₦airaland Forum

Juoflife1:
Amen to your prayers.
You can have your standards without being condescending. No one said you shouldn't. And these are not standards for all men. Just some Nigerian men with their myopic way of thinking.

A man having a standard you don't like, makes them have myopic thinking

Some of you women are just funny

chiommy123:
excuse you which one is spend money abi chop money, how much is a bottle of beer?

Go buy bottle of beer for man nau, as na nothing. A man buying drinks for you at of nowhere, is a sign he wants something to do with you. Either a relationship, or just sex.

Abi why na only men dey buy am?

Chief2410:
the ones that are no longer giving is probably because they don't have due to the harsh economy.immediately things become soft they go back to their default state of simping. Na this tinubu government dey reset some men head by fire by force.

Men just too mumu
These idiots cannot understand that they're creating a big problem for the rest of us. You can be talking with a girl today, and she's already thinking she deserves the money in your pockets just because she has a vagina.

Why? Well because other men are always spending on her, so why won't she feel entitled to men's money in general? Na God go punish all the foolish men wey dey for this world

ruthieo:
Better o
As for random girls I don't know that one because am not one
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So you didn't even understand the context of the conversation, you just rushed in to accuse men of being stingy?

Now that you understand, do you see why a man has an issue with a random woman being entitled to his money?

You meet a girl today, and tomorrow she's already asking you for money. An educated adult with a working brain... Why did her father even send her to school in the first place?

ruthieo:
Sure na husband and wife fiancee is what am talking about
Please read muyico view to understand my point
My point is love is not free
You need to spend money
To go to eatery now sef you need to have money
Rather than been pained
I think you should pray that God makes you financially bouyant

If to love is to spend money, why is the man the only one expected to spend? Abi women aren't capable of loving?

We're not talking about marriage here. We're talking about random girls feeling entitled to a man's money just because they have vaginas. That's what the conversation on this thread is about, NOT wife and fiancee.

veeveanO:
Lol, Nazgul biko there are still exceptions.

The exception doesn't make or disprove the rule.

ruthieo:
🤣🤣🤣 don't be a stingy man bro
It's not easy to be a man
Man up
Nothing bad to spend
Men of those days see nothing wrong in spending
Love is an action word
Well I no get strength to dey talk much
Everyone go dey alright las las
You can choose to be with a woman you don't want to spend on
Na choice
Na people like una nogo fit take care of their wives
One more time don't be stingy bro
It's not that deep
Life no hard like that

If love is an action word, what is the woman doing to prove her love to me?

We're talking about random girls asking random men for money, NOT husband and wife matter. A man provides for his family, NOT a random girl who feels entitled to his money. Do you understand the difference between a random girl and a wife?

And why are men the ones expected to not be the stingy ones? If women work and take care of themselves, why shouldn't they be expected to be generous to random men and give them money?

No benefit would ever make me marry an old mama

A young, fit, feminine, friendly and virtuous girl is the goal

And you can find the average 21 year old girl with all that. Make i marry old mama or 40+ woman when 21 year old girls never finish

Chief2410:
yes you are very correct.if you don't give them,other men will give them. So it's either you join them in simping or you avoid these gals completely.

Men are stopping these days now sha. Women are always complaining online about how men are stingy and "broke", just because they refused to give them money o

ruthieo:
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Una dey find woman
Una no wan spend

Nigeria my country🤣🤣
Woman don suffer for this world o
What's there to spend
Women spend on theirselves too

Women don suffer because men don't want to spend their hard earned money on equally educated and capable adults as themselves? People who feel entitled to another person's money just because they have a vagina.

And if women spend on themselves too, then why the hell are they feeling entitled to a man's money and expecting him to spend on her? Is she not an educated adult? Why should she be entitled to the money of any man?
Women should continue spending on themselves and stop being entitled to another person's money.

Anyway, I won't blame them. It is the foolish igbo men and yahoo boys who created this entitlement problem in our Nigerian girls.

Chief2410:
That is the point... it's not the issue of circle or class...The entitlement mentality nature is ingrained in our Nigerian gals.its something that they are trained to become by mothers and society at large.The solution is avoid Nigerian gals completely if you can or go for foreign gals if you can.

Oga the men are the root cause. When you have foolish yahoo boys and rich igbo men splashing money on different girls, why won't girls become entitled and expect everyman to just be giving them money for existing?

goran3310:
God, what nonsense. If all you care about is sex, then just pay for a prostitute. Why do you treat ordinary girls like they're whores?
I mean, do whatever you want.

"Ordinary girls" want to eat your money just like that. They want you to spend on them while they offer nothing of value in return. They won't give you money, they won't give you sex, they won't give you opportunities or anything. They just want to be useless.

At least with a prostitute, you'll get the sex and go. But the ordinary girl will eat your money till the last dime, because she's "just a girl" and you won't see anything out of it. So treat them like whores and discard the ones who want to eat your money

A girl who isn't and wasn't a PROSTITUTE. That one is very important!
A young, healthy, no kids, beautiful, fit, friendly and extremely feminine girl who can and loves cooking.

