't YOU give out true Love instead of searching for one.?

So when did our Courts become punishment offices for the nasty British Government. Slave Mentality.

blacq2009:
So only a father can be called family ,abi? You neednt know everything about him and his family. reason small,at least.

You don't understand. What I mean is A Family is NOT complete without both parent.
A picture of a woman and her 3 children is NOT a description of a Family .
I don't like it when some posters here are refering to the picture as a 'family'.

blacq2009:
Lovely family you've got.Keep it up.

Is that your own definition of a Family when there is no Father ?

onlymayz:
I am a lover of photograph and photography and also a good collector of it. I have a good collections of pictures right from my child christening till date. Lately I decided to retake a photo of me, my mum and siblings after 24 years and It gives me a nice feeling.
Mode. FP Things Pleeeaaaseeee!

And where is the Father in all these?

misspicy:
Please dont misquote me,am not justifying wat she did buh u will agree with me that for a married woman not to feel shame or be open abt her adutreous life something is behind it

Besides i adviced open from exoerience

No. I don't agree with you.

misspicy:
Bet me there is a spirit that wants to destroy her marriage,i have an aunty too who was experiencing same if not for prayers and deliverance,
Does she have children?

This is why women have illogical brain. If it was the husband that was cheating, I am sure you won't make excuses for him. Abi Evil spirits no dey worry a man.

21. Don't waste your money on the ladies

By the time I completed my NYSC, I had already completed my house.
Because I was not really ready to leave my comfort zone, I could not be bothered to look for jobs .
I thank God .

what about Nigerian women LOVE OF MONEY ?

should that not be on the List ?

Teempakguy:
[color=navy]I am not one to be easily swayed by physical appearances or otherwise. I weigh the consequences of my emotions, in cases where I feel falling in love will not benefit me, I simply don't!
No matter the temptation or green light. I WILL turn it down if agreeing to it is not in my general best interests. [/color]

God bless you. Its time men start thinking with their head rather than with diks .