All these, one can find in the average 21 year old girl.

Lol Empower a man and he helps people, regardless of gender.

Empower a woman and she helps only women. Women only give out help to other women in need. They're always blind to the suffering of the old men, as if their joysticks magically make them more capable than the equally poor old women.

It is well

Namaster:
Why would you think that buying someone a bottle of beer entitles you to anything other than a "Thank you"?

Ask the men who won't just order a PROSTITUTE instead and save themselves the time and stress of getting to convince the girl they bought drinks for, to sleep with them.

Some men mumu sha. You go just dey spend money on girl wey nor go reciprocate with wetin you want, instead make you just order normal Ashawo

chiommy123:
I don't understand the type of men we have this days honestly

Don't even get me started on these type of women who will expect someone to spend money on them, without reciprocating with some form of value.

You chop money finish, you wan run say na period
Free money kill you there!

Peakdesign23:
Marry her.

Nor be from long relationship dem dey enter marriage?

Anybody who rushes to marry a person just like that, is a bumbling idiot. You take time to know a person intimately before you marry them.

As long as you're not a single mother, even though you're 31, you still have a chance.

But what were you waiting for 5 years ago?

Idrisk19:
Already used. Spark 10 pro 128gb

How much you buy?

Juoflife1:
I am married and happy lol. To a foreigner who isn't expecting me to stop breathing because I have to get married. You guys need to grow up. You are not the standard.

Nobody told any woman to stop breathing. They just said most men looking for relationships don't find certain things attractive. But you women, will always come and argue with men about what they want. Jesus! Allow us have our standards please.

And as for your foreigner husband, may God have mercy on his soul.

olaolaking:
Green line For Samsung? I no dey do

Make Samsung fix that nonsense greenline issue o

Gerrard59:
Sometimes, I understand why many ladies stay off Nairaland and the feminist ideology of many educated Nigerian women. Staying alone shows independence as an adult, and we've men scream daily for their wives-to-be to be independent, aka don't be liabilities. Then all of a sudden, the women shouldn't use expensive phones and live alone even if they have no one in the state/city they work.

Uncle use common sense na

It is the optics of the thing. If a young woman is single and lives alone, there's a good chance that she'd be more prone to engaging in certain... activities. Now is that the case for all single women who live alone? No. But again, it's the optics. If a woman is single and lives alone, she has the freedom to be a hoe and engage in hoe activities however she likes. But does that always mean she's going to be a hoe? No.

And as for the expensive phones, It's the optics once more. The issue is that if she doesn't have a job and she's using a very expensive phone, most people are gonna to assume a guy bought it for her. Could be a sugar daddy or it could just be from hook-up work. OR, it could be her father or brother.
Again, it's the optics.

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yeyebrity:
Speak for yourself. I have pre wedding pictures of ladies that wear nose rings and leg chain. They even had their nose rings on in the pictures.

I'm talking in generalities here, you're bringing exceptions. Na wah o

You didn't see where i said MOST?
The average man does not want to marry a woman who dresses like a prostitute. Now does wearing nose ring make a woman a prostitute? No. But when she does ALL or most of those LovePeddler type of dressing, plus her friends do the same thing, and the kinds of places she goes to spend the nights in, then she's most likely a Prostitute or just the everyday Hoe.

Samantha125:
And who are those people? Can you mention them?

The Nairaland men the other woman was complaining about.
They give the same insults to everybody here.
But you women will only see when they insult women, you won't see when they're insulting men too. Everybody must collect for here, nobody care which genitals dey under your legs.

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IPDGP:
Indecent dressing on man no really get that negative aspect, dey just tag u as bad nigga nothing more
But female , she fit be tag olosho , some go use am damaged another person house or relationship, causes some to crash their vehicle etc

Na because men nor dey dress half naked for public.
But a woman would dress like a PROSTITUTE in public for everybody to see her bare breasts, thighs and even clear parts of her ass, and still expect people to see her the same with a regular woman who dresses like a responsible adult.

A man who does "low waist" in public, is a retard and an irresponsible human being, and should be tied up and flogged. But for the woman, it just make her look like a prostitute.

Samantha125:
When you say "nobody gives a damn", you're talking about you and who?🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️

I believe every man can speak for himself.

I'm speaking for the people who treat everybody the same, regardless of gender, tribe, education or whatever it is they identify with/as.

You being a woman, doesn't make you deserving to be treated special or differently from others.

Talismann:
they never learn. They should keep it open for us always abeg. No time

Aje some women too stubborn. They'd be doing all manner of nonsense, and when men call it out, saying that men looking for relationships don't find those traits in women attractive, they'll say that there are some men who like women like that.
They don't know that those men are just using them for sex

Juoflife1:
Marry a foreigner and leave them to their delusions lol.

Where you wan see foreigner wey go marry you?
Wetin you fit offer that foreigner exactly wey go make am marry you? This woman thinks It is only Nigerian men who have standards
My dear, MOST men, regardless of nationality or religion, have the same standards in women. If you like be stubborn and don't listen when men tell you what they want